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Masses For The Week

Lector Schedule

The Bread and Wine have been

donated this week For a Special Intention

by Ester Julien

The Sanctuary Candle in the Chapel has

been donated for A Special Intention

The Sanctuary Candle in the Church has been donated for A Special Intention

Please pray for the repose of the soul of

Rest in peace

Geraldine A. Perrella

Altar Server Assignments

Monday, February 10th 6:45 Jose M. Deveza Bong & Tina Guanlao 8:30 Joseph Cianciabella Dolores Cianciabella 8 PM Teresa Monti & Teresa Marshall– Monzi & Higgens Tuesday, February 11th 6:45 Special Intention Esther Julien 8:30 Int. Our Lady of Lourdes Lucie Lamothe & Family 8PM Our Lady of Lourdes Maude Voigt & Family Wednesday, February 12th 6:45 Francois Roche Marie Roche 8:30 Betty Sylvester Gretschel Family 8PM Fannie Ruvolo Velez Family Thursday, February 13th 6:45 Rosalie Duskiewicz Helen Brzezinski 8:30 Jose M. Deveza Infante Family 8PM Pearl Hallam Karen Wright Friday, February 14th 6:45 Gerard Lagasse Your Friends at the Life Center 8:30 Ernst Saint Louie Sister 8PM Bien P. Guanlao Family Saturday, February 15th 6:45 Walter E. Cody Cody Family 8:30 Lucille Williams Persico Family 5PM Dora Sinagra Ferrara Family 5:15 Carmela Caffarella Jerry & Lucille Shisko Sunday, February 16th 7:30 Int. Fr. Robert E. Mason Persico Family 9:00 Anille “Neil” D. Caggiano- Your Friends at the Life Ctr 10:30 Lottie Falchek M/M Leonard Falchek 12:00 Theresa Massari Menzer- Mara Levine & Alan Bennett 1:30 Jean Voisich M/M Michael Bresnahan

Monday, February 10 8 pm - Tuesday, February 11 8 pm – Joseph Giglio Wednesday, February 12 12 noon Laura Glynn Mary Glynn 8 pm– Daniel Tomic Thursday, February 13 8 pm – Alexander Zapata Gabriel Zapata Friday, February 14 8 pm - Brendan O’Keefe Peter O'Keefe Saturday, February 15 5 pm - Cameron Russo Matthew Russo Sunday, February 16 7:30 am - Miguel Hutchinson 9:00 am - Brendan O’Keefe Peter O’Keefe 10:30 am - Christopher Giglio Joseph Giglio Alexander Zapata Gabriel Zapata 12:00 noon Laura Glynn Mary Glynn Keith Irving 1:30 pm - Stephen Martinez Joshua Michael

Saturday, 2/15

- 5:00 PM – Jean Cooper Sunday, 2/16

- 7:30 AM – Bernard Hennelly - 9:00 AM – Sue Bouffier - 10:30 AM – Lisa Jandovitz and Barry Champney - 12:00 PM – Jim Dolan - 1:30 PM – Vincent Gatto

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Dear Friends,

Bill Gildersleeve was in the line in front of me at the grocery store some many years ago. He wasn't alone. His two little daughters, who looked to be eight or nine years old, were helping Daddy shop. Well, adding things to his shopping cart might be more like it.

Checkout lines must be designed by someone who likes to torment parents. The assorted temptations on display include tons of candy, toys and maga-zines. So here you have it: a parent's just finished trekking up and down the aisles, trying to balance what's needed and what's affordable -- then it starts. The children see something at the checkout they just "have to have." Well, not really. But they want it anyway.

Say no, you're likely to face protests and griping. Say yes and you've given in to the manipulations of both children and store owners. My friend in the line faced a similar dilemma.

Now, before sharing Bill Gildersleeve's response to his children, let me tell you about the man. In our town, he has always been the local star. With looks, popularity and a lovely wife, his life looked to be a gift.

