PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

Ni Kadek Yuli Widyastuti I Gede Wira Wiguna

Putu Eka Jaya FamugiVirginia Helzainka

Cross Cultural UnderstandingEnglish Education DepartmentGanesha University of EducationSingaraja – Bali 2015

Definition of Personal Relationship

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal relationships refer to close connections between people, Personal Relationship is the relation between people, especially those between friends, lovers and family members.

Example : a). Mothers and their children.b). Husband and wife or parent and child

Interpersonal VS Intrapersonal

"interpersonal" refers to relationships or actions that take place between two or more people.

"intrapersonal" refers to things that go on exclusively within one person.

Types of Personal Relationship1. Family

Family (from Latin: familia) is a group of people affiliated by recognized birth, marriage and shared consumption. The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships but this varies greatly from person to person.

2. FriendshipFriendship is a relationship of

mutual affection between two or more people. Friendship is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an association. Characteristic of the friendship such as affection, sympathy, empathy, honesty, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other's company, trust, and the ability to be oneself.

3. PartnershipA partnership is the relationship existing

between two or more persons who join to carry on a trade or business. Each person contributes money, property, labor or skill, and expects to share in the profits and losses of the business. The partners in a partnership may be individuals, businesses, based organizations, schools and governments.

Circles of FriendsThe Circle of Friends approach is a method designed to increase the socialization and inclusion of a disabled person with their peers.

Types of Circles Friendsa). Intimate Circles consist of two to seven

people — perhaps spouses or close friends. The group is already bonded and members feel free to disclose their deepest feelings to each other.

b). Intentional Circles consist of eight to twelve people who are drawn together by shared desires and purposes.

c). Open Call Circles are open to anyone who is interested. Your publicity explains what the circle will do and mentions a meeting time and place.

Mobility and friendship

In other to make a connection, a person tend to move to the place

where they can get friends.

According to the article” Friendship and Mobility” by Eunjoo Cho, Seth A. Myres, and Jure Leskovec there are 2 kinds of friendship:

1. friendship created before the movement2. the friendship created after the movement

Kinds friendship

A relationship that based on common activity may end when the activity ends.

For example: Student meet in classes and remain friends for the duration of the course and then stop seeing each other after the final examination.

Based on the book “Beyond Language”

Instant Friendship

Instant is something that can be made very

quickly and easily.

Friendship is the feeling or the relationship

that friends have. Friendship can be thought

of as a close tie between two people that is

often built upon mutual experiences, shared

interest, and emotional bonding.

• Characterizing instant friendships is the

appearance of two people becoming close

but, in reality, there is no strong bond

between them.

Instant Friendship

Male – Female Relationship• Equality issue• Feminism

• Workplace colleagues• Informal just friends• Relationship• Degrees of intensity: Casual - 3 dates rules - Move in

• Marriage• Monogamous / Polyamorous• Mixed race• Same-sex

Althen, G., & Bennett, J. (2011) Because of the inherent differences between the message sender/encoder and the message receiver/decoder, the risk of misunderstanding is particularly high in intercultural situations

Better communication with various cultures:• Understand your own culture and communication variables: social

role/symbolism/thought patterns etc �• Learn the communication rules for the other culture by reflecting on its

approach to nonverbal and other aspects of communication. Be sensitive to verbal and nonverbal language codes, and use language appropriate for the culture �

• Avoid error interpretation that rely on the basis of your own social and cultural values.

• lookout for cues that suggest you should change your own communication style or your interpretation.

Intercultural Relationship

Intercultural Relationship• Approaching Americans– First move– Time

• Approached by Americans–Open– Straight Forward– Eye contact

CONCLUSION

• when you are in a community where has varied kinds of race, religion, believes and other background of the member, being open minded to different ideas is a must in order to have a good relationship with each other and grow friendship.

DISCUSSION / Q&A SESSION

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