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Protective Urges: Understanding
and Working with the Feelings Underlying
Parent-Caregiver Relations
Alicia TuestaDeborah Greenwald
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Protective Urges: Working with the Feelings of
Parents and Caregiver
Agenda
5 Minutes Faculty introductions and introduction to the topic
45 Minutes Recognizing parent’s feelings: Research findings and personal experiences.
25 Minutes Recognizing caregiver’s feelings
15 Minutes The Four Step Process
BREAK
15 Minutes Step Four: Develop an Action Plan
1 Hour Marisabel Scenario, Small group work
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Developed by Betty Blaize, Deborah Greenwald, and Alicia Tuesta. © 2010 WestEd, The Program for Infant/Toddler Care. This document may be reproduced for educational purposes.
Research has shown that parents feel reassured when caregivers exhibit three critical qualities:
What Parents Want from Caregivers
Source: National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)
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Step 1
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Uncover your own deep feelings, rather than focus on the behavior of others.
Be accepting of your feelings.
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2 Step
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Talk about your feelings with colleagues or your program manager to get more clarity about them.
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Step3
Create a relaxed setting to listen and learn about the parent’s perspective. At this time, don’t try to resolve any issues
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•Active Listening•Reading Body Language•Using Door Openers•Restating What You Hear •Respecting Confidentiality
Sensing: Recognizes silent messages speaker is sending – vocal tone, body language, facial expression Attending: Listener indicates attentiveness, receptiveness and acknowledges speaker using eye contact, open body language, affirmative head nods & verbal messages, and appropriate facial expressions. Responding: Listener tries to get feedback on accuracy of speaker's content & feelings, keeps the speaker talking, tries to get more information and makes speaker feel understood.
Refrains from evaluating speakers words
Places herself in speaker’s position
Suspends own thought and feelings
Gives full attention to speaker
Does not interrupt
Tries to get a deeper understanding of the other person
Is perceptive to what is not being saidSources: PITC A Guide to Creating Partnerships with Families (2nd Edition) pg.56 and The Art of Managing People, Phillip L. Hunsaker & Anthony J. Alessandra. Simon & Schuster, Inc. 1986
•I’d be interested in hearing your opinion. Will you share with me?
•Let me make sure I understand
•I’ve notice that
BE CAREFUL NOT TO SAY:
•Let me help you...
•This is the problem...
•Let me tell you what you need to do
Adapted by Carol Aghayan and Betty Blaize © WestEd. The Program for Infant/Toddler Care. This document may be reproduced for educational purposes.
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Step4
Whether your action plan involves just yourself or you need to do more, plan the steps you’ll take toward a resolution:
• Addressing your own issues
• Interacting with the parent
• Finding outside help
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Step4
Addressing Your Own Issues• Get Support• Handle Your Stress• Set Boundaries
Interacting with the Parent• Reflect on the Relationship• Decide on the Content• Plan the Interaction
Finding Outside Help• Contact a resource and referral agency• Seek programmatic help• Identify specific services
Developed by Betty Blaize, Deborah Greenwald, and Alicia Tuesta. © 2010 WestEd, The Program for Infant/Toddler Care. This document may be reproduced for educational purposes.