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In this edition: Page No LSCB Staying Safe Conference 1—14 Pupils design Stay Safe posters 15 WIST present to LSCB 16 Oakfield organises Stay Safe project in school 16 Staying Safe Meetings 17 Invenio Peer Mentor Training 18 Huntcliff Peer Mentor Training 19 Anti Bullying Champions 20 Student Anti Bullying Board Work Plan 20 Buddy & Peer Mentor Meetings 21 Healthy Relationships Peer Mentors 22 Primary Lifestyle Meeting 23 Anti Bullying Mascot ideas 23 Winterton Community Academy Peer Mentors 24 Westcliffe Primary Playground Project Playground Leaders 25 What schools have been doing to Promote Anti Bullying 26 Nominations for Outstanding Contributions 26 Cyber Mentors Network Meetings 27 Future Dates for Diary 27

Issue 1

Spring Term 2013

for staff, students and parents

Welcome to the spring edition of the Staying Safe and Anti Bullying Newsletter Students from the Students Anti-Bullying Board, Students Staying Safe Consultative Group and the Buddies and Peer Mentors have suggested that the Staying Safe newsletter and Anti Bullying newsletter be combined as one, so welcome to the first Bumper combined edition. Let us know what you think by e mailing [email protected].

A two day Staying Safe conference for primary and secondary pupils took place on 19 and 20 March 2013. It was voted a huge success by the children and young people that attended. The highlights of the conference were the outstanding presentations from the children and young people. Day one was held at The Baths Hall and was an opportunity for all primary school children to showcase their work and listen to other schools’ ideas on how to keep safe. Day two was held at the Learning Development Centre and gave secondary school students an opportunity to listen to important topics focusing on how young people can stay safe. The Chair of the Local Safeguarding Children Board, Edwina Harrison, was most impressed with the creative ideas the young people had for keeping each other safe and she invited them to present their ideas to the Local Safeguarding Children Board.

Staying Safe & Anti Bullying

STAYING SAFE SHOWCASE—KIDS SHOW HOW

STAYING SAFE CONFERENCE—19 AND 20 MARCH 2013

Stay Safe Conference for Primary Schools on 19 March

Invenio Academy Danielle, Rio and Bethany, Peer Mentors from Invenio Academy bravely started off the event with a superb song they had written on Staying Safe (the words to the song are on page 9).

Winterton Infant School The WIST team from Winterton Infant School gave an excellent presentation on their Staying Safe project. The WIST team have designed Stay Safe posters on playground safety, water safety, fire safety, road safety and stranger danger. These will be distributed to all infant and primary schools in North Lincolnshire in May 2013 Oasis Academy The Peer Mentors from the Oasis Academy (Henderson Avenue) explained how they support pupils in schools using the power of Restorative Justice and how it has improved positive relationships in their school. (A copy of the restorative questions are on page 10). The audience asked the following questions: Q – Is it fun being a Peer Mentor? A – Yes it helps to resolve situations and develops life skills Q – How do you become a Peer Mentor? A – We were asked as part of the Social & Emotional Aspects of Learning (SEAL) class Q – Do the children get involved with training other children? A – We are in the process of liaising with secondary schools and starting to pick up SEALS in years 3 and 4 Q – Are you going to stay a Peer Mentor when you move to secondary school? A – It depends on whether we want to be a Peer Mentor or a Buddy

Holme Valley Primary School The Buddies gave a brilliant performance of their Anti Bullying Rap and the audience joined in with the chorus (the words to the Rap are on page 8). Holme Valley's Anti Bullying Rap is available to download at http://www.everynorthlincschildmatters.org.uk/local-safeguarding-children-s/ Westcliffe Primary School The audience listened to an excellent presentation on Westcliffe school’s Playground Project. The young people explained that Playground Leaders ensure that play areas are safe, friendly and fun. A questionnaire on whether children felt safe in the playground resulted in the Playground Agreement which each class signed up to. Playground Heroes ensure that everyone keeps to the Agreement. The audience asked the following questions: Q – What inspired you to do what you are doing? A – We wanted to make sure the playground was safe and there was no bullying Q – What changes have you seen? A – We have noticed a big difference - everyone plays nicely now Q – Have you got any Playground Heroes yet? A – We are in the process of nominating Playground Heroes Q – Has the Playground Agreement worked? A – Yes very well Q – What will happen when you move to secondary school? A – The Year 5s will take over

