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Transcript of Making it Work: Strategies to Manage the Crazy Makers in the Workplace
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Making it WorkStrategies to Manage the Crazy Makers
in the Workplace
ATD – LA ChapterSeptember 18, 2014
Cynthia Clay
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• Based in Seattle, Washington• Virtual staff in Washington, D.C., Virginia, and
New Hampshire• Clients include ConocoPhillips, Novartis,
Genentech, Navy Federal Credit Union, Ontario Lottery & Gaming, Providence Health & Services, and the US Government Accountability Office
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Published by Wiley
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Background
• 47.3% say they are satisfied with their jobs (down from 61.1% in 1987)
• Since 2006, satisfaction has remained below 50%
Source: TNS Market Research survey (2012), reported by The Conference Board
Conclusion: employee satisfaction has declined significantly over the past 20 years.
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Strained Relationship
60 – 80% of organizational difficulties are tied to strained relationships.
Source: Daniel Dana, Managing Disagreements
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Impact on Teamwork
85% of US employees surveyed experienced conflict at work.
Source: CPP Global, Human Capital Report (2008)
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Impact on Teamwork
76% went out of their way to avoid the colleague with whom they were in disagreement.
Source: CPP Global, Human Capital Report (2008)
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Presence of Conflict
36% of US employees deal with conflict always or frequently.
Source: CPP Global, Human Capital Report (2008)
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Effects of Conflict
Individual
Marketplace
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Chronic Conflict
“Chronic unresolved conflict acts as a decisive factor in at least 50% of departures.”
Source: Daniel Dana
The Dana Measure of Financial Cost of Organizational Conflict
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Effects of ConflictIndividual
• Reduced productivity• Cost to mediate conflict• Cost to terminate• Unable to retain talent• Cost to recruit replacement• Cost to train replacement
Marketplace
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NetSpeed Survey
• 62% left a job in the past, at least partially because of a difficult relationship with a coworker
• 30% reported a difficult coworker currently frustrated them
• 1/5 (of 30%) stated that a difficult coworker was their boss
Source: NetSpeed Learning Solutions survey (2008)
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Question
How many hours per week, on average, do US employees spend dealing with conflict at work?
< 1 hour
1.2 hours
2.8 hours
3.5 hours
> 4 hours
Source: CPP Global, Human Capital Report (2008)
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Hours Per Week
• US: 2.8 hours each week (18 days per year)• World: 2.1 hours each week (13 days per year)
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Conflict in Days
In the US, an estimated 385 million working days is spent on unproductive conflict.
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Effects of Conflict
Individual
• Lower team morale• Reduced productivity• Increased supervision• Reduced management
credibility• Less collaboration• Missed opportunities
Marketplace
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Question
What is the annual cost in paid hours of the time spent dealing with conflict?
$103 billion
$252 billion
$359 billion
$524 billion
Source: CPP Global, Human Capital Report (2008)
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Annual Cost in the US
$359 Billion
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Effects of ConflictIndividual
• Lost clients or customers• Reduced revenue• Reduced retention of
managers• Cost of time spent in
conflict• Culture of mistrust
Marketplace
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Effects of Conflict
Individual
• Poor reputation• Negative social media• Inability to compete• Customer defections
Marketplace
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Results
Impact Percentage
Personal insults or attacks 27%
Sickness/absence 25%
Cross-department conflict 18%
Bullying 18%
People left the organization 18%
People were fired 16%
Employees were moved to different departments
13%
Project failure 9%
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Conclusions
• 25 – 40% of a manager’s time is spent resolving conflict.
• Largest reducible cost in many businesses.
• Training demonstrably increases skills and confidence.
• ROI =10 times the cost of training.
Source: Raytheon Corporation
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Challenging Coworker
Have you ever worked with a challenging coworker (a peer)?
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Challenging Boss
Have you ever worked with a challenging boss?
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About You
1. What happens to me at work is usually not related to my own behavior.
2. I try to be open about my thoughts and feelings.
3. I find gossip to be a great stress reliever.
4. I reach out to someone I may have offended.
5. I take people at face value.
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About You
1. What happens to me at work is usually not related to my own behavior.
If you agree with this statement, you may often feel victimized by others’ actions. We invite you to consider the many ways your behavior may be helping or hindering the situation.
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About You
Take the Questionnaire: About You www.netspeedlearning.com
http://tinyurl.com/4rg85uz
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About ThemDoes your boss or coworker?
1. Tease you about your mistakes or weaknesses
2. Appear friendly to your face yet criticize you often behind your back
3. Hold staff meetings infrequently or without planning
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About Them
4. Flatter you or act unusually sweet
5. Break commitments or not fulfill tasks you need
6. Make demands that you ignore procedures to meet his/her needs
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About Them
Take the Questionnaire: About Them at www.netspeedlearning.com
http://tinyurl.com/4uofy2w
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Pairs Discussion
What unproductive behavior do you find most annoying or most challenging?
