Life Coaching in Agile Thinking

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Agile Coaching? Sure thing! What about Life Coaching in Agile Thinking? REA Group 02/09/2013 | Agile Coaching Circles Meetup Melbourne @realestate_au Victoria Schier @Erdbeervogel Monday, 2 September 13

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My session on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMuX-MILLck My speaker profile: http://lanyrd.com/profile/erdbeervogel/ I love being around awesome people, who build great products customers desire. I love learning from and together with these amazing minds. I love creating the right environment for teams to flourish. I love change, and learning from new experiences. I love working in Agile environments. How about you? I bet there are some elements of this list why you're in Agile, too. And you can probably add even more elements to it. The Agile Manifesto states amongst others individuals and interactions, customer collaboration and responding to change. In our everyday life doing Agile we already respect these aspects in many ways. But do we practice what we preach as best we can? I'd like to challenge your current way of thinking about people and processes. I'd like to challenge you to focus on you, before you focus on others. I'd like to challenge your current way of reflecting. I'd like to inspire you to go different ways. I'd like to inspire you to inspire others. Come along to be inspired by Life Coaching and thus to benefit our Agile Thinking! I've done a 140 seconds session on "What the thinker thinks, the prover proves" this year. This can be a teaser of what you can expect from my session :) http://stoosconnect.nl/videos/victoria-schiffer/

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Agile Coaching? Sure thing! What about Life Coaching in Agile Thinking?

REA Group

02/09/2013 | Agile Coaching Circles Meetup Melbourne

@realestate_auVictoria Schiffer @Erdbeervogel

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“You don’t have to be sick to become better!”

(Michael Josephson)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/tambako/ (Tambako the Jaguar)Monday, 2 September 13

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“The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know!”

“But is there a devil at all on the new road?”

Joseph O’Connor & Andrea Lages

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/tambako/9352616577 (Tambako the Jaguar)

Support

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forwardmove

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goals

“Setting a negative goal is like going shopping with a list of things that you do not want to buy.” Joseph O’Connor

& Andrea Lages

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The only person you should try to be better than, is the person you were yesterday. (Unknown)

You!

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/tmab2003/4277896845/ (TMAB2003)

It’sYou!

aboutMonday, 2 September 13

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Filter

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1stExercise

“Perspectives”

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Beliefs

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“What the thinker thinks, the prover proves!”

(Robert Anton Wilson)

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“Life is 10% How You Make It and 90% How you Take It“ (Irving Berlin)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mabahamo/4751785617 (Manuel Bahamondez H) Choice

AttitudeMonday, 2 September 13

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Pull, not push

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‘But’ is the great eraser.

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EmpoweringLimiting

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Pressure Words

Abstract Words

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need to ought to

failure

relationship

stress

want to

don’t want toChoice

frustration

success

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nobody always

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Beliefs

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/criminalintent/5229017560 (Lars Plougmann)

“Life begins at the end ofyour comfort zone.”

(Neale Donald Walsch, Autor)

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There is a solution to every problem. (NLP Presupposition)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/eriwst/2421129047 (eriwst)

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Anything can be accomplished when the task is taken in small enough chunks.

(NLP Presupposition)

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You cannot not communicate

(NLP Presupposition)

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The Meaning of Your Communication is the response you get

(NLP Presupposition)

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“I didn't fail the test, I just found 100 ways to do it wrong.“

(Benjamin Franklin)

FailureFeedback

is only

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/56380734@N05/5914710795 (Comrade Foot Jens Rost)

Every behaviour has a positive intention.

(NLP Presupposition)

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/laserstars/908946494 (jpctalbot)

“You have not yet reached the limit of what you are capable of.”

Ability

Joseph O’Connor & Andrea Lages

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2nd (Group)Exercise

“Listening”

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Groups of 3

1 observing

controversial issueTalk about

2 chatting

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Get your

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“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” (Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

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silence!courage for

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/mcleod/7004084690 (Scott McLeod)

“Question everything. Learn something. Answer nothing.” (Euripides)

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PowerfulQuestions

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What...? How...? When...?

Why...?

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FreshPerspective

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What If...?Monday, 2 September 13

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Meetings

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Decision

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making

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PerformanceReviews

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Conversationhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/gibbons/1400055656 (Esther Gibbons)

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Difficult Situationshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/31762350@N03/4090808706 (al_bee)

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Different people, great variety

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Learninghttp://www.flickr.com/photos/telachhe/3342173731 (Tela Chhe)

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Success Monday, 2 September 13

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Happy Team

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Steps?

What are you going to do as

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“Triumph is just a little umph added to try.” (Tim Owens)

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disclosed

http://www.flickr.com/photos/kjfnjy/5249145754 (Ken and Nyetta)

“Coaching with NLP: How to be a Master Coach” by Joseph O’Connor, & Andrea Lages www.goodreads.com/book/show/258916.Coaching_with_NLP

TED Talk: “Your body language shapes who you are” by Amy Cuddywww.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html

Manifesto for Agile Software Developmentwww.agilemanifesto.org

What The Thinker Thinks, The Prover Proves - 140 sec session, Stoos Connect NL 2013www.youtube.com/watch?v=K4GLy_zJjcI

“Your Attitude Determines Whether Or Not You’ll Succeed”http://www.businessinsider.com.au/attitude-determines-success-2013-1

“Strengthsfinder 2.0” by Tom Rathhttp://www.goodreads.com/book/show/56454.StrengthsFinder_2_0

Secrets

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Thank you :)Iteration Manager

& Life CoachingStudent

@Erdbeervogel

linkedin.com/in/victoriaschifferGerman for “Strawberry-Bird”, hence the avatar

Victoria Schiffer

02/09/2013 | Agile Coaching Circles Meetup Melbourne

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