Danielle, Rio & Bethany from the Invenio Academy

The WIST team from Winterton Infant School

Pupils from Oasis Academy with their teacher Mrs Douglas

Holme Valley Primary School perform their Anti Bullying Rap

Westcliffe Primary School explain their Playground Project



Wrawby Primary School The pupils from Wrawby Primary School explained how they make Staying Safe fun in their school. They have produced a range of resources such as the Stay Safe cootie catchers, Stay Safe dominoes, E Safety dominoes, Stranger Danger dominoes and a daily checklist by the Feeling Safe Crew (see resources on pages 11 and 12). The audience asked the following questions: Q – How long does it take to do your daily checks? A – About 5 minutes Q – What gave you the idea for the games? A – We came up with the ideas at our meetings Q – Did you enjoy making the games and are they successful? A - Yes Q – Which year enjoyed the games the most? A – Year 4 Q – Where did you get the idea for the checklist? A – We thought of it at one of our meetings Q - How do the games help children feel safer? A – It is a fun way to get safety messages across Belton All Saints Primary School The children from Belton All Saints Primary gave a presentation on how Buddy Training works in their school. They also have Friendship Buddies, the Safeguarders, Circle Time sessions and whole school Safety Days. Their Anti Bullying Week campaign includes CAT (C = Check the person is OK, A = Ask how you can help, T = Tell an Adult you Trust). The Buddies (Year 6) wear red neckers and the Friendship Buddies (Year 4) wear green neckers so they can easily be identified by a child who needs support. Worlaby Primary School The Worlaby Fab 7 explained their role in promoting key areas of safety in the school. They have designed a range of exciting Stay Safe resources including a mascot, posters and a toolkit. The toolkit is being promoted throughout all primary schools in North Lincolnshire. The Youth Council and Youth Parliament Keaton Robinson and Lawrence Rayner, Deputy Members of the Youth Council and Youth Parliament for North Lincolnshire explained what their roles were and talked about their work representing the young people in North Lincolnshire. They are able to give young people a voice and to influence local decisions. A Youth Council newsletter is sent to all schools on a monthly basis. An election for a new Mayor and Members of the Youth Parliament will be held in October 2013. The dates for forthcoming Youth Council meetings are: 20 June, 11 July, 29 August, 19 September, 17 October, 21 November, 12 December - all from 6.30 to 8.30 at Civic Centre.

Danielle, Rio & Bethany from the Wrawby Primary School demonstrate how they

make Staying Safe fun

Presentation on Buddy Training by Belton All Saints Primary School

The Worlaby FAB 7 explain their role in promoting safety in school

Keaton and Lawrence talk about their work with the Youth Council and Youth Parliament

All of the schools’ powerpoint presentations are available to download from http://www.everynorthlincschildmatters.org.uk/local-safeguarding-children-s/



A number of workshops took place in the afternoon. These included Healthy Relationships, Saying No to Peer Pressure, No Smoking and Cyber Mentors. Saying No to Peer Pressure The Peer Pressure workshop was led by Suzan Kemp, the Behaviour and Attendance Advisory Officer for North Lincolnshire Council. The workshop explored different types of peer pressure and involved lots of role play. Comments from the Graffiti Board included “the peer pressure workshop was very good – I liked the role play best”. Cyber Mentors The Cyber Mentors workshop was led by Helen Parker, LSCB Training Coordinator. Helen gave a presentation on internet safety and the importance of keeping personal details and online profiles safe. The workshop included designing artwork and on line safety messages on paper plates. This was followed by a short film by the police on keeping safe on the internet. Comments from the Graffiti Board were “ I enjoyed the cyber bullying workshop and designing our own plates”. Healthy Relationships Debbie Winning, Domestic Abuse Strategy Manager ran the workshop on Healthy Relationships. The workshop was interactive and explored the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships. Comments from the Graffiti Board confirmed the workshop was a lot of fun. No Smoking Greg Gough, Tobacco Control Coordinator and Laura Taylor ran the workshop on No Smoking. Greg shared facts and figures on the number and types of deaths caused by smoking, the cost of smoking and the huge profits the Tobacco Industries make by getting young people hooked on smoking. Several exhibits were shared with the audience to warn about the dangers of smoking. Comments from the Graffiti Board included “the smoking workshop was awesome”, “I now know the dangers of smoking” and “it was fun and I learnt a lot”.

The comments on the Graffiti Wall confirmed that the day was loads of fun. These are just some of the comments: I think the Peer Mentors were awesome The workshops were great Everyone was amazing Holme Valley Rap was awesome – I loved it Super performances I enjoyed the cyber bullying workshop – we designed our own cyber

plates The Smoking PowerPoint was awesome The peer pressure workshop was very good – I liked the role play best Today was the best day ever The Playground Leaders were amazing It was fun and I learnt a lot Healthy Relationships was super fun Cyber bullying was fun – I love drawing Great day

The children and young people will take what they have learnt from the conference to disseminate to their schools and to their friends.

Workshop on Peer Pressure by Suzan Kemp

Workshop on Cyber Bullying by Helen Parker

Workshop on Healthy Relationships by Debra Winning

Workshop on Smoking by Greg Gough

Adding comments to the Graffiti Board

Feedback from the Conference


Stay Safe Conference for Secondary Schools on 20 March

The Chair of the LSCB, Edwina Harrison opened the event. Edwina explained the purpose of the LSCB and what the LSCB’s four priorities are. They are (1) embedding the Early Help offer (2) keeping children safe from Child Exploitation (3) reducing harm from Domestic Abuse and (4) reducing harm from Neglect and Emotional Abuse. Edwina asked the young people if they felt these were the right priorities for the LSCB and they agreed they were. Healthy Relationships - Debra Winning Debra Winning, Domestic Abuse Strategy Manager explained the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships. A group exercise took place to create Top Tips for Keeping Safe. The young people were given copies of a the “This is Abuse” postcard which included telephone numbers for Childline, the National Domestic Violence Helpline and Rape Crisis and a copy of the Home Office guide for teenage relationship abuse. A DVD called “Spiralling” can also be downloaded off the internet to help spot signs of abuse. Any Questions? Q - Is Childline just for children or for teenagers as well? A – Childline is for young people up to the age of 19 Stay Safe Song—Invenio Academy Danielle from the Invenio Academy sang a lovely solo of the Peer Mentors Stay Safe song and the audience sang along to the chorus (the words to the song are on page 9) Stay Safe Rap - Huntcliff School Peer Mentors Huntcliff School Peer Mentors gave a wonderful performance of their Staying Safe Rap (the words to the Rap are on page 9) Sexual Exploitation - Lynnette Smith Lynette Smith from Big Talk Education gave advice about exploitation, the definitions of sexual exploitation and the signs to look for if a young person is being sexually exploited. The young people then designed posters with Top Tips on how to keep their friends safe from exploitation. North Lincs Youth Voice update Kal Alcock-Murtagh, the Young Mayor for North Lincolnshire, Keaton Robinson and Lawrence Rayner, Deputy Members of the Youth Parliament for North Lincolnshire explained what their roles were and talked about the benefits of being in the Youth Council. These include having a voice, representing young people’s views, being able to influence local decisions, improving confidence and public speaking skills, and having lots of opportunities such as visits to Parliament and being able to shadow local MPs. Elections for the next Young Mayor and Members of Youth Parliament will be held in October. The young people were asked what the Youth Council could do to help them keep safe. They made the following suggestions: More safe places / safe clubs where young people can go Activity based support for disabled young people to have fun outside

