Maximised Manhood by Dr. Edwin Louis Cole

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Maximised Manhoodby

Dr. Edwin Louis Cole

Lessons 7 to 9

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Primary Syllabus

3Dr. Edwin Louis Cole“Build Men - Raise Sons”

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Maximised Manhood

Chapter NineLesson 7

“Changing Heads”

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“Changing Heads”Lesson 7 - Chapter 9

I. "Changing Heads"

A. Change always comes from the _____. (page 99)

1. If change doesn't come from the top, revolution will come from the bottom. (page 99)

____ True ___ False

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I. "Changing Heads"

A. Change always comes from the toptop. (page 99)

1. If change doesn't come from the top, revolution will come from the bottom. (page 99)

__ True ___ False

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2. In business, what is always the problem and always the solution? (circle one) (page 100)

a. money

b. time

c. personnel

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2. In business, what is always the problem and always the solution? (circle one) (page 100)

a. money

b. time

c. personnelpersonnel

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3. Read Proverbs 29:2 (KJV) out loud. "When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice: but when the wicked beareth rule, the people mourn."

4. Change isn't change, until it's _____. (page 101)

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3. Read Proverbs 29:2 (KJV) out loud. "When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice: but when the wicked beareth rule, the people mourn."

4. Change isn't change, until it's changechange. (page 101)

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B. Intention to change is not change.

(page 101)

1. Who must change in the home?

(page 101)

_____

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B. Intention to change is not change.

(page 101)

1. Who must change in the home?

(page 101)

the head of the housethe head of the house

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2. Most people judge others by their actions and themselves by their intentions.

(page 101)

Name three times recently that you have seen this occur, through personal experience, media, or conveyed to you through conversation.

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3. Talking about changing, pledging it, making resolutions, considering it-none of these are change. In your own words, what would show that change has occurred?

_____

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3. Talking about changing, pledging it, making resolutions, considering it-none of these are change. In your own words, what would show that change has occurred?

When talking has ceased and When talking has ceased and action is taken to make these action is taken to make these things a reality. When we become things a reality. When we become doers and not so much talkers.doers and not so much talkers.

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C. God says to men: Let go of all your own ways and depend on MeMe in the totality of your lifelife. (page 103)

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D. An ounce of obedience is worth a ton of prayer.

1. Look up 1 Samuel 15:22 (KJV). "... Behold, to obeyobey is better than sacrifice, and to hearkenhearken than the fat of rams."

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2. Read out loud Proverbs 28:9 (KJV). "He that turneth away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer shall be abomination."

3. If you don't obey after praying, what happens with your prayers? (page 105)

_____.

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2. Read out loud Proverbs 28:9 (KJV). "He that turneth away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer shall be abomination."

3. If you don't obey after praying, what happens with your prayers? (page 105)

You nullify all the prayingYou nullify all the praying.

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E. Change is not change until it is change. (page 106)

Giving is not giving, until it's _____. (page 106)

Faith isn't faith, until it's _____. (page 106)

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E. Change is not change until it is change. (page 106)

Giving is not giving, until it's givengiven. (page 106)

Faith isn't faith, until it's actionaction. (page 106)

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F. Courage is a requirement of leadership. (page 107)

1. Read out loud 2 Samuel 10:12 (KJV). "Be of good courage, and let us play the men for our people, and for the cities of our God: and the LORD do that which seemeth him good."

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“Changing Heads”Lesson 7 - Chapter 9What in your own words is meant by the phrase "play the men?"

_____

2. "Be of good _____" is a scriptural refrain. (page 107)

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“Changing Heads”Lesson 7 - Chapter 9What in your own words is meant by the phrase "play the men?"

Let us be strong for our peopleLet us be strong for our people.

2. "Be of good couragecourage" is a scriptural refrain. (page 107)

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G. Write out the definition of courage.

(page 108)

Courage is the _____

that enables a man to face

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with a real manliness.

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G. Write out the definition of courage. (page 108)

Courage is the virtue, quality or quality or attribute of lifeattribute of life that enables a man to face disapproval, persecution, fear, disapproval, persecution, fear, failure and even deathfailure and even death with a real manliness.

