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Page Z1 COMMISSION ON PROFESSIONALISM ▪ OHIO JUDICIAL CENTER ▪ 65 S. FRONT STREET ▪ COLUMBUS, OH 43215 TELEPHONE 614.387.9327 ▪ TOLL FREE 800.826.9010 ▪ FACSIMILE 614.387.9529 www.supremecourtofohio.gov ▪ www.supremecourtofohio.gov/mentoring LAWYER TO LAWYER MENTORING PROGRAM WORKSHEET Z INTRODUCTION TO OFFICE POLITICS Worksheet Z is intended to facilitate a discussion about office politics, including appropriate networking, socializing and personal behaviors. * * * ¾ If mentoring in-house, discuss the type of social climate that exists in the office, including whether staff is expected to be formal or informal with each other, whether there are social functions that the new associates are expected to attend, the types of expenses for which it is appropriate to file an expense report, the personalities of partners, colleagues, and other staff, the appropriate and expected attire at the office and other firm events, etc. ¾ If mentoring in-house, discuss the preferences and expectations of the new lawyer’s supervisor. Share tips that the new lawyer could use to impress his or her supervisor. ¾ Suggest appropriate ways for the new lawyer to socialize and get to know other attorneys and judges in the community. ¾ Discuss the types of social or office behaviors that could be perceived as detrimental for a new lawyer’s career, both with colleagues inside and outside of the new lawyer’s office. ¾ Read and discuss the suggestions in the attached excerpts. KIMM ALAYNE WALTON, WHAT LAW SCHOOL DOESN’T TEACH YOU…BUT YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW (2000). ¾ Explain to the new lawyer each non-lawyer employee’s role in the mentor’s office/firm, including the employee’s title, job duties, and relationship to the new lawyer (if any) if in an in-house mentoring relationship. ¾ Discuss the importance of having support staff on your team and treating them with respect. ¾ Share suggested “do’s and don’ts” of dealing with support staff, colleagues, and those more senior than the new lawyer. ¾ If the new lawyer has an assistant, secretary and/or paralegal, explain the types of task that are appropriate (and inappropriate) to ask each of them to do.
Transcript of LAWYER TO LAWYER MENTORING ROGRAM WORKSHEET Z … · 2009-01-28 · ¾ If mentoring in-house,...
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COMMISSION ON PROFESSIONALISM ▪ OHIO JUDICIAL CENTER ▪ 65 S. FRONT STREET ▪ COLUMBUS, OH 43215 TELEPHONE 614.387.9327 ▪ TOLL FREE 800.826.9010 ▪ FACSIMILE 614.387.9529
www.supremecourtofohio.gov ▪ www.supremecourtofohio.gov/mentoring
LAWYER TO LAWYER MENTORING PROGRAM
WORKSHEET Z INTRODUCTION TO OFFICE POLITICS
Worksheet Z is intended to facilitate a discussion about office politics, including appropriate networking, socializing and personal behaviors.
* * * If mentoring in-house, discuss the type of social climate that exists in the office,
including whether staff is expected to be formal or informal with each other, whether there are social functions that the new associates are expected to attend, the types of expenses for which it is appropriate to file an expense report, the personalities of partners, colleagues, and other staff, the appropriate and expected attire at the office and other firm events, etc.
If mentoring in-house, discuss the preferences and expectations of the new lawyer’s
supervisor. Share tips that the new lawyer could use to impress his or her supervisor.
Suggest appropriate ways for the new lawyer to socialize and get to know other attorneys and judges in the community.
Discuss the types of social or office behaviors that could be perceived as detrimental for a
new lawyer’s career, both with colleagues inside and outside of the new lawyer’s office.
Read and discuss the suggestions in the attached excerpts. KIMM ALAYNE WALTON, WHAT LAW SCHOOL DOESN’T TEACH YOU…BUT YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW (2000).
Explain to the new lawyer each non-lawyer employee’s role in the mentor’s office/firm,
including the employee’s title, job duties, and relationship to the new lawyer (if any) if in an in-house mentoring relationship.
Discuss the importance of having support staff on your team and treating them with
respect.
Share suggested “do’s and don’ts” of dealing with support staff, colleagues, and those more senior than the new lawyer.
If the new lawyer has an assistant, secretary and/or paralegal, explain the types of task
that are appropriate (and inappropriate) to ask each of them to do.