school and to socialise, ie Paralympics Self Defence activities such as martial arts and fencing A Positive Image Day for celebrating being proud of ourselves The dates for forthcoming Youth Council meetings are: 20 June, 11 July, 29 August, 19 September, 17 October, 21 November, 12 December - all from 6.30 to 8.30 at Civic Centre

Edwina Harrison, Chair of the LSCB opens the evemt

Danielle from Invenio Academy sings the Stay Safe Song

Huntcliff School Peer Mentors perform their Staying Safe Rap

Kal, Keaton and Lawrence explain the benefits of being in the Youth Council



Staying Safe Ambassadors - Invenio Academy The Invenio Academy Staying Safe Ambassadors gave a presentation on how they promote the staying safe agenda in school. They have created lots of resources including stay safe posters, credit card with key stay safe contact numbers, a stay safe character called Safe Sam, stay safe logo, keyring, badge and Top Tips. The posters will be circulated to all secondary schools. The audience was most impressed with the credit card with contact numbers and suggested rolling them out to all schools. Staying Safe on the Internet - St Lawrence Academy Students from the St Lawrence Academy demonstrated the dangers of not having privacy settings and of sharing private photos and information with strangers through role play. They also gave a powerpoint presentation on cyber bullying and keeping safe. The Chair of the LSCB was so impressed with the presentation that she asked if St Lawrence could present it to the LSCB. Suzan Kemp also asked if they could present to the Youth Council and to primary schools. Peer Mentoring - St Bede’s Academy The St Bede’s Academy Peer Mentors explained how they improve safety in school and how they help children who are being bullied. This includes friendship clubs, homework clubs, and drop in rooms, friendship workshops, self-esteem workshops and circle time. Any Questions? Q – Have you any links with other schools? A – Yes we link with primary schools Q - Is the drop in room effective? A – Yes—every lunchtime 2 peer mentors are available to listen to any issues that concern students Q – Is the drop in room just for year 7s or could a year 9 use it? A – Yes a Year 9 could join in Q - What issues do you tackle in the drop in room? A – We help and advise on all sorts of situations. The Peer Mentors help to make young people feel safe Peer Mentors Website and Stay Safe Club - Fred Gough School The Peer Mentors from Fred Gough School demonstrated their new website. It was set up in 2013 to provide information and support for pupils and to publicise stay safe events. The website includes information on peer mentor training, how to become a peer mentor, info re cyber bullying and helpful numbers and websites. Primary schools have links to the website so pupils can look at the information before they move up to secondary school. The website will be developed further over the summer term. The audience felt that the Peer Mentors website was a great idea and suggested expanding to other schools. The Peer Mentors explained how they had organised a Safe club aimed at vulnerable young people or for anyone who wants a safe place. They plan to roll it out to other schools in the future. Check out the Peer Mentor website on http://fgspeermentors.wordpress.com/about/

The Invenio Academy Staying safe Ambassadors explain how they stay safe

Fred Gough Peer Mentors demonstrate their Staying safe website

Students from St Lawrence Academy demonstrate stay safe messages through

role play

St Bede’s Academy Peer Mentors explain how they improve safety in school

Exam Stress by Katie Chapman and April Frearson Katie Chapman, Educational Psychologist and April Frearson, Trainee Educational Psychologist gave a presentation on exam stress and reducing test anxiety. They circulated a checklist with the symptoms of stress and asked the young people to give feedback on any negative thoughts. Katie and April taught the young people to recognise the symptoms of anxiety and gave them techniques to overcome it. They also gave lots of tips on preparing for exams and reiterated the importance of having a positive support network. Interactive / Creative Sessions During the afternoon there were two interactive / creative sessions. The music session was led by Huntcliff School Peer Mentors. They taught their group to perform a Stay Safe Rap which resulted in a lively musical performance by the whole group. The art session was led by St Lawrence and Invenio Academy Peer Mentors and their group created some fantastic Stay Safe Posters and Top Tips for Staying Safe. Some of their Top Tips were: communicating feelings, building trust, knowing when to say no, knowing whether to get help, telling someone if problems develop in a relationship, respecting your partner and yourself, taking control sooner rather than later, being safe online, not sharing photos with strangers and listening to the voice in your head.

