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    MAY 12, 2016Volume 23 / Issue 2

     

    NEWS 6 

    R ISKY  BUSINESS  by  Fallon Forbush

      10  PUFF PIECE

      by  Fallon Forbush

      12  COMMUNITY  CALENDAR 

      YOUTH PRIDE GUIDE  17  20 Y EARS OF Y OUTH PRIDE 

    by  Doug Rule

       Photographs from the

      Metro Weekly archives

      21  WELCOME LETTER 

      23  LETTER  FROM MAYOR  BOWSER 

      25   V ENDORS, SPEAKERS, PERFORMERS

      AND SPONSORS

      FEATURE  26  GAVIN’S STORY 

       Interview by  John Riley 

     photography by 

    Todd Franson

      OUT ON THE TOWN  34  MONKEY  BUSINESS

      by  Doug Rule

      38  PERSISTENT MEMORY 

      by  Doug Rule

      NIGHTLIFE  43  R OCKY  HORROR  AT THE DC EAGLE

       photography by Ward Morrison

      SCENE  51  R OBIN S. AT TOWN

       photography by Ward Morrison

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    Risky Business As the District tries to tackle LGBT youth homelessness, many are turning to

    sex work and other illegal trades in order to survive

    Cruz

    SELENA ROSE CRUZ POPS A XANAX. SHE SAYSit helps with her anxiety. The man who sold her thesedatives wanted oral sex, but she insisted on paying in

    cash instead.At 22 years old, Cruz is on the clock, engaging in her trade

    as a sex worker. She is homeless, but has made enough cash

    to operate out of a Red Roof Inn in Lanham, Maryland. Cruzmakes $80 to $180 per client, depending on whether they want

    a quick session or a full hour. Her $70-a-night room is essentialfor both her work and her security, as she prefers in-calls —

    where clients come to her, rather than meeting them elsewhere.She says it’s safer that way.

    “This is definitely for survival,” Cruz says. “If I don’t make

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    any money today, tomorrow I could be outside on the street. Ineed to be inside where at least I can be safe and comfortable.Being outside is just going to put me in more danger.”

    Cruz hasn’t always been homeless, and it’s only recentlythat she’s had to put herself in dangerous situations with men

    she doesn’t know. She grew up with her parents in Winchester,

     Virginia, but her lack of stable housing began when her fathergave her up for adoption, handing her $100 and abandoning her

    when she was just 17 years old.“My dad kicked me out because I was gay,” she says. “But

    at the same time I wasn’t. I was transgender, I was feminine.I wanted to wear girl’s clothes, I wanted to be a girl. I thought

    a woman’s body was so amazing. I’ve felt like a woman since

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    I was five.”

    Cruz wound up at the Henry and William Evans Home forChildren in Winchester, Virginia. When she was 18, she ran away

    and was eventually arrested for being homeless. She now faces the

    threat of arrest every day by engaging in an illegal line of work.Cruz’s story is far from unique. Extreme levels of unem-

    ployment and poverty lead many LGBT individuals to becomeinvolved in underground markets — such as sex work — in order

    to survive.“We’re always concerned about LGBT youth that are

    involved in sex work,” says Eddy Ameen, co-chair of the DCCenter’s Youth Working Group. “When you are homeless and

    potentially even a minor, you can sell things like drugs or your

    body, or beg for spare change.”Statistics show that LGBT youth homelessness is on the rise.

    There are more than 7,000 people experiencing homelessnessin D.C., according to a January 2015 census. In August 2015,

    another census counted everyone aged 24 and under experienc-ing homelessness or housing insecurity. Two-fifths identified as

    LGBTQ — fifteen percent of whom also reported a family con-

    flict due to their sexual orientation or gender identity.Growing homelessness among the city’s LGBTQ youth is

    something Mayor Muriel Bowser is working to solve. Bowser’scommitment to ending homelessness, especially for LGBTQ

    youth, started as a councilmember when she helped spearhead2014’s LGBTQ Homeless Youth Reform Amendment Act. It

    required annual reports on addressing the needs of LGBTQhomeless youth and stipulated that a minimum number of dedi-

    cated beds be made available.

    “Our office’s focus is to make sure that as the city is develop-

    ing their youth prevention plan for homelessness, that we have

    a real focus on making sure that LGTBQ youth are at the fore-front,” says Darrell Gaston, housing specialist with the Mayor’s

    Office of LGBTQ Affairs. In the two years since the law passed,the amount of beds dedicated to LGBT youth has increased

    threefold. “We only had about eight beds, and now we have

    over 27.”That’s still far from enough, but building capacity is a prior-

    ity. This year, Gaston’s office issued a total of $25,000 to local

    organizations strictly for the purpose of providing shelter tomore LGBTQ homeless youth. Five grants of $5,000 were givento HIPS, the DC Center for the LGBT Community, Casa Ruby,

    the Wanda Alston House, and SMYAL.Seventeen of the dedicated beds can be found at Casa Ruby,

    which operates two shelters for LGBT youth. Its emergency

    shelter has five beds and its transitional facility has 12, whereresidents can access a range of services including behavioral

    health services, metro tokens, and legal immigration assistance.Last winter, Casa Ruby also ran a temporary hypothermia shel-

    ter, with more than 50 people as young as 16 years old seekingrefuge. Its efforts have helped establish Casa Ruby as a main

    point of entry for LGBT youth living on the streets.

    “We learned that it is very, very important to open lower-barrier emergency shelter beds for youth. When people have

    been homeless for a long time, it takes a lot of effort and learn-ing and unlearning behaviors for them to comply with shelter

    rules,” says Larry Villegas-Pérez, Casa Ruby’s director of socialand mental health services. Providing accommodation without

    requiring commitments allows the youth to engage with theirservices, build trust and learn that “somebody else cares for

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    them and their well-being.”

    However, D.C.’s homeless youth problem continues to grow— something many conflate with other jurisdiction’s failings in

    LGBT matters. “D.C. may be a haven for queer youth who run

    away or don’t have family to fall back on from more rural orconservative places in our neighboring states,” says DC Center’s

    Ameen.“A kid will get on a bus from Kansas and say, ‘I heard that

    D.C. is very progressive and helps LGBT youth. Can you help

    me find a place to stay?’” says Sheila Alexander-Reid, director ofthe Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs. “That’s the reputation we

    have in the country. Very few states have this commitment thatD.C. has to its LGBTQ community in general.”

    That reputation isn’t always reflected in the experiences ofD.C.’s LGBTQ youth. Discrimination in housing and employ-

    ment still occurs, even though it is illegal, leading to a viciouscycle of homelessness.

    “Many of these kids — particularly the transgender youth —

    are part of a pipeline, from homelessness to survival sex work, tobeing HIV positive, to being arrested, to coming out of jail with

    no skills and no place to stay,” says Reid. “We really are trying to

    break the cycle, and it starts with these kids when they’re kickedout of their homes.”

    However, breaking that cycle is made exponentially harderwhen there’s money to be earned in illegal trades. With high

    youth unemployment, a dearth of well-paying jobs and the

    added factor of homelessness, sex work and other activitiescan be an easy — if extremely risky — way to make money. For

    Selena Rose Cruz, the math is simple: she earns more selling herbody than she made during a short stint washing hair at a trans-

    friendly salon.“I get why people don’t like it, but it’s none of their business.

    It’s my body, I can do what I want,” Cruz says. “If this is theeasiest way that I can survive and make money, I wanna do it.” l

    Puff PieceThe FDA is targeting young LGBT smokers with its “This Free Life” campaign

    SMOKING HAS BECOME A PART OF OUR LIFESTYLE,but it doesn’t have to be,” says William Furmanski.

    “Being gay is all about knowing yourself and feeling the

    freedom to be who you are.”Furmanski is senior vice president of communications for

    the Truth Initiative, an organization that is trying to build atobacco-free generation. As a gay man, he’s “thrilled” that the

    U.S. Food and Drug Administration is on a mission to changesmoking’s role in LGBT culture. The “This Free Life” campaign

    is the FDA’s first major campaign to address tobacco use within

    the community, the prevalence of which is attributed to severalfactors, including coming out.

    “The coming out process can be stressful and is a period ofincreased vulnerability, which can lead to tobacco use and other

    behaviors with negative health consequences,” says RichardWolitski, acting director of the U.S. Department of Health and

    Human Services’ Office for HIV/AIDS and Infectious DiseasePolicy. “This is a unique tobacco use risk factor for LGBT young

    adults that’s due to the actual and perceived social stigma, dis-

    crimination and anxiety experienced during this process.”

    Wolitski, who is also gay, says many LGBT young adults find asense of community at bars and clubs, which have environmentsthat encourage tobacco use. LGBT influencers openly promote

    tobacco use, establishing smoking as a norm within the com-munity. LGBT people are also targeted through advertisements

    in LGBT outlets, sponsorship of events, and funding of LGBT

    organizations.For a community that has typically been underserved by

    tobacco prevention campaigns, the “This Free Life” campaignis primarily aimed at LGBT young adults between the ages of 18

    and 24 who smoke occasionally.“We find that the issue of social smoking, or casual smok-

    ing, or occasional smoking is more and more common and it’s

    something that we have to break the mentality around,” saysFurmanski. “A smoker is a smoker. Every cigarette that you

    smoke has the potential to do damage.”