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“Changing Heads”Lesson 7 - Chapter 9Read out loud Deuteronomy 31:6 (KJV).

"Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee."

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H. Some things in life are more important than life itself. (page 109)

1. Joseph saw the honor of God as the criteria for his life. Read Joseph's statement from Genesis 39:7-9 (KJV). "... how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?"

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H. Some things in life are more important than life itselflife itself. (page 109)

1. Joseph saw the honour of God as the criteria for his life. Read Joseph's statement from Genesis 39:7-9 (KJV). "... how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?"

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2. Name some Biblical heroes who courageously gave their lives for a Godly purpose.

1. _____

2. _____

3. _____

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2. Name some Biblical heroes who courageously gave their lives for a Godly purpose.

1. John the BaptistJohn the Baptist

2. PaulPaul

3. StephenStephen

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I. Courage is necessary in a man's life to _____. (page 109)

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I. Courage is necessary in a man's life to changechange. (page 109)

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Practical:

1. A man is seeking God and prays, "God, please help my wife to have a good attitude toward me, and please make my boss recognize what a good job I'm doing." His prayer is admirable, but who is he praying will change? In your words, what would be a better way to pray?

_____

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2. Courage is sometimes necessary to run away from something, and sometimes needed to run toward something.

What do you need courage to run from?

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What do you need courage to run toward?

_____

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3. What can you change in your life today?

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How will you go about changing it?

_____

How will you follow up to ensure you've changed?

_____

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Prayer: Father, in Jesus' Name, I ask You to change me as You have changed so many other men. Help me to accept responsibility for the changes that need to be made and forgive me for blaming others. I will be courageous to change in each area You show me. I will be seen as Your man above all else. Thank You, in Jesus' Name, for walking with me through every step. Amen.

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“Changing Heads”Lesson 7 - Self Test

1. If change doesn't come from the top, what will come from the bottom?

_____

2. _____ is always the problem; _____ is always the solution

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1. If change doesn't come from the top, what will come from the bottom?

revolutionrevolution

2. PersonnelPersonnel is always the problem;

personnelpersonnel is always the solution

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3. Men often judge others by their _____, and themselves by their _____.

4. Give a personal definition of what it means to have courage.

_____

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3. Men often judge others by their actionsactions, and themselves by their intentionsintentions.

4. Give a personal definition of what it means to have courage.

Courage is a virtue that a man needs to Courage is a virtue that a man needs to face real life situations-even the face real life situations-even the unpleasant. In order to change, unpleasant. In order to change, courage must be exhibited.courage must be exhibited.

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5. A ton of prayer will always produce more than obedience.

___ True ____ False

6. Name the number one virtue that men need to face reality.

_____

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5. A ton of prayer will always produce more than obedience.

___ True ___ False

6. Name the number one virtue that men need to face reality.

couragecourage

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Maximised Manhood

Chapter TenLesson 8

“The Buck Stops Here”

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“The Buck Stops Here”Lesson 8 - Chapter 10

I. "The Buck Stops Here"

A. The man is to be the headhead of the house.

1. Look up Ephesians 5:23 (NIV). "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour."

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2. Christ provides _____ to the _____ of the members of the church.

The man prayerfully provides _____ to the _____ of his family. (page 111)

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2. Christ provides solutionssolutions to the

problemsproblems of the members of the church.

The man prayerfully provides solutionssolutions to the problemsproblems of his family. (page 111)

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B. Men cannot leave the ministry of

_____

to their wives.

It is their responsibility as well.

(page 117)

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B. Men cannot leave the ministry of listening to the childrenlistening to the children to their wives.

It is their responsibility as well.

(page 117)

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C. One of the marks of a true leader is not to pass the _____. (page 117)

1. "Justification" theologically means _____. (page 117)

2. Self-justification is the term for what we call _____. (page 117)

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C. One of the marks of a true leader is not to pass the proverbial buckproverbial buck. (page 117)

1. "Justification" theologically means being being made rightmade right. (page 117)

2. Self-justification is the term for what we call buck passingbuck passing. (page 117)

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D. Read Genesis 3:1-10

Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?” And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’

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Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.

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Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings.

And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

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Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?”

So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.