Some of the Comments from the evaluation forms: I learnt a lot about staying safe and what to do I have learnt a lot during today’s event I have learnt the various number of options there are for help I have learnt that there are many ways kids can get harmed - however I

have also learnt that there are ways to stop this I learnt too much to write down, but everything I’ve learnt is inspirational I have learnt a lot about healthy relationships and sexual exploitation I will use this information for the future in case I run into any of these

situations I’ve learnt a lot over the course of the day and found it very educational -

mostly I’ve learnt about sexual exploitation and exam stress I have a good understanding of online danger It was a great day and we all had great fun – Amazing! Some of the comments from the Graffiti Board: It was Bang Tidy! Shamazballs! Helped us understand a lot about safety Powerful Loved it Helped me understand a lot of things Good songs and raps It was an amazing day It was Banging Bruv! Great presentations It was interesting and made things understandable Definitely going to join the youth council



Interactive / Creative Session

Interactive / Creative Session

Feedback from Creative Art Session

Feedback from Creative Music Session

Feedback from the event

ANTI BULLYING RAP BY HOLME VALLEY PRIMARY SCHOOL Count 1,2 ,3 4, 1, 2, 3 4 Hey Bully! Stop ! 1,2 ,3 4, 1, 2, 3 4 Hey Bully! Stop now! Rap(solo) stop bullying me It’s really mean You think it’s a game but it’s really lame You pull my hair I pretend I don’t care I burst into tears As I think of all my fears (all shout) Stop! Stop! Refrain C (chord) Eminor You’re not alone, there’s help all around Aminor F Look for the Worry Box, write it down C (chord) Eminor Find a Buddy, give them a shout Aminor F Wherever you are, they can help you out Hey Bully! Stop! Rap(solo) You bully to be cool You think you rule the school It’s really cruel but you’re a fool You’re always mean I wish you were seen, every day, Doin’ those bad things to me (all shout) Stop! Stop! Refrain Ask any adult, they’ll be sure to help Check out the internet, give Childline a bell All you kids, you’ve got to empathise Know how they feel, see it in their eyes Hey Bully! Stop! Rap ( solo or 3 rappers, a pair of lines each) Look out for the bullies, giving mean looks, Making nasty comments from behind their books Calling someone names, so they feel bad Teasing and joking, make them sad Sticks and stones, may break your bones Facebook and texting, words CAN hurt Stop! Stop! Refrain You’re not alone, there’s help all around Look for the Worry Box, write it down Find a Buddy, give them a shout Wherever you are, they can help you out Hey Bully! Stop ! Hey Bully! Stop now!


Words to the Staying Safe Songs

If schools are interested in how the Rap was composed they can contact Nick Moorhouse at Holme Valley Primary school on 01724 842152.

The Rap can be downloaded from the website on www.everynorthlincschildmatters.org.uk/local-safeguarding-children-s/

http://www.everynorthlincschildmatters.org.uk/local-safeguarding-children-s/

STAYING SAFE SONG BY INVENIO ACADEMY PEER MENTORS Verse 1 It’s the first day of year 7 I want to be in the “in crowd” I looked over to see them There was designer all round Slowly I walk to meet them It was time to make first move It’s now my chance to show my funky walk with a cool groove Chorus My mum said: Never meet strangers from the internet Peer pressure is a bad thing, it’s one thing you’ll regret Say NO firmly, explain your reasons then it will come so clear Think about your actions, so it won’t cause lots of tears Verse 2 They said “we’ll only let you in if you do this thing for us” “Meet someone from the Internet, it will give you a proper buzz” Now it’s time to meet him, there’s no time to think Let’s just get this over with It will be done in a blink Repeat Chorus Verse 3 My mum saw the convo, she stopped me at the door What were you doing, I don’t want you on that site anymore I shrugged her off and went outside, I still felt kinda scared

Was it really worth it, it’s just one stupid dare Repeat Chorus Verse 4 Oh no, I’m running late, should I take a shortcut? This alleyway should get me there with lots of time to spare Walking through the darkness, I hear someone behind me The footsteps were getting louder, it was like a scary movie Bridge As I ran away I tried to remember my assembly from last week They told us tips on how to stay safe on the streets Repeat Chorus


Words to the Staying Safe Songs

BULLYING RAP BY HUNTCLIFFE SCHOOL Bullying is bad it makes me feel sad Bullying is cruel it’s not even cool School should be safe in and out the school gates Always make sure you’re with your mates It’s not that cool to be a fool Bullying is bad it makes me feel sad Bullying is cruel it’s not even cool Know what to do when you’re with your crew Cos they will always be looking out for you When going on the internet you must take care Keep yourself safe and always be aware Bullying is bad it makes me feel sad Bullying is cruel it's not even cool

The Peer Mentors from the Oasis Academy showcased their Restorative Practice at the LSCB Stay Safe Conference on 19 March. They explained how they support children in school using Restorative Practice. The Peer Mentors are on duty at playtimes and lunchtimes. If there is an incident they meet with the young person with the challenging behaviour to find out what happened and to discuss the consequences of their actions. They also meet with the victim to ask them how they feel and to offer support and solutions.


Restorative Practice by Oasis Academy

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Wrawby School Resources — Stranger Danger Dominoes

At the Stay Safe Conference on 19 March, members of the Feeling Safe Crew from Wrawby Primary School shared their Resources for making Staying Safe fun in school. They have designed a range of resources such as the Stay Safe cootie catchers (page 12) and Stay Safe dominoes, E Safety Dominoes and Stranger Danger dominoes (below).