    Of the more than 2 million LGBT young adults ages 18 to 24in the United States, more than 800,000 are occasional smok-

    ers, says Mitch Zeller, director of the FDA’s Center for TobaccoProducts.

    “Unfortunately, research tells us that LGBT young adultsoften don’t consider themselves to be smokers and don’t under-

    stand the associated health risks,” Zeller adds. “That’s why ‘This

    Free Life’ is aimed at making LGBT young adults aware that thereis no safe amount of smoking and that even the occasional ciga-

    rette can have serious health implications and lead to addiction.”“This Free Life” partners with influencers to challenge the

    perception that tobacco use is a necessary part of LGBT culture.The FDA has enlisted  RuPaul’s Drag Race  alumni Shangela,

    Manila Luzon, Trixie Mattel and Tammie Brown for a specialanti-smoking PSA, “Be Known for Your Flawless.” Each queen

    highlights a specific feature they’re known for — Shangela’s skin,

    Trixie’s nails, Manila’s hair and Tammie’s smile — before lightly

    hammering home the point that smoking puts their flawlessnessat risk. The campaign is trying to appeal to the LGBT commu-nity’s desire for authenticity and freedom to deter tobacco use.

    The campaign will reach young adults through print, digitaland social media campaigns over the next 24 months in media

    markets with high concentrations of LGBT young adults and

    areas of high smoking prevalence, including Los Angeles, New York City, San Francisco, and D.C.

    “Most people do not smoke, and they don’t want to, and thiscampaign speaks to that, but more importantly it speaks to the

    idea of being free of nicotine addiction,” says Furmanski. “Wewant to break the social norm that smoking is done by everyone

    and that it’s completely acceptable.” l

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    SATURDAY, MAY 14FREE HIV TESTING, courtesy of TheDC Center and Whitman-Walker’smobile testing unit, will be offeredduring Youth Pride. 12-5 p.m. DupontCircle NW (near intersection of 19thand P Streets NW). For more infor-

    mation, visit thedccenter.org.

    The DC Center hosts a gathering

    for PARENTS OF THE API LGBTQ

    COMMUNITY. Join them for a spe-cial afternoon to hear the stories of Asian-American and South Asianparents and their journeys towardacceptance of their LGBT children.1-3:30 p.m. 2000 14th St. NW, Suite105. For more information, visitthedccenter.org.

     YOUTH PRIDE annual celebrationkicks off in Dupont Circle. Designedfor LGBT people aged 24 and under,this event will feature games, per-

    formances, speakers and boothsfeaturing various LGBT resources orcommunity groups. 12-5 p.m. DupontCircle NW (near intersection of 19thand P Streets NW). For more infor-mation, visit youthpridealliance.org.

    WEEKLY EVENTS

    ANDROMEDA TRANSCULTURAL

    HEALTH offers free HIV testing, 9-5p.m., and HIV services (by appoint-ment). 202-291-4707 or andromeda-transculturalhealth.org.

    BRAZILIAN GLBT GROUP, includ-

    ing others interested in Brazilian cul-ture, meets. For location/time, email [email protected]

    DC AQUATICS CLUB (DCAC) practicesession at Hains Point, 972 Ohio Dr.,SW. 8:30-10 a.m. Visit swimdcac.org. 

    DC FRONT RUNNERS running/ walking/social club welcomes alllevels for exercise in a fun and sup-portive environment, socializingafterward. Meet 9:30 a.m., 23rd & PStreets NW, for a walk; or 10 a.m. forfun run. dcfrontrunners.org. 

    Washington on the second and fourthFridays of each month. GAMMAalso also offers additional meetingsin Northern Virginia and Frederick,Md. 7:30-9:30 p.m. St. Thomas’Episcopal Church, 1772 Church St.NW. For more information, visitGAMMAinDC.org.

    LGB PSYCHOTHERAPY GROUP foradults in Montgomery County offersa safe space to explore coming outand issues of identity. 10-11:30 a.m.16220 S. Frederick Rd., Suite 512,Gaithersburg, Md. For more informa-tion, visit thedccenter.org.

    Whitman-Walker Health and theCancer Support Community host

    a workshop, “ YOUR IMMUNE

    SYSTEM AND CANCER

    TREATMENT” as part of their freeFrankly Speaking About Cancerseries. Led by George WashingtonCancer Center’s Eduardo Sotomayor.Lunch will be provided. 1-3 p.m. 1525

    14th St. NW, Conference Room 6A.For more information or to register,contact Jacquetta Brooks, [email protected].

    WOMEN IN THEIR TWENTIES, asocial discussion and activity group forLBT women, meets at The DC Centeron the second and fourth Fridays ofeach month. Group social activity tofollow the meeting. 8-9:30 p.m. 200014th St. NW, Suite 105. For moreinformation, visit thedccenter.org.

    WEEKLY EVENTS

    METROHEALTH CENTER offersfree, rapid HIV testing. Appointmentneeded. 1012 14th St. NW, Suite 700.202-638-0750.

    PROJECT STRIPES hosts LGBT-affirming social group for ages 11-24.4-6 p.m. 1419 Columbia Road NW.Contact Tamara, 202-319-0422, layc-dc.org.

    SMYAL’S REC NIGHT providesa social atmosphere for GLBT andquestioning youth, featuring danceparties, vogue nights, movies andgames. More info, [email protected].

    THURSDAY, MAY 12 

    METRO DC PFLAG hosts its annualPenthouse Party fundraiser at thePenthouse Pool Club. Help raisemoney for PFLAG’s work in support-ing LGBT families. 6-9 p.m. 1612 USt. NW. For more info, visit pflagdc.

    org/event/penthouse or call 202-638-3852.

    WEEKLY EVENTS

    DC AQUATICS CLUB (DCAC)practice session at Takoma AquaticCenter, 300 Van Buren St. NW. 7:30-9p.m. swimdcac.org.

    DC LAMBDA SQUARES gay and les- bian square-dancing group featuresmainstream through advanced squaredancing at the National City ChristianChurch, 5 Thomas Circle NW, 7-9:30p.m. Casual dress. 301-257-0517,

    dclambdasquares.org.

    The DULLES TRIANGLES Northern Virginia social group meets for happyhour at Sheraton in Reston, 11810Sunrise Valley Drive, second-floor bar, 7-9 p.m. All welcome. dullestri-angles.com.

    SMYAL offers free HIV Testing, 3-5p.m., by appointment and walk-in, for youth 21 and younger. 202-567-3155or [email protected].

    US HELPING US hosts a Narcotics Anonymous Meeting, 6:30-7:30 p.m.,3636 Georgia Ave. NW. The group is

    independent of UHU. 202-446-1100.

    WOMEN’S LEADERSHIP

    INSTITUTE for young LBTQ women,13-21, interested in leadership devel-opment. 5-6:30 p.m. SMYAL YouthCenter, 410 7th St. SE. 202-567-3163,[email protected].

    FRIDAY, MAY 13GAMMA, a confidential supportgroup for men who are gay, bisexual,questioning and who are marriedor involved with a woman, meets in

    Metro Weekly’s Community Calendar highlights important events in the D.C.-area

    LGBT community, from alternative social events to volunteer opportunities.

    Event information should be sent by email to [email protected].

    Deadline for inclusion is noon of the Friday before Thursday’s publication.

    Questions about the calendar may be directed to the

    Metro Weekly office at 202-638-6830 or

    the calendar email address.

    LGBTCommunityCalendarDC SENTINELS basketball teammeets at Turkey Thicket RecreationCenter, 1100 Michigan Ave. NE, 2-4p.m. For players of all levels, gay orstraight. teamdcbasketball.org.

    GAY LANGUAGE CLUB discussescritical languages and foreign lan-guages. 7 p.m. Nellie’s, 900 U St. NW.RVSP preferred. brendandarcy@

    gmail.com.

    SUNDAY, MAY 15*BURGUNDY CRESCENT, a gay vol-unteer organization, volunteers todayfor DC Central Kitchen. To partici-pate, visit burgundycrescent.org.

    WEEKLY EVENTS

    BETHEL CHURCH-DC progressiveand radically inclusive church holdsservices at 11:30 a.m. 2217 Minnesota Ave. SE. 202-248-1895, betheldc.org.

    FIRST CONGREGATIONAL UNITED

    CHURCH OF CHRIST welcomes allto 10:30 a.m. service, 945 G St. NW.firstuccdc.org or 202-628-4317.

    HOPE UNITED CHURCH OF CHRISTwelcomes GLBT community for wor-ship. 10:30 a.m., 6130 Old TelegraphRoad, Alexandria. hopeucc.org.

    HSV-2 SOCIAL AND SUPPORT

    GROUP for gay men living in the DCmetro area. This group will be meet-ing once a month. For information onlocation and time, visit H2gether.com.

    Join LINCOLN CONGREGATIONAL

    TEMPLE – UNITED CHURCH OF

    CHRIST for an inclusive, loving andprogressive faith community everySunday. 11 a.m. 1701 11th Street NW,near R in Shaw/Logan neighborhood.lincolntemple.org.

    METROPOLITAN COMMUNITY

    CHURCH OF NORTHERN VIRGINIA services at 11 a.m., led by Rev. EmmaChattin. Children’s Sunday School, 11a.m. 10383 Democracy Lane, Fairfax.703-691-0930, mccnova.com.

