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Meeting Them Where We Were…
(and moving beyond the choir)
Jonathan GrovePacific Lutheran
UniversityMen Against Violence
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Overview and Goals:
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Overview and Goals:• Women’s Movements have been
raising awareness and promoting education for a long time – and doing AMAZING work.
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Overview and Goals:• Women’s Movements have been
raising awareness and promoting education for a long time – and doing AMAZING work.
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Overview and Goals:• Women’s Movements have been
raising awareness and promoting education for a long time – and doing AMAZING work.
• Men have not joined in large numbers.
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Overview and Goals:• Women’s Movements have been
raising awareness and promoting education for a long time – and doing AMAZING work.
• Men have not joined in large numbers.• Why is that? What can we do to change
that?
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Overview and Goals:• Women’s Movements have been
raising awareness and promoting education for a long time – and doing AMAZING work.
• Men have not joined in large numbers.• Why is that? What can we do to change
that?• Are there commonalities among men or
their experiences who do join that we can replicate?
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Engaging Men Study – Dr Erin Casey, UWT
• To examine the factors associated with recent initiation into anti-violence work or activities
• To identify current engagement strategies, and assess participants’ perception of their effectiveness
• To identify factors that may contribute to the sustainability of men’s anti-violence efforts.
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Men’s Pathways: A ModelSENSITIZING EXPERIENCE
Disclosure / witnessSocial justice consciousness
Learning opportunityInfluenced by women
Hearing stories
OPPORTUNITY EXPERIENCEPersonal invitation / nomination
Personal/ community connections Looking for community
Job/volunteer-position seeking
MAKING MEANINGCompelled to actionShift in world viewJoining with others
ANTI- VIOLENCE INVOLVEMENT
SUSTAINED INVOLVEMENT
ActionInspirationSupport
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MeaningsCompelled to action
Charged with a mandate
Seeing an addressable need
Identifying own strengths
Shift in world view
Awareness of vulnerability of women
Using a structural analysis
Reassessing the past
Joining with others
Feeling connected
Doing masculinity differently
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Sustaining Men’s Efforts
ActionGetting things doneBeing neededPersonal development
InspirationHaving mentorsHearing survivor stories
SupportHaving a safe spaceSupport from womenBeing in a compelling community
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Barriers to Gaining Access
• Non-personal approaches (media, large events, presentations)
• Male privilege / “This doesn’t apply to me”
• Men not identifying with the messenger
• Structural barriers
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Some Observations…• About 60% of men framed their involvement, or the issue
of violence against women in terms of anti-sexism or social justice work.
• Few participants spoke about their own behavior, or possible complicity in sexism – they tended to talk about “other” men.
• Although many men spoke of inclusiveness, few framed this in terms of race/ethnicity or sexual orientation.
• Many of the reasons for involvement cited here mirror long-term activists. These participants may not, therefore, represent “typical” men outside the current circles of engagement.
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Assumptions:
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Assumptions:1. Cultural Shift
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Assumptions:1. Cultural Shift
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Assumptions:1. Cultural Shift
2. Men (as a group) need to start being part of the solution and not the problem.
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Assumptions:1. Cultural Shift
2. Men (as a group) need to start being part of the solution and not the problem.
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Assumptions:1. Cultural Shift
2. Men (as a group) need to start being part of the solution and not the problem.
3. We need to balance involving men, while continuing to confront Patriarchy.
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Further Assumptions:
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Further Assumptions:
4. We are not going to recruit perpetrators.
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Further Assumptions:
4. We are not going to recruit perpetrators.
a) “Fixing” them after they’ve perpetrated is a different process than educating majority men who disdain male domination/violence.
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Further Assumptions:
4. We are not going to recruit perpetrators.
a) “Fixing” them after they’ve perpetrated is a different process than educating majority men who disdain male domination/violence.
b) Rather, we’re trying to recruit men who probably are guilty of some level of dominance and support sexism/sexist violence, through ignorance not malice.
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Further Assumptions:
4. We are not going to recruit perpetrators.
a) “Fixing” them after they’ve perpetrated is a different process than educating majority men who disdain male domination/violence.
b) Rather, we’re trying to recruit men who probably are guilty of some level of dominance and support sexism/sexist violence, through ignorance not malice.
5. Men have empathy and are just as Thursday, January 14, 2010
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Final Assumption:
6. If we expect “Average Joes” to join us, we need to be willing to go there – meet them where they are and balance our values with negotiating the ideas they live with and support. By doing so, we aren’t selling out, but rather finally reaching a huge population who can (and will) help us achieve social change.
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Where Are We?• What are your goals around engaging
men?