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6. Slide your thumb and your finger behind 2 of the pictures and press together so they bend round and touch

7. Turn over and repeat with the thumb and finger of the other hand for the other two pictures

8. All the pictures should now be at the front with centres touching and you are ready to use your cootie catcher!

Never take sweets from a stranger.


Wrawby School Resources—Cootie Catcher

These Top Tips were created by the following students from St Bede’s for the Stay Safe Conference on 20 March 2013: Ellie Taylor Emily McMonagle Katy Holme Chantelle Jones Imogen Perry Georgia Tavvno Eve Calpin

What is sexual exploitation?

Sexual exploitation is when someone takes advantage of you in a sexual way for their own benefit, eg through threats, bribes, violence, humiliation or even telling you that they love you. It could be someone wanting sexual or inappropriate images of you and can happen to both boys and girls. It does not have to be through physical contact, It can be mental too and can even happen on line. How to spot the signs If something seems wrong it probably is. Your friend may start to act differently. They may: have mood swings be withdrawn be emotional be angry What to do to keep yourself safe on line Make sure your account settings are set on private Do not share personal information or give out your details on line Do not talk to strangers or agree to meet up with anyone you don’t know Do not give out or send inappropriate pictures of yourself—if you would not show your parents then

do not send them Seek support Do not become isolated—no one is an island. If you are not sure what to do, listen to the voice in your head.

Talk to a friend, family, or teacher or contact one of the help lines below:

REMEMBER TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE


Sexual Exploitation Top Tips

The following students contributed to these Top Tips for Healthy Relationships at the Stay Safe Conference on 20 March 2013:

Davis Jipson (Frederick Gough school) Tiegan A (Frederick Gough school) Catherine Benton (Frederick Gough school) Mitch Naylor (Frederick Gough school) Leanne Sharp (Baysgarth) Sophie Simmons (Baysgarth) Chloe Mils (Baysgarth) Think about what ‘a ‘healthy relationship’ means A ‘healthy relationship’ is where people trust and want the best for each other. One side should not

take advantage or use power to get their own way Remember in a ‘healthy relationship’: You are able to communicate with each other, to listen and to talk. You are able to express your feelings You feel happy and valued Friends support and help if things go wrong - this should work both ways You trust and respect each other You need to be able to compromise If you are made to feel uncomfortable find other friends If a ‘friend ‘asks you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable say “No!” and have the

confidence to do so Do not forget your other friends – if something goes wrong you can rely on them being there for you Do not become isolated—no one is an island If you are not sure what to do listen to the voice in your head If things go wrong know where to go. Contact one of the help lines below

REMEMBER TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE

If you need advice or want to talk to someone please visit one of the websites or call one of the numbers below for further help and information. Calls are free of charge. Childline www.childline.org.uk or telephone 0800 1111 National Domestic Violence Helpline www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk or telephone 0808 2000 247 (lines open 24 hours a day) Rape Crisis www.rapecrisis.org.uk or tel 0808 802 9999 (lines open daily between 12pm - 2.30pm and 7pm -9.30pm)


Healthy Relationships Top Tips

WHAT SCHOOLS HAVE BEEN DOING

Pupils design Stay Safe Posters

The Staying Safe Ambassadors from the Invenio Academy and members of the WIST team from Winterton Infant School travelled to the Civic Centre to show their completed 'Staying Safe' posters to Paul Harrop from the Publications Unit.

The FAB 7 from Worlaby Primary also met with Paul Harrop on a separate occasion to show him their designs for Stay Safe posters. Paul was really impressed with all of the designs and will publish the posters for distribution to all schools.

Invenio Staying Safe Ambassadors

The WIST team

The FAB 7

On 13 March 2013 Kyle and Amy from the Winterton Infant Safety Team (WIST) presented their PowerPoint on Staying Safe resources to the Local Safeguarding Children Board (LSCB) at the Learning Development Centre. They explained how they became involved in the Staying Safe project at Winterton Infant School and why they created their Stay Safe posters. The posters focus on playground safety, water safety, fire safety, road safety and stranger danger and will be rolled out to other schools in North Lincolnshire. Amy and Kyle showed Board Members copies of their posters and they were really impressed. The Chair of the LSCB, Edwina Harrison thanked Amy and Kyle for giving such an excellent presentation to Board members.


WIST tell LSCB how they Stay Safe

Oakfield Primary school had their first planning meeting in December 2012 to organise their Safe project in school. They produced an action plan and a job description. Their aims are: to keep the children in the school safe to reduce the danger caused by cars parking outside the school

Oakfield Primary organise Stay Safe Project in school

The twelfth meeting of the Feeling Safe Students’ Consultancy Group took place on 16 January at the LDC to discuss:

Students ‘Staying Safe’ Toolkit Primary Lifestyle Survey Anti-bullying questionnaire Wrawby ‘Staying Safe’ check list Cyber mentors network meeting dated 14 January 2013 Students Anti-bullying Board actions for spring term 2013 Spring term ‘Staying Safe’ Newsletter Peer Pressure poster Future ‘Key Speakers’ Whether School Councils effectively support ‘Staying Safe’ Staying Safe conference – March 2013 Sharing good practice re Westcliffe Primary School Playground project and Oakfield Primary

School Staying Safe outside school

The Guest Speaker was Kim Kirby who gave a presentation on Awareness of the dangers of drugs.


