Maximizing and Modifying Your Personality Style
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Which statement would you find yourself thinking the most?
1. I sure wish this would be more organized.2. They just need to relax; everything is fine.3. This is not fun; I’m bored.4. They need to make a decision…and NOW.
Q.
Face reality; life isn’t always a party Get a personal calendar & keep an updated
schedule Make easy-to-follow schedules Learn to make lists Find someone who will hold you accountable Get to the point; in conversation, limit details Plan variety in each day Be on time; aim to be early
OtterQuick Tips
Finish what you start or delegateso you can keep commitments
Listen more; talk less
Draw others out with questions
Put things back in the same place every time
Tone down your volume of speech and laughter Otter
Quick Tips
Otter
Interrupt nor add to others’ stories
Laugh everything off
Walk into a room talking
Overcommit yourself to too many projects
Do Not
Be first to apologize Lead, don’t push Develop a plan of encouraging others
(verbally or written) Admit existence of own faults & weaknesses Issue a request instead of an order Greet people with a warm smile If it’s not your problem,
stay out of itLion
Quick Tips
Let people offer opinions without cutting them off or putting them down
Realize others may be right Listen to what people are saying to you,
then allow your heart to open Allow others to be who they are Look for ways to validate the creativity of others Learn to compromise and cooperate with others Learn to relax so you won’t become
a workaholic
lion
Expect everyone to want to do it your way Assume you know everything Be so bossy that you intimidate others Expect everyone to produce as you do Assume everyone wants your advice
Do Not
Speak up and enter the conversation Move into action with enthusiasm Be willing to take a risk Involve yourself in others’ lives Trust your own abilities Recognize your tendency toward laziness and realize
how it affects others Model a winner’s attitude Finish three projects you have
started and set dates for others Golden Retriever
Quick Tips
Learn some phrases to encourage others Show you really heard and do care Develop a plan to keep heading toward growth Communicate your feelings so people will
relate to you Love yourself for who you are Focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses Remember it is only the first time you do something
new that is frightening; next time will be easier
Golden RetrieverQuick Tips
Let resentment build. It comes out as sarcasm in your “one-liner” humor. Procrastinate and expect others to do your work Always say “I don’t care” Be a wet blanket on others’ ideas
Do Not
GoldenRetriever
Realize life may not be quite as bad as it seems at the moment
Cheer up; smile more Realize that perfectionism can cause
procrastination Ease up on your standards for yourself
and others Be less sensitive Learn to meet others’ needs &
appreciate their differencesBeaver
Quick Tips
Lower standards slightly to be more realistic Allow people room to be themselves Speak up more Believe in people Develop acceptance of others who aren’t perfect Express your feelings instead of closing
down emotionally Communicate needs and talk
things over rather than withdrawing
BeaverQuick Tips
Beaver
Allow your unforgiving spirit to alienate those who deeply care for you
Take everything personally and get hurt
Make everyone play 20 questions to get an answer
Take life so seriously
Expect everyone else to have lists and schedules
Let your schedule keep you from seeing and meeting others’ needs
Do Not
the Personalities inYour Workplace
Piecing Together
• Making initial contact with people• Creating enthusiasm and excitement• Encouraging and uplifting others• Insuring that the group has fun
• Motivates others to joins (look for those who need to be included)• Recruiter and a Creative Person • Brings energy and excitement
OtteryellowPlace in the
Puzzle
Best At
Can come on too happy or cute Not considered serious or believable Considered flighty
Encouragement and praise
Listen through my emotions
Otteryellow
REALIZE THEY NEED FUN & ENTERTAINMENT
Motivate Me
Warning
• Leading people to action• Managing the plans and productivity• Giving quick and clear instructions • Making decisions quickly with confidence
• Leadership (Take Charge)• Results• Good Decision Maker Lion