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1. What are the three results of sin?

(pages 117-118)

a. _____

b. _____

c. _____

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1. What are the three results of sin?

(pages 117-118)

a. guiltguilt

b. fearfear

c. hidinghiding

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2. Guilt is a killer. (page 118) Give a Biblical example of someone who was plagued by guilt. ]_____

3. Guilt leads to _____. (page 118)

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2. Guilt is a killer. (page 118) Give a Biblical example of someone who was plagued by guilt. ]

AdamAdam

3. Guilt leads to fearfear. (page 118)

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4. Fear leads to hiding. Name some ways in which you have tried to hide from or escape guilt and fear in your life. (page 118)_______________

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E. The devil made you do it!

___ True ___ False

1. Whom did Adam blame? (page 118) _____

2. Whom did Eve blame in the Garden of Eden? (page 118) _____

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E. The devil made you do it!

___ True __ False

1. Whom did Adam blame? (page 118) EveEve

2. Whom did Eve blame in the Garden of Eden? (page 118) the devilthe devil

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F. Every man must answer for his actions to _____. (page 120)

1. Some men would rather cover up their _____ than save their marriage. (page 120)

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F. Every man must answer for his actions to God aloneGod alone. (page 120)

1. Some men would rather cover up their sinssins than save their marriage. (page 120)

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2. Others would rather cover up their _____ than save their business. (page 120)

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2. Others would rather cover up their failure and let their business failure and let their business collapsecollapse than save their

business. (page 120)

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G. There are times when silence is golden; other times it is just plain _____. (page 120)

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G. There are times when silence is golden; other times it is just plain yellowyellow. (page 120)

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H. Some men think they are punishing their child for correction, when they are really punishing for _____. (pages 121-122)

The result is that it _____ a child, not changes him. (page 122)

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H. Some men think they are punishing their child for correction, when they are really punishing for revengerevenge. (pages 121-122)

The result is that it hardenshardens a child, not changes him. (page 122)

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I. God is not indifferent to your _____. (page 124)

1. God can do nothing for men who say they have no _____. (page 124)

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I. God is not indifferent to your needsneeds. (page 124)

1. God can do nothing for men who say they have no needsneeds. (page 124)

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2. Read Revelation 3:17 (KJV). "Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothinghave need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind and naked."

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J. God loves you personally. He has given you _____ and wisdom. (page 125)

To reach your family, God looks to: (circle one)

1. your wife

2. your church

3. you

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J. God loves you personally. He has given you His WordHis Word and wisdom. (page 125)

To reach your family, God looks to: (circle one)

1. your wife

2. your church

3. youyou

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Practical:

1. Take a sheet of paper and start listing all the things you are guilty of, or feel guilty about. Spend some time in prayer for God to remind you of sins, mistakes, and errors. After writing as many as you can think of, take a red pen or marker and begin to ask for forgiveness for each one. As you mark over the item, say aloud, "God forgives me and I now forgive myself as well."

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2. Name the last thing you did that you blamed someone else for. Then think of the one before that. Go back as far as you can. Then, using the red marker again, ask God to forgive you and forgive yourself. Where appropriate, contact the person you blamed and ask them to forgive you.What I did ____ Who I blamed___

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Repeat this prayer out loud: Father, in the Name of Jesus, I admit the mistakes and sins that this last lesson has shown me and I ask for Your forgiveness. Having asked for and received Your forgiveness, I refuse to wallow in self-pity for making them, I refuse to be put down by Satan or others for doing them, I thank You that they are covered with the blood of Jesus and behind me forever.

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I accept responsibility for myself, for my situation, for my family and for the way we are today, and I commit to becoming the one who solves the problems, not the one who is part of the problem. For those things I cannot solve, I ask You to cover them with Your grace and mercy and deliver me and my family. I give You praise in advance for a complete change in my life. Amen.

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“The Buck Stops Here”Lesson 8 - Self Test

1. As the husband, I am responsible to lead the home. Therefore, as Christ takes care of the members of His church, I must _____ for the problems in my home and family.

2. Buck passing is the common term for _____.

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1. As the husband, I am responsible to lead the home. Therefore, as Christ takes care of the members of His church, I must provide solutionsprovide solutions for the problems in my home and family.