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COMMISSION ON PROFESSIONALISM ▪ OHIO JUDICIAL CENTER ▪ 65 S. FRONT STREET ▪ COLUMBUS, OH 43215 TELEPHONE 614.387.9327 ▪ TOLL FREE 800.826.9010 ▪ FACSIMILE 614.387.9529
www.supremecourtofohio.gov ▪ www.supremecourtofohio.gov/mentoring
Discuss the importance of asking for help before taking action about which you are not sure and of obtaining assistance when you have made a mistake. Give the new lawyer examples of problems you have encountered and tried to solve without help and discuss the consequences that occurred.
If mentoring in-house, discuss the office culture with regard to decision-making and the
new lawyer’s authority to do so.
Talk about how to develop appropriate support systems of persons with whom the lawyer can discuss problems when they arise.
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ange
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ecu
lture
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reth
ere'
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your
self.
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nopoi~t
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cultu
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ther
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fight
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eta
lkin
gab
outw
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we
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abou
t
cultu
re.W
hen
you
thin
kof
the
wor
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ultu
re,"
you
thin
kof
the
rule
ss
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ar:dun
spok
en,b
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hich
asa
tiety
lives
.It's
that
way
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ork,
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gom
gto
dohe
reis
tote
ach
you
how
tofig
ure
outw
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heru
les~e
and
WIth
thos
eto
ols,w~at
you
oUgh
tto
belo
okin
gfo
r.'
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reas
ting
You
rCar
ds"
Unt
ilY
ouK
now
Who
'sW
hoan
dW
hat's
Wha
t.
Unt
ilyo
u've
figur
ed?u
thow
the
offic
ew
orks
,you
've
gott
~tre
adve
ry
care
fully
.Soo
nen
ough
you'
llbe
inth
eSW
ing
ofth
inB
th
.,g
s.
uw:
enyo
ust
art,
you
wan
tto
beve
ryca
utio
usab
oute
very
thin
g.
a.B~'
Y:/Yw
ary
ofpe
ople
who
try
to"t
ake
you
unde
rth
eir
wm
gfr
omm
omen
tone
.'
,
You
'llfin
dat
any
offic
eth
atth
ere
will
bepe
ople
YOU
grav
itate
to
mor
eth
anot
hers
-and
peop
leW
hogr
aVita
teto
you.
And
you'
ll
find
that
!~u're
the
natu
ralo
bjec
tofa
ttent
ion
fory
ours
uper
viso
r;
therecrtn~g
coor
dina
tor
(ifyo
urof
fice
has
one)
,and
peop
lelik
e
~at.
But
ifyo
uno
tice
som
ebod
yC
Om
ing
onst
rong
tobe
your
fn:n
d,tre
adlig
htly
:It's
tem
ptin
gto
fall
into
anim
med
iate
frien
d
ship
whe
nyou
'reat
ast
rang
ene
wpl
ace,
buty
ouca
n'ta
fford
todo
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REA
LIY
NEE
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:...:...
.
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ting
Off
On
The
Righ
tFoo
t•..
Leam
ing
The
Cultu
re8'
Get
ting
Org
anize
d17
5
that
Aw
hole
bunc
hof
peop
leIi
nter
view
edto
ldme
tow
arn
you
abou
tth
is.
Nor
ther
nIll
inoi
s'M
ary
Obr
zut
says
',"~eep,
your
ante
nna
upl
Mar
gare
tMea
dus
edto
say
,th.atwhe~
,sh~~ent
into
new
envi
ronm
ents
,'she
didn
'tpa
yat
tent
ion
totl:
le,fi
rstf
ew'p
eopl
eou
tto
mee
tthe
boat
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ones
wit
hpo
wer
wer
eth
e'on
esst
arid
ing
onth
esh
ore
wat
chin
g.Pe
ople
who
reac
hou
tto
you'~t.inaY,not
have
pow
er."
As
Har
vard
'sM
ark
Web
erpu
tsit,
"Tp.
e~t
p~rson
who
tries
tobe
frie
ndyo
um
aybe
the
jerk
of~e
offic
e."In~tead
ofcl
ingi
ngto
anyo
neas
abu
ddy,
wai
tfir
stto
see
how
othe
rpe
ople
reac
tto
them
.AsM
ark
Web
ersa
ys,"
Wat
chw
hato
ther
,pe~p1.~
say
abou
tthe
m.H
owdo
they
reac
twhe
nth
ispe
rson
'sna
me
com
esup
?Wha
tkin
dof
wor
kdo
they
get?
Do
othe
rpeo
ples~ek
.them
out?