He was also blessed with a natural entrepreneurial spirit. He knows business and what people want. Put simply -- Bill is the image of success.

But parenthood's a different game. Success in sports, business, school is absolutely no assurance that you'll be a great parent. That's the job for which there is no training: you learn by doing. Frankly, most parents would admit that they make lots of mistakes along the way.

So I watched Bill and his girls with no little interest. How would this guy handle the minefield of de-manding youngsters? From where I stood, Bill hit a home run. He didn't say yes and he didn't say no. He calmly listened to their requests and quietly said: "Not this time, perhaps next time."

And they nodded, they understood. He hadn't re-jected the idea out of hand. He just wasn't acquiesc-ing right now.

No one likes being told "no." Whether you're eight or 80, we like to hear the word "yes." We want it our way. There are very few ways that "no" won't

be taken as a form of rejection. What Bill did was to listen first, then qualify his answer. That is a much more respectful way to handle people of all ages.

For example, if you tell me your opinion and I imme-diately say, "No, you're wrong," there's no way you're going to be open to my alternative point of view. But if, on the other hand, I listen to you re-spectfully, and then respond by affirming what you said and yet expressing a different view, it will go down better.

Now my point may be diametrically opposed to yours, but I bet you'll listen and consider what I'm saying. Why? Because I respected you and your thoughts well enough to affirm and consider what you said.

Communication is the key to bridge-building. In a world with deep rivers of misunderstanding and mis-trust, we need every bridge. And we build them by communicating our truth gently and showing real consideration for the other person and for his or her viewpoint.

That's what I think happened in the grocery store. Bill Gildersleeve didn't just say no, he opened a door to possibility. His daughters knew they were heard. I guess Bill has found success, too, in the place it mat-ters most, in his family.

Whether between family members or strangers, re-spect is always the best place to start. In His Love, Msgr. Jim Lisante Pastor

Our Parish depends solely on your generosity to meet each week’s expenses. Our regular Sunday collections account for more than 60% of our operating budget. Your continued support, especially during these difficult economic times, is both needed and appreciated.

Last week you donated $ 16,868.80 Thank you

Prayers for the Sick

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Let us continue to pray for

peace. Let us also pray for all those serving in the military.

With special care we pray especially for: Christopher B. Afetian - Sgt USMC, Pvt. Kevin L. Blieka U.S. Army, Sgt. Brian Andrew Dayman, US Army, Commander Christopher DeMay - Navy , Spc. Gregory Devaney -Army, Nicholas R. DoLieto - Marine Corps, A1C Timothy Erkens USAF, Capt. Michael Ferrari, USMC, Spencer French, 1st Lieutenant, US Army, Airman Steven Freund-USAF, SRA Sen-ior Airman Robert J. Gerry - Air Force,Spec. Steven Gian-atiempo - US Army, Brandon Goodwin, Petty Off., 2nd Class, USCG, Stefanie Goodwin, Petty Off., 3rd Class, USN, Kenny Greening -PFC-Army, Capt. Michael Hanna- US Army, Chap-lain Major Timothy Hirten, USAF, Maj. Luke Holian USMC, Kristen Janoscak DOD-USAF, 1st Lt. Josef Kaplan- US Army, SPC Justin Lansford -US Army, Sgt. Todd J. Lobraico USAF, Major Michael Edward Loconsolo, US Army, Pvt Matthew Macario - US Army, Jason Moritz - Sgt. USAF, Pvt 1st Class Joshua Nichols - US Army, Lt. Col. Thomas O’Connor, US Army, Lyle Oldmixon- Pvt. 1st Class – USMC, Spc. Manuel E. Palmer US Army, Cpt. David Paolillo USAF, Cpt. Kathleen Paolillo USAF, L. CPL Michael E. Porfidio - USMC, Capt. Joseph Shultz, L CPL Eric Vazquez USMC, US Army, Spec. Zachary Small - US Army, US Army Sgt. Michael Stephney If you know a Service Member that you would like to add to this list please contact the rectory 516-541-3270

Please include name, rank and branch of service.