    NATIONAL CITY CHRISTIAN

    CHURCH, inclusive church withGLBT fellowship, offers gospel wor-ship, 8:30 a.m., and traditional wor-ship, 11 a.m. 5 Thomas Circle NW.202-232-0323, nationalcitycc.org.

    ST. STEPHEN AND THE

    INCARNATION, an “interracial,multi-ethnic Christian Community”offers services in English, 8 a.m. and10:30 a.m., and in Spanish at 5:15 p.m.1525 Newton St. NW. 202-232-0900,saintstephensdc.org.

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    UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST

    CHURCH OF SILVER SPRING invites LGBTQ families and individu-als of all creeds and cultures to jointhe church. Services 9:15 and 11:15a.m. 10309 New Hampshire Ave.uucss.org.

    MONDAY, MAY 16CENTER FAITH, a program of TheDC Center, hosts a meeting for theLGBT community and their religiousallies. 7:30-9 p.m. 2000 14th St. NW,Suite 105. For more information, visitthedccenter.org.

    WEEKLY EVENTS

    DC SCANDALS RUGBY holdspractice, 6:30-8:30 p.m. GarrisonElementary, 1200 S St. NW. dcscan-dals.wordpress.com.

    GETEQUAL meets 6:30-8 p.m. at

    Quaker House, 2111 Florida Ave. [email protected].

    THE DC CENTER hosts Coffee Drop-In for the Senior LGBT Community.10 a.m.-noon. 2000 14th St. NW. 202-682-2245, thedccenter.org.

    US HELPING US hosts a black gaymen’s evening affinity group. 3636

    Georgia Ave. NW. 202-446-1100. 

    WASHINGTON WETSKINS WATER

    POLO TEAM practices 7-9 p.m.Takoma Aquatic Center, 300 VanBuren St. NW. Newcomers with atleast basic swimming ability always

    welcome. Tom, 703-299-0504, [email protected], wetskins.org.

    TUESDAY, MAY 17CENTER BI, a group of The DCCenter, hosts a monthly roundtablediscussion around issues of bisexual-ity. 7-8 p.m. 2000 14th St. NW, Suite105. For more information, visitthedccenter.org.

    Join Human Rights First as they

    commemorate the INTERNATIONAL

    DAY AGAINST HOMOPHOBIA

    AND TRANSPHOBIA. Activistsfrom Jamaica and Ukraine will speakabout recent successes and ongoingchallenges facing LGBT people intheir communities. 6-8 p.m. RayburnHouse Office Building. Independence Ave. SW between S. Capitol and FirstStreets. For more information and toRSVP, visit humanrightsfirst.org.

    The DC Center hosts a GWU

    BROWN BAG LUNCH. 12-1 p.m.2000 14th St. NW, Suite 105. Formore information, contact BrantMiller at [email protected].

    WEEKLY EVENTS

    ASIANS AND FRIENDS weekly dinnerin Dupont/Logan Circle area, 6:30 [email protected], afwashington.net.

    DC AQUATICS CLUB (DCAC)practice session at Takoma AquaticCenter, 300 Van Buren St. NW. 7:30-9p.m. swimdcac.org.

    THE GAY MEN’S HEALTH

    COLLABORATIVE offers free HIVtesting and STI screening and treat-ment every Tuesday. 5-6:30 p.m.Rainbow Tuesday LGBT Clinic, Alexandria Health Department, 4480King St. 703-746-4986 or text 571-214-9617. [email protected].

    OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS—LGBTfocused meeting every Tuesday, 7p.m. St. George’s Episcopal Church,915 Oakland Ave., Arlington, juststeps from Virginia Square Metro. Formore info. call Dick, 703-521-1999.Handicapped accessible. Newcomers

    welcome. [email protected].

     WEDNESDAY, MAY 18BOOKMEN DC, an informal men’sgay-literature group, discusses “OurCaribbean: A Gathering of Lesbianand Gay Writing from the Antilles,”edited by Thomas Glave. 7:30 p.m. DCCenter, 2000 14th St. NW, Suite 105. All are welcome. bookmendc.blogspot.com

    GAMMA, a confidential supportgroup for men who are gay, bisexual,questioning and who are married orinvolved with a woman, mets on thethird Wednesday of each month in Virginia. This month’s meeting is ata private residence in Sterling. 6:30-8:30 p.m. For more information, visitGAMMAinDC.org or meetup.com/ GAMMAinDC.

    Iona Senior Services offers a semi-

    nar on UNDERSTANDING PUBLIC

    BENEFITS: BENEFITS AND

    ELIGIBILITY FOR THE LGBTQ

    COMMUNITY. 3:30-5:30 p.m. 4125 Albemarle St. NW. For more informa-tion, visit iona.org.

    THE TOM DAVOREN SOCIALBRIDGE CLUB meets for SocialBridge. 7:30 p.m. Dignity Center,721 8th St SE (across from MarineBarracks). No reservations and part-ner needed. All welcome. 301-345-1571for more information.

    WOMAN TO WOMAN: A SUPPORT

    GROUP FOR HIV-POSITIVE

    WOMEN WHO LOVE WOMEN,meets on the third Wednesday of eachmonth at The Women’s Collective.Light refreshments served. 5:30-7 p.m.1331 Rhode Island Ave. NE. For moreinformation, 202-483-7003.l

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    TWENTY YEARS AGO PEOPLE WOULD SAY TO ME,‘We’d like to do more to help LGBT youth,” says Chris

    Dyer. “‘What can we do?’”

    It was a fundraising effort more than two decades

    ago to keep SMYAL afloat that got Dyer “fired up,” real-

    izing there were unmet needs in the community, both

    for youth and those who wanted to help youth, prompting

    the longtime D.C. community activist to start the Youth Pride

    Alliance. Dyer identifies three reasons for creating the organi-

    zation’s annual Youth Pride Day event back in 1997, modeled

    after an earlier LGBT youth march in Boston. “One, to provide

    a safe space for kids to come together and have a day. Two,

    to raise awareness of LGBT youth issues in the media. And

    How  Y outh P r ide Day  g ot its  s tar t — and w hy  it’s  her e to s tay by  Doug  RulePhot os f r om t he Met r o W eekly  ar chiv es

    YOUNG and Proud  F O R E V E R

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    you run those same num-

    bers 20 years later, the same

    problems exist: LGBT youth

    face homelessness, bullying,

    higher rates of suicide and

    suicidal ideation.”

    The difference between

    then and now, says Dyer, is

    a stronger sense of commu-

    nity for LGBT young people

     — including a richer networkof support from SMYAL, the

    Youth Pride Alliance, the

    DC Center, and two LGBT

    youth homeless shelters in

    the District — T.H.E. Wanda

    Alston House and Casa

    Ruby. Youth Pride Day has

    also helped to showcase role

    models for the community by

    featuring more youth emcees

    as well as enlisting celebrity

    attendees, from Olympic gold

    medalist Rudy Galindo as theevent’s very first keynote

    speaker, to pioneering trans-

    gender activist and federal

    researcher Jessica Xavier, to

    young transgender activist

    Sarah McBride of the Center

    for American Progress. And

    then there was the year of

    the late gay giant. “Frank

    Kameny on stage in Dupont

    and everyone screaming

    ‘Gay is Good’” is a particular

    highlight for Carpenter.Even if we gain further

    acceptance and make greater

    progress tackling the com-

    munity’s problems, Dyer still

    thinks Youth Pride Day is

    likely to be needed 20 years

    from now. “There will always

    be something magical about

    coming together as a group

    for one day,” he says.

    His comments are echoed

    by one of Carpenter’s associ-

    ates. Rain or shine — but

    hopefully shine — SarahBlazucki expects the event

    to do well this year and for

    many years to come.

    “I hope that it’s less of

    a ‘need’ per se,” Blazucki

    says, “and more of just

    a safe space for youth to

    come out and celebrate who

    they are.” l

    years at the helm of Youth

    Pride Day.

    “LGBT youth are still

    struggling with getting jobs,

    still struggling with gettinghousing, and people are still

    struggling to come out at

    home,” Carpenter says.

    Adds Dyer: “When we first

    started, we had a fact sheet

    that we had gotten from vari-

    ous surveys showing that the

    outcomes for LGBT youth

    weren’t really good. And if

    was drizzly, our generator

    broke, and we had an hour

    and a half delay,” he says.

    “But people still showed up

    in droves.” And they keepcoming back year after year,

    several thousand strong.

    “Seeing it grow and see-

    ing more youth get involved,

    that’s the part that keeps me

    doing it every year,” says

    Youth Pride Alliance Board

    President Nikisha Carpenter,

    who has served for several

    three, community organizing

    activity for other LGBT orga-

    nizations.” Back then, there

    was no DC Center providing

    ongoing, regular support, and“Capital Pride didn’t have a

    youth component.”

    Dyer knew he was on to

    something when over 900

    people showed up that first

    year, even with minimal pro-

    motion. His concept was

    further validated the follow-

    ing year. “It was rainy, it

    Youth Pride Day is Saturday, May 14, from noon to 5 p.m. in Dupont Circle.

    For more information visit youthpridealliance.org.

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    PRIDE DAY 2016 Y O U T H

    Vendor Boothsand Tables ChurchesUnitedInPride

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    Dignity Washington

    Eleanor Holmes Norton

    Gay and Lesbian Liaison Unit, MPD

    Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington

    GMU Pride

    GW University

    Howard University

    Human Rights Campaign

    Identity Inc.