Doe
sth
ispe
rson
spen
dto
om
uch
time
chat
ting,
.pas
sing
'~ong
the
late
st,o
ffic
ego
ssip
,ta
king
long
lunc
hes,
o~·*
hini~g
abou
tth
ings
atw
ork?
You
need
tokn
owho
wcr
edib
lepe
ople
arebe
fore
you
choo
seyo
urfr
iend
sat
the
offic
e."
Haml
u1e1 sVmc~
Tho
nias
adds
,"Y
oudo
n't
know
who
'sim
port
ant
'andwh~~snoi~imd
who
'llst
ayan
dw
how
on't!
You
can
curr
y,fa
vour
wlth
som
e'c)n
e,an
dsi
xm
onth
sla
tery
ou're
atth
eir
fare
wel
llun
ch."
'Ifth
is,so
unds
abi
tco
ld,r
emem
ber:
your
frie
nds
atwo~k
,arey
oUrc
olle
ague
sfir
st,
and
your
frie
nds
seco
nd.Y
ouca
n'ta
ffor
dto'~tilltQff,b~ing
asso
ciat
edin
your
supe
riors
'min
dsw
ith
anyb
ody
who
's'g~t
~'bad
repu
tatio
n.
b.D
on't
esta
blis
ha
pers
ona
for
yo'u
rsel
funti
lyou'V~
got
anid
eao
fth
ela
yo
fth
ela
nd.
Ela
ine
Bou
rne
reco
mm
ends
that
you"W~t~h;
liste
n,.an
d·lea
rnbe
fore
you
inte
rjec
tyo
urse
lfin
tosi
tuat
ions
you
know
noth
ing
abou
t"A
sla
wye
rsat
Wal
ler
Lans
den
advise~
"DQ
n't't
rytq'
be.t
hefu
nnie
stor
the
mos
tcle
vero
rbe
too
visi
ble
early·
OIl.
Layl
owfo
ra
little
whi
le!"
You
wan
tto
find
outw
hatg
o'eso~er
big,at
the
~ffice,
and
wha
tyou
ough
tto
save
fory
our
priv
ate
'life
,u:nt
lr'you
figur
eou
tto
wha
text
enty
ouca
n"b
eyo
urse
lf'at
wor
k.".
',
c.K
eep
yo
ur
opin
ions
toyo
urse
lfuJ
itil
you,
'know
who
myo
uca
ntr
ust,
and
ho
wyo
urst
atem
ents
wil
lgo~yer.
As
Min
neso
ta's
Sue
Gai
nen
says
,"B
ide
your
time.
Find
out
who
'sw
hoan
dw
hat's
wha
tbef
ore
you
open
your
mou
thab
out
anyt
hing
toan
yone
."
2.T
he"H
ow"
part
-th
eto
ols
you
use
tole
arn
the
cult
ure
a.L
iste
nto
wh
atpe
ople
say
wh
enth
ey
don'
tth
ink
they
're
telli
ngyo
u,ru
les.
Ifpe
ople
are
alw
ays
sayi
ng"W
esh
oUld
letJ
oekn
owab
outt
his,
"
or"L
et's
see
wha
tJoe
hasto
say,
"th
atm
eans
:Joe
'sgo
tjui
ce.
b.~
Mia
mi's
Ma
rcy
Cox
reco
mm
ends
,"O
bser
vein
tera
ctio
ns."
See
how
Peop
lede
alw
ith
each
othe
r,w
heth
erth
ey're
form
alor
free
whe
elin
g.,1
feve
rybo
dyat
the
offic
esl
inks
into
wor
kev
ery
day
with
outs
ayin
gan
ythi
ngan
dyo
usa
ilin
toth
eof
fice
ever
yda
yw
ith
asi
ngin
g"G
ood
mo-
o-o-
o-or
ning
!"yo
u're
goin
gto
stan
dou
tin
the
wro
ngw
ay.
(And
you'
repr
obab
lyat
the
wro
ngki
ndof
offic
efo
ryo
urpe
rson
ality
!)So
me
plac
eslo
vepr
actic
aljo
kes
and
silli
ness
.l\s
Hof
stra
'sD
iane
Schw
artz
berg
says
,"If
your
supe
rvis
oris
very
seri
ous,
don'
tcra
ckjo
kes!
