Look Within or Do Without

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Synopsis On

Look within or do without

Written By-Tom Bay

Submitted By:Manas

R.Pradhan (M2-22)Niharika Singh

(M2-32)

Sandeep Davis(M2-45)


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About The Author

Tom Bay is an immensely popularmotivational speaker who hasaddressed hundreds of groups in theareas of sales, personality profile, teambuilding and employee morale. He is


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the author of the successful CareerPress motivational guide CHANGE YOUR

ATTITUDE.

About The Book

Look Within or DoWithout is an easy-to-read, motivationalbook that guidesreaders to discover

the changes theyneed to make withinthemselves. Changesthat will make themmore disciplined,more focused, and

more spiritual. Moreable to identify theirpersonal definition ofsuccess and makethat vision a reality


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Contents

Introduction Discipline

Self

Confidence Persistent

Progressive


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Look within or DoWithout

According to the author we are bornlooking out when we should lookwithin. He says that if you dont lookwithin yourself then you will look


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without. Which means that the valueof each persons life comes from

within that person only, not fromoutside.

1.Discipline

Discipline means defining success foryourself. If you believe someone else


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can define success for you then youneed to think again.

The traits of discipline and re-evaluated your definition of success.Being disciplined means that your in-charge of your life.Example- Many a times it is easy toyield control to a bottle of pills, abottle of six pack, tobacco, food,emotion, blackmail, social status,traumatic memories and fear of

failure-the list is endless yet it allbails down to only one question thathow you are in-charge of your lifeand if you cannot give the answerwith confidence I AM than we must

you need to develop your discipline.


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2. Self Confident

According to a psychologistNATHAIEL BRANDEN self confident isthe ability to think and cope up withthe challenges of daily life. And

according to Walmart founder SAMWALTON self confident is even moreimportant in business.

Self confidence is a belief in yoursel

and your abilities, a mental attitudeof trusting or relying on yourself.Confidence is sometimes equatedwith freedom from doubt; however

when confidence is needed is usuallywhen the outcome is uncertain, sothat true confidence is actually aboutfeeling comfortable with uncertainty


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and not knowing what the outcomewill be.

3. Persistent


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4. Progressive

Progressive means looking within &resolving to go all out to do yourbest. It has nothing to do withperfection. It simply means decidingwhich thing in your life is so

important that they deserve yourbest effort.

Trying to make progress in all


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DECISIVEIn 1908 William hoover realized that before long automobiles would destroy hiss business of making leatheraccessories for horsedrawn carriage , so he strated the Eletric Suction Sweeper Company.

In 1980 Sony began disturbing the Walik man because Akito mortia noticed that young people like to listen t

music where they went. Mortio decided that no market research needed because the public does not know

what is possible. We do.Each of these people made one basic decision that required hundered of other decision down the road. By

being decisive each created a niche for something new.

Now some charateristics of decisive people, the steps in making a decision and the fear that prevent peoplefrom making any decision.

Decide to be decisive:Decisive people are flexible and take the initiative, they are oriented toward action, achievement and results

For example: If a friend or relative has durgs or alcohol problem, we have two choices: organizing an

intervention to make the friend or relative face facts and get treatment, or accepting things as they are andhoping for the best . The first choice could mean temporary alienation or complete loss of friendship. The

second choice could mean attending a friends or relatives funeral. A decisive person who valuses friendship

would begin organizing; an indecisive person would wait and see.

Steps to making decision:Unlike a 2 year old who has just learned to say no, most of us have to work on aquirring such decisiveness

later in life.

Following are to speed up our decisions:

1. Determine your objectives.2. Consider the worst that can happen as a result of your decision. Can we accept the worst.

3. Take time to examine all the angels.

4. When you come to an impasse, ask your self how someone you admire would handle the decision.5. Ask for advice from someone who had made similar decisions.


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After made the decision dont second gucess yourself.

Facts Destorys Deciciveness:At sometime or other each of us has worried, What if I make wrong decision? The next time you question

your decision making ability. Fear literally freezes our minds and body, we feel our muscles tighten up.Psychologist comments that when our body feels tight,our brain often freezes right along with our body, so

our thinking becomes limited as well.

Fear of failure

Most often, fear of failure doesnot cause you to make the wrong decision. Remember that a lot of people

fail and live to tell about it. Thomas Edison failed thousand times , but we remember him for his successes,

such as light bulb and phonograph. Fear of failure causes us to distrust our ability to think, learn, and makedecision.

