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… MY SON: LIVING WITH HIS INVISIBLE ILLNESS
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THE BEGINNING
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After 14.5 hours of labor my
one and ONLY Prince was
born…
• * Zaharion Marcellus Johnson
• * 8 lbs. 5 oz.
• * 21 inches long
• * Healthy Bundle of Joy
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T H E U N K N OW N B E G I N N I N G
I remember it like it was yesterday:
* Zarrieya’s cheerleading competition
• What should have been a 45 minute ride
home from Grand Rapids, MI, quickly
turned into 1 hour and 45 minutes
• * The only music to our ears was
Zaharion’s crying.
• * Nothing I did was soothing him
• * I rubbed his feet and his cheeks, I
showered him with kisses ALL while
trying to remain calm
• * LAST and most DANGEROUS choice: I
took him out of his car seat so that I
could nurse him, while my Mother was
driving on the highway.
• * In that moment, I would have done
anything to see his infectious smile, that I
had just saw 2 hours earlier.
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WHEN THE CRYING STOPPED…• Home from Cheerleading Competition, Zaharion is still
crying. I had tried everything possible to soothe and nurture him.
– Every 10 minutes he would stop
• After about an hour, my Mommy took him to give me a moment to rejuvenate. Sitting on the couch across from her, she rocked him and kissed him…she rubbed his feet…the crying started again. Maybe he has to burb? She lifted him up against her chest and began patting his back. Within 2 minutes, he laid his head on her shoulder. That was my WARNING sign!
– Remember saying, “Mommy, something his wrong with him. He is NOT a shoulder baby. He cries every time anyone tries to lay his head on their shoulder. I know that he just stopped crying, but something isn’t right. “
– Mommy, “Your right, he is not a shoulder baby.”
– Me:, “Lets look at his face? He can’t be asleep that quick. Sit him up.”
• Just has she was lifting him off of her shoulder and turning him around, he let out this piercing cry and I remember hysterically screaming, “HIS EYES ARE ROLLING!! OMGOSH! LOOK AT HIS FIST! WHY IS HE JERKING! WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY BABY!
– Crying uncontrollably, I call
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PANIC ROOM…PANIC ATTACK• Ambulance arrive within 10 minutes
– Seemed like 50 million of the same questions
– Remember thinking, “This is like the song that never ends.”
– Remember asking (while crying uncontrollably), “Why are you asking me the same questions I just answered? Didn’t dispatch relay the information? WAIT…what are you doing with my baby? STOP…your making him cry more. Now my daughter is crying? Couldn’t you have asked me to ask her to leave the room? She’s 8 for God’s sake!” STOOOPPPP!! *Another seizure begins*
• Blame game
– “It’s your fault he had another seizure!” Mommie, why are you so calm? Can’t we just drive him ourselves?” OMGosh…just give me my baby!” As the EMT says, “Mom, we know it’s easier said than done, but please stay as calm as you can because he…. *ANOTHER seizure* 2 minutes of post *ANOTHER seizure*
• Game of Silence
– After seeing these 3 seizures back to back, I remember standing in the middle of the living room, with a blank stare and my lips had stopped moving. My head was spinning…everything/one EXCEPT my son was a blur
– I hear the EMT’s say, “We have to get…” “Now.” “Mom, you can rii…” “Not the back..”
VS
– What they actually said, “We have to get him on the ambulance NOW! We can finish these questions later. Mom, you can ride in the ambulance but you’ll have to ride in the front, because we need to keep him stabilized.”
Step 3
They have to stabilize him as much as possible before
transporting him
“Screw this! Pick Toot up and drive him yourself”
Step 2
The EMT’s are simply following their procedures. Asking
questions is part of the process.
These people need to do less talking and more driving
Step 1
TRY to remain Calm RubontayYou absolutely CANNOT
remain cam
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T H E E . R .
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MOM ON FIRE…
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RIDE ALONG
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F I R S T I M P R E S S I O N S
• Smiles
• Greeted at the door
• AKNOWLEDGED
• More questions
• But this time was different
• Vitals. Chart.
Ask Mom. REPEAT
• Battle Creek Health
Systems could use
some tips
• Let me Introduce myself…
• VALIDATION
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ADMITTED• In the next 24 hours, Zaharion will have
multiple test in order to determine the cause
of the seizures
– Hospital Social Worker will be around to talk to
you
– It’s common to not find anything the first time
so don’t be alarmed.
– Questions are normal so please don’t hesitate
to ask. Right now, it’s going to seem like a lot of
“I don’t knows” until he has completed all the
testing.
– Because he is only 4 months, some test may be
more challenging because he will have to go
with the nurses and he won’t smell your scent
• Is there a reason why I cannot go with my
son?
• Are you TELLING me or ASKING me?
• Home away from home
– “Mom, what formula does Zaharion
drink.”
• He is nursed
– We love it when Mom’s say they
nurse. Good for you Mom! And
because you nurse, you can order
room service up to 5 times each
day.
• Feeling of validation during
my mental chaos
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D I S C H A R G E D A Y
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THE NEXT 7 MONTHS• Seizures increased
• Still NO call from the Social Worker from January
• In and out of the E.R.
