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Member Bits & Tips: September 2014 Edition

Engagements of the Month

172 Engagements & Counting... Arielle Friedman and Josh Kukin.Match made by Mindy Eisenman. Sarah Heller and Matt Alpert. Match made by Jackie Mandel. Aliza Steinberg and YaakovGrossman. Match made byJonathan Soliamanzadeh. Chana Weil and Dov Rossman. Match made by Naomi Landsman.

Wednesday, September 17, 8:15 PM: Can Human BeingsChange?: Moshe Rabbenuand the Capacity forTeshuvah with Rabbi J.J. Schacter

at the Shenk Shul in Washington Heights.

Interactive discussions and light refreshments

with an opportunity to mingle. Open to the entirecommunity.

Sponsored by Esther and Jerry Friedman.

No fee or pre‐registration required. Any questions? Email [email protected]

The following is NOT a YUConnects event, butwe are publicizing as a service for our members: Wednesday, September 10, 7:30‐10 PM"Dating Dos & Don'ts: Healthy, Unhealthy,



Read about a happy coupleand their experience onYUConnects‐ as printed in

The Jewish Week.

How is your Connector doing? If she/he hasn't made targetedsuggestions in a while, feel free toswitch to someone else. Differentconnectors have varying connectionswith other members so may be in abetter position to suggest a match.We are always happy to makerecommendations at theYUConnects office and wouldrespond to any email [email protected] Feel free to email your personalConnector or any of our othervolunteer Connectors asking themto do additional searches for you.AND be sure to reach out to yourown personal Connector andarrange for a phone conversation ifyou haven't done so already. Reminder: Our Staff Connector,Mindy Eisenman, ([email protected]) is happy tomeet with you, get to know youbetter, and review your profile. Feesmay apply.

Wishing you aHappy and Healthy

New Year!

Abusive‐‐ How do I know the Difference?" ‐ Theprogram, run by Shalom Task Force, will be formen and women. It will feature a portion witheveryone together, as well as separatebreakaway workshops for men and for women.Refreshments will be served. The presenters willbe: Mrs. Toby Carrey, MSW, Director ofEducation, Shalom Task Force; and Mr. Meir Rizel,MS, LMHC, Director of Men's Education, ShalomTask Force.

NEW COLUMN!Deborah's Profile Pointers: Tip #1

"I can't believe they set me up with that person!""I never get set up with anyone I like.""Didn't they read my profile?"Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever foundyourself saying something like this?Are you frustrated with online dating?Me too. If you're reading this, chances are that you'reinterested in this dating system. Chances are, ifyou're still a part of this system, what you'vebeen trying so far hasn't worked as well as you'dlike it to work for you. Now, you could take a break from letting highlytrained people look for you, and build a searchingalgorithm to scour the internet for compatiblematches. But me, I'm not so good at writing code.Maybe you are.

Instead of writing an algorithm, I found it a loteasier to change the way I write, and the way Icome across online. Writing an online profile isn'tsomething that's taught in most schools.That's why it's so hard to write a dating profile.



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That's why I'm here. This column deals with putting together an onlinedating profile in a way that will both show thefantastic person we know you are in the bestway, and will attract the kind of person you'reinterested in finding. Are you interested in meeting someone that youcould be interested in? Do you want to increaseyour chances of getting set up with the rightperson? I'm not saying that my techniques will definitely,absolutely, positively make sure that you meetyour intended. I can't control or predict thefuture. But I can definitely, absolutely, positively, giveyou some hints, tips, and secrets that will help tipthe odds in your favor. Tip #1: Proofread your profile as carefully asyou'd proofread the cover letter you'd send outfor your dream job.Why? In this case, your profile is your cover letter toapply for your first interview, er, date. Are youmore interested in your dream job than yourdreamy beloved? Why did I start off with something so obvious?It isn't obvious. Your profile might have perfectspelling and grammar. But how does it soundwhen you read it out loud?What? Reading it out loud?Absolutely. Your ears hear errors that your eyesmiss. And you'll get a sense for the "tone" of yourwriting. This will help you "hear" if you sound like anessay. Or hear if you just don't sound like you.In the next few columns, I'll go more into thefiner points of online dating profiles. Is there anything you'd really like to know aboutthis? Would you like me to review your profileand work with you to help edit it?I'd love to hear from you. Please write to meat [email protected].

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