Marriage Issues Don’tHappen Suddenly

A successful marriage is awatchful one.

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A country singing star once commented that itjust took him 20 years to become an overnight

success. He probably didn’t even recognizethe process himself but each song, each

concert, took him one step closer to stardom.

Each public appearance garnered him a fewmore fans until they numbered in the

thousands. Suddenly he was a star who someconsidered an overnight success. They failed

to recognize the long road traveled and thealmost imperceptible changes in the artist that

made him better and better.

Marriage can become an overnight successtoo but it may take you 20 years or more tobelieve it. The failure of marriage can also

happen suddenly because you didn’trecognize the signs of trouble day after day.

Marriage issues creep into our lives and can gounnoticed for years while eating away at love’s

foundation. Some issues can cause biggerproblems than others.

Alcoholism is an issue that can slowly alter amarriage until it leads to separation or divorce.

The drinking issue resulted in only a minorargument when your spouse had one too

many at a party but the problem grew.

Soon, they wouldn’t stop with one or twodrinks, it was several drinks every day. Drinkingcontinues until they begin to pass out and haveno idea how they got home. Slowly you notice

the beginning of binge drinking and thepromises made but not kept.

They’re probably drinking at work where youwon’t notice. Too much drinking often leads to

abuse and violence. Then it’s easier to spot. Alcoholics are married to the bottle not to you. You wish you would have been aware of the

problem sooner, when there was hope.

A controlled relationship is also an issue thancan grow slowly. This is where one personbegins to feel manipulated or intimidated. Control is increased little by little and gets

faster when the controller meets no resistance.

You failed to notice it at first and many timesyou figure it’s best to allow the control to keeppeace and avoid a confrontation. Be aware ofthe controller’s low self esteem and feelings

of inadequacy.

Refuse to become timid and passive or overtime it could lead to more power and abuse. Just say no and mean it when you say you’renot going to change your mind. If there is nochange then know the controller loves powermore than you and you may have to terminate

the relationship.

Trust can dwindle over the years and gounnoticed because it’s an issue you don’t want

to admit. If you can’t trust your spouse, thenwho can you trust?

Again watch for consistent broken promisesthat become more frequent while your trustturns into mistrust. You feel you can forgive

only so much and so long. A marriage withouttrust is difficult to heal and continue.

There are many more issues that can slowlyinfect a marriage and when you finally become

aware of them it’s as if they unexpectedlymaterialize. A successful marriage is a

watchful one.

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