2. Buck passing is the common term for self-justificationself-justification.

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3. The sequentially ordered result of sin is:

a. _____

b. _____

c. _____

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3. The sequentially ordered result of sin is:

a. guiltguilt

b. fearfear

c. hidinghiding

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4. Name some major ways men try to escape or hide from responsibility.

a. _____

b. _____

c. _____

d. _____

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4. Name some major ways men try to escape or hide from responsibility.

a. philosophyphilosophy

b. drugsdrugs

c. alcoholalcohol

d. pleasurepleasure

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5. In your own words, write the definition for self-justification.

_____

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Maximised Manhood

Chapter ElevenLesson 9

“The Video Daddy”

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“The Video Daddy”Lesson 9 - Chapter 11

I. "The Video Daddy"

A. The most powerful thing that can be done in life is to create an _____; the next most powerful thing is to destroy an _____. (page 127)

1. Men have been victimized by forces and images they could have _____. (page 127)

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I. "The Video Daddy"

A. The most powerful thing that can be done in life is to create an imageimage; the next most powerful thing is to destroy an imageimage. (page 127)

1. Men have been victimized by forces and images they could have controlledcontrolled. (page 127)

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2. Read Titus 1:15-16 (TLB). "...but a person whose own heart is evil and untrusting finds evil in everything, for his dirty mind and rebellious heart color all he sees and hears. Such persons claim they know God, but from seeing the way they act, one knows they don't."

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Images in our mind influence the way we act, dress, speak … and influence the way we: (add more in your own words)

_____

_____

_____

_____

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3. Young men and women are motivated greatly by the _____ they have in life. (page 129)

Read Proverbs 23:7 (KJV). "For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he ..."

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3. Young men and women are motivated greatly by the hero imagehero image they have in life. (page 129)

Read Proverbs 23:7 (KJV). "For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he ..."

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Read Numbers 13:33 (KJV). (Spies at the border of Canaan) "And there we saw the giants ... and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight."

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B. The degree of disappointment is found in the difference between the _____ and the _____. (page 129)

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B. The degree of disappointment is found in the difference between the idealideal and the

realreal. (page 129)

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C. Without Jesus men are unable to be restored in the _____. (page 130)

When we become new creations we have new _____. (page 130)

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C. Without Jesus men are unable to be restored in the image of Godimage of God. (page 130)

When we become new creations we have new motivationsmotivations. (page 130)

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D. Form a _____ in your home. (page 132)

Read Psalms 101:6-7 (TLB). "I will make the godly of the land my heroes, and invite them to my home. Only those who are truly good shall be my servants. But I will not allow those who deceive and lie to stay in my house."

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D. Form a committee of onecommittee of one in your home. (page 132)

Read Psalms 101:6-7 (TLB). "I will make the godly of the land my heroes, and invite them to my home. Only those who are truly good shall be my servants. But I will not allow those who deceive and lie to stay in my house."

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What does this have to do with the "video daddy?"

_____

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The man can become addicted to television The man can become addicted to television and force his wife and children into unnatural and force his wife and children into unnatural responsibilities and roles. He is supposed to responsibilities and roles. He is supposed to guide, guard and govern. When he gratifies guide, guard and govern. When he gratifies his own selfish desires at the expense of his his own selfish desires at the expense of his wife and children and allows the filth of the wife and children and allows the filth of the world to come into his house by way of world to come into his house by way of video, he has made the ungodly his heroes video, he has made the ungodly his heroes and rescinded the responsibility of guiding, and rescinded the responsibility of guiding, guarding and governing his family.guarding and governing his family.

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Read Deuteronomy 6:7 (KJV). "And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up."

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What does it mean you should do for your children?

_____

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What does it mean you should do for your children?

We should not only teach our We should not only teach our children the Word of God, but children the Word of God, but make it practical by living it every make it practical by living it every day-in every situation-continually. day-in every situation-continually. We must be doers of the Word.We must be doers of the Word.