• How do you reach men?– Do you have a guiding framework or
model?
• What do you do to reach men?
• Are you successful?– What would you like to be different?
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What’s Our Recruitment
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What’s Our Recruitment Challenges/Baggage
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What’s Our Recruitment Challenges/Baggage• Men’s violence against women is “their
issue”• History
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What’s Our Recruitment Challenges/Baggage• Men’s violence against women is “their
issue”• History
– Women’s Movement has done AMAZING things, (not always egalitarian - racism, classism, homophobia), but has had baggage tied to Feminism.
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What’s Our Recruitment Challenges/Baggage• Men’s violence against women is “their
issue”• History
– Women’s Movement has done AMAZING things, (not always egalitarian - racism, classism, homophobia), but has had baggage tied to Feminism.
– There is a LOT of mis-information, rape/DV myth acceptance, etc.
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What’s Our Recruitment Challenges/Baggage• Men’s violence against women is “their
issue”• History
– Women’s Movement has done AMAZING things, (not always egalitarian - racism, classism, homophobia), but has had baggage tied to Feminism.
– There is a LOT of mis-information, rape/DV myth acceptance, etc.
– Messaging men have heard has been minimal, beyond “Don’t Rape” (2 BIG problems there!)
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What’s Our Recruitment Challenges/Baggage• Men’s violence against women is “their
issue”• History
– Women’s Movement has done AMAZING things, (not always egalitarian - racism, classism, homophobia), but has had baggage tied to Feminism.
– There is a LOT of mis-information, rape/DV myth acceptance, etc.
– Messaging men have heard has been minimal, beyond “Don’t Rape” (2 BIG problems there!)
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What’s Our Recruitment Challenges/Baggage• Men’s violence against women is “their
issue”• History
– Women’s Movement has done AMAZING things, (not always egalitarian - racism, classism, homophobia), but has had baggage tied to Feminism.
– There is a LOT of mis-information, rape/DV myth acceptance, etc.
– Messaging men have heard has been minimal, beyond “Don’t Rape” (2 BIG problems there!)
• Men who are highly involved tend to come from some type of privilege, or contrarily, have had direct experience
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Who Are Men?
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
We need to give them time – frustrating? YES!!!
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
We need to give them time – frustrating? YES!!!
• Needs and stages
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
We need to give them time – frustrating? YES!!!
• Needs and stages
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
We need to give them time – frustrating? YES!!!
• Needs and stages
• Space to learn
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
We need to give them time – frustrating? YES!!!
• Needs and stages
• Space to learn
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Who Are Men?Ignorant men’s journey through awareness,
internalization, to activism is a process.
We need to give them time – frustrating? YES!!!
• Needs and stages
• Space to learn
• What we are asking
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Strategies used by Casey’s participants to engage men they have access to:
• Meeting men where they are• Use of Self• Positive approach to men• Survivor stories• Embedded in broader conversations about relationships, sex• Creating compelling communities
• What are your barriers?
• Observations about engaged men
Where Are We?
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Some Observations… Dr. Erin Casey
• About 60% of men framed their involvement, or the issue of violence against women in terms of anti-sexism or social justice work.
• Few participants spoke about their own behavior, or possible complicity in sexism – they tended to talk about “other” men.
• Although many men spoke of inclusiveness, few framed this in terms of race/ethnicity or sexual orientation.