    La Clinica del Pueblo

    Latin American Youth Center

    Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs

    Metro Weekly

    Mount Vernon Place United Methodist Church

    OSSE

    Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays DC

    P.G County Public Schools

    Rainbow History Project

    Rainbow Youth Alliance

    Real Talk DC

    Riverside Baptist Church

    Sexual Minority Youth Assistance League

    Team DC

    The DC Center

    The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

    The Trevor Project

    Transgender Health Empowerment

    Whitman Walker Health

    Youth Advisory Committee

    Youth Pride Alliance

    Speakers Councilmember David Grosso

    Congresswoman, Eleanor Holmes Norton

    SMYAL

    Chuck Goldfarb/ Rainbow History

    DC Office of Human Rights

    Sheldon Scott / Youth Pride Alliance

    Sheila A. Reid / GLBT Affairs Office, DC

    Government

    The Trevor Project

    The DC Center

    Youth testimonials throughout the day

    Performers 

    B Steady

    Laronica Vegas

    LCDP-Mpodérate!

    MR/Miss Mpodérate! 2016

    Private Tails

    SMYAL

    Rico Killens

    Mike Thomas

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    DC Office of Human Rights

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    The DC Center for the LGBT Community

    National Center for Lesbian Rights

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    FOR GAVIN GRIMM TO COME OUT AS TRANSGEN-

    der, the Internet was key.“I don’t know where I’d be without it,” he says.

    “People love to demonize it, but it’s got innumerablepositives.”

    The Internet provided a portal to possibility, helping Grimm

    realize that the female body he was assigned at birth was con-flicting with his true identity. It was a feeling that had existed

    since he was young, but Grimm had never had the language toexpress it — until he saw anime cosplayer “twinfools” transition

    from female to male.

    “It was so magical to me,” Grimm says. “It was the first timeI’d seen anything represented in media, or in my life whatsoever,that suggested that people could change gender. And I saw the

    video and thought, ‘This is an option.’”

    The experience was liberating. As a child growing up in ruralGloucester County, Va., Grimm struggled to fit in, never quite

    adhering to people’s expectations of how he should behave. Hemostly hung out with boys and preferred masculine activities,

    but had a hard time making friends, and there were periodswhere he was very isolated. During those lonely times, he found

    an outlet in the game Pokémon, which he also credits with help-

    ing find his identity.“It’s a role-playing game, so I could play as one of two players,

    male or female. From the start, I don’t think I’ve had a copy of

    the game where I wasn’t playing as the boy character,” Grimmsays. “Early on, I rationalized it: ‘Oh, it looks cooler.’

    “That was a bridge to self-expression, because when we’d

    go to the store, there weren’t any Pokémon shirts in the girls’section,” he continues. “So I’d be like, ‘I want to go over here.

    They have Pokémon shirts. I’ll just get one or two.’ And then,

    very gradually, that evolved to me just going straight to the boys’section. I wouldn’t even entertain the thought of going to the

    girls’ section.”Initially raised Southern Baptist, the now-atheist Grimm

    struggled with a long, arduous coming out process, both to him-self and, later, to his family. He first told a trusted aunt, and then

    his mother, who told him she loved him, but also wanted him

    to keep it a secret from the rest of the family. Things eventually

    came to a head on Grimm’s 15th birthday.“I had been, the night before, absolutely catatonic with grief,

    because I knew that I was going to wake up the next day and I

    was going to be the birthday girl,” Grimm says. “And I thought I just wanted that part of my life to be over. I didn’t think I would

    be able to make it through another one of those birthdays, andactually, I don’t think I would have.

    “So the next morning, I woke up crying, and just feeling dead.

    I stumble down the stairs, and I look at the birthday cake, andit’s addressed to me and my [twin] brother. And the cake says

    the wrong name. And I was like, ‘You couldn’t even have left thenames off? You couldn’t even have done that for me?’ I got upset

    and we fought.”

    Grimm returned to his room, sobbing, when his mothercalled him downstairs an hour later.“I hobbled downstairs, after quite a bit of prompting, because

    I just didn’t have it in my bones to move, and she had wiped off

    the wrong name on the cake, and written ‘Gavin’ with expiredgreen gel icing from the deepest recesses of our cabinets,” he

    says. “But it was the best thing I’d ever seen in my life.”At the beginning of his sophomore year, Grimm informed

    administrators at Gloucester High School of his transition,armed with a note from a licensed doctor diagnosing him with

    gender dysphoria. After a couple of weeks and very little nega-

    tive reaction, Grimm asked to use the boys’ restroom. The schoolapproved his request, and he used it without incident until

    an anonymous complaint from a member of the community.It brought the issue to the attention of the Gloucester County

    School Board, which placed Grimm at the top of its meetingagenda. At the meeting, community members railed against

    Grimm using the boys’ restroom. One speaker even comparedhim to a dog that urinates on a fire hydrant. “It was kind of

    strange, because I’d had no funny looks,” says Grimm. “Nobody

    had spoken to me in the restroom. I had no altercation of anykind whatsoever in those restrooms. I had just used the bath-

    room like any other person. I used it, and I left.”The board later voted 6-1 to institute a policy in which Grimm

    was barred from the boys’ restroom. In addition, he and anyother transgender student would be afforded the chance to use

    an “alternate, private facility,” which turned out to be three or

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    four old broom closets that had been hastily configured into uni-sex bathrooms. And unlike what school board members claimed,

    all of the bathrooms were unusable for four or five school days

    after the vote. Grimm refused to use them, instead opting for thebathroom in the nurse’s office.

    With the help of lawyers from the American Civil LibertiesUnion (ACLU), Grimm sued the Gloucester County School

    Board. His lawsuit claimed the school had violated Title IX andthe Equal Protection Clause of the 14th Amendment. Although a

    federal judge threw out part of his lawsuit and refused to grant

    Grimm an injunction to use the boys’ restroom, it was eventuallyfully restored by the 4th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals, which

    ruled that lower courts should consider Title IX’s protectionsagainst sex discrimination to apply to transgender students.

    “Part of me was relieved, because it felt like things werefinally coming to a close, that these two years of my life were

    finally coming to the head that I’d been waiting for from the verystart of it,” Grimm says of the 4th Circuit’s decision. “My life has

    essentially stopped because of this. Everything I do now is with

    regards to what’s going on now. When I make doctor’s appoint-ments, I have to make sure I don’t have any legal anything I’ve

    got to do, or any interviews, or whatever. It consumed my life,and still is consuming my life.”

    While Grimm’s lawsuit must still be decided on its merits,the 4th Circuit’s decision represented a major victory for both

    Grimm and the larger transgender community. And, if the courts

    decide that Gloucester County’s restroom policy is unconstitu-tional, it could have far-reaching ramifications, including affect-

    ing anti-trans laws in other states. The possibility of having apositive impact or a chance to make others’ lives easier means a

    great deal to Grimm.“I know what I’ve been through, and I wouldn’t wish it on my

    worst enemy,” says Grimm, who, on the advice of his laywers,was not permitted to discuss the lawsuit in detail. “I genuinely

    can’t think of a single person I would want to go through this.

    That I have the opportunity to ensure that, hopefully, fewer kids

    — or anybody — will have to go through this in the future, makesme feel good about what I’ve done. Because this isn’t somethinganyone deserves to face.”

    METRO WEEKLY: Tell me about your family.

    GAVIN GRIMM: I live with my twin brother, and my mom and dad.

    I have an older sister by my mom, and two older half-sisters bymy dad.MW: What do you like to do for fun?

    GRIMM: I like to go places — anywhere — I just like to be out and

    about. I just got back at two in the morning from Lunatic Luau,which was a blast. It was a concert, with bands like Ghost and

    Shinedown and Five Finger Death Punch, and other bands likethat.MW: Were you interested in sports as a child?

    GRIMM:  Yeah, as a kid, my brother and I both did T-ball withParks and Rec. But then we got older, he went on to baseball,

    and my only option was softball. I absolutely refused to be ona female team. I was not at all comfortable with that. And the

    other thing, I didn’t want to play softball, I wanted to play base-ball. I saw softball as discount-store baseball, and I didn’t want

    anything to do with it.MW: When did you first realize that you identified as a boy?GRIMM:  It wasn’t in my vocabulary for a very long time. I rec-

    ognized the feeling, and had I had the words to express it, Iprobably would have been expressing it as early as age five. Or

    perhaps even earlier. The closest thing I got to articulating it as

    a kid was that I would frequently insist that I was the same asmy twin brother. That was my wording: “I’m the same as him,

    I’m the same as him!” And there was a very long period of timewhere I wasn’t cognizant of the differences in our sexes. I just

    thought we were the same. I knew people treated us differently,but I knew that I was “like him.” And people just took it to mean,

    “You’re a tomboy,” or whatever. I knew that it wasn’t what I wasgetting at, but I didn’t know how to more correctly articulate

    what I was feeling.MW: When you were younger, did you generally gravitate towardsboy things or traditionally “masculine” activities?

