Marriage Reality Check

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Relationships

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FAIRY TALE

Once upon a time …

We will live happily ever after.

Land of Make Believe

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FAIRY TALE

Marriage is a life long commitment, a covenant, a relationship built on love that consists of good times and not so good times. It requires work. It demands the help of God to succeed.

Too often marriages are based on unreal expectations. Marriage is not all gum drops and teddy bears, it’s bills and vows.

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Magic Mirror

Magic MarriagePredict the future

Answers questions

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MAGIC MIRROR

If only it was that easy – just ask the mirror.It takes time for a relationship to grow.Discernment is needed to make such an important decision.

Why marriage? Do you have another agenda? Is it for some selfish goal or reason?Marry the one you love, don’t be a gold digger.

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SHREK: For your information, there's a lot more to ogres than people think. DONKEY: Example? SHREK: Example? Okay. Uh... ogres are like onions.

DONKEY: They stink? SHREK: Yes. No!

DONKEY: Oh, they make you cry? SHREK: No!

SHREK: No! Layers! Onions have layers. Ogres have layers. Onions have layers. You get it? We both have layers.

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ONIONS/LAYERS

Too often relationships remain superficial.

Physical attraction becomes too important.

People have layers that you have to discover.TRUST develops and our layers are revealed.

Time is necessary to truly get to know one another.

VALUES – INTERESTS - PERSONALITY

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SHREK: Wake up! FIONA: What!?

FIONA: I am. Awaiting a knight so bold as to rescue me. SHREK: Aw, that's nice. Now let's go!

FIONA: But wait, Sir Knight. This be art our first meeting. Shouldn't it not be a wonderful, romantic moment?

FIONA: The battle is won. You may remove your helmet, good Sir Knight. SHREK: Uh... no. FIONA: Why not? SHREK: I... I have helmet

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First Kiss

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FIRST KISS

Two people can spend time together and even have a good time and yet have very different expectations.

REALITY CHECK:Communication is needed. What do each of you think about …

Review the questions:

Being Ready to Marry

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FIONA: You're... you're a - an ogre.

SHREK: Oh, you were expecting …

Prince Charming!

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PRINCE CHARMING

NOT!

What happens when the honeymoon ends?What happens when the first serious conflict occurs?What happens when children come or when they don’t come?

REALITY CHECK: Is it too late?

civil divorce annulment

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DONKEY: Man, that ain't nothing but a bunch of little dots. SHREK: You know, donkey, sometimes things are more than they appear. Mmm? Forget it.

SEEING

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SEEING

When you are so infatuated with someone – sometime you just can’t see what is very clear.

Sometimes we only see what we want to see.

REALITY CHECK:Sometimes it just isn’t the time or the person.

Careful discernment is necessary.

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SECRETS

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SECRETS

Once we are married …

What are we hiding?

Fear of disagreeing …

REALITY CHECK:To tell or not to tell?

Why aren’t you telling?Take donkey’s advice …

The Fallen Domino

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SHREK: Oh yah? Well if I treated you so bad, how come you came back? DONKEY: Because that's what friends do! They forgive each other!

Forgiveness

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FORGIVENESS

We are sooo in love.

Love means never having to say you are sorry.

REALITY CHECK:Being willing to admit you are wrong is a key to a

successful marriage.

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THE END

REALITY CHECK:A well prepared marriage will be a long-lasting marriage.

Be FRIENDS first.

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