• Many of the reasons for involvement cited here mirror long-term activists. These participants may not, therefore, represent “typical” men outside the current circles of engagement
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Aspiring Ally for Self-Interest• Motivation: for people I know and love (must
be present)• Ally to: A person• Victims are: my sister, mother, friend• Power: I’m powerful/protector• Mistakes: they are a good person and do not
make them• Focus: Perpetrators/ “Bad” people
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Aspiring Ally for Self-Interest• Motivation: for people I know and love (must
be present)• Ally to: A person• Victims are: my sister, mother, friend• Power: I’m powerful/protector• Mistakes: they are a good person and do not
make them• Focus: Perpetrators/ “Bad” people• Privilege: Does not see privilege – wants to
maintain status quoEdwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Aspiring Ally for Altruism• Motivation: for “them” (depend on praise,
don’t respond well to critique)• Ally to: A group• Victims are: “They” are victims• Power: I empower “them” – they need me• Mistakes: difficulty admitting them, highly
defensive• Focus: other members of dominant group
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Aspiring Ally for Altruism• Motivation: for “them” (depend on praise,
don’t respond well to critique)• Ally to: A group• Victims are: “They” are victims• Power: I empower “them” – they need me• Mistakes: difficulty admitting them, highly
defensive• Focus: other members of dominant group• Privilege: Feels guilty about privilege and
tries to distance self from privilegeEdwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Ally for Social Justice• Motivation: for Us all• Ally to: an issue(s)
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Ally for Social Justice• Motivation: for Us all• Ally to: an issue(s)• Victims are: all of us• Power: Empower us all• Mistakes: Seeks critiques as step toward
learning about own isms as self-liberation
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Ally for Social Justice• Motivation: for Us all• Ally to: an issue(s)• Victims are: all of us• Power: Empower us all• Mistakes: Seeks critiques as step toward
learning about own isms as self-liberation• Focus: My people – doesn’t separate self
from other agents
Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Ally Status Dr. Keith Edwards
• Ally for Social Justice• Motivation: for Us all• Ally to: an issue(s)• Victims are: all of us• Power: Empower us all• Mistakes: Seeks critiques as step toward
learning about own isms as self-liberation• Focus: My people – doesn’t separate self
from other agents• Privilege: Sees illumination of privilege as
liberating and consciously uses it against itselfEdwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Steps Toward Activism
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Steps Toward Activism• Engaging “Average Joe” (or Jonathan)
– Piquing interest– Avoiding barriers
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Steps Toward Activism• Engaging “Average Joe” (or Jonathan)
– Piquing interest– Avoiding barriers
• “Aware Joe” – Education & personal challenge – Support & connection to peers/mentors– Opportunities to teach
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Steps Toward Activism• Engaging “Average Joe” (or Jonathan)
– Piquing interest– Avoiding barriers
• “Aware Joe” – Education & personal challenge – Support & connection to peers/mentors– Opportunities to teach
• “Internalizing Joe” • Further education (system/privilege and their
participation) • Support & connection to peers/mentors• Opportunities to teach
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Steps Toward Activism• Engaging “Average Joe” (or Jonathan)
– Piquing interest– Avoiding barriers
• “Aware Joe” – Education & personal challenge – Support & connection to peers/mentors– Opportunities to teach
• “Internalizing Joe” • Further education (system/privilege and their
participation) • Support & connection to peers/mentors• Opportunities to teach
• “Activist Joe” – Opportunities to teach and further grow– Support & connection to peers/mentors– Opportunities to further the “cause”
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A Framework…
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Average Joe
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Average Joe Aware Joe
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed Joe
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed JoeActivist Joe
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed JoeActivist Joe
On good days we reach
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Self Interest Barriers
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed JoeActivist Joe
On good days we reach
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Self Interest Barriers
AltruismBarriers
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed JoeActivist Joe
On good days we reach
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Self Interest Barriers
Social JusticeBarriers
AltruismBarriers
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed JoeActivist Joe
On good days we reach
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Self Interest Barriers
Social JusticeBarriers
AltruismBarriers
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed JoeActivist Joe
On good days we reach
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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A Framework…
Self Interest Barriers
Social JusticeBarriers
AltruismBarriers
Average Joe Aware Joe Internaliz
ed JoeActivist Joe
On good days we reach
Framework created by Jonathan Grove, brain-child of Bobbi Hughes, and drawn from the work of Dr Erin Casey, Rus Funk and Dr. Keith Edwards.
*Edwards, Keith; Aspiring Social Justice Ally Identity Development: A Conceptual Model
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Beyond the Choir: The Future of Engaging Men
Most college men underestimate the extent to which other men feel
uncomfortable with language or behavior which objectifies and /or
degrades women.
(Berkowitz, 1994 & Kilmartin, 1999)
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Positions of Strength:
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
• has relationships with women and children…
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
• has relationships with women and children…
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
• has relationships with women and children…
• has experienced some form(s) of violence
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
• has relationships with women and children…
• has experienced some form(s) of violence
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
• has relationships with women and children…
• has experienced some form(s) of violence
• has pain associated with rigid gender roles
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
• has relationships with women and children…
• has experienced some form(s) of violence
• has pain associated with rigid gender roles
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Positions of Strength:Nearly every male person:
• has relationships with women and children…
• has experienced some form(s) of violence
• has pain associated with rigid gender roles
• is frustrated that women fear them
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Strategies For Delivering The Message
Strategies used by Erin’s participants to engage men they have access to:
• Meeting men where they are• Tailoring conversations• Using masculinity• Men see themselves reflected
• Use of Self
• Positive approach to men
• Survivor stories
• Embedded in broader conversations about relationships, sex
• Creating compelling communities
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Beyond the Choir:
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Beyond the Choir: The “Average Joe” population is huge and
we need them.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Average Joe” population is huge and
we need them. Ground work:
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Beyond the Choir: The “Average Joe” population is huge and
we need them. Ground work: We need to do our own work…we have LOTS of
assumptions and fears that do not allow them an opportunity to engage.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Average Joe” population is huge and
we need them. Ground work: We need to do our own work…we have LOTS of
assumptions and fears that do not allow them an opportunity to engage.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Average Joe” population is huge and
we need them. Ground work: We need to do our own work…we have LOTS of
assumptions and fears that do not allow them an opportunity to engage.