    GRIMM: By and large, the activities I chose involved me spendingmy time out in the woods. I was climbing trees, or messing with

    bugs or snakes that probably should have been left alone. Or Iwould play Army. I can remember many fights I had with my

    brother, because he wanted to make me the medic, because Iwas “the only girl” there. And I was like, “Absolutely not. I’m not

    being the medic. I’ll shoot you with my fake gun and now you’re

    dead.” Those kind of kid squabbles, but it was something impor-tant to me. Like, I don’t know why you’re asking me to be the

    medic, because there’s nothing about me that would imply thatI should be. So I did gravitate more towards masculine things.

    The other thing is, my grandmother used to make my clotheswhen I was a lot younger. And so I had very specific rules for

    what clothing she could make. It was: no frills, no sparkles, no

    sequins, no pink, later on, no purple, just nothing overtly femi-nine. Those were my solid rules. If she made it, I wouldn’t wear

    it. Or I’d wear it once or twice to be grateful, and then, it’d go tothe back of my closet to rot there.MW: When did you begin presenting fully as a boy?GRIMM:  I was dressing 100 percent male, barring when I was

    forced to do otherwise, since I was 11 or 12. My mother wasstill pushing for feminine clothing — it was mostly T-shirts,

    but anything beyond that was fairly androgynous. Even at that

    time, I can remember very vividly, I still had long hair, and theclothing I was wearing wasn’t from the boys’ section, and wasn’t

    overly feminine, but was clearly from the girls’ section. Andsome younger kids, like first- or second-graders, asked me if I

    was a boy or girl. Even though appearance-wise, I was feminine,I guess my mannerisms weren’t.MW: Were you ever bullied or teased about that?

    GRIMM: I was bullied and teased a lot. I don’t know that I’ve been

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    specifically called out for having primarily male friends, andactivities, or anything like that. But I did get called a “weirdo”

    daily. And I’m sure that had something to do with it, because I

    wasn’t socializing with the other girls, and I wasn’t interactingwith them as my peers thought I should, because I was a girl, or

    at least occupying that social role at the time. I think people justdidn’t know how to deal with me.MW:  Did you ever get comments from adults about not socializingwith girls or anything like that?

    GRIMM:  I remember teachers would encourage me to do more

    typically feminine things. I used to read a lot, and I would go tothe library looking for a book, and so many times, people would

    say, “Oh, we’ve got the girls’ section over here, and this book isabout little Sally who picks flowers for her mom.” And I’d be

    like, “I’m not interested. I want a book that’s adventure.” I likedthe Magic Treehouse books, because they were historical. And

    they’d be like, “But what about this book about Junie B. Jones?”It was really frustrating, because instead of listening to what my

    interests were, they tried to shove me in a different direction.MW: When did you finally come out as a boy?

    GRIMM:  It was a long process. One of biggest troubles I had

    growing up was that I was raised religiously. And I was of theopinion that it was a thought crime that would damn me to hell

    for eternity, just to think outside of my assumed gender roles andexpectations. I realized I liked girls. It was out of the context of

    “Everybody thinks I’m a girl, and I guess I am, so I guess that

    makes me gay.” And then it would be, “I just thought that, andnow I’m going to hell.”

    What happened was my mother cornered me. I had beenin a really depressive funk for the past month or so, and that

    was manifesting as anger. I was lashing out and generally justunpleasant to be around. She corners me in my room and says,

    “I know why you’re acting this way. You’re a lesbian. Tell me.”And I was thinking, I either deny it and she gets mad at me, and

    I get in trouble for being a crappy person for the past month, or I

    say yes, and it’s my get-out-of-jail-free card, and then I can wear

    whatever I want, and maybe she’ll stop telling me to shave mylegs. I thought it would work, but it didn’t. It was a momentaryreprieve — my mood upped a bit for a couple of weeks, and then

    went back down. I didn’t know what was going on, but I knewthat wasn’t the fit. It wasn’t the fix-all I expected it would be, and

    there was just something still wrong.

    There was a period in middle school where I told my bestfriend. I said, “What if I wasn’t a girl? What if I was something

    else?” Because I’d seen it online, and I was newly introduced tothe concept, and it was exciting to me. We would talk about it,

    and he didn’t really understand. He would move forward underthe assumption that it was a hypothetical. But we’d go out, and

    my hair was cut short, wearing male clothing, and at the time Ithink I had also bought my first binder behind my parents’ back,

    so I was also binding my chest as well. I’d go out in public, and

    people would gender me correctly, and he’d correct them. AndI was too embarrassed to tell him, “Don’t do that.” They’d say,

    “Sorry, sir.” “Have a good day, sir.” And he’d say: “He’s a girl.”Obviously, that was very upsetting to me, but he didn’t know at

    the time because I wasn’t very clear about it. But as soon as Icame out, I told him firmly, “This is my name. You have to use

    it, exclusively male pronouns,” he switched over immediately. I

    don’t think he messed up once. He’s been great about that eversince.MW: When did you finally assert yourself?

    GRIMM:  I think it was toward the end of middle school or the

    beginning of my freshman year in high school. But it was still a

    secret. He was the only person that knew until that point. Andthen I implied it to all my friends. After Christmas break or

    spring break, I didn’t come back, because the anxiety and the

    dysphoria and the depression was getting so bad that I couldn’tfunction in school. And then when I came back in the sophomore

    year, I had fully transitioned over the summer.MW:  Did you ever see a therapist?

    GRIMM:  I had a therapist who was awful. Just god-awful. Thiswoman was not professional. I came out to her. First of all, the

    struggle with religion was very prevalent in my life at the time

    I was seeing her, and she refused to let me talk about it. Shewas very, very obviously religiously biased, and when you’re a

    therapist, you cannot let that influence your care. It wasn’t evena Christian place. It was not religiously oriented at

    all. She refused to let me speak. She’d stop me, andsay, “You don’t have to explain yourself,” or say, “I

    get it.” She wouldn’t let me say it. I told her that Iwas transgender, and she just absolutely would not

    use correct gender pronouns. She’d tell me, “Well,

    since your mom doesn’t know, I can’t do that.” AndI’d say, “That’s not on the books anywhere. I know

    that’s not a rule here.” But she was not supportive atall. At that point, I stopped seeing her. I just told my

    mom I didn’t like her. The next therapist I got was agender therapist.MW:  And did that person help you?

    GRIMM: Yeah, I didn’t need counseling at that point. Ididn’t need counseling from her. What I needed was

    a letter to say, “Get this kid on hormones ASAP.” Andthat’s what I got. My dysphoria was so bad at that

    point — and it varies from doctor to doctor, most willsee a kid a couple of times before writing a letter —

    but I got in there, and at the end of that first session,she was writing the letter. Which was all I needed

    from her. Because at that point, she was so far away

    from us, we had to drive so far to find a gender

    therapist, about an hour every time, to Richmond.It wasn’t feasible to see her for therapy when there are so manypeople close by, but she was the closest one that would have

    written any recommendation letter or anything like that, at thetime. So she was helpful in that respect.MW:  So by the time you entered your sophomore year, you were

    identifying and presenting as male, and going to the school admin-istrators and explaining your transition, correct?

    GRIMM: Yes.MW: What was the initial reaction?

    GRIMM:  My principal was awesome. He was so supportive. Iwent to him beforehand, and I told him, “This is what’s going

    on, and I’d like to make sure I’m respected here,” and to changemy records and everything. And he said, “I assure you, in my

    school, you’re not going to get flak from teachers. And if any

    bullying should occur, it will not continue to occur if you reportit.” I didn’t immediately ask to use the boys’ room, I actually

    asked to use the nurse’s restroom, because I was very fearfulabout how I’d be received. No incidents whatsoever. I was not

    received poorly at all. Well, I don’t want to say “not at all” — noone really teased me or anything about it. I got some confusion,

    but I mostly ignored that, and no one really called me names or

    anything like that. Just staring and whispering and whatever,but nothing to indicate to me that I should be scared to use the

    restroom. And so I went to my principal and said, “Can I use the[boys’] restroom?” And he said, “I don’t really have a reason to

    say no, so we’ll say yes and see how it goes.” Of course, it wasn’t

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     just a unilateral decision, he talked to whoever was necessary.And he came back and said, “Feel free.” And for a period of seven

    weeks, that worked just fine.MW: Who reported you?

    GRIMM: The only thing I’ve heard is that a member of the com-

    munity complained that a girl was in the boys’ room. It wasn’tapparent if they were a parent or not.

    The first school board meeting, we were not even informedof, despite my being on the docket. We found out by chance

    through a friend of my mother’s, the night before. My mother

    stayed up all night, creating this information packet about thelegality of things, and the mental health effects of barring a

    transgender youth from the bathroom. Basically, reasons why

    you should do the right thing. That got them to postpone thevote until December. Not a single person spoke for me, except

    for the people who came with me. I feel like, in our absence, theywould have just voted then and there.MW:  How many people spoke on your behalf at the second meeting?

    GRIMM: Well, the people who came with me, again. And one ortwo people spoke rather ambiguously. One or two spoke for me.

    And then hordes of people spoke against me, all saying virtuallythe same thing, including a security guard at my school, who —

    wouldn’t you know it? — was a pastor.MW: What was their argument?

    GRIMM:  “We’re worried about your safety,” from a couple ofthem. The minority pretended to care about my safety. And then,

    quite a few of them were like, “If you’re a girl in the bathroom

    with boys, I know how I was when I was a young man.” Whichis a rather disconcerting statement to make. So there was a lot

    of “He’ll get raped,” or, more specifically, “I know that boys arerapists,” which is a really ludicrous, blanket statement to make.