Fear of selfSome people fear making decision outside their area of expertise. Feeling one-dimensional, they paste a

good at only one thing label themselves, completely ignoring the varied ability they have and their ability

learn and grow. Such narrow thinking makes a computer whiz incapable of deciding on a vacation

destination.

Fear of looking foolishDecision-makers are allowed to look foolish, to stop being overly serious about life, and to make a little time

to play. Albert Einstein wrote that the freedom to play with ideas and concepts is a vital source of creativity.

If Einstein didnt mind looking foolish then who are we to feel self conscious?

Fear of unknownFear of being intimidated by uncertain results keeps people from making marvelous discoveries. Theunknown is simply something that you have not learned about yet , that in itself is neither good nor bad, just

unknown. As I always remind people , if u have one foot on the dock and other on the boat, your are notgoing anywhere. The only way to get somewhere is to decisively paddle out into the unknown.

Fear of changeJust because something is familiar does not mean it cannot be improved on.


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FOCUSED

When Stefanie Spiel man learned that she had breast cancer, her husband had to choose between his two

obsessions-football and family. That decision turned out to be a non-brainer;four time Pro Bowl linebackerChris Spiel man opted to sit out for the 1998 season to take care for his wife and family. Known for his hard

worker who played with determination, Spielman focused his winning spirit on helping his wife recovery.

During the recovery he frequently spoke to womans group about the importance of havin breast exam. He

also raised money for the breast cancer research. Once his wife was recovered than he returned to the game.

During a preseason game , for the first time in his life he was helped off the field. For several second he was

not able to move his arms or legs due to neck injury. Once again he had to choose between being healthy fir

his family and the incurring paralysis due to injuries while playing the game he loved. Here again he choosehis family.

From this we can say that he valued as a husband , a father, a family man; he also values being successful

whatever he does. In this we look at focusing on value based priorities , ways to determine your priorities an

successful people like Chris who focuse on what is importance to them.

Identify Your Values

By looking within we can identify which values are really meaningful to us, then we can set our priorities toachieves those values. At some point , people who havent identified their values are forced to do so by crisi

trauma, or catastrophe that brings them up short and makes them decide what they truly value.

Focus On Your Value-based Priorities


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Priorities are part dream, part struggle, part expectation and a part discipline. Dreams are the most motivatin

part of all priorities. The dream causes us to expect whatever we desire when we look within; even when our

dreams changes through the year, our expectations remains strong. The struggle results from our knowledgethat we must work to achieve our dream; and discipline causes us to focus on keeping our valued based

priorities on track each day.

Choose Reasonable Priorities

Deciding on specific priorities can be impossible if we expect to be perfect, or to set priorities based onothers values. Also , we may find it hard to give up something to change or take a chance. Our priorities

changes so our value changes , reviewing our values and reassessing our priorities becomes constant

ongoing way to focus on success.

VISIONARY

1. Being Courageous, Fearless, And Bold Fullfill your Vision

Take risk Willingly

Risking conviction

2. Taking RiskVisionary make decision that have an uncertain potential for gain or loss ; only rarely is the probability o

gain or loss conclusive. The potential gains include money , health , power, respect, prestige, and positivrelationship. The losses include the possibility of injury , liability , embarrassment and wasted resourses.

If we want to be a visionary then we have to take risk. Whether we are comfortable in taking risk all

depends on our personal experience, the culture of our family and work place. We should remember that

fear is simply a fantasy event appearing real.

3. Take Challenging, Calculated RiskVisionary choose calculated risks that contain a good possibility of success.


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LUCKY

1. Be Prepared For Luck

Luck is any force or circumstance that brings us good fortune. We can define luck as an opportunity

meeting preparedness. Think about that and you will realize why I am certain that we each create our owluck.

PREPAREDNESS + OPPURTINITY= LUCK

2. Adopt A Lucky AttitudeAnticipating luck is very important because people who think they are lucky tend to take more risk, thisincreases their chances of success. Take for instance two real estate sales people one who feels lucky an

another who feels unlucky. In determining their advertising budget, the unlucky salesperson may factor i

that she is unlucky and budget less money because real estate is very hard to sell right now. The lucky

salesperson may increase his advertising budget because the market has been depressed and he wants toattracts buyers and sellers. This sales strategy has worked very well for him in the past and besides lucks

on his side.


