Presentation, Sydhavnen, SEP27-2011

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FROM SELF CONFIDENCE TO SELF

ESTEEM….EMPOWERMENT OF A HIGH ACHIEVERfriisnaes.com - performancemaster.com

From self confidence to self esteem( Fra selvtillid til selvværd )

friisnaes.com - performancemaster.com

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Talent coach

Leadership coach

Salesman and marketeer

44Married2 boys

Passions

•Personal development•Travelling•Hockey

Thomas Friisnæs


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High achievers

Primary strength is self confidence

Performance driven by self confidence

The individual within the team

Highest wish: more performance

Self confidence is fragile

Self confidence is grounded in self esteem


But what are these terms?

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True drivers

WHYBurningplatforms

Overview– priority – focus - decisiveness

Clear goals


Means to perform

SOLIDSelf confidence

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ExerciseWhat have you achieved the past 5 years?

Looking back to September 27th 2006 and till NOW

Top 3

Positive

3 minutes


Self esteem Self confidence

What I doYour merits

Dine ”bilkort”

What I am

PositionEducationHouseCarClothesJewelryWatches Network

ResultsFitnessFriendsSeminarsCustomersGadgetsPurses, bagsShoesTravelsRestaurants


Maturing

DOINGSYour merits

Dine ”bilkort”

BEINGS

Goal (surface)Underlying

Being in the performanceBe yourself

Stay in your comfortzoneBreak your comfortzone(and develop)

External recognitionInternal recognition

Pursue others dreamsDefines own dreamsConstantly towards new goalsPresent in the now

Always on the moveTime for reflectionKnow bestKnows that I can develop

Wants to correct the worldAccepts that the world is perfect

Must be perfectAccepts that we do everything wecan, with the resources we have



Maturing

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Self esteem – to take it to next level

What I can do anything about – I do!

What I can not do anything about – I accept!

Without your own dreams, you accept to become a resource for others – those who have found and live their dreams


Insights in reactionpatterns

Releasing full potential

Finding nessesary courage to leave comfortzone

Insights in internal preventions

Self esteem exercises - I

•Accept your present situation (and move on)

•Accept your past - your weaknesses – and focus on your strengths – NOTES FROM YESTERDAY

•Don’t be too serious, everyone can make a mistake

•Love yourself – you’re unique

•Praise yourself when you succeed – HOW CAN YOU DO IT?

•Visualize your success – rolemodelling

•Don’t act to please others

•Don’t judge others

•Show courage - Break your comfort zone, play without limits

•Enjoy your own company

•Admit that you’re vulnerable

•Make your own personal mental contract -

•Set your goals – and reward yourself


Self esteem exercises - II

•Meet others with a smile, a firm handshake and look the into their eyes

•Show gratitude and appreciation, when you’re recognized

•Don’t brag

•Don’t focus on probems and negativity in your conversations. Think positive thoughts

•See mistakes as a tool to improve and learn

•Respond to pressure by increasing your activity level

•Say it when you disagree

•Focus on your qualities, take a strength test

•Strengthen the faith in yourself

•Say no – move from respect to self respect

•Practice your ability to accept

•Take chances – it is OK to make mistakes

•Practice your self pep-talk•Learn to recognize at be recognized (for what you are, not what you do)


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ExerciseWhat do YOU dream about doing within the next 5 years?

From today and untill September 27th 2016

Top 5

And WHY – what will it give YOU and PHILIPS(finding the underlying reasons and true motivation)

3 minutes


DOINGSBEINGS

OBTAIN insight and consciouness/awareness

USE insight and consciouness/awareness



To take it to the next

level

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ExerciseWhat will YOU do TODAYto get one step closer to each of your goals?

Specific

Measurable

Attractive

Realistic

Timeframe


3 minutes

More on motivation

Dan Pink – motivation in another perspektiveted.com – approx. 19 minutes

RSA Animateyoutube.com – RSA Animate motivation10 minute cartoon


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Build your self confidence on a basis of self esteem

Slingshot / boost your self confidence

Perform even more

Find insight

Become conscious

Use consciousness

Find the courage to break out of your comfort zone

Concluding


Individual performance; a critical

success factorBased upon today's discussion please imagine three changes in your own behavior that could improve performance of your colleagues and/or direct reports

Discuss them with your new buddy and report short back to the group

Do not ask what your company can do for you, but what YOU can do for your company

Performance improvements

Mathematic provenWhat makes 100% in life?

K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E 11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%

H-A-R-D- W-O-R-K 8+1+18+23+15+18+11=98%

A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E1+20+20+9+21+4+5 = 100%

B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T

21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%

A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G

1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%

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Questions? Comments?

Self confident or plain arrogant – find your

balanceSelf confidence

•Non name droppers•Keeps the eyecontact•Is there on time•Always listening•Admits flaws•No need to brag

Arrogance

•Name-droppers•Eye flashers•Late for meetings•Interrupts•Never wrong•Been there – done that


Develop selv confidence

Smile – always Develop direct eye contact Generate energy with you Love and accept yourself Pamper yourself Model successful people Do your SWOT analysis Focus og your feelings and emotions Have an attitude of gratitude Practice positive affirmations Practice visualisations Mind your negative thoughts Make a descision today to change Shift your focus You don’t have to be perfect all the time

Presentation, Sydhavnen, SEP27-2011

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