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GETTING TO YES
Negotiating Agreement
Without Giving In
By: Travis Lorenzen
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Background Research Began 1973 by Harvard and MIT Authors Joined 1977
Roger Fisher William Ury Bruce Patton
Published 1981
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What We’re Going to Cover Types of Negotiators Positional Negotiation Principled Negotiation If they’re not havin’ it If they’re more powerful If they use dirty tricks
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The Hard Negotiator Sees situations as a contest of
willsWill not allow a “loss”
Exhausts people and resources Harms relationships About substance Common in divorces
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The Soft Negotiator Tries to be the “nice guy” About relationship Avoids conflict Makes concessions Often exploited and left feeling bitter Generally works with
Friends Family Trusted others https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8TQZBHszI4
(4:23)
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Positional Bargaining Holding onto a fixed idea (position) The easy way, not necessarily effective Causes blindness to underlying interests
Ex. Plankton trying to steal the patty recipe – misses out on other prosperous food markets
Common in Daily negotiations Bartering
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Principled Negotiation Not the easiest, but the most effective
Neither hard nor soft
Looks for mutual gains
Decides on issues based on merits
Independent and fair
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4 Parts of Principled Negotiation
People – separate the people form the problem
Interests – focus on interests not positions
Options – generate a variety of possibilities before making a decision
Criteria – the results should be based on an objective standard
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People Separate the people from the problem
They’re there to solve the same issue
Negotiators have two interests Substance – Getting to an agreement Relationship – Working together
Egos become tangled with positions Lack of willingness to change or compromise
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People Negotiators are emotional too, don’t
attack Emotions cloud the objective Take a step back, understand both sides
Write it down! Remove cognitive dissonance
Make the negotiators feel welcomeMe ThemConfused UpsetAngry HappySatisfied Dissatisfied
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Interests Focus on interests, not positions
Interests motivate Leave options open
Positions can obscure what you truly want Already decided on before negotiate
Ask questions. Why? Why not? Makes other aware you care Shows want to understand
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Focus on Interests
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Interests Example Landlord vs Tenant
Interests PositionBoth want stability 3yr leaseWell kept accommodation Require pro lawn care
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Create Options Generate various possibilities before deciding
Difference between deadlock and agreement Searching for just ONE correct solution limits
creativity Use other experts
Seek mutual gain Shared interests Low cost to you high benefit to them Makes their decision easy
Offers are more attractive than threats Follow the inventing circle (Next Slide)
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Inventing Options
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Objectives! Criteria/Objectives insists that results are
based on some objective standard Less relationship threat Quicker Higher chance of solution
Both parties defer to a fair solution Don’t have to give in to each other
(no ego hurt) Win-Win
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If They Won’t Play Options
1. Principled negotiation – its contagious! They may or may not play
2. 3rd party introductionBook ex. Invite architect with couple
designing home3. Refer to BATNA
Don’t attack their position Its counter productive
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BATNA What if they’re more powerful?
Or refuse to negotiate Best Alternative To A Negotiated
Agreement Keeping options open in case negotiation fails Outside alternatives Make the most of your assets
Salary negotiations with a job offer Have backup or other alternative to give
leverage
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Dirty Tricks Dirty tricks = one side proposals about
procedure of negotiating DON’T play the game! Either put up with it Or respond kindly
Ask questions Raise issue explicitly Trust but verify
Don’t use a hammer
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Recap to Basic Principled Negotiation
Separate the people from the problem! Show the other side you care Be open to suggestions and search for
new options Don’t attack Don’t hard or soft negotiate Don’t give in Always have an alternative ready
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Questions?