Quick Overview on Communication
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Quick Overview on Communication
Miss Markowski
What do you know about it?1. From where do you receive messages from the
world?2. Can you tell how a conversation is going without
hearing the words? How?
3. Have you ever received a text or email and interpreted it the wrong way? Why?
4. When do you choose to Text vs Email vs have a Face to Face conversation? What are the benefits /drawbacks of each method?
• All the ways that you send and receive messages• Non-verbal (over 90%) gestures, eye contact,
body language, tone of voice• Verbal (8%) Words used, texts, letters
• 3 Basic skills needed for effective communication
1.Listening
2.Speaking
3.Body Language
Communication is:
Tips for Listening: Listening is the MOST powerful way of
showing that you care. Make appropriate eye-contact Give a verbal response, ask questions to continue
the conversation Don’t interrupt or make it all about YOU! Avoid the 5 communication “Filters”
(see poster in class)
Quick Listening Game
90% of communication is non-verbal!
Therefore, all of these things matter:
Eye contactBody PostureLocation of your arms and handsFiddling with other objects Facing someone Distance you are standing from someoneUse of touch
Tips for Body Language:
3 Main Communication Styles:• Passive: • Inability or unwillingness to express thoughts and feelings• Does not stand up for self• Does not defend their beliefs• Will try to AVOID conflict• Aggressive:• Often tries to get their way by bullying or intimidation• Does not consider feelings or rights of others• Attacks the person not the problem
• Assertive:• Clearly expresses thoughts and feelings without hurting others• Defends thoughts and/or beliefs• Respects rights and feelings of others• Focuses on the problem not the person
• Passive –Aggressive Personality Disorder –• Unwillingness or inability to direct disagree or
express unhappiness
VERBALLY agreeing (passive) but one’s BEHAVIOR shows disagreement (aggressive)
• Examples: ”accidentally on purpose” and secretly sabotaging situations to get one’s way
Using “I Statements” Being assertive means speaking honestly,
clearly, and non-blameful way:
I feel ___________ when ____________ because ____________. I want/like _____________.
Let’s practice these (see handout)
Best way to say NO! and still keep your friends!
Think about a time when you said “Yes” but really meant “No”? Why did you do this?
Best Way to SAY NO: Reject the behavior/issue/problem
NOT the person
Which communication style is this?
Saying “No” Practice Scenarios Jenn and Kelly are best friends. Kelly’s older sister
gave Kelly some of her AD/HD drugs to help her stay up late at night to get homework done. Kelly now wants to use them with Jenn so they can stay up and party longer on the weekends. Jenn thinks this is a really bad idea.
Now, write 4 different responses from Jenn: 1. Passive 2. Aggressive 3. Assertive 4. Passive-Aggressive
6 Other Ways of Saying No!• Say no thanks:
• No, no thanks, I’m good, etc.
• Delay: • not now, maybe
later/tomorrow/next year
• Broken Record:
• No, no, nope, no way, no how
• Plan B: offer an alternative
• “Why don’t we ….”
• Avoid: • completely change
the subject without saying no
• Leave the scene: • say no and leave
right after
4 Toxic Ways to Communicate(in any relationship)
1. Escalation (yell/laugh/kitchen sink)2. Invalidation (put downs/name calling)3. Avoiding and Withdrawing (ignoring/grudges)4. Negative Interpretation (always/never)