Vivian Blum, Joanne Brady, Ed Burch , Al Cavalli, An-gelo DeCosimo, Angela DePolo-Huges, Jane M. De-praida, Theresa Dimitri, Barbara Donovan, Connie Fen-nessey, Kathi Finnegan, Peggy Folan, Wilfred Furlong, Bill Goodman, Hart Family, Gloria Hartford, Carol & Russ Hayward, Gasper Ingui, Jesus Jupio, Vanessa Linn, Noel Martinez, Robert E. Mason, Marie Molloy, Pat O'Brien, Florence O'Neill, Marie Peritore, Georgia Pettit, Vincent Pinto, Lisa Roberts, Donald Rubin, Ayden W. Sabino, Walter Schulein, Zina Smaowell, Steven Soper Jr., Ginny Stanton, Edward Steiger, Annemarie Tine, Thomas Tine, Jr., Larry Tomanelli, John Vota

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Our Lady of Lourdes Memorial Garden Phase II – Spring 2014

Once again, we would like to thank all who have helped support our Memorial Garden Grotto Project Phase I. We are very pleased with the workmanship and outcome of the memorial bricks and benches. Re-dedication of Our Lady of Lourdes Grotto will take place in late spring 2014, when we have milder weather. We have planted hundreds of flower bulbs, which will add to the beauty of spring. As spring 2014 approaches, we will now begin Phase II of the Memorial Garden Grotto Restoration. We are now offering another opportunity to purchase memorial bricks, for anyone who hasn’t had a chance to do so. As a reminder, memorial text can contain a message of remembrance for our deceased loved ones, but can also pave our “Living Walkway,” marking moments such as; Births, Baptisms, Birthdays, Weddings, Graduations, Holy Orders, Anniversaries…etc. In addition to the bricks, we are also replacing the top of the altar in the Memorial Garden with a stunning new, black granite piece deserving of its sacred purpose. The four sides of the altar top will be engraved in gold lettering to match the benches, one of which, (front) is already spoken for. There is an opportunity to purchase one of the remaining three sides of the grotto altar. Please call the rectory if you’re interested in dedicating or memorializing these special sites. The attached “Reservation Form” should be completed and dropped off in our parish office, along with the respective deposit (or payment in full). A copy of the reservation form will be stamped “RECEIVED” once reviewed and accepted by our parish office. We have limited 8” x 8” bricks which will be placed in the “Heart Center Area” of our grotto. However, we have ample space for the 8” x 4” bricks to accommodate all parishioners. If you have any questions, please contact the rectory office @ 516 541 3270. Thank you for your continued support. God Bless!

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HOW TO ORDER BRICKS Your contribution of $160.00 entitles you to have a 4” x 8” brick engraved with up to 3 lines of script, 14 characters per line including spaces and punctuation.

. Your contribution of $300.00 entitles you have an 8” x 8” brick engraved with up to 6 lines of script, 14 characters per line including spaces and punctuation.

Please complete the following information

RESERVATION FORM

Engrave my inscription as follows: 4 x 8 Brick

*Note: A 20% minimum deposit is required with your order and 8 x 8 Brick payment in full by May 5, 2015

Payment Method Purchaser’s Name____________________________________ Address____________________________________________ CASH: $ _________.__ CHECK:$________,__ City_________________ State ______ Zip____________ OWES:$_________.__ PIF: ____________ Email_____________________ Phone _______________

One order form per brick. Additional order forms are available at the rectory.

Please return this form with your check payable to Our Lady of Lourdes Church 855 Carmans Road, Massapequa Park, NY 11762

Our Lady of Lourdes

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Parish Outreach

“Ministry of Consolation”

Our parish is richly blessed to have gathered a wonderful group of volunteers who make up Our Lady of Lourdes “Ministry of Consolation” team. The most valuable gifts we can give are the gifts that come from the heart. The precious gifts of our time, love and compassion are espe-cially needed during the time of the loss of a loved one.