    It was painting all boys in the school as rapists. If you’ve got arapist in the school, you’ve got bigger problems. It was really

    strange. The other arguments I heard were, “The boys don’t

    want a girl in there.” I have facial hair, so if they’re uncomfort-able with someone like me in the restroom, they’ve got deeper-

    seated problems. And the other one was, “What if a boy goes intothe girls’ room to molest women?” Which is really stupid. It was

    a slippery slope argument.

    It’s not like I woke up one day, cut my hair, and said, “I’mgoing into the boys’ room.” It was a long process. I had a medical

    diagnosis. I had shown evidence of social transition for definitely

    longer than a year. I had my parents behind me, saying, “He’sa boy. Here’s the medical documentation. He’s about to be on

    hormones,” all that stuff. So it was very obvious that this had allbeen done in a very medical context, which is how it should be.

    No boy is going to be able to wake up, slap on a wig and a bow,and say “I’m a girl.” That’s not how it happens. Common sense

    would be that someone has to have a diagnosis. Somebody would

    obviously have to be socially transitioning for a while. And some-one would probably have to be under the care of a therapist. And

    no boy that wants to molest a girl is going to be able to get a let-

    ter saying he’s a girl. And furthermore, he wouldn’t go throughbeing a social outcast by being assumed to be a transgender girl

    in school, just so he can harass girls. That’s just not going tohappen.

    And furthermore, should anybody do that, whether transgen-

    der or not, they go to jail. I guess people think that if you’re trans-gender and do that, you get a get-out-of-jail-free card. That’s not

    what happens. If a transgender person were to do that, they’d goto jail, and not for being transgender, but for sexual misconduct,

    or whatever they did. So basically, their arguments are nonsensi-cal fear-mongering, which don’t stand up to scrutiny.MW:  Have you received any unwanted attention locally, even sincethe resolution by the school board?

    GRIMM: Yeah, I have received unwanted attention. I got stopped

    in Wal-Mart once, and Food Lion another time, and we went toKiptopeke for a vacation, and someone stopped me in a restau-

    rant there. They’ve all been positive, in every public interaction.And even last night, at the concert, it broke up and we were

    standing in the remnants of the crowd, and a guy came up to meand said, “I know who you are. Take a selfie with me.” And he

    added me on Facebook. And he turned out to be a fine guy, but

    you never know. It’s very positive, but I also think, “Oh, I justwanted to go to Wal-Mart,” or “I just wanted to take a vacation.”

    I’m glad they’re supportive, and it’s nice to know I have sup-port in all corners, but I just don’t want to think about it some-

    times. And then, of course, I get some pretty nasty messages on

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    Facebook from time to time.MW:  From kids or adults?

    GRIMM:  From adults. I’ve never gotten one from a kid to date.Those honestly tickle me. I’ve never gotten one that hurts my

    feelings, they’re so pitiful. And a lot of them just make me laugh.MW:  Are they local adults, or from other states?

    GRIMM: I haven’t checked into that. I respond to whatever theysaid, if I feel it’s worth a joke. And then I block them immediate-ly, because I don’t have any intention of having a back-and-forth

    with these people. So I don’t know if they’re local. When youclick on their profile and see where they live, I don’t recall ever

    seeing anyone local. They’re from New Jersey, and Florida, andMontreal. And I say it like there’s a whole bunch of people. I’ve

    gotten about 15 or 20 negative messages, over a couple hundredpositive messages.MW: What do they say, these adults?

    GRIMM:  Obviously, there’s the religious aspect in general. MyFacebook is private aside from my profile icon and my header

    image. And my header image is a quote from Epicurus, and itsays: “Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not

    omnipotent. Is he able but not willing? Then he is malevolent.Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he

    neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?” It basically

    boils down to a bunch of contradictions that don’t make sense,so why believe in God. But it apparently is very inflammatory

    to a lot of people, who already come to my page, I assume, to behateful. So they go to my page, and they’re already offended, and

    they see that I’m some heathen atop of heathen. And they getso angry. So I’ll get messages like, “Who do you think you are,

    denying God?” And I’ll say, “Who do you think you are, thinkingsome kid you don’t even know cares?” And then I’ll block them.

    I never call names. I don’t insult these people. I don’t care what

    they say to me, I’ll never do that. But sometimes you can’t help

    being a little sarcastic.I got one the other day that said, “You’re a fucking homo ass-

    hole.” He was so angry, he was so mad. [  Laughs.] And I blocked

    him. But that was funny. That one really got me laughing. I’ll getweird ones like that. But most of them boil down to “my deity

    doesn’t like you, and I know this for some reason, because Iknow what a deity thinks,” or “Hey, I’m going to talk about your

    genitals explicitly.” Like, “You have a vagina. Vagina, vagina,you, your vagina. Wrong bathroom.” Invasive, you’re talking

    about my genitals kind of stuff.MW:  How many supportive messages have you gotten?GRIMM: Definitely in the hundreds. I try my hardest to reply to all

    of them, but I get so many. And I feel so bad, because I appreciateevery single one of them. I feel like people go out of their way to

    say something supportive to me, and try to make my situation just a bit better. I just hope they don’t take it personally that it

    takes me so long to get back to them. But I do try my hardest toget back to everyone eventually, even if that’s eight months later.MW: When we talk about Youth Pride, what is it that LGBT youth

    have to be proud of nowadays?

    GRIMM:  I guess I’m not the best person to ask that, because

    I’m not proud of being trans. I hate being trans. I would giveanything not to be trans. It’s caused me so much pain, and I

    will always, always have dysphoria, and I will always have toconsider my trans status as a part of my daily living. I can get

    every surgery in the world, and I can still not father children.

    And there are certain things that will never be how I imagine mybody to be, and function as it functions. So I don’t have pride by

    virtue of how I was born.But I guess where my pride would lie is in having the cour-

    age to be myself. And with any other LGBT youth, to have thecourage to be themselves, and live authentically, in a world that

    maybe isn’t very kind to them. And having the courage to standup for others as well. That’s where the pride should lie. Not on a

    situation they can’t control, but how they handle that situation.

    Pride should come from their actions in accepting themselves

    and being able to be who they are.MW:  Recently, there was an ad put out by Trans United Fund,showing the stories of parents of transgender children. Is that an

    effective way to educate people on the issue?

    GRIMM: I don’t think I’ve seen the ad. However, if it’s about what

    it’s like to be the parent of a transgender child, and the decision

    of what to do to help your kid, I think that can absolutely beeffective. Maybe if people saw these parents saying, “This was

    the best thing for my child. My child was suffering, and nowmy child is happy.” If they heard that narrative, and heard from

    adults saying this is very real and the best way to help your kidis to accept them and let them be who they are, maybe that can

    change a lot of minds, and help a lot of future kids as well.MW: What would your advice be to a younger person experiencing

     gender dysphoria, who doesn’t have the vocabulary yet to explain

    that?

    GRIMM: I would say, first of all, be careful. Because if you express

    these feelings to the wrong person, you could end up being a lotmore alone and a lot more scared than you were previously. I,

    however, would also say that it’s normal, and that it’s nothing tobe ashamed of. I’d also give them the word: transgender.

    So when it’s safe, tell people. And if it’s not, just find little

    things to do for yourself that can make you love yourself. l

     If you are a transgender youth and are in need of resources, visitthe Trans Youth Equality Foundation at transyouthequality.org or

    send an email to [email protected].

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    MAY 12 - 19, 2016

    SPOTLIGHT

    1ST ANNUAL BALTIMORE

    WINE & FOOD FESTIVALCelebrity chefs Bryan Voltaggio andChad Wells will appear on the MainCooking Stage in a tent-covered set-ting on the edge of the Inner Harbor.Samples will be available of over 100international wine, spirits and beersalong with local and regional favor-ites. Bands Naked Nation, JunkyardSaints and the Texas Chainsaw Hornswill perform. The festival kicks offat 9:30 a.m. with the Charm City

    Wine Run circling the Inner Harbor.Saturday, May 14, from 11 a.m. to 5p.m. Free, with purchase of a drinkingglass, or $39 and $79 for VIP options;the Run costs $49. Rash Field, 201Key Highway, Baltimore. Call 800-830-3976 or visit bmorewine.com.

    BOYS GONE WILDE: BOYLESQUEThis Sunday, May, 15, the BierBaron Tavern, once known as theBrickskeller, will become a “VictorianMolly House,” celebrating all thingsOscar Wilde in a male burlesqueshow organized by Chris Griffin akaLucrezia Blozia. Other “boylesque”entertainers striving to “put the

    steamy in steampunk, the stoke inStoker and the dick in Dickens” will be Aaron Spaace, Nexus, James Fondleand Baron Atomy. The boys will eachdonate at least 10 percent of theirfees to Equality North Carolina tofight the state’s recently passed anti-LGBT HB2. Sunday, May 15, at 8 p.m.Bier Baron Tavern, 1523 22nd St. NW.Tickets are $12 in advance, or $15 day-of show. Call 202-293-1887 or visitinlovewithbier.com.

