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Leadership Coaching

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Leadership Coaching

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Welcome!

COACHING

helps facilitate breakthrough in the lives and development of risk-taking, Kingdom leaders.

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Overview

• Session 1 – Coaching Overview and Active Listening• Session 2 – Determining the Session Outcome and

Expanding Awareness• Session 3 – Hearing the Holy Spirit and Pinpointing the Key

Issue• Session 4 – Developing Action Steps and Empowering the

Coachee to Take Action

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Partnership

“Resourcing and coaching breakthroughs in the lives and

leadership development of risk-taking, Kingdom leaders.”

www.leaderbreakthru.comCoaching – Training – Resources

Terry Walling

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Partnership

“We provide practical leadership training and materials that equip you and your

staff with the art and science of personal and organizational change. Our goal is to enable you to close the gap between your

current and desired results.”

www.activeresults.comKeith E. Webb

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End Results

• I desire greater knowledge, understanding, and/or skill proficiency in the following:

• One area I would like to work on, or talk through, related to me and my development as a leader:

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Why Coaching

Why has leadership coaching become so popular?

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GOOD COACHINGHelps leaders solve problemsand cope when there is just too much.

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GOOD COACHINGHelps re-evaluate plans and solutions.

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GOOD COACHINGHelps you better understand where you are at!

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The Art of DeflectionThe Professional Helper Syndrome

Good coaching helpspeople overcome thetendency to deflectthe help they need.

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Some first Thoughts…

Christian coaching is an ongoing intentional conversation that empowers people to live out God’s call on their lives as individuals and as groups.

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Some first Thoughts…

You do not get to clarity ALONE.• Coaching is about the PERSON. We coach the person… and work the problem.

• Coaching is MINISTRY, not just problem solving.• Coaching is about ACTION, not just reflection.• Coaching bridges the gap between INSIGHTS and NEW BEHAVIOR…

• Coaching is about DISCOVERY… what people discover, they implement.

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Coaching

The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. – Proverbs 20:5 (NIV)

Though good advice lies deep within the heart, a person with understanding will draw it out. – Proverbs 20:5 (NLIV)

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Real-Time Coaching

With a partner, answer the question: How have you experienced coaching (either as a coach or a coachee)? You each have three minutes.

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How well did you listen?

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Terminology Confusion

Pop Quiz• Match term with definition

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Pop Quiz

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• Allows the leader to set the agenda for the discussion. Asks questions to draw out assumptions, motivation, ideas and

answers that are within the leader.

• Possess expertise and shares that resource with another person, providing knowledge, advice, expertise, guidance, and

encouragement in their field of expertise.

• Resourcing specialist who is often paid to assess, diagnose, propose solutions, and problem solve.

• Seeks to uncover emotions and issues from the past that impede growth, closure, or wholeness. Focuses on struggles in

ongoing health.

• Use of similar methods and techniques, yet focuses on issues related to spiritual formation and life.

• Sets the agenda of the discussion through introducing essential components of spiritual growth and self-leadership.

• Dispenses new knowledge and introduces paradigms, controlling the agenda of the interaction.

CONSULTANT

TEACHER

MENTOR

COUNSELOR

COACH

SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR

DISCIPLER

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What about you?

COACH: Allows the leader to set the agenda for the discussion. Asks questions to draw out assumptions, motivation, ideas and answers that are within the leader.

MENTOR: Possesses expertise and shares that resource with another person, providing knowledge, advice, expertise, guidance, and encouragement in their field of expertise.

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Coaching

Coaching stands beside and draws insight out.

Mentoring goes before and places insight

within.

CLARIFYING

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Relating the Terms

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ClientAgenda

HelperAgenda

Asking

Telling

Coaching

Mentoring

Discipling

Teaching

Relating the Terms

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The C.O.A.C.H. Model™

CONNECTING with the leader.

Determining the session OUTCOMES.

Building AWARENESS of the issues and current reality.

Determining the next steps and COURSE of action.

Reviewing the HIGHLIGHTS and key insights of the session.

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CoachingLEADERS

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CONNECTING with the leader.

Goal – Build rapport and trust

Example questions:• How have you been?• How are things going? At work? At

home? At the church?• What insights have you had since

we last met?• In what ways have you sensed the

Holy Spirit speaking to you since our last meeting?

• What progress did you make on the action steps you were going to take?

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CoachingLEADERS

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Determining the session OUTCOMES.

Goal – Find out what the person would like to discuss

Example questions:• What result would you like to take

away from our meeting today?• What would you like to work on?• What would make today’s meeting

successful/helpful for you?

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CoachingLEADERS

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Building AWARENESS of the issues and current reality

Goal – To discover more about the outcome identified in the previous stage

Example questions:• Talk to me about what you’re

presently thinking• What do you see as some of your

major obstacles?• Let’s look at this from a different

perspective: What else could be happening?

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Determining the next steps and COURSE of action

Goal – To capture insights and put them in actionable steps

Example questions:• What actions would you like to take

moving forward?• What options do you think most

address what you would like to achieve?

• Which of these would you like to do? How? When?

• On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being high), how confident are you that you can do this plan?

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Reviewing the HIGHLIGHTS and key insights of the session.

Goal – To give the person an opportunity to share lessons and goals

Example questions:• What would you like to remember

from this time?• What parts of the discussion were

particularly helpful?• What awareness do you have now

that you did not have before?• What are your action steps?

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Listening Expanding

Four

Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding

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Coaching Formats

Coaching Interactions (10-15 minutes)Coaching Conversations (20-30 minutes)Coaching Appointments (45-60 minutes)

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Core Skill – Listening

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Exercise – Pick-a-Card

3 Minutes• Talk about why you picked the card

• What it means?

Partner:• Listen• Don’t talk!

How did it go?

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Listening

• Most leaders are not listeners…

• They are Problem-Solvers

• They typically pre-conclude

• They tell vs. creating discovery

p. 19The 80/20 Rule

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Active Listening

Active listening is being able to hold-off/suspend judgment, and to participate in the process of hearing what the coachee is actually saying.

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FIVE Ways to Listen Better(Empathetic Listening)

Listen with your mindListen with your bodyListen with your wordsListen with your intuitionListen with the Holy Spirit

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Active Listening

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• The Situation

• The Behaviours

• The Emotions

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Shadow Coaching

• The term “shadow” refers to the unconscious beliefs or tendencies common among coaches that are counterproductive to their client’s purpose.

• When coaches become unconsciously fixated on their own assumptions, beliefs or tendencies, they restrict their ability to explore what is present.

• In other words, you coach your own stuff! p. 20

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Three Levels of Listening

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• LEVEL 1: YOU… You are listening but the pre-occupation is really you… not them (INTERNAL)

• LEVEL 2: THEM… You are listening, seeking to hear the issues behind the issues and understand (FOCUSED)

• LEVEL 3: YOU AND THEM … You have entered their world, and together you both are looking at the world and addressing the issues (GLOBAL)

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Active Listening – Listen for Three Voices

• Tell me a little about yourself?

• What’s life been like coming into this conference today?

p. 22Coaching Partners

6 Min. each

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Active Listening – Listen for Three Voices

• How did it go?• What did you learn about them? About yourself and your listening?

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6 Min. each

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Listening for the Back Stories

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• River Stories

• Rut Stories

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Other Ways to Listen Better

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Empathetic Listening• Encourage• Restate• Summarize• Clarify• Acknowledge

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Other Ways to Listen Better

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• How do you know that you’ve listened well?

• Leader feels listened to/understood

• You begin to understand• Together you begin to

surface the real issue(s)