Set realistic goals and benchmarks.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Average Joe” population is huge and
we need them. Ground work: We need to do our own work…we have LOTS of
assumptions and fears that do not allow them an opportunity to engage.
Set realistic goals and benchmarks.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Average Joe” population is huge and
we need them. Ground work: We need to do our own work…we have LOTS of
assumptions and fears that do not allow them an opportunity to engage.
Set realistic goals and benchmarks.
Ask… Be honest and genuine, appeal to what is relevant for them, and ask for their help. You’ll be surprised!
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Beyond the Choir:
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Beyond the Choir: The “Aware Joe” population will be huge
and we need them.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Aware Joe” population will be huge
and we need them.A Process:
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Beyond the Choir: The “Aware Joe” population will be huge
and we need them.A Process: Make stepping stones part of their engagement
process, but have patience (SO hard to do!).
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Beyond the Choir: The “Aware Joe” population will be huge
and we need them.A Process: Make stepping stones part of their engagement
process, but have patience (SO hard to do!).
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Beyond the Choir: The “Aware Joe” population will be huge
and we need them.A Process: Make stepping stones part of their engagement
process, but have patience (SO hard to do!).
Create opportunities for mentoring/modeling.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Aware Joe” population will be huge
and we need them.A Process: Make stepping stones part of their engagement
process, but have patience (SO hard to do!).
Create opportunities for mentoring/modeling.
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Beyond the Choir: The “Aware Joe” population will be huge
and we need them.A Process: Make stepping stones part of their engagement
process, but have patience (SO hard to do!).
Create opportunities for mentoring/modeling.
Challenge them to ask the hard questions of themselves, friends, family, etc.
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Beyond the Choir:
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Beyond the Choir: “Internalized and Activist Joe”
populations will be huge and we need them.
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Beyond the Choir: “Internalized and Activist Joe”
populations will be huge and we need them.
Sustainability:
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Beyond the Choir: “Internalized and Activist Joe”
populations will be huge and we need them.
Sustainability: Continue stepping stones as part of their
engagement, but focus on broadening their understanding, increasing leadership and activism opportunities and skills.
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Beyond the Choir: “Internalized and Activist Joe”
populations will be huge and we need them.
Sustainability: Continue stepping stones as part of their
engagement, but focus on broadening their understanding, increasing leadership and activism opportunities and skills.
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Beyond the Choir: “Internalized and Activist Joe”
populations will be huge and we need them.
Sustainability: Continue stepping stones as part of their
engagement, but focus on broadening their understanding, increasing leadership and activism opportunities and skills.
While maintaining accountability, ask for their ideas and feedback.
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Beyond the Choir: “Internalized and Activist Joe”
populations will be huge and we need them.
Sustainability: Continue stepping stones as part of their
engagement, but focus on broadening their understanding, increasing leadership and activism opportunities and skills.
While maintaining accountability, ask for their ideas and feedback.
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Beyond the Choir: “Internalized and Activist Joe”
populations will be huge and we need them.
Sustainability: Continue stepping stones as part of their
engagement, but focus on broadening their understanding, increasing leadership and activism opportunities and skills.
While maintaining accountability, ask for their ideas and feedback.
They need tangible “wins” both at the individual Thursday, January 14, 2010
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"We aren't about judging men from wherever they are coming to this
conversation -- lord knows it was only a few short weeks/months/years since any of us were sitting in very similar places -- really NOT wanting to hear whatever it is that "those feminists" have to say about these issues. And
yet, here we are."
Perspective:
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Thank you!
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Thank you!
Thank you all for the work you do, get paid far too little for, and receive even less thanks.
You ARE helping to make the world a better place!Additional thanks to:
Erin Casey, Keith Edwards, Rus Funk, Bobbi Hughes, Jennifer Warwick, Caitlin Back, Joshua O’Donnell, Dorothy Edwards, Ben
Atherton-Zeman, Kim Eby, Rebecca Walter, Connie Kirkland, Christine Mathias, Advocates around the country, and countless women and men who have come before, taught and inspired me,
and made this presentation possible.Thursday, January 14, 2010