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NEWSLETTER October 2018 • Volume 11 • Issue 10 Four Ways to Make Self-Care a Priority What’s Inside: PSN Family Resource Center Cooking Matters at the Store Spotlight on Parenting Eating Smart, Being Active Triple P Group Improving Family Communication PSN Family Resource Center Open House Acknowledge how important it is Running yourself ragged without taking a break is a recipe for illness and burnout, and can negativity impact your ability to care for your child. Taking regular time-outs will relieve stress, boost your mood, and help you cope more effectively when your child’s behavior pushed you to the limits. Take regular time-outs Between running the kids to soccer practice, helping them with homework, making dinner, and all of your other parenting responsibilities, self-care often goes by the wayside. It’s important to build time into your schedule for the things you like to do, whether it’s going to a yoga class, taking a nightly walk, or meeting a friend for coffee. Create an action plan Intense and challenging behavior can wear down even the most patient parents. That’s why it’s so important to create an action plan that you can turn to in moments of stress. Identify and practice strategies for staying calm, such as deep breathing, counting to 10, or listening to music. Reach out for help When you’ve tried everything with your child, and nothing is working, it’s natural to feel frightened. This is when parents are most likely to resort to spur-of-the-moment actions, such as spanking or yelling. Decide ahead of time who will back you up when you’ve reached your limit, whether it’s a neighbor, friend, or relative. It’s better to take a break than to so something that might escalate the behavior or hurt the parent-child relationship. 8600 Sheridan Road Entrance B Kenosha, WI 53143 262-697-4520
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NEWSLETTER
October 2018 • Volume 11 • Issue 10
Four Ways to Make Self-Care a Priority
What’s Inside:
PSN Family Resource Center
Cooking Matters at the Store
Spotlight on Parenting
Eating Smart, Being Active
Triple P Group
Improving Family Communication
PSN Family Resource Center Open House
Acknowledge how important it is
Running yourself ragged without taking a break is a recipe for illness and burnout, and can negativity impact your ability to care for your child. Taking regular time-outs will relieve stress, boost your mood, and help you cope more effectively when your child’s behavior pushed you to the limits.
Take regular time-outs
Between running the kids to soccer practice, helping them with homework, making dinner, and all of your other parenting responsibilities, self-care often goes by the wayside. It’s important to build time into your schedule for the things you like to do, whether it’s going to a yoga class, taking a nightly walk, or meeting a friend for coffee.
Create an action plan
Intense and challenging behavior can wear down even the most patient parents. That’s why it’s so important to create an action plan that you can turn to in moments of stress. Identify and practice strategies for staying calm, such as deep breathing, counting to 10, or listening to music.
Reach out for help
When you’ve tried everything with your child, and nothing is working, it’s natural to feel frightened. This is when parents are most likely to resort to spur-of-the-moment actions, such as spanking or yelling. Decide ahead of time who will back you up when you’ve reached your limit, whether it’s a neighbor, friend, or relative. It’s better to take a break than to so something that might escalate the behavior or hurt the parent-child relationship.
8600 Sheridan Road Entrance B
Kenosha, WI 53143 262-697-4520
Supportive friendships strengthen parents,…
Upcoming Programs & Training Opportunities
Spotlight on Parenting Triple P - Positive Parenting Program is a free series for parents of children 0 - 12, offered by PSN at the Northside Public Library on Wednesdays, October 3, 10 & 17 from 5pm - 6:30pm.
October 3 - The Power of Positive Parenting
October 10 - Raising Confident, Competent Children
October 17 - Raising Resilient Children
Dinner and child care provided.
KPL staff will be leading a STEAM activity for age appropriate children.
Please register for one or all sessions at https://goo.gl/forms/QBsfC6yM5rsljfCn1 or by calling Erin at 262-697-4584.
Triple P Group
Triple P - Positive Parenting Program/Group is a free series for parents of children 0 - 12, offered by PSN at the Northside Public Library, 1500 27th Ave.
Tuesday, November 13th, 5PM—7PM
Tuesday, November 20th, 5PM—7PM
Tuesday, November 27th, 5PM—7PM.
Topics include: dealing with bed time routines, managing aggression, disobedience, hassle free shopping, bullying and more.
Dinner and child care provided at no cost.
KPL staff will be leading a STEAM activity for age appropriate children.
Please register for one or more sessions at https://goo.gl/forms/782S2sHDzBjKE5gW2 or by calling Erin at 262-697-4584.
Eating Smart-Being Active WHO: Parents/Caregivers of Children (child care workers can earn 16 ceu’s)
WHAT: Eating Smart-Being Active ESBA has fun, interactive classes with tips to save money, healthy recipe ideas and ways to jump start your energy!
WHEN: Monday mornings, 10am—noon October 8, 15, 22, 29; November 5, 12, 19, 26; & December 3
WHERE: The Kenosha County Job Center, Room South 11, 8600 Sheridan Road
RSVP TO: Nicole Leipski— Educator, FoodWIse Phone: 262-635-5395 Email: [email protected]
Series and Child Care provided by PSN Family Resource Center.
A guided grocery store tour teaching skills for buying healthy foods on a budget.