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EXCELS

1. Pursue ExcellenceThis quote from Vince Lombardi , legendary coach of the Green Bay Packers , say : As far as excellenis concerned , we can never be perfect , but in our striving for perfection , we will achieve excellence.

Note that Lomdardi emphasizes the possible and not impossible. A person who excel can make

incremental improvement in the quality of a product , service , or relation . the process of excelling is anall-out effort to do the absolute , no holds barred best that you can.

2. Making Excellence A Personal ValueBefore attempting to create a desire for excellence in other wise , we need to learn how truth ,goodness

beauty, and unity can create a foundation for excellence within ourselves.

Truth

Goodness

Beauty

Unity

ENTHUSIASTIC


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Enthusiastic people become successful,while those

lacking enthusiasm go no where and are miserable.Herb

Ashley defines enthusisasm as the ingredient that

provides the spark in the life the extinguisher of

fear,suspicion,and doubt of others and of self.

Enthusiasm defines self acceptance,self awareness and

self -discipline, it helps people become themselves

without having to apologies to anybody,thereby

generating a personal harmony with oneself.

Enthusiasm encourages individuals

to aim high and aim again if they miss. Enthusiasticpeople always see a broader picture full of opportunit

and intriguing possibilities. Enthusiastic people have

greater peace of mind, higher self esteem, a stronger

sense of wellbeing, better physical health and increas

success at work. People who have a positive mental

outlook have a distinct edge in life over others who r

less enthusiastic.

LEARNED BEHAVIOURSome researchers believe enthusiasm is learned

behaviour that parents either encourage or discourage

during childhood. Some people seem to be born with a

lot of joy juice i.e higher levels of brain chemical

dopamine.

Attitude and effort are the very

roots of enthusiasm .Enthusiasm is contagious; youcant give it if you dont have it and you cant catch

it if you are not around it.

PURPOSE


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A sense of purpose it what keeps the souls alive; it i

our reason to be. After we look within, the answer com

to us and for the rest of our life we keeps unfolding

as our resolve get stronger and as we dig deeper.People with a sense of purpose are self directed a

characteristic that people with one specific purpose

lack. Self directed people have the following things i

common:

1) As dreamers, they use their dreams to help

themselves stay on track for their purpose.

2) As achievers, they focus on what they do best,

rather than trying to do lots of things minimally well3) As responsible people, they own up to their choices

and are not control by others

4) As people of action, they are undeterred by fear,

uncertainty, and change

5) As people who recognized that, they need our people

they thrive on interdependence.

Improver

To be an improver one should start looking within and

deciding how you can help others.improver are good

corporate citizens as they improve the business and th

world as such.the more you give the more you get

back.There are more than enough volunteer jobs to go

around,so help yourself to one.improving the world is

not something for only the over -50 crowd.when people

think of all volunteers as gray and retired,they are

short changing the younger generation.No matter what your age,consider thes

suggestions when choosing a volunteer position and/or

becoming a regular:

1) choose something you have a passion for and

something you can do


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2) Investigate your communitys needs to see where you

can fit in.

3) Arrange to visit the site or agency and talk with a

volunteer for a realistic description of what going o

there.

SpiritualSpiritual people have a sense of humility;they believe

that a higher power or god is more important than

themselves.spirituality has many facets as a well-cut

diamond.spirituality means orienting ourselves to our

world so that we are in awe,wonder,and amazement at th

splendour of universe.some describe their spiritualityas stressing the unity of all human beings and the

unity of all being.for others,its networking with

god.For still others,it is being aware our connection

to god,the earth,and others.for all of us spirituality

nourishes the flame of the spirit within.

Developing our spiritual natures causes us

to:

1)Serve others by improving their lives and findingbetter ways to communicate with them.

2)Listen with our hearts because we learn by listening

3)Cheerlead to help others experience lifes

delight,joy,and surprise.

4)find the good in others actions.

5)Offer forgiveness by understanding rather than

judging.

6)Build others self esteem.

7)Walk our talk to align actions with our statedbeliefs.

8)Encourage and praise excellence in others.

Conclusion


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Live for nothing and die for something

The only reason for the triumph of evil

is when the good men do nothing

Look Within or Do Without

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