Created to provide warmth, caring and personal attention to assist families in preparation for the funeral mass, this particular ministry can never have too many helping hands. Whether your interest be that of a Greeter, Lector or EM, please give some thought as to sharing your time and talents and being a part of this ministry’s call to love and care for one another.

Thank you so much to our coordinator, Deacon Frank Gariboldi and all our volunteers for embracing this beau-tiful ministry. Please call Parish Outreach at 516-541-1260 if you would like to volunteer. Thank you for your consideration.

“We Care Blankets”

Our “Care Blankets” group of volunteers continues to meet on Wednesday mornings from 10:00am to 11:30am, in Room 4, right next door to Parish Outreach. Since our group began in November 2009, a total of 1,038 gor-geous hand-made colorful blankets have been lovingly created. Thank you so much for the care, time and talent that goes into every beautiful creation, each a special gift for a very special child undergoing cancer care. We are happy to accept contributions of yarns, crochet hooks or knitting needles. If you would be interested in joining please give Parish Outreach a call at (516) 541-1260. The more the merrier!

Sunday February 9, 2014

“Food Pantry”

Thank you always to the generous people of our faith community who continue to support our parish food pan-try. Because you care we can come to the aid of many of our neighbors in need. As you know, Parish Outreach helps families every day with the basic human need of good food. As we begin a brand new year, please con-tinue to be as generous as you can throughout these win-ter months. Thank you for all the good you do! (With great appreciation for every food item donated,

our pantry is currently in need of stocking up on Peanut Butter, Tomato Sauce and Tuna)

The following items are most in need on an everyday ba-sis. On behalf of the needy in our parish community, may God bless you for all the good you do! Tuna Cereal Coffee or Tea Canned Fruit Pancake Mix Powdered Milk Pasta Pancake Syrup Juices Pasta Sauce Can Vegetables Soup Peanut Butter Instant Potatoes Macaroni & Cheese Jelly Rice Cookies/Crackers Oatmeal Beans Jell-O/ Pudding

Parish Outreach hours are Mon.-Thurs., 9am to 4:pm

Catholic Charities Senior Housing: St. Anne’s Gar-dens, 80 Second Ave., Brentwood, NY is now accept-ing applications for openings in their senior residence. The lovely 100-unit facility built in 2000 offers senior citizens safe and affordable housing with on-site laun-dry, picturesque gardens and picnic area. There is easy access to local merchants. A full-time Property Manager lives onsite. Catholic Charities Commodity Supplemental Food Program is available onsite monthly for income-qualified resi-dents. Space is limited. To apply for yourself or some-one you love, please call Mary Robinson to set up an appointment at 631-952-5411.

Parish Feast Day Celebration In honor of

Our Lady of Lourdes

TODAY

Sunday, February 9th 10:30 Mass

Of Our Lady of Lourdes

Followed by a party in the auditorium from 12- 3 PM

Everyone is Welcome! Music & Dancing, Coffee & Cake

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We would like to thank the following people who donated the flowers that adorn the Altar and Our

Lady on our parish patroness’ feast day: Christina Akl, Marie Augustin, Isidora Bacani, Sue Bouffier, Elsie Cherie, Mary Condra, Pat Dam-binelli, Jessie Desroches, Joan Donovan, Fran Jurs, Theresa Driscoll, Augusta Frederic, Marie Ange François, Woof Furlong, Rosario Gravina, Dorothy Hasley Bernie Hennely, Georg & Marion Jelnik, Esther Julien, Tommy Laquidara, Irene Lundin, Ann-Marie Marzec, Micheline Midy, Joselyn Mira-bal, Carol Reyes, Yasmine Roche, Anthony & Jackie Rubano, Dolly Sabino, Bernadette Schaeffer, O. St. P, Shanthy T, Triccia Stipo, Bob Wadalavage, An-drea & Pat Walsh Gilda Philibert

Thank you for your love and generosity.

