PERSONAL IDENTITY & CHARACTER

ALICE IN WONDERLAND “Who are you?” said the

caterpillar. Alice replied, rather shyly, “I hardly know, Sir, just at present—at least I know who I

was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have changed

several times since then.”

PERSONAL IDENTITY Personal identity is one of the MOST

important tasks you will accomplish during your teen years.

How do we do this? Identity is partly formed by recognizing your

likes and dislikes.

Your relationships and experiences with family and friends also influence your personal identity.

LIKES AND DISLIKES read or write? indoors or outdoors? Ipod or radio? skiing or scuba diving Movie theater or redbox? chocolate or vanilla? Novel or magazine? Dine in or take out? booth or table? Chick flick or action?

LIKES DISLIKES reality tv fan or not? Lights or lamps take the picture, or have picture taken? dog or cat? socks or barefoot? salt or pepper? blonde or brunette? call or be called? bath or shower? morning or night?

LIKE DISLIKES half full or half empty? hot or cold? Mustard or ketchup? Coke or sprite

ROLE MODELS Someone whose success or behavior

serves as an example for you.

My Mother-in-law: always happy, loving, and positive; extremely productive; good at developing her talents.

My high school coach: example of the coach I want to be in every way; listens to others; great at giving advice.

PERSONALITY A complex set of Characteristics that

makes you UNIQUE

ELEMENTS OF PERSONALITY INNATE? INTERPRETATION OF LIFE?CODE OF BEHAVIOR?MYSTERY????

PERSONALITY TEST Divide into groups by color. Each group needs 1 piece of paper and

a scribe.Come up with 5 words/phrases you think

best describe your color’s personality.Describe 5 strengths of your color’s

personality & 5 weaknesses/limitations of your color.

Brainstorm 3 careers your color would be good at.

Put all names on the paper to turn in.Designate 1 spokesperson for the group

(not the scribe)

REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS Reds are the power wielders of the world.

Power is not good and it is not bad, it just is. It has to do with movement, (moving from A to B). Power sometimes carries a negative connotation but where positive characteristics of Reds are concerned, it drives them to high levels of productivity and efficiency. Reds boldly move forward with logic, vision and determination. These qualities make them natural born leaders, as they make things happen by sheer force of will. From a Red perspective, emotion has little to do with accomplishing a task.

REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS

As an individual Natural Leader Thrives on independence Highly resourceful Excels with logical

thinking

As a Goal Setter Natural goal setter Highly disciplined Makes decisions

quickly/easily

As a Child Takes charge when

parents are gone Maintains high self-

esteem Communicates

thoughts Ability to turn a poor

situation around

As a Friend Direct and quick with

suggestions Promotes group

activities Engages in conflict

comfortably and directly

Strengths:

REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS

As an individual Generally seeks to serve

self Out of touch w/own

feelings Inconsiderate of other’s

feelings Always right

As a Goal Setter Too rigid w/expectations Impatient w/self Angers easily if goals

aren’t achieved

As a Child Resists control from

parents Fights constantly

w/siblings Expects to be catered to Poor listener Manipulates parents to

get their way

As a Friend Insensitive & unemotional Impatient, stubborn,

blunt, & critical of others Denies personal

inadequacies or responsibilities

Wants to control group activities

Limitations:

Career Ideas:

REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS

Administrator

Police Officer

Military Officer

Medical Doctor

Lawyer

Politician

Entrepreneur

Realtor

Tax Accountant

REDS: THE POWER WIELDERSReds you may know…

Madonna Hillary Clinton

BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS Blues are motivated by Intimacy. Without their natural

talent to insist on quality and to provide service, our world would be a far less pleasant place. Blues want to connect and to be understood and appreciated. If they are not connecting with you, if they are not plugged into humanity, then what’s the point? They believe if you don’t have a sincere connection in life, then there really is no other value. Earning money, having the Mercedes, and being in the windowed office are nice but do not represent a purposeful life to a blue. Blues are very purposeful people who love to serve and give of themselves freely to nurture others' lives. They are loyal friends, employers and employees, and their personal code of ethics is very strong. They expect other people to live honest and committed lives as well. Blues are dependable, thoughtful, and analytical; but they can also be self-righteous, worry-prone, and moody. They hold on and never let go of something/someone once they are committed.

BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS

As an individual Stable & Dependable Sincere & emotionally

deep High achiever Deep sense of purpose

As a Goal Setter Highly disciplined Receptive to other

suggestions Plans well & follows

through

As a Child Proper & behaved Easily disciplined verbally Sensitive about other

family members Loyal to parents &

siblings Seeks learning

opportunities

As a Friend Loyal within friendships Genuine concern for

others Remembers special

holidays Willing to commit time in

relationships

Strengths:

BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS

As an individual Highly emotional Smug & self-righteous Envious of others’ success

when too easily obtained Verbally self-abusive

As a Goal Setter Sets unrealistically high goals Easily discouraged Easily frustrated by lack of

team cooperation Expects others to make their

goals a priority

As a Child Moody and emotional Withholds affection if angered Self-esteem is dependent on

outside influences Criticizes unacceptable

suggestions from parents & siblings

Martyr-like & complains about life

As a Friend Feels rejected easily Expects friends to be loyal Rarely playful & spontaneous Insecure about other’s

acceptance & approval

Limitations:

Career Ideas:

BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS

Musician

Homemaker

Engineer

Journalist

Teacher

Banker

Psychotherapist

Nurse

Architect

BLUES: THE DO-GOODERSBlues you may know…

Abraham Lincoln

Princess Diana

Walt Disney

WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS

Motivated by Peace, Whites will do almost anything to avoid confrontation and to create tranquility. They have a remarkable ability to understand and draw objective conclusions—they are the voice of reason, and this is their gift to us. Whites truly believe that with patience all things come to those who wait. The problem is that they are sometimes too content with sitting around waiting. They seek contentment more than power, money or, for that matter, more than friends. They are happy having one or two good friends and one or two hobbies. In fact, they tend to have only one hobby at a time. Instead of trying to carry on with two hobbies, they will drop one to take on another. Having two is too much effort. Their only demands from life are the things that make them feel comfortable. That feeling fosters their need to feel good inside.

WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS

As an Individual Quiet, reflective, & peaceful Appears to accept life

comfortably Patient with self and others Compatible with others Blends into all situations

As a Goal Setter Receptive to suggestions Recognizes the value of goal

setting Trusts self to succeed in many

different environments

As a Child Very agreeable to established

traditions and boundaries Non-demanding Willing to accommodate

siblings and parents Plays well by self

As a Friend Patient and enduring Supportive and accepting Listens with empathy Relaxed in most situations Likes most people & is liked

by most people Enjoys observing others

Strengths:

WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS

As an individual Takes passive approach to life Bashful and unsure of self Often lazy & unwilling to take

responsibility for self Resists making commitments Refuses to take a stand on

issues

As a Goal Setter Takes a “wait & see” attitude Lacks consistency in goal setting Waits for others to set goals for

them

As a Child Resents being pressured to do

things Doesn’t contribute much to

conversations Indifferent to family dilemmas Uninvolved in family action Doesn’t complete tasks

As a Friend Easily led by others’ opinions Passive Easily hurt and defeated Lacks creativity to make

suggestions Requires extra protection &

support

Limitations::

Career Ideas:

WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS

Researcher

Computer programmer

Military Officer

Preschool teacher

Dentist

Veterinarian

Homemaker

FBI agent

Lawyer

Engineer

WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERSWhites you may know…

Albert Einstein Michael Jackson

YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS

Yellows are motivated by Fun. Without their natural talents of enthusiasm and optimism, the world would be a boring place for all. They are here to have a great time. Yellows have an innate ability to be happy. They believe it is okay to play and people who don’t understand this have limited minds. They are the people who get up in the morning and sing to the Bon Jovi tune, “Until I’m six feet under, baby I don’t need a bed. Gonna live while I’m alive–—I’ll sleep when I’m dead.” Yellows love to enjoy life. They have a mental attitude that allows them to appreciate what they have rather than be miserable over what they don’t . They spend much of their time charming everyone in an entertaining way. Robin Williams is a good example. Can you imagine growing up as his child? What a fun dad. He has that child-like innocence and a hope that inspires the masses.

YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS

As an Individual Highly optimistic Likes self & accepts others Loves to volunteer Sees life as an experience

to be enjoyed Adventurous & daring

As a Goal Setter Lives for the present Gives priority to playtime Accepts guidance from

others Very flexible

As a Child Fun to have around Strong visual learner Loves physical contact Pliable—willing to bend in order

to please Curious and inquisitive Easy to talk to

As a Friend Vulnerable, innocent and trusting Forgiving of self and others Willing to free up schedule in

order to play Lively and entertaining

Strengths:

YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS

As an Individual Needs to look good socially Irresponsible and unreliable Self-centered, undisciplined,

loud/obnoxious in public places Superficial & mostly interested

in a good time Unable to confront or face issues

As a Goal Setter Undisciplined in committing to

goals Feels no need to prepare for the

future Disorganized & scattered in too

many directions

As a Child Sassy & demanding Defiant of authority Forgetful of assignments &

parental expectations Teases siblings constantly Prefers to take the easy road Places friends before family

As a Friend Spends most of time discussing

own life Shows up at his/her convenience Ditches plans for better/more fun

opportunities

Limitations:

Career Ideas:

YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS

Beautician

Circus Performer

Travel Agent

Recreation Leader

Retail Sales

Entertainer

Firefighter

Secretary

Lifeguard

Tour Guide

YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERSYellows you may know…

Bill Clinton Elvis Presley

IT IS WHAT YOU DO THAT DEFINES YOU!

CHARACTER PLAYS A SIGNIFICANT ROLE IN YOUR

DECISIONS, ACTIONS, AND BEHAVIOR

The distinctive qualities that describe how a person thinks, feels, and behaves.

TRAITS OF GOOD CHARACTER

Trustworthiness

Respect

Responsibility

Fairness

Caring

Citizenship

TRUSTWORTHINESS Be honest • Don’t deceive, cheat, or

steal • Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do • Have the courage to do the right thing • Build a good reputation • Be loyal — stand by your family, friends, and country

RESPECT Treat others with respect; follow the

Golden Rule • Be tolerant and accepting of differences • Use good manners, not bad language • Be considerate of the feelings of others • Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone • Deal peacefully with anger, insults, and disagreements

RESPONSIBILITY Do what you are supposed to do • Plan

ahead • Persevere: keep on trying! • Always do your best • Use self-control • Be self-disciplined • Think before you act — consider the consequences • Be accountable for your words, actions, and attitudes • Set a good example for others

FAIRNESS Play by the rules • Take turns and share

• Be open-minded; listen to others • Don’t take advantage of others • Don’t blame others carelessly • Treat all people fairly

CARING Be kind • Be compassionate and show

you care • Express gratitude • Forgive others • Help people in need

CITIZENSHIP Do your share to make your school and

community better • Cooperate • Get involved in community affairs • Stay informed; vote • Be a good neighbor • Obey laws and rules • Respect authority • Protect the environment • Volunteer

TIPS FOR HEALTHY IDENTITY List your skills and strengths

Surround yourself with positive supportivepeople

Find something you love and DO IT!

Stop making life a contest

Help others…..SERVICE

WORDS OF SUESS WISDOM “Be who you are and say what you feel

because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”