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n There are times when we There are times when we are timid and shy about are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel. expressing the love we feel. For fear of embarrassing the For fear of embarrassing the other person, or yourselves, other person, or yourselves, we hesitate to say the actual we hesitate to say the actual words “I love you”words “I love you”

n So we try to So we try to communicate the communicate the idea in other words. idea in other words. We say ‘take care’ We say ‘take care’ or ‘don’t drive too or ‘don’t drive too fast’ or ‘be good’. fast’ or ‘be good’. But really, these are But really, these are just other ways of just other ways of sayingsaying

n ‘‘I love you’, ‘you are I love you’, ‘you are important to me’, ‘I care important to me’, ‘I care what happens to you’, ‘I what happens to you’, ‘I don’t want you to get don’t want you to get hurt’.hurt’.

n We are sometimes very We are sometimes very strange people. The only strange people. The only thing we want to say, thing we want to say, and the one thing that and the one thing that we should say, is the we should say, is the one thing we don’t say.one thing we don’t say.

n And yet, because And yet, because the feeling is so the feeling is so real, and the need to real, and the need to say it is so strong, say it is so strong, we are driven to use we are driven to use other words and other words and sign to say what we sign to say what we really mean.really mean.

n And many times And many times the meaning never the meaning never gets gets communicated at communicated at all and the other all and the other person is left person is left feeling unloved feeling unloved and unwanted.and unwanted.

n Therefore, we have to Therefore, we have to LISTEN FOR LOVE in LISTEN FOR LOVE in the other words that the other words that people are saying to people are saying to us. Sometimes the us. Sometimes the explicit words are explicit words are necessary, but more necessary, but more often, the manner of often, the manner of saying things is even saying things is even more important.more important.

n A joyous insult carries A joyous insult carries the affection and love the affection and love within the sentiments that within the sentiments that are expressed are expressed insincerely.insincerely.

n An impulsive hug says I An impulsive hug says I LOVE YOU even though LOVE YOU even though the words might be the words might be saying very different. Any saying very different. Any expression of a person’s expression of a person’s concern for another says concern for another says I love you. I love you.

n Sometimes the Sometimes the expression is clumsy, expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel.sometimes even cruel.

n Sometimes we must Sometimes we must look and listen very look and listen very intently for the love intently for the love that contains. But it is that contains. But it is often there, beneath often there, beneath the surface.the surface.

n A mother may nag her A mother may nag her daughter constantly about daughter constantly about his grades or cleaning his his grades or cleaning his room. The daughter may room. The daughter may hear only the nagging, but if hear only the nagging, but if she listens carefully, she she listens carefully, she will hear the lovewill hear the love

n underneath the underneath the nagging. Her mother nagging. Her mother wants him to do well, wants him to do well, to be successful. to be successful.

n Her concern and love Her concern and love for her daughter for her daughter unfortunately emerge unfortunately emerge in her nagging. But it is in her nagging. But it is love all the same.love all the same.

n A son comes home late, A son comes home late, way past curfew, and his way past curfew, and his father confronts him with father confronts him with angry words. The son may angry words. The son may hear only the anger, but if hear only the anger, but if he listenscarefully, he will he listenscarefully, he will hear the love under the hear the love under the anger. “I was worried anger. “I was worried about you,” the father is about you,” the father is saying. saying.

n ““Because I care Because I care about you and I about you and I love you. You are love you. You are important to me.”important to me.”

n We say I love you in We say I love you in many ways – with many ways – with birthday gifts, and little birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and notes, with smiles and sometimes with tears. sometimes with tears.

n Sometimes we show our Sometimes we show our love by just keeping love by just keeping quiet and not saying a quiet and not saying a word, at other times by word, at other times by speaking out, even speaking out, even brusquely.brusquely.

n We show our love We show our love sometimes by sometimes by impulsiveness. Many impulsiveness. Many times we have to showtimes we have to show

n our love by forgiving our love by forgiving someone who has not someone who has not listened to the love we listened to the love we have tried to express.have tried to express.

n The problem in The problem in listening for love is that listening for love is that we don’t always we don’t always understand the understand the language of love with language of love with which the other person which the other person is using. is using.

n A girl may use tears or A girl may use tears or emotions to say what emotions to say what she wants to say, and she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not her boyfriend may not understand her because understand her because he expects her to be he expects her to be talking his language. talking his language. Thus, we have to force Thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen ourselves to really listen for love.for love.

n The problem with our The problem with our world is that peopleworld is that people

n rarely listen to each rarely listen to each other. They hear the other. They hear the words, but they don’t words, but they don’t listen to the actions listen to the actions that accompany the that accompany the words or the words or the expression on the face. expression on the face. Or people listen only Or people listen only for rejection orfor rejection or

n misunderstanding. misunderstanding. They do not see theThey do not see the

n love that is there just beneath the love that is there just beneath the surface, even if the words surface, even if the words are angry. are angry.

n We have to listen for love in those We have to listen for love in those around us. If we listen intently we around us. If we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot will discover that we are a lot more loved than we realize.more loved than we realize.

n Listen for love and we will find Listen for love and we will find that the world is a very loving that the world is a very loving place.place.

n After all ………….After all ………….

n Love is a happy thingLove is a happy thing

n It makes us loveIt makes us love

n It makes us sing.It makes us sing.

n It makes us sad.It makes us sad.

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n It makes us cry.It makes us cry.

n It makes us seek the It makes us seek the reason why.reason why.

n It makes us take.It makes us take.

n It makes us give.It makes us give.

n Above all else Above all else ………….………….

n It makes us LIVE.It makes us LIVE.

n Thank you!Thank you!n Warm greeting from Warm greeting from

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