Staying Safe Meetings

The thirteenth meeting of the Feeling Safe Students’ Consultancy Group took place on 5 March at the LDC. The group discussed the following items:

Primary Lifestyle Survey Results of the Anti Bullying questionnaire Primary and secondary ‘Staying Safe’ Conference The Rights of the Child Charter Whether school councils effectively support

‘Staying Safe’ Whether the ‘Staying Safe’ group is making a

difference Peer Pressure Dealing with exam stress Safety on the streets Friends Sharing good practice from Epworth E-safety Buddies, Worlaby Fab 7 and Winterton Academy –

supporting ‘Staying Safe’ The key speaker was April Frearson who gave a presentation on Dealing with Exam Stress The next meeting will be held on Wednesday, 12 June 2013 at 9.45am at the Learning Development Centre. There will be a presentation on Fire Safety by Angela Clements.


Invenio Academy Peer Mentor Training

Peer Mentors from the Invenio Academy ran a Peer Mentoring Training course over 3 days to train young people to support peers who may be unhappy and feeling unsafe. Day 1 took place on 10 October 2012 and looked at:

Identifying where Peer Mentors can help in school Identifying qualities needed to be a Peer Mentor Identifying different types of bullying Understanding why people bully Understanding how people who experience bullying feel Role play: Supporting a student who is being bullied, Positive listening and identifying barriers to

good listening and Understanding what is meant by racism

Day 2 took place on 30 February 2013 and covered:

Dealing with racism Questioning skills – asking open fact finding questions Exploring feelings and grading key words The importance of body language Taking the first meeting into a second meeting Role playing scenarios such as:

Falling out with friends Supporting a student with SEN/disability Dealing with cyber-bullying Reflection time

Day 3 was held on 8 February 2013. The focus for the day was:

Establishing clear boundaries – what to do and not do. Supporting a student whose parents are splitting up. Supporting a student who is a ‘Carer’. Helping a student deal with their anger. Personal safety. Child Protection and dealing with disclosure. What to do and not do when dealing with disclosure. Learning how to run a ‘Circle Time’. Training evaluation.

Senior Peer Mentors Role play—cyber bullying

Evaluation of Peer Mentor Training The overall score from the evaluations was 9.6 out of 10. What we got from the training Awareness of different issues that

might affect students. More confidence Gaining life skills Learning skills that will help me to

be a Peer Mentor Learing how to run a “Circle Time”


Huntcliffe School Peer Mentor Training

Peer Mentors from Huntcliffe School ran a Peer Mentoring Training course over 4 days. The first day’s training

took place on 23 January 2013 and focused on:

Identifying where Peer Mentors can help in school

Identifying qualities needed to be a Peer Mentor

Identifying different types of bullying

Understanding why people bully

Understanding how people who experience bullying feel

Role play: Supporting a student who is being bullied, Positive

listening and identifying barriers listening, Understanding what

is meant by racism

The second day was held on 29 January 2013 and looked at:

Learning to use the ‘Force Field’

Supporting a student experiencing racism

Understanding what is meant by SEN and disability

Dealing with ‘peer pressure’

Questioning skills – asking open fact finding questions

Reflection time

The third day was held on 6 February 2013 and covered:

The importance of body language

Taking a first meeting into a second meeting

Dealing with friendship ‘fall outs’

Identifying key words and phrases

Dealing with cyber bullying

Establishing clear boundaries – what to do and not do

Supporting a student whose parents are splitting up

Supporting a student who is a ‘Carer’

Helping a student deal with their anger

Personal safety

Reflection time

The fourth day took place on 8 March and focused on:

Child Protection and dealing with disclosure

What to do and not do when dealing with disclosure

Learning Circle time skills to support transition

Skills check list.

Training evaluation.

Discussing what went well at the meeting and preparing for the next meeting

Observor Feedback

Demonstrating the use of the Force Field

Developing questioning skills

Suggested Job description

It has been suggested by Buddies, Peer Mentors and students who attended the ‘Staying Safe’ Consultative Board and the Students, Children and Young People’s Anti-bullying Board that a member of the School Council has the responsibility of representing their peers in supporting the anti-bullying agenda. It was agreed that a ‘suggested’ job’s description be written that would explain the responsibilities and duties of such a post. The post can be held by more than one student so as to share the responsibilities. (School Councils can adapt as appropriate) The post of the ‘Student/s Anti-bullying Champion/s to be a

recognised post on the School Council. Candidates to have a clear ‘mission statement’ on how they

would fulfil their role. The holder of the post to be elected by their peers. The ‘Student Anti-bullying Champion’ to work closely with the

Anti-bullying co-ordinator in school. The Student Anti-bullying Champion to use the Anti-Bullying

Students RAG with the School Council to find out how they think the school is dealing with supporting anti-bullying.

As a result of the RAG to write a simple termly action plan. To be responsible for an Anti-bullying display. To help with anti-bullying assemblies.

The ‘North Lincolnshire Students’ Anti-Bullying Board’ (NLSABB) consists of children and young people representatives from schools, colleges and children’s homes. They meet on a termly basis and ensure that the Anti-Bullying & Emotional Wellbeing Coordinator focuses on priority actions identified in the ‘Children & Young People’s Plan’. The priority actions are: Reducing the Harm Caused by Bullying To continue to promote anti-bullying across all schools and children’s homes and to involve parents,

staff and students where appropriate. To continue to ‘reduce the harm caused by

bullying’ by making everyone aware of the harm caused by bullying.