red
Place in the Puzzle
Best At
May come on too overpowering, often intimidates less confident people
Tell me how much I have doneRespect my quick decisions
REALIZE THEY NEED
ACTION AND SOME CONTROL
Lionred
Motivate Me
Warning
• Making sure the group is comfortable• Listening to others• Being sensitive to the need of others
• Keeps everything steady• Makes others feel like
they belong• Support person
GoldenRetriever
greenPlace in the Puzzle
Best At
May come across as too low-key or lazyAppears too unenthusiastic or uninvolved
Recognize how calmI am and level headed
Value who I am andwhat I bring to the group
REALIZE THEY NEED REST & QUIET TIME
GoldenRetriever
green
Motivate Me
Warning
• Planning and explaining the details• Keeping the financial records straight• Staying calm and functional amidst chaos
• Critical thinker• Systems for
accomplishing the task
• Detail person
blueBeave
r
Place in the Puzzle
Best At
Might come across too intellectual and remote May make others feel less intelligent Can get lost in the details
Invite me and welcome me into your group
space
Validate my contribution even though it may
seem negative
REALIZE THEY NEED ORDER & ENCOURAGEMENT
blueBeave
rMotivate Me
Warning
Personalities at Work
GOLDEN RETRIEVER
Job Pluses
Environ-Ment &
Meetings
Decisions
Are
Workspace
SimulativeFast –Paced
Congenial
Spontaneous—
Heart
Casual, Usually
Cluttered with piles & sticky notes
The Start,The
Challenge
FriendlyCasual
Open Door Policy
Consultative—
Heart
Casual Comfortable with items
within reach
The Involvement Relationship
s
EfficientEffective
Productive
Decisive—Head
No FrillsFunctional with items in the right
places
Accomplishing the task and winning
OrganizedFunctionalPractical
Calculated—Head
OrganizedLeaves
Workspace Neat
The Process Developing
Systems
Personalities at Work
GOLDEN RETRIEVER
Struggles with
People Who Are
Likes People
Who
Fears
Too SeriousNarrow-Minded
Not Flexible
Enjoy LifeLove
Possibilities Are Positive
Being BoredBeing Left-
OutBeing
Unpopular
Too Controlling
PushyDemanding
Are SupportiveRespect &
Value ThemMake Them
Laugh
Major ChangeBeing
Overwhelmed
Put In the Spotlight
Lazy/Incompetent
Not Productive
Weak
Perform Well
Are Self-Assured
Like Action
Loss of ControlLoss of RespectBeing Wrong
Disorganized
InsincereSuperficial
Are SeriousAre
DependableInclude Them
Making a MistakeBeing
Misunderstood
Being Dismissed
Personalities at Work
GOLDEN RETRIEVER
Stressors
When Stressed
Rigid Situations
and People
Talks Loudly With
EmotionImpulsive
Actions andTalks A Lot
Fast-PacedDisharmony
ConflictInstability
Avoids/Isolates
Veges-OutBecomes a
Couch Potato
Distractions from
ProblemTV/Books/
Sleep
Incompetent PeopleOut of Control
SituationsNot
Producing Enough
Verbal AggressionDomineerin
gAssertive
BluntPushes
Harder for Production
ChangeChaos
Sloppy WorkIrresponsibil
ity
WithdrawsDisengagesGoes Back to Facts &
DataFor AnswersIndecisive:
Analysis Paralysis
OTTER Inspirational Loud With stories A lot Direct Prefers verbal
LION Authoritative Loud Logical One way Direct To the point
BEAVER
Communication Style
FactualDelivered perfectly“Need to know” IndirectPrefers writtenSofter & precise
Warm Soft & collectedTwo-wayIndirectPrefers verbalHesitant to open up
GOLDEN RETRIEVER
Otter to Lion Get to the bottom line quicklyDon’t start with stories & laughterGive facts
Otter to Beaver Be sensitive to their scheduleKeep to the pointWatch for signs that they are done
Otter to Golden Retriever
Slow downListen to themAsk their opinion
Lion to Otter Be interested in their colorful storiesDon’t roll your eyesDon’t try to always correct them
Lion to Beaver Allow them to share their ideasEncourage & prompt themAppreciate their research and details
Lion to Golden Retriever Be careful not to shut them outDon’t be impatientValue and ask for their opinion
Beaver to Otter
Respond openly to their funny happeningsCompliment them frequently
Beaver to Lion
Don’t drown them in detailsCut to the essentialsBe confident
Beaverto Golden Retriever
Watch for positives and mention themOffer them sincere praise
Golden Retrieverto Otter
Enter into conversationGet excited about their ideasSmile
Golden Retriever to Beaver
Offer facts and back them up with documentationValue their time and schedule
Golden Retrieverto Lion
Speed up your speechGet to the bottom lineShow energy