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THEOLOGY CLASS

7:30 - 9:00pm in the Church basement

Abstracts of each class are given out, so you can best follow the lectures

Phone the rectory for more information.

Next Class - Tuesday, February 18th

Subjects: 1. Church History 2. Church Dogma 3. Apologetics 4. Scripture

Everyone Welcome! Books, videos & DVD’s for Loan

Free of charge

At this class, the amazing, “The Star of Bethlehem” will be shown

CYO BASKETBALL

Phone Rectory, ask for Fr. Tony

516-541-3270 Or phone John Chester @ 516-799-5640

Get on the waiting list for next season Travel for Boys

Clinic for Boys & Girls

Note: Now accepting clinic athletes

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Has bad weather, planned travel, or illness kept you from attending Mass at Our Lady of Lourdes every Sunday this past month? If so, please consider sign-ing up with Faith Direct! By giving electronically through Faith Direct, you can ensure that your gifts of treasure will support the services and activities of our parish even while you are unable to be present. You can quickly sign up online at www.faithdirect.net using our church code: NY259, or by mailing an enrollment form available in the parish office.

Propagation of the Faith—On Saturday and Sunday, February 15 and 16, Fr. Joseph McLaughlin will come to our parish to make an appeal for The Propa-gation of the Faith Membership Weekend. You will have an opportunity to become a Member of The Propagation of the Faith, renew your membership, become a monthly donor or make a onetime donation. Your welcome to Fr. Joe and your response to the ap-peal will be greatly appreciated.

Saturday Feb 22 - Teen Evening

OLL auditorium, 6:30-10PM

We will watch the movie Soul Surfer. After movie, we will listen to music,

play board games

and the basketball court will be available to use.

Pizza and soda will be served before movie. There is no cost to attend.

All teens of our parish are invited to attend.

We are also asking all teens of parish to bring their friends.

Sunday March 2 - Diocesan Catholic Youth

Unite Skating Party

United Skates, Seaford, 6-8:30 PM

Please contact Father Heinlein before Feb 21 for more information,

permission slips and to sign up with our parish.

All teens of OLL and their friends must be signed up

with Father Heinlein for skating event.

OLL YOUTH GROUP FOR TEENS - UPCOMING EVENTS

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For many parents, the 20 week ultrasound is a time of joy and wonder. Sadly, for some parents the ultrasound reveals devastating news of a grave or fatal prenatal diagnosis. It is hard for most of us to fathom the pain that these parents experience. More and more often, medical professionals are recommending abortion to parents in such cases. Overwhelmed parents may feel they have no other choice. Statistics aren't available, but some experts estimate that 60 - 80 % will decide to end their child's life. For those parents who choose to carry the child to term, they often face insensitivity; some parents have even been

told they are 'wasting the doctor's time'. Perinatal hospice offers life-affirming support to families who don't abort their child with a life-limiting diagnosis. Perinatal hospice is a philosophy that embraces the baby's life - before and after birth. It also assists parents in making preparations for their child's death. Ideally, perinatal hospice will include a team of obstetricians, perinatologists, labor and delivery nurses, neonatologists, NICU staff, chaplains and pastors and social workers. Services offered may in-clude special birthing classes, counseling on how to speak to friends and family regarding the child's diagnosis, and help in making decisions regarding palliative care. Lizabeth Summer, a palliative care coordinator explains, "Families can choreograph their child's very brief life with their family. Sometimes they may only have a matter of minutes." Brad Mattes of Life Issues Institute states, "As prenatal testing has become more common, more perinatal services have emerged. A listing by state is available at www.perinatalhospice.org. Parents must be proactive advocates for their child's short life. Even if there is not a program in the area, it's still the parents right to create a loving and com-passionate plan for themselves and their baby until God decides to take that child home." Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep is a nationwide network of professional photographers who volunteer their time to beau-tifully chronicle the brief time the family has with their baby. Be Not Afraid (BNA) is a private non-profit corporation "whose mission is to provide comprehensive, practical, and peer-based support to parents experiencing a prenatal diag-nosis and carrying to term. For more information see their website, www.benotafraid.net. Lindsey and Kevin Dennis' daughter Sophie was diagnosed at 20 weeks with anencephaly. Friends and family cele-brated during the brief 10 hours that she lived after birth. In spite of tragedy, Sophie was covered in love every mo-ment of her life. Lindsey wrote, "For those who wonder whether it is truly worth it to carry a child to term who has little chance of survival outside the womb, it is worth it beyond what words could say." A mother named Annette stated, "I really have a peace that we carried her to term. I know in my heart that I have given my daughter all that I could and loved her every day of her life." A father, James, said, "She didn't bring sadness. She brought joy, utter joy." Brad Mattes concludes, "Abortion doesn't help the grief process, but instead compounds it. Abortion actually increases the risks to the mother's physical and mental health. Instead, these grieving families deserve compassionate care and affirmation that their child's life has value and is a cherished part of their family."