Engaging Children & Young People in Positive Activities To promote Buddies, Peer Mentors and Cyber

Mentors to support their peers who are experiencing bullying.

Enabling C&YP Become Involved in Activities to Make Them Feel and Keep Safe To encourage CYP to be proactive in supporting

the anti-bullying agenda in North Lincolnshire.


Primary and Secondary Students Anti Bullying Champions

North Lincolnshire Students’ Anti Bullying Board Work Plan 2013

The Buddy and Peer Mentors Network meeting took place on 4 February 2013. The meeting focused on: The Children and Young People’s RAG Students Anti-bullying board Autumn term Anti-bullying & ‘Staying Safe’ Newsletters Anti-bullying questionnaire for years 5 and 9 Specialist Buddies and Peer Mentors Cyber Mentors and e-safe Case studies Consultation with you – what do you think about…. Cyber Mentors – establishing their role in North Lincolnshire Digital Champions – how can they support? Student anti-bullying Leaders – should each school have them? Sharing your ‘Good News’ The good news shared included: Leys Farm Junior School — has a Buddy board with pictures and names of their buddies and who is on duty each day. They also have a friendship stop, a rota to run different activities and games in the playground to help younger children to make new friends, and they give out stickers in the playground for good behaviour. Wrawby Primary - Teegan from Wrawby Primary has created a dominoes game for the Staying Safe event to teach everyone about stranger danger. An electronic copy will go out to all schools. Wrawby Buddies have created a staying safe checklist which was circulated to all schools. Many schools have adapted this for their use. Wrawby Buddies have been making cootie catchers with key questions, re bullying/staying safe. They shared these ideas at the Staying Safe event on 19 March. Brigg Primary—Buddies from Brigg Primary have a Buddy board and a Buddy Stop. They also go into foundation schools to support the children. St Bernadette’s Primary Academy—Another 12 Buddies are being trained by existing Buddies. Winterton Community Academy—59 pupils from Winterton Community Academy recently completed a three day training course at Winterton Rangers to become peer mentors. Applications were submitted to the Head to become leaders (5 leaders and 5 deputies). They are also doing Reading Buddies with Y7 students. They are pushing forward the Digital Champions Go On project to assist older generations and attending autism training one night after school. Belton Primary—Belton Primary has Buddies and a Stay Safe group. Circle time has been going into Y3 & Y4. Epworth Primary—Epworth Digi Champs will be doing e-safety training for years 1 & 3. They also do group work for circle time and junior teachers. Lincoln Gardens Primary—Lincoln Gardens IBods – two children from each class hold meetings to help with computer and internet problems. Playground pals look after the younger children. Brumby Juniors — Brumby Juniors are going to have some more buddy mentoring.


Buddy and Peer Mentors Network Meetings 2013

Leys Farm Juniors Staying Safe Board

St Bernadette’s Catholic Primary Voluntary Academy training their new recruits at the

Buddy meeting on 4 February

The training took place on 26 March 2013. The aim of the training was to: understand what is meant by a ‘healthy relationship’. know what to do if a relationship goes wrong. create with you resources that you can use to help you to support

your peers. Feedback from the training The young people were asked to indicate how much they knew about “Healthy Relationships” before the training. The average score was 5.4 (on a scale of 1-10). After the training the average score rose to 9.3. These are some of the comments from the training: What did you learn from the training? How domestic abuse can occur

What to do in an ‘unhealthy’ relationship How to escape an abusive relationship and the different types How an unhealthy relationship can become an unhealthy one That you can get help More aspects of different forms of abuse Realisation that abuse is more regular than I thought How it can be subtle eg control About ways to approach talking to a pupil about a healthy

relationship Students know more about this then we give credit for

How would you improve the training?

Learn more about how victims are supported Does not need any improvement Have a guest speaker How domestic abuse is sorted out when it is out in the open By mentioning something about how the male can be a victim More details of real incidents and outcomes More role-play so that we know what it feels like Time to review resources and websites in more detail We could have done more training to understand how we could

identify an unhealthy relationship and how to help more Nothing – a very relaxed and enjoyable day with a great bunch of

students from other schools. Inspired by the enthusiasm Go over it again and find out more about how to help people in those

relationships

Any Other Comments

Probably the best/most interesting training I’ve had as a Peer Mentor It was a very good course – thank you I thought it was brilliant and very insightful A very good day To continue having a ‘Healthy Relationship’ Group and all who have

attended today to have a meeting at the end of June. The quiz was good and ‘Spiralling’ was powerful – it got the

message across. Very enjoyable and informative. I have a better understanding of

‘Healthy Relationships’


Healthy Relationship Peer Mentors—26 March 2013

The following schools took part in the Primary Lifestyle meeting on 6 December 2012.: Epworth Primary school Wrawby St Mary’s Primary school Brumby Junior school Leys Farm Junior school

Anti Bullying Mascot ideas from Leys Farm Junior School

Buddy Mascot idea from Wrawby Primary School

We have chosen an elephant because the elephant is big. The elephant is calm, helpful and a good role model. It may be big and have big ears but it uses the strength of courage to stand up for itself if someone calls it a name. It doesn't go in a strop if it falls out with a friend. The elephant has all the qualities of a Buddy, such as kindness, calm, honesty, sense of humour, good role model and teamwork. So that is why we have chosen the elephant.


