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Listening

Listening makes up 45-53% of our communication.

Writing Speaking Reading

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Hearing

• A physiological activity that occurs when sound waves hit our eardrums

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The Listening Process

Mindfulness

Physical Reception of Communication

Selective Perception of Communication

Organizing Perceived Communication

Interpreting Communication

Responding to Others

Remembering Communication

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Mindful – a Zen Buddhist concept that refers to being fully present in the moment

Eyes

Heart

Chinese character Listening

Ears

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External Obstacles to Effective Listening

• Message Overload – we need to screen the information around us.

• Message Complexity Use extra energy. Take notes. Organize the material.

• Noise--if we can’t eliminate external noise we can reduce it or change our location.

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Internal Obstacles to Effective Listening

• Preoccupation

• Prejudgment

• Lack of effort

• Not recognizing diverse listening styles

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Nonlistening

• Pseudolistening – pretending to listen

• Monopolizing – focusing attention on

yourself rather than the person

speaking

• Selective listening – screening out parts

of messages that you are not interested

in or with which you disagree

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Listening for Pleasure

• The goal is for enjoyment. Being mindful allows us to derive the

full enjoyment from what we hear. Controlling interferences increases

our listening pleasure.

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Listening for Information

• To gain and evaluate information Be mindful. Control obstacles. Ask questions. Use aids to recall.

• Repeat important ideas to yourself.

• Use mnemonics.

• Organize information.

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A technique used to aid memory – take the first letter of a list you are trying to remember and create a word

Mnemonics

HOMES (the five Great Lakes)

Huron, Ontario, Michigan, Erie, Superior

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Listening to Support Others

• Be mindful.• Suspend judgment.• Understand the other person’s

perspective. Paraphrasing is a method of clarifying

others’ meaning by reflecting our interpretations back to them.

Minimal encouragers gently encourage others to elaborate.

• Express support.

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Paraphrase the following statements to reflect both the thoughts and feelings of the person speaking.

1. “I really like communication, but what could I do with a major in this field?”

2. “I don’t know if Pat and I are getting too serious too fast.”

3. “You can borrow my car, if you really need to, but please be careful with it. I can’t afford any repairs and if you have an accident, I won’t be able to drive to D.C. this weekend.”

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Guidelines for Listening

• Being mindful is a choice to be wholly

present in an experience.

• Adapt listening skills and style to

accommodate differences in listening

purpose and individuals.

• Listening is an active process that requires

energy and effort.

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Experiencing Communication in our Lives . . .

View the following video clip and then answer the questions that follow based on material presented in this chapter. A script of the scenario can be found at

the end of Chapter 7.

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1. What forms of ineffective listening are evident in this dialogue?

2. If you could advise Josh’s father on listening effectively, what would you tell him to do differently?

3. Would you offer any advice to Josh on how he could listen to his father more effectively?

You may go to your student CD that accompanies the text to compare your answers to Julia Wood’s.

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