During the hour tour, you’ll practice skills like: buying fruits and vegetables on a budget comparing unit prices to find bargains reading and comparing food labels identifying whole grains and sticking to your budget! After the tour you will receive a: FREE $10 worth of healthy groceries of
your choice using the skills learned on the tour
FREE book full of tasty recipes and simple tips on buying healthy, low-cost foods
WIC will also include: Nutrition education credit for WIC family
participation
SIGN UP TODAY FOR A FREE GROCERY TOUR!
Date: October 25th, 2018 Time: 12:00-1:30pm Location:
Festival Foods 3207 80th St Kenosha, WI 53142
RSVP: Fabiola Diaz, [email protected]
262-635-6824 Questions? Can’t make this tour but want to participate in the future? Call Alana at 262-635-5343.
COOKING MATTERS AT THE STORE
...their kids and the people they love.
Here are a few important ways to build healthy communication:
Be available: Make time in everyone's busy schedule to stop and talk about things. Even 10 minutes a day without distractions for you and your child to talk can make a big difference in forming good communication habits. Turn off the television or radio. Give your undivided attention to your child. Sit down and look at your child while you talk. Those few minutes a day can be of great
value.
Be a good listener: When you listen to your child, you help your child feel loved and valued. Ask your child about his feelings on a subject. If you are not clear about what your child is saying, repeat what you are hearing to be sure that you understand what your child is trying to say. You do not have to agree with what your child is saying to be a good listener. Sharing his thoughts
with you helps your child calm down, so later he can listen to you.
Show empathy: This means tuning in to your child's feelings and letting him know you understand. If your child is sad or upset, a gentle touch or hug may let him know that you understand those sad or bad feelings. Do not tell your child what he thinks or feels. Let him express those feelings. And be sure not to minimize these feelings by saying things like, "It's silly to feel that way," or "You'll understand when you get older." His feelings are real to him and
should be respected.
Be a good role model: Remember, children learn by example. Use words and tones in your voice that you want your child to use. Make sure that your tone of voice and what you do send the same message. For example, if you laugh when you say, "No, don't do that," the message will be confusing. Be clear in your directions. Once you get the message across, do not wear out your point. If you use words to describe your feelings, it will help your child to learn to do the same. When parents use feeling words, such as, "It makes me feel sad when you won't do what I ask you to do," instead of screaming or name calling, children
learn to do the same.
More Tips To Improve Communication
Do
Give clear, age-appropriate directions such as, "When we go to the store I expect you to be polite and stay with me." Make sure your child understands what you have said. Sometimes children do not fully understand the meanings of words they
hear and use.
Praise your child whenever you can.
Calmly communicate your feelings.
Be truthful.
Listen carefully to what your child says.
Use your talking times as teachable moments – do not miss
opportunities to show your child healthy communication.
Model what you want your child to do – practice what you
preach.
Make sure that when you are upset with your child, she knows that it is her behavior that is the problem, not the child
herself.
Don't
Give broad, general instructions such as, "You'd better be
good!"
Name call or blame. "You are bad" should be replaced with "I
don't like the way you are acting."
Yell or threaten.
Lie or tell your child half-truths.
Use silence to express strong feelings. Long silences frighten
and confuse children.
Keeping Your Cool
There are times when all parents feel that they are out of patience. However, it is always important to find ways to help your child to behave without hurting her feelings. Here are a few ways to calm yourself when you feel stressed, before you try to talk with
your child.
Take a few deep breaths very slowly.
Wait 5 minutes before starting to talk to your child.
Try to find a word to label what you are feeling (such as "disappointment"). Say it to yourself and be sure that it is
appropriate for you child.
Share your feelings of frustration with your spouse or a friend.
Do not hold grudges. Deal only with the present.
Seek professional help if you feel that you have lost control.
Healthy communication with your child is one of the most important and rewarding skills that you can develop as a parent. It also makes the tough parts of parenting (such as disciplining your
child) much easier and more effective.
Improving Family Communications
https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/communication-discipline/Pages/Improving-Family-Communications.aspx
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Meet Our Staff
Erin Morey, Operations Director [email protected]
Liza Schultz, Services Director [email protected]
Chelsea Colwill, Community Response Specialist [email protected]
Alison Haas, PFF Project Coordinator [email protected]
Alicia Mojica, Service Coordinator [email protected]
Krystal Roberts, Service Coordinator [email protected]
Rose Verdiguel, Service Coordinator [email protected]
Cindy Leslie, Administrative Assistant [email protected]
Nancy Morey, Consultant [email protected]
The mission of the PSN Family Resource Center is to provide programs and services that build on family strengths through prevention, education, support and networking in collaboration with other resources in the community.
The PSN Family Resource Center is located in the Kenosha County Human Services Building, 8600 Sheridan Road, Kenosha, Entrance B.
Drop-in hours are available every Tuesday and Thursday from 2pm—4pm.
Talk with someone about parenting concerns, pick up information about community resources or find out about services of PSN.
FALL OPEN HOUSE
Wednesday, October 31
11 am—1 pm
Join us to learn more
about the programs and
events offered through
Prevention Services
Network!
Cookies and Cider
Fall Craft for Children
Trick or Treating
Raffle Prizes
Costumes encouraged!
PSN Family Resource Center
8600 Sheridan Road
Kenosha, WI 53143
