“Loving You”Song of Songs 6-8

Questions and AnswersHOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY?

You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports and she should keep the chips and dip coming. Alan, age 10

Questions and AnswersHOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE

ARE MARRIED? You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids. Derrick, age 8

Questions and AnswersWHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD

HAVE IN COMMON?

Both don't want any more kids. Lori, age 8

Questions and AnswersWHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?

Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough. Lynnette, age 8

Questions and AnswersIS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?

It is better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them. Anita, age 9

Questions and AnswersHOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?

Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like a dump truck.Ricky, age 10

Question

Do you know your spouse’s top emotional needs?

Her NeedsWhere has your beloved gone,most beautiful of women?Which way did your beloved turn,that we may look for him with you? Song of Songs 6:1

Her NeedsMy beloved has gone down to his garden, to the beds of spices,to browse in the gardens and to gather lilies.

Her NeedsI am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he browses among the lilies. Song of Songs 6:2-3

Quality Time

Her Needs“When I sit with my wife and give her twenty minutes of my undivided attention…we are giving each other twenty minutes of life. We will never have those twenty minutes again; we are giving our lives to each other.” Gary Chapman

Her Needs

How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince’s daughter!Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of an artist’s hands.Your navel is a rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine.

Her Needs

Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies. Song of Songs 7:1-2

Words of affection

Her Needs

I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10

Emotional Security

Her Needs“To feel secure, the wife must trust her husband to give accurate information about his past, the present and the future. What has he done? What is he thinking or doing right now? What plans does he have? If she can’t trust the signals he sends, she has no foundation in which to build a solid relationship.” Willard F. Harley, Jr.

His NeedsCome, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages.Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded,

His Needsif their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom…Song of Songs 7:11-12a

Recreational CompanionshipRecreational Enjoyment Inventory http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forms/rei.pdf

His NeedsAh, I hear my lover coming! He is leaping over the mountains, bounding over the hills.My lover is like a swift gazelle or a young stag. Song of Songs 2:8-9

Admiration

His Needs“A woman needs to appreciate her husband for what he already is, not for what he could become if he lived up to her standards.” Willard F. Harley, Jr.

His Needs…there I will give you my love.The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy,both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:11-13

Sexual intimacy

His Needs“The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s deep need for sex any more than the typical husband understands his wife’s deep need for affection.” Willard F. Harley, Jr.

The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:4In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time…1 Corinthians 7:4-5a

Quality TimeWords of affectionEmotional SecurityRecreational companionshipAdmirationSexual intimacy

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Concluding thoughts