Primary Lifestyle Meeting

Anti Bullying Buddy Mascot ideas

The Peer Mentors help to safeguarding children and young people in school and in the community by: Helping the lower school pupils develop their reading skills reading twice a week during tutorial time Socialising with younger pupils in the dinner hall to help them feel safer and more secure in school Organising sports clubs, multi activity groups and friendship groups Working with feeder schools to make the transition from primary school to secondary school a lot

smoother and to help them feel safe when starting secondary school Facilitating parent workshops and Feeling Safe meetings to help parents keep their children safe on

social networking sites, game consoles and PCs Raising awareness about bullying and cyberbullying and providing support to their peers Providing online support to thousands of other young people across the UK via cybermentors.org.uk. Linking with St Hugh’s School to organise SEN Sports Clubs The Anti Bullying Ambassadors act as spokespeople for the school and the community. They are part of a new venture launched by the Diana Awards and are part of the nation’s anti bullying community. Where do we go from here? Year 10 Anti Bullying Ambassadors plan to: Organise an E-safety night for parents of the feeder primary schools as well as local secondary

schools Get Involved in the local ‘Give An Hour’ Campaign Carry on holding meetings as Anti Bullying Ambassadors with local police, primary schools on local

issues that arise Introduce ideas on how to relieve stress and tension Plan to carry on working closely with Beat Bullying and the Princess Diana Awards

Winterton Community Academy Peer Mentors


The Playground Leaders have made a huge difference to their new school, especially the play areas. They ensure that the new play areas are safe, friendly, fun and exciting where children can play together and learn together. The Playground Leaders achieved their aims by: Finding out what their peers think through regular questionnaires Creating a Code of Behaviour for the new play areas Creating a Playground Agreement signed by all pupils Planning the organisation of the play areas

The Playground Leaders have designed the Playground Agreement and promoted through assemblies and newsletters. It is now up in all classrooms. Next Steps are to: Nominate pupils who are fulfilling the agreement Award a certificate to the best class with the most nominations Give an end of year award Display pictures of Playground Heroes Track the playground Behaviour Log Have a second questionnaire

Playground Leaders at Westcliffe Primary


Westcliffe Primary School Playground Project — Playground Leaders

Meeting with Mr P Bechizza Planning the Playground Agreement

Final version of Playground Agreement

The Playground Leaders met with Mr P Bechizza, the Landscape Gardener to discuss what they would like the new Playground to look like. They discussed ideas for a safe, fun, friendly and exciting playground.

WHAT SCHOOLS HAVE BEEN DOING TO PROMOTE ANTI BULLYING

Bottesford Infant School Mini Mentors write down the names of children playing nicely in their notebooks and every week a

child is chosen to win a weekly behaviour award in the achievement assembly Collect the “talk to box” boxes on a Friday morning and go through all the names together to discuss

what can be done to support children or sort out issues Weekly circle time sessions SEAL group meetings to complete feeling safe in school questionnaires and discuss feelings on a

range of issues The Anti Bullying and Safeguarding Coordinators have attended the restorative practice training and

will trial over the next half term Whole school display board outside the hall to promote anti bullying messages throughout the year Berkeley Junior School Playground buddies on duty at playtimes Peer support arranged for vulnerable pupils Children’s mentor support “Talk to box” used for children to access any adult in school Posters made during anti bullying workshop displayed in shared area SEAL resources used for assembly and PSCHE lessons Circle times used when problems arise Huntcliff School Trained another 30 Peer Mentors — each with a focus Lunch time club “Chill Out Zone” 6 mature mentors have attended friendships training RAP Group ran workshops at the Stay Safe event Anti Bullying newsletter distributed to all form groups Online relationships guide for parents and carers on website Invenio Academy Regular use of Facebook and Twitter offers online support Newly trained Peer Mentors taking the total up to 35 qualified Peer Mentors Young People’s Education Centre Safeguarding passport Cyber bullying and e safety leaflets circulated Designated sessions

PUPILS NOMINATED FOR OUTSTANDING CONTRIBUTIONS

The following pupils were nominated for their outstanding contribution towards Anti Bullying: Lewis Lloyd from the Invenio Academy has shone throughout the whole Peer Mentor training and his contributions have been fantastic. We are really looking forward to seeing the results of his hard work. The Mini Mentors from Bottesford Infant School are fantastic. They know their job really well and make sure things are done. They are such positive role models and all of the children in school know who they are.

WELL DONE AND KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK

CYBER MENTORS NETWORK MEETINGS

The Cyber Mentors Network Meetings took place on 14 January and 11 March 2013. Topics for discussion included: consultation about e safety poster and e safety

checklist cyber mentor support developing cyber mentors in North Lincolnshire sharing good practice cyber mentor training resource packs for cyber mentors and promoting cyber mentors in North Lincolnshire Yvonne Thompson from North Lincolnshire Council attended the meeting in January to talk about Digital Champions. Rachel Allen, Senior Cyber Mentor from The Axholme Academy attended the meeting in March to present the North Axholme cyber mentor case study. It includes: the role of a cyber mentor aims of a cyber mentor and top tips for e safety and top tips for presenting an assembly The cyber mentors are currently working on a cyber mentor guide similar to the anti bullying guide. The next Cyber Mentors Network meeting is on 8 July 2013 at the Learning Development Centre at 4.00pm.

Cyber Mentor poster

Number of Cyber Mentors in North Lincolnshire

FUTURE DATES FOR DIARY Children & Young People Anti Bullying Board—26 June Students Staying Safe meeting—10 July

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