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Four Principles
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Going Head-to-HeadAttempting to meet your needs while preventing others from meeting their needs
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CompromisingAttempting to meetyour needs partiallywhile meeting others’ needs partially
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Caring-for-SelfAttempting unilaterally to meet your needs by limiting the impact of others’ behavior without affecting their needs
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CoachingWith permission, attempting to help another solve a problem or develop skills so the other person gets better results
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CollaboratingJointly attempting tomeet fully the needs of all parties
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Challenging Coworkers
The Attacker
The colleague who repeatedly expresses anger and frustration in the form of inappropriate personal criticism.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Whiner
That coworker who complainswithout taking responsibilityfor improving conditions thatsurround him/her.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Scene Stealer
The peer who sets about building her reputation at your expense.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Drive-by Boss
A leader who ignores some of her key management responsibilities and doesn’t meet the needs of employees or the organization.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Manipulator
The coworker who attempts to influence your attitude or behavior through deception or secrecy.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Clueless Colleague
A coworker who is insensitive to her negative impact on the work environment.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Faux-Smart Boss
The boss who has unrealistic confidence in his own ideas and skills, often accompanied by a lack of confidence in his employees.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Slacker
The coworker whose poor performance damages your performance.
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Challenging Coworkers
The Bully
A colleague who uses unreasonable demands and inappropriate threats to get her way.
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Table Discussion
Which of these nine challenging coworkers have you experienced personally?
Which one of these nine challenging coworkers is the most difficult for you?
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Challenging Coworkers
The Manipulator
The coworker who attempts to influence your attitude or behavior through deception or secrecy.
Open Communicator
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The Manipulator
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Clues
• Offers unusual favors, gifts or flattery
• Appeals to your sense of guilt• Deceives you• Presents only positive reasons
(no negatives)
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Clues
• Misrepresents or excludes data• Whispers in your ear• Asks a leading question or
pretends to ask for input• Tells stories that are inconsistent
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Helpful Assumptions
• They fear the consequences of telling the truth.• They have learned to exercise power indirectly.• It’s a coping strategy used when people feel
powerless.• You have probably manipulated
others, too.• You have a right to take care
of yourself.• Manipulators usually have
many strengths.
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Take Responsibility
How might you “take responsibility” for this situation?
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Take Responsibility
• Be responsible for your own experience. Be aware of your own hooks.
• Do your homework. • Become someone who can’t be
manipulated.• Communicate and set
ground rules.
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Extend Respect
How would you “extend respect” in this situation?
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Extend Respect• Avoid rescuing behavior.• Use good listening and questioning skills to
encourage openness.• Pay attention to your gut/intuition.
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CollaboratingJointly attempting tomeet fully the needsof all parties
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Handling Flattery
Role Play
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Chat Feedback
What did I do torespond effectivelyto the attempt tomanipulate me?
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Collaborating Strategy
• Call her on a lie without calling her a liar. • Don’t do what she wants unless you want to.• Allow her to vent when you refuse.• Acknowledge her praise. • Probe to uncover her needs. • Use statements like, “I need more information”
or “I need to hear the opposing view.”• Jointly come up with alternatives.
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Plan B
• Don’t strike back or give in• Don’t embarrass the manipulator in front of
others• Don’t resort to manipulating yourself• Don’t placate or feel guilty for not complying• Move to Compromising• Try Caring-for-Self (e.g. avoid the person)
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Challenging Coworkers
The Attacker
The colleague who repeatedly expresses anger and frustration in the form of inappropriate personal criticism.
Constructive Critic
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Attacker Story
When Maggie was presenting a proposal to the sales support team, her coworker, Ernesto, sighed repeatedly. At one point, she saw him roll his eyes and mumble something out of the corner of his mouth to his buddy, Tom.
Maggie felt uncomfortable but she was uncertain how to respond. At the end of her presentation, Ernesto said under his breath, “Is she serious?”
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Attacker Analysis
1. What clues tell you this may be an attacker?
2. What needs might the attacker have?
3. What helpful assumptions could you make?
4. What Principles and Practices seem most relevant in this situation?
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Take Responsibility
• Look at your own contribution• Communicate to prevent
attacks• Anticipate frustrations
(model handling them)• Respect your own needs
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Build Relationships
• Network to get to know people• Get input from others before making decisions• Seek shared solutions• Show compassion and empathy• Acknowledge good results to build self-esteem
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Strategy for an Attacker
Which strategy makes the most sense with an attacker?
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CollaboratingJointly attempting tomeet fully the needs of all parties
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Collaborating
How would you collaborate with the attacker in this scenario?
What actions might you take?
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Collaborating
• Breathe• Allow venting; don’t rebut• Paraphrase neutrally• Acknowledge his caring about the issue• Apologize for mistakes• Ask to explain your point of view• Request to meet privately• Ask if he is upset with you
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Final Thought
“It’s more important than ever to supply your workers with new tools, training, and techniques to help maintain a positive and engaging work environment that leads to higher productivity and strong business results.”
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