    JULIA SCOTTI AND

    KEVIN MEANEY A night of “Out-standing comedy”featuring transgender comedian Julia

    Scotti and Kevin Meaney, a stand-up comic and actor from both TVand Broadway — rescheduled afterSnowzilla postponed the debut at Amp by Strathmore. Friday, May 13,at 8 p.m. Amp by Strathmore, 11810Grand Park Ave. North Bethesda.Tickets are $20 to $30. Call 301-581-5100 or visit ampbystrathmore.com.

    PATINA MILLERTwo years after she won her first Tony Award and gave her first professionalsolo cabaret at the Kennedy Center,Patina Miller returns to the areathis weekend to head Strathmore’sannual Spring Gala. Though also

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    CONSTELLATION THEATRE MADE ITS NAME WITH MARY ZIMMERMAN’Scrowning achievement in epic adaptation, The Arabian Nights. They followed by mak-

    ing a literal splash with Zimmerman’s Metamorphoses, and are now staging one of theAmerican director’s first epics, one that ventures even farther afield — Journey to the West.

    Life, as they say, is about the journey, not the destination. And so it is here. There are anumber of reasons making Journey to the West ( HHHHH ) worth catching, but none of them

    are about the story itself. After nearly three hours of a long and rambling story, your joy willreside elsewhere.

    The production starts off strong. A.J. Guban has designed an awe-inspiring set, this one

    framed by a tipped wooden ring sturdy enough for the cast to walk on or swing from. DirectorAllison Arkell Stockman has assembled a fine creative team to dazzle with sheer theatrical

    spectacle, ultimately led by the vivid, creative lighting design of Colin K. Bills, whose workconsistently puts the right accent on Kendra Rai’s varied and whimsical costumes. Pauline

    Grossman’s choreography often evokes natural elements, from water to rough terrain. TomTeasley supplements the action with an appealingly subtle, exotic and mystical soundscape.

    The show is subtitled “The Tale of the Monkey King,” with that role played with agility

    and expressiveness by Dallas Tolentino. Yet nearly halfway through, the tale shifts gears to

    focus on a monk, Tripitaka (Ashley Ivey), who, a quest with a ragtag group of eccentrics, seeksspiritual enlightenment. Lilian Oben makes for a ravishing bodhisattva Guanyin, who steersTripitaka on his journey, supported by the mischievous Monkey King, a comically grotesque

    Pig (Ryan Tumulty), and a fearsome River Monster (Michael Kevin Darnall). With 13 actorsfilling the intimate Source Theatre stage, many doing quick-change work to play multiple char-

    acters, Journey to the West is an ensemble show through and through.Several of the characterizations are so exaggerated for comic relief they become annoying

    — especially Tumulty’s pig grunts and porcine antics. And the show becomes bogged down as

    it goes in a confusing garble of a story with too many subplots and asides. It all seems to get toodistracted by the journey, losing sight of the destination. —Doug Rule

    Journey to the West runs to May 22. At the Source Theatre, 1835 14th St. NW. Tickets are $20

    to $45. Call 202-204-7741 or visit constellationtheatre.org.

    Monkey

    BusinessConstellation’s Journey tothe West fails to beabout the destination

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    familiar from her work in film ( The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 1 and 2 ) and TV (CBS’s  Madam Secretary ),Miller has really made her mark onBroadway, including  Sister Act andthe recent Tony-winning revival of Pippin. Expect to hear songs fromthose shows, plus gospel and pop— perhaps even a nod to the movie, Beaches, which inspired Miller as alittle girl. ”The scene in the moviewhere C.C. wants to go to New York

    and be a Broadway star, that kind ofgot me curious as to what New Yorkwas and what Broadway was,” Millertold Metro Weekly in 2013. Saturday,May 14, at 9 p.m. Music Center atStrathmore, 5301 Tuckerman Lane,North Bethesda. Tickets are $40 to$85 and includes an After Party withdrinks, desserts and dancing. Call 301-581-5100 or visit strathmore.org.

    HOLLYWOOD ON TRIAL:

    CROSSFIREThis season’s “Seeing Red Film Series”at the Hill Center, with hosts  NewYorker staff writer Margaret Talbotand movie critic Nell Minow, con-

    tinues with 1947’s Crossfire. Directed by Edward Dmytryk, it’s based on anovel about homophobia called The Brick Foxhole. Its content was too hotfor Hollywood at the time, so thefocus was switched to anti-Semitisminstead, and the film earned Oscarnominations for its screenwriter JohnPaxton and stars Robert Ryan andGloria Grahame. It also earned thedistinction of being singled out byconservative Congressional firebrandsas evidence of Hollywood’s subversiveagenda. Sunday, May 15, at 4 p.m.Hill Center, Old Navy Hospital, 921Pennsylvania Ave. SE. Free. Call 202-549-4172 or visit HillCenterDC.org.

    THE CHORAL ARTS SOCIETY

    WITH RENEE FLEMING,

    NORM LEWISScott Tucker helps the full 190-mem- ber-strong Choral Arts Society ofWashington celebrate the Americanmusical — specifically the outputof Rodgers and Hammerstein, with“Some Enchanted Evening.” ReneeFleming, American opera superstardubbed “the people’s diva,” and NormLewis, the Tony-nominated Broadway baritone ( The Gershwins’    Porgy & Bess ) join to sing through the hits.Sunday, May 15, at 8 p.m. KennedyCenter Concert Hall. Tickets are $25

    to $94. Call 202-467-4600 or visitkennedy-center.org.

    THE MAN IN THE MASK Although known for its dialogue-free,movement-focused fare — most nota- bly its “silent Shakespeare” produc-tions — Virginia’s Synetic Theateroffers a rare show with dialogue,an adaptation of Alexandre Dumas’follow-up to The Three Musketeers.Husband-and-wife duo of directorPaata Tsikurishvili and choreog-rapher Irina Tsikurishvili lead thisswashbuckling and high-pageantry bombastic adventure, following heroD’Artagnan and the corrupt King

    Louis XIV. Now in previews. OpensSaturday, May 13, at 8 p.m. To June19. Theater at Crystal City, 1800 SouthBell St., Arlington. Tickets are $15 to$55. Call 800-494-8497 or visit synet-ictheater.org.

    TOUCHSTONE GALLERY’S 40TH

    ANNIVERSARY SHOW AND GALA Artist-owned collective TouchstoneGallery celebrates its 40th year witha monthlong show, featuring mixed-

    media works by 50 current and 40former gallery artists. Also on tap is afree champagne gala reception withfood provided by Acadiana Restaurantand Brazilian music by guitarist TomRohde and cavaquinho player PabloRegis de Oliveira. Anniversary Galais Friday, May 13, from 6 p.m. to 8:30p.m. Show is on exhibit through May29. Touchstone Gallery, 901 New York Ave. NW Call 202-347-2787 or visittouchstonegallery.com.

    STAGE

    110 IN THE SHADEMarcia Milgrom Dodge directs andchoreographs a new production ofthis old-fashioned musical, set dur-ing a sweltering Texas summer in themid-1950s and featuring a lively scorefrom the creators of The Fantasticks. The focus is on a self-proclaimed rain-maker who promises to reverse for-tunes in the drought-stricken town,to say nothing of its leading spinster,played by Tracy Lynn Olivera. ClosesSaturday, May 14. Ford’s Theatre, 51110th St. NW. Tickets are $28 to $69.Call 800-982-2787 or visit fordsthe-atre.org.

    AN AMERICAN DAUGHTERKeegan Theatre takes on the lateWendy Wasserstein’s angry, daringplay about a political woman, daughterof a U.S. Senator, who gets caught upin a scandal after being nominated toa Cabinet post. Company co-directorSusan Marie Rhea plays the title rolein this production directed by BrandonMcCoy. To May 28. Keegan Theatre,1742 Church St. NW. Tickets are $35 to$45. Call 703-892-0202 or visit keegan-theatre.com.

    BLACK PEARL SINGS!Over 20 American folk and spiritu-al songs factor into Frank Higgins’

    story inspired by the real-life discov-ery of Huddie “Lead Belly” Ledbetter by folklorist John Lomax. SandraHolloway directs this MetroStageproduction featuring Roz White as Alberta “Pearl” Johnson and TeresaCastracane as Susannah Mullally. ToMay 29. MetroStage, 1201 North RoyalSt., Alexandria. Tickets are $55. Call800-494-8497 or visit metrostage.org.

    HUGO BALL: A SUPER

    SPECTACULAR DADA ADVENTURE A one-of-a-kind performance loosely based on the life of one of the found-ers of the Dada anti-art movement.Pointless Theatre Company’s latest

    experimental, multi-disciplinary pup-

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    Runs to May 28. Atlas Performing ArtsCenter, 1333 H St. NE. Tickets are$20 to $40. Call 202-399-7993 or visit

    atlasarts.org.

    PHAETONTaffety Punk Theater Company,whose tagline is “We Will Rock You”and styles itself as a theatrical rock band, presents Michael Milligan’sretelling of the classic Greek myth,exploring the failure of society to liveup to the promise of its visionariesand the repercussions of that failure.Marcus Kyd directs a large cast featur-ing company members Dan Crane andHelen Hayes Award-winner KimberlyGilbert and James Flanagan in thetitle role, with choreography by KellyKing. To May 28. Capitol Hill Arts

    Workshop, 545 7th St. SE. Tickets are

    pet theater piece explores art, loveand faith — and contains “puppet sex-uality, profanity and violence.” Closes

    Saturday, May 14. Logan Fringe Arts Space’s Trinidad Theatre, 1358Florida Ave. NE. Tickets are $20 to$25. Call 202-733-6321 or visit point-lesstheatre.com.