• Several EEG’s attempted but were unsuccessful
– Time of day of test
– How am I supposed to keep an infant awake all day until test
– How am I suppose to keep him calm when I’m told not to give him anything by mouth an
hour before
• Because that’s really going to happen
• Continuous calls to the Neurologist
– Overnight EEG FINALLY scheduled…for August 3rd…Toot’s 1st birthday
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HAPPY 1ST BIRTHDAY TOOT!AUGUST 3, 2011
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THE WAIT…
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• The results can’t be taking this
long.
• Are they really that busy?
• THINKING: It’s been like 2 months
• ACTUALITY: 2.5 weeks, but my
mind kept telling me different
• By this time I am already
expecting worse. I simply felt in my
gut. I began to prepare myself for
the phone call.
• 3 weeks later and my caller ID
finally said Pediatric Neurology
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No matter how much I prepared myself for this phone call…I still was NOT
prepared.
September 2011
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O C T O B E R 2 0 1 1
* H I S B E H A V I O R I S E X T R E M E
- V E R Y A G G R E S S I V E
* F I R S T A P P O I N T M E N T S I N C E T E S T I N G A N D R E C E I V I N G T E S T R E S U L T S
- 6 – 10 seizures a month since having testing until now
- No environmental changes
- His behavior
- Is this common?
- Etc.
*CSHCS
- FIRST MENTIONED
- NO idea what it is
- What is it?
- Does he qualify?
- Maybe later
- Resource?
- Why hasn’t anyone ever mentioned this?
“Invisible” Social Worker that I NEVER heard from
*SSI
- Applied?
- A process = patience
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N O V E M B E R 2 0 1 1
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T H E J O U R N E Y A H E A D• Life hasn’t been the same since I received that FIRST phone call
telling me that Zaharion…my baby…has been diagnosed with
Epilepsy
• His behavior
• Life altering decisions
• I’ve question, blamed, and beat myself up
• I felt like I had failed as a Mother; his nurturer
• I felt like I was now neglecting my 8 year old daughter
• I still had NOT heard from the Social Worker so naturally, I began
to think “they” didn’t care; my son was just another “Epilepsy
Patient”
• Was I going to be prepared for the continuous doctor
appointments?
• Was I going to responsible?
• Was I prepare for the uncertainty?
• Was I going to learn to ASK for HELP?
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Epilepsy and learning
Children with epilepsy have the same
range of intelligence and abilities as other
children. However, some children with
epilepsy will have learning difficulties.
This is usually due to a coexisting
condition, such as an underlying brain
abnormality, or it might be related to the
child’s frequent seizures.
Sometimes, medication is a contributing
factor as it may cause drowsiness or
hyperactivity. When a learning difficulty is
identified in a child, there are strategies
available – both medical and educational
– that can be implemented. Talk to your
epilepsy counsellor about any concerns
you might have.
Health Insurance?
LOST
&
OVERWHELMED
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AS THE TURNS
Anemic
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SOMETHING HAS GOT TO GIVE:THE SMILE TOOT USE TO WEAR
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DETROIT CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL• Referred by his Neurologist in Kalamazoo to DCH
• Agrees that Zaharion has been “struggling” for a while
• Agrees that his brain is “unique”
• UPFRONT and HONEST
– Intensive testing
– The end result will either be brain surgery or the VNS once all testing is completed.
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HEALTH INSURANCE DISAPPOINTMENT• Trying to set up transportation
– Local CSHCS at Health Department
• Can’t be arranged though them, must call United
Health Care
– United Health Care
• Can’t be arranged though us, must be arranged
through Medicaid
– Medicaid
• Can’t be arranged though us, must call United Health
Care and ask for CSHCS
– United Health Care
• CSHCS Department
– “I don’t know what you are referring too?
Please Hold…You have to call Medicaid”
– Medicaid
• Can’t be arranged though us, must call CSHCS
– ALREADY TRIED THAT
• Call back and ask for a Medical Social Worker
– United Health Care
• CSHCS
• Social Workers
– Someone will call you back tomorrow
– Local CSHCS at Health Department
• FORGET IT! I have spend 2 hours going back and forth. I am furious! I don’t want to be reimbursed for anything! I will pay for a hotel and my own mileage.”
• “SO SORRY! This is ridiculous! You are entitled to these benefits let me make some phone calls.”
2 hours vs 15 minutes
NO SUCCESS vs SUCCESS
Same questions
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A CHRISTMAS TO REMEMBER
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Ronald McDonald House
Children’s Hospital of Michigan: Detroit Medical Center
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THE DOC IS IN• Test Results
– Not what they wanted
– Not what I wanted to hear = NOW WHAT?
– Such a waste of time
• New diagnosis
– Cortical Dysplasia
– EXCUSE ME? Am I being punked?
• Tell Ashton Kutcher He can come out now.
LOST
&
OVERWHELMED…AGAIN
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WHERE ARE WE NOW
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WE WEAR PURPLE FOR TOOTBrains are just as important as boobs
#November
#NationalEpilepsyAwarenessMonth
#BrainsMatterTOO
#DareTo…Get Educated