Perinatal Hospice

LOVE THEM BOTH PRO-LIFE VIGIL

Celebrating the spirit of Valentine's Day by showing that unborn babies need love too. Saturday, February 15th 9:30am-10:30am

Peaceful Presence on the sidewalk outside the Massapequa Planned Parenthood, 35 Carmans Rd Rain or Shine. Signs provided. Sponsored by the LI Coalition for Life 631-243-1435

email: info@prolifeLI.org

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Community News

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Our Lady of Lourdes Church 855 Carmans Road, Massapequa Park

Friday $1800 in prizes at 8:00 PM

Tuesday Golden Society, at 7:30 PM $2000 in Prizes w/Progressive Jackpot

$2000 IN PRIZES - $850 GIANT JACKPOT Progressive Jackpot on Tuesdays

Sunday February 9, 2014

2ND AND 4TH THURSDAY EVENINGS, 7:30 PM IN THE PARISH CENTER ROOM 16

Next Meetings:

February 13th & February 27th

MAGNIFICAT Retreat (February 28-March 2, 2014): You are invited to attend a Retreat sponsored by Magnificat - a ministry to Catholic women starting on Friday, February 28th through Sunday, March 2nd, which will be held at the Immaculate Conception Semi-nary in Huntington, NY. Our speaker is Sister Miriam James, who is gifted and anointed to teach and to bring healing to the hearts of women. Sister Miriam James travels around the country speaking and sharing her testimony, leading women to walk as true Daughters of the King! The cost is $230 per person and reservations are required, as space is limited. For more information, please call Angela Rizzo at (516) 763-1739

There are still available 6:45am, 8:30am and 8pm Masses open for the month of February.

If you would like to have a Mass intention for a loved one living or deceased,

please stop by the rectory office.

Bingo Help Desperately

Needed!!

Each week the Parish relies heav-ily on the proceeds from Bingo to

meet its financial obligations.

A small number of dedicated people volunteer each week to operate Bingo for the Parish.

In recent months this group is shrinking in size and there has become a great need for volunteers to help with this

very important function within our Parish.

Bingo is held weekly on Tuesdays. If you can help with we would be grateful for your sacrifice and you would be doing a great service

for your Parish.

Please call the Rectory if you are interested at (516) 541-3270

Healing Mass February 27th, 2014, Thursday @ 7:30pm

at St. Francis of Assisi Church, 29 Clay Pitts Road, Greenlawn, NY 11740

Bus Trip to the Sands Casino in PA Hosted by the Catholic Daughters of the America’s,

#869

When: Monday, March 10, 2014 Cost: $42 per person, which includes the driver’s tip Give back: $30 slot play and $5 food voucher Time: Bus leaves at 9am sharp. Please arrive at 8:30 am Return approx. 8:30pm Place: We will meet in Cantiague Park near the miniature golf course Reservations: call Barbara at (516) 935-5576 **The first to pay is the first on the bus, etc.** All profit will benefit our charities and scholarship fund