    ORSON WELLES’

    WAR OF THE WORLDSSCENA Theatre’s Robert McNamaradirects the stage version of the his-toric American classic. The originalradio broadcast terrified America onHalloween 1938, depicting giant greenMartians invading Earth in a seriesof “News bulletins” portraying massdestruction, military battles and vastchaos. Opens in previews Thursday,

    May 12, and Friday, May 13, at 8 p.m.

    $15. Call 202-547-6839 or visit taf-fetypunk.com.

    THE BODY OF AN AMERICANTheater J presents the regional pre-miere of Dan O’Brien’s breathtak-ingly provocative drama, based on atrue story, about the friendship thatdevelops between a playwright and aphotographer and traverses Rwanda, Afghanistan and the Canadian Arctic.Jose Carrasquillo directs a productionfeaturing Eric Hissom and ThomasKeegan. Pride Night is Thursday,May 12, at 7:30 p.m. Runs to May22. The Aaron and Cecile GoldmanTheater, Washington, D.C.’s JewishCommunity Center, 1529 16th St. NW.Call 202-777-3210 or visit theaterj.org.

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    TRANSMISSION A three-year-old D.C.-based play-writing collective, and one of this

     year’s Helen Hayes Award winnersas Outstanding Emerging TheatreCompany, the Welders offers its latestproduction, an immersive, participa-tory “performance play” written andperformed by Gwydion Suilebhan.Devised for a small audience of 20people, all seated in 1930s armchairsclustered around period radios,Transmission focuses on the viral evo-lution of culture, from the radio age tothe present day. Touted as part-jazz,part-science lecture and part-”ritualinvocation”, the show investigateswhat it means to be inundated in ouralways-connected, always-sharingculture, which demands skepticismand inquisitiveness. To May 28. Atlas

    Unresolved Chord

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    Persistent Memory Nima Veiseh utilizes his exceptional memory to produce thought-provoking artN

    IMA VEISEH ISN’T GAY, BUT HE CERTAINLY UNDERSTANDS WHAT IT’S LIKEto come of age and feel different from the norm.

    “It’s quite often that we struggle to understand a lot of ourselves,” Veiseh says.“We rely so much on the environment and the reference frames of others around us.”

    In Veiseh’s case, his struggle was with hyperthymesia, an extremely rare, advanced auto-biographical memory condition. It allows him to “remember every day of my life as if it were a

    film.” Now 31, Veiseh was 15 when he developed hyperthymesia, which affects about 50 peoplein the world. From the moment he fell in love for the first time, Veiseh remembers everything

    — although it took another few years before he fully realized that his memory was far from typ-

    ical. While the average memory half-life is about four to seven days, Veiseh’s is several decades.

    His exceptional memory fueled Veiseh’s interest in becoming an artist. “Imagine if you hap-pen to remember every painting on every wall in every gallery you visited,” he says. “In a lot ofways that was an accidental graduate degree in art.” Veiseh has since formally studied art and

    technology at MIT, Georgetown and Columbia universities, developing his own body of work— including the pieces of a new show TimeFrames organized by local presenter ArtSee. Logan

    Circle’s Fathom Gallery will exhibit the show next Thursday, May 19.

     Veiseh is touted as the only person in the world attempting to translate his perspective onlife and memory into art — specifically, colorful, abstract mixed-media works created through

    an extensive layering process. It’s a core feature of his music-inspired series The Unresolved

    Chord . “Each one of these layers

    is actually 20 layers of paint,” Veiseh says. “But each layer —

    which is composed of either atexture or a color combination

    — only goes partially aroundthe canvas, and then it stops.

    And then another layer starts,and your brain creates this con-

    tinuity that evolves into thismovement around the canvas.”

     Veiseh’s intentional asymmetry

    emulates an unresolved chordin music, something he hopes

    compels viewers to linger overthe work, studying it in further

    detail to try and make sense of it.

    Though engaged in the prac-tice for years, Veiseh’s inspira-

    tion as an artist has only gottenstronger since coming out pub-

    licly as having hyperthymesia.“I’ve probably learned as much

    about myself and my own artin the last few months, because

    people are asking me questions

    that I would have never thoughtto ask myself,” he says. “And I’ve

    been channeling that introspec-tion and evolution of under-

    standing back into my art — cre-ating pieces that are not only

    reflective of my evolving under-

    standing of myself, but helppeople to think differently and

    more deeply about themselves

    and their relationship with theirmemories and the world aroundthem.” —Doug Rule

    TimeFrames  featuring Nima Veiseh

    on Thursday, May 19, from 6:30 p.m.

    to 10 p.m., at Fathom Gallery, 1333

     14th St. NW. Call 202-588-8100 or

    visit fathomgallery.org.

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    MYKKI BLANCO A transgender punk-rapper, inspired by riot grrrl and queercore, MykkiBlanco has released a couple ofmixtapes in the past few years. Shehas also partnered with the recordlabel !K7 to launch her own imprint,Dogfood Music Group, intended forother underground artists who “tran-scend conventional cultural boundar-ies/constructs.” The 9:30 Club pres-ents her concert at U Street Music

    Hall as part of a tour in support oflast year’s debut full-length album, Michael. Thursday, May 19, at 7 p.m.U Street Music Hall, 1115A U St. NW.Tickets are $15. Call 202-588-1880 or visit ustreetmusichall.com.

    SIMONE DINNERSTEINWidely renowned, eclectic Americanpianist Simone Dinnerstein closesout the season of shows presented by Washington Performing Arts witha recital of works by her favoritecomposer Franz Schubert, plus selec-tions from  Metamorphoses  by PhilipGlass. Glass has called Dinnerstein“one of the most exciting interpret-

    ers of music from the Baroque to the very modern.” Sunday, May 22, at 4p.m. Music Center at Strathmore, 5301Tuckerman Lane, North Bethesda.Tickets are $50 to $90. Call 301-581-5100 or visit strathmore.org.

    DANCE DEVIATED THEATRE

    WITH DANCETHOSKnown for dance works with spell- binding choreography and led byhusband-and-wife duo Enoch Chanand Kimmie Dobbs Chan, DeviatedTheatre perform a few fan favoritepieces as well as new works in devel-opment. The performance will includea guest appearance by DancEthos.Sunday, May 22, at 3 p.m. Cultural Arts Center at Montgomery College’sSilver Spring campus, 7995 Georgia Ave., Silver Spring. Tickets are $25.Call 301-362-6525 or visit deviated-theatre.org.

    THE WASHINGTON BALLET:

    BOWIE AND QUEEN As his parting gift, the WashingtonBallet’s outgoing artistic directorSeptime Webre devised a programcelebrating two late rock giants,David Bowie and Freddie Mercury,and featuring works by two notedgay choreographers — EdwaardLiang and Trey McIntyre. Liang’s Dancing In The Streets includes a fewof Bowie’s songs threaded together by an original composition fromGabriel Gaffney Smith, featuringelectric violin and electric cello, per-formed live by Machiko Ozawa. Bycontrast, McIntyre’s  Mercury Half- Life  is epic and high-energy and wasitself inspired by contrasts, includ-ing the fact that Queen’s songs are“rock anthems that can move sportsarenas” — and yet Mercury was gayand flamboyant. “Those two things,especially in the time period, didn’t

    Performing Arts Center, 1333 H St. NE.Tickets are $15 to $30. Call 202-399-7993 or visit atlasarts.org.

    MUSIC

    CANTATE CHAMBER SINGERSLive at 10th and G presents the thirdconcert of the season by this local

    ensemble.  “Patterns and Lines” is  amultimedia composition celebratingthe work of world-traveling photog-raphers Judy and Wayne Guenther,with poetry by Roberto Ifill and music by Andrew Earle Simpson. Also on the bill are works by Samuel Barber andJohn Corigliano. Saturday, May 14, at7:30 p.m. Live! at 10th and G, 945 GST. NW. Tickets are $35, or $45 forpremium seating. Call 202-628-4317or visit facebook.com/liveat10thandg.

    CHOPTEETHThe Washington Post has called this12-piece band “a storming powerhouseof big-band African funk... smart, tightand relentlessly driving.” Chopteethhas already won a number ofWashington Area Music Association Awards — otherwise known asWammies, including the Artist ofthe Year accolade in 2008. And nowthe Afrobeat-driven group returns toStrathmore’s cabaret venue. Saturday,May 14, at 8 p.m. Amp by Strathmore,11810 Grand Park Ave. North Bethesda.Tickets are $20 to $30. Call 301-581-5100 or visit ampbystrathmore.com.

    MARY LOU WILLIAMS WOMEN IN

    JAZZ FESTIVALNow in its 21st edition, this festival,named after the pioneering female jazz pianist/composer, features two

    evenings of performances by some ofcontemporary jazz’s leading women,hosted by Dee Dee Bridgewater. Fridaynight, May 13, offers a unique stagedconcert presentation of A Conversationwith Mary Lou Williams, directed byactor S. Epatha Merkerson with a script by Farah Jasmine Griffin and featur-ing pianist Geri Allen, vocalist CarmenLundy, bassist Kenny Davis and drum-mer Kassa Overall. Saturday night, May14, features performances