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E. Man has three functions in the home and community. (page 132)

1. Guide2. Guard3. govern

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E. Man has three functions in the home and community. (page 132)

1. GuideGuide

2. GuardGuard

3. governgovern

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Look up John 17:12

While I was with them in the world, I kept them in Your name. Those whom You gave Me I have kept; and none of them is lost except the son of perdition, that the Scripture might be fulfilled

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Look up 2 Corinthians 10:4-5

For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,

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Look up 1 Timothy 3:4

one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence

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What points can you learn from these verses?

_____

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What points can you learn from these verses? Just as Jesus kept the disciples and is Just as Jesus kept the disciples and is responsible to keep the church, men should responsible to keep the church, men should keep the family from the world and keep the filth keep the family from the world and keep the filth of the world from the family. The husband and of the world from the family. The husband and father must guard the family from evil, by being father must guard the family from evil, by being compliant to the Lord and His Word, destroying compliant to the Lord and His Word, destroying the weakness of the flesh (keeping pure in his the weakness of the flesh (keeping pure in his thoughts) by His Word and walking in obedience thoughts) by His Word and walking in obedience to His Word.to His Word.

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F. The greatest addiction in today's society is: (circle one) (page 133)

a. drugs

b. food

c. Alcohol

d. television

e. gambling

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F. The greatest addiction in today's society is: (circle one) (page 133)

a. drugs

b. food

c. alcohol

d. televisiontelevision

e. gambling

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1. Read Romans 12:2 (KJV).

"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewingrenewing of your mindmind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."

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2. The absentee father in front of the television forces the wife and children into unnatural roles and responsibilities. (page 133)

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2. The absentee father in front of the television forces the wifewife and childrenchildren into unnatural roles and responsibilities. (page 133)

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G. Men, families and nations are made great by the _____ of their virtues, not by virtue of their _____. (page 134)

Men are God's _____. While men look for better _____, God looks for better _____. (pages 135-136)

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G. Men, families and nations are made great by the wealthwealth of their virtues, not by virtue of their wealthwealth. (page 134)

Men are God's methodsmethods. While men look for better methodsmethods, God looks for better menmen. (pages 135-136)

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Practical:

1. Start a television log book. HONESTLY keep a record of how much time you spend watching television. Once you've controlled your own television habits, work to control the habits of the rest of the family, making yourself available to fill their time with other activities.

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2. Read 1 Corinthians 16:13 (KJV).

"Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men [or act like a man], be strong.”

Break it into four parts and write what you can do to fulfill each one.

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Watch ye: _____

Stand fast in the faith: _____

Act like a man: _____

Be strong: _____

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Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, Your word says to set no wicked thing before my eyes. This day I make the decision to make a covenant with my eyes, to not look upon images that will grieve Your Spirit, and to not glorify the way of evil and violent men. I choose instead to make my home a welcome place for Your Spirit to dwell and abide. I choose to guard well my family whom You have entrusted to my care. In Jesus Name, Amen.

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“The Video Daddy”Lesson 9 - Self Test

1. What is the most powerful thing that can be done in a life?

_____

2. What is the second most powerful thing that can be done?

_____

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1. What is the most powerful thing that can be done in a life?

to create an imageto create an image

2. What is the second most powerful thing that can be done?

to destroy an imageto destroy an image

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3. Name some popular "anti-heroes" of today.

a. _____

b. _____

c. _____

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3. Name some popular "anti-heroes" of today.

a. Archie BunkerArchie Bunker

b. Ed BundyEd Bundy

c. Homer SimpsonHomer Simpson

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4. Throughout life, there is a constant adjustment of the _____ and the _____. The distance between the _____ and the _____ is the degree of disappointment in life.

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4. Throughout life, there is a constant adjustment of the idealideal and the realreal. The distance between the realreal and the

idealideal is the degree of disappointment in life.

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5. Every man has three major functions in the home. What are they?

a. _____

b. _____

c. _____

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5. Every man has three major functions in the home. What are they?

a. guideguide

b. guardguard

c. governgovern

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6. What is the greatest addiction in America today?

_____

7. Men are truly great when measured by the wealth of their _____, not the _____ of their wealth.

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6. What is the greatest addiction in America today?

televisiontelevision

7. Men are truly great when measured by the wealth of their virtuevirtue, not the virtuevirtue of their wealth.

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