"If
they
have
ane
wsl
ette
rtha
tpub
lishe
ssil
lyph
otos
ofpe
ople
whe
nth
eyw
ere
child
ren,
that
tells
you
abou
talig
hthe
arte
dnes
sat
wor
k.M
aybe
the
man
agin
gpa
rtner
won
'tm
ind
ifyo
upa
inta
whi
pped
crea
mbe
ard
onhi
sfa
ceat
the
firm
'san
nual
sum
mer
bash
,bu
tdon
'tco
unto
nit
until
you'
veob
serv
edot
her
peop
le'j
oshi
ngw
ithhi
mth
esa
me
way
.Atm
eetin
gs,w
atch
how
peop
lere
spon
dto
the
pers
onw
ho'st~g.
Do
they
tap
thei
rpe
nci
lsan
dro
llth
eir
eyes
?O
rdo
they
snap
toat
tent
ion
and
stop
fid
dlin
gar
ound
?
c.G
oou
tdri
nkin
gw
ith
yo
ur
fell
owas
soci
ates
,an
dle
tth
em,g
etha
mm
ered
Whi
Ieyo
unu
rse'~
sing
lebe
et.
As
one
new
asso
ciat
eto
ldm
e,"I
mad
ea
poin
tofg
oing
outf
ordr
inks
with
my
colle
ague
sw
hen
Ifirs
tsta
rted.
I'dnu
rse
one
ortw
ow
hile
they
'ddo
wn
seve
ral.
The
y'd
vent
and
spill
the
bean
sab
out
offic
epo
litic
san
dal
loft
hego
ings
-on
atw
ork.
Iga
ined
inva
luab
lein
form
atio
nth
atsa
ved
my
neck
onse
vera
locc
asio
ns."
17
6W
HAT
LAw
ScH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEAC
HYO
U•.
•Bu
rYou
REAL
LYNE
ED:rei
·KNow
Gett
ing
OffO
nTh
eRig
htFo
ot..
•Lea
rnin
gTh
eCu
lture
IfG
ettin
gO
rgan
ized
177
d.F
ind
aho
bby
that
you
shar
ew
ith
colle
ague
.sat
~ork
,.an
d.
use
that
asa
sour
ceof
bond
ing.
.'..
.'..
'
Itca
nbe
anyt
hing
.G
eorg
etow
n's
Ann
aD
avis
foun
d.th
at-w
hen
she
was
wor
king
atth
eFT
C,a
grou
pof
peop
lew
oUld
··go
jO'gg
ing
toge
thet
She
liked
tojo
gJso
she
join
edth~m.
One
law
firm
t014
me
abou
thow
som
eof
the
law
yers
like
tokn
itas
away"~o
relie
vete
nsi
on,
and
seve
ral
ofth
eas
soci
ates
get
toge
ther
op.ce
.a.we~k
tokn
it-a
ndgo
ssip
.Ham
line's
Vm
ceTho~as
Sa~
that
'whe
n.he
.was
ane
was
soci
ate,
hew
entr
unni
ngev
ery
lunc
ptim
e~th.a,grptip
ofas
soci
ates
and
partn
ers.
He
said
,"W
eha
da
rU.le
th~t
noth
ing
that
we
said
wou
ldgo
any
furth
erth
anou
rru
nnin
ggroup"'~e'~
run
five
orsi
xm
iles,
and
whi
lew
ew
ererunn~g,
I.hear~
~to
ti.ab
out
'wha
twas
goin
gon
inth
efir
m.
Partn
ers
wou
ldre~ax
and~
abou
tju
stab
outa
nyth
ing.
They
'dta
lkab
outw
how
asgo
ing
tom
ake
part
ner.
Alo
toft
imes
Ikne
ww
how
asgo
ing
topa
!1O
er'be
fore
the
peo
ple
them
selv
eskn
ewit!
Iha
dco
lleag
ues
who
·w~~e
jeal
ous,
know
ing
1was
hear
ing
alo
tofin
side
s.cooP~
Itol
dth
em"
'Brin
gin
your
shoe
sand
com
ew
ith
us!'"
.O
nth
eot
here
ndof
the
"hea
lthy
habi
ts"
sca1e~
oneia~er
told
me
abou
tho
ww
hen
hew
asa
riew
asso
ciat
e Jhe
and
th~·
othe
rsm
oker
sin
the
offic
ew
ould
all
goou
t'th
esa
me'
door
'to.
snea
ka
smok
ea
coup
leof
times
ada
y."I
ttur
ned
outt
obe
'a;g
reat
way
tobo
ndw
ith
my
new
colle
ague
s,"he
said
.."We~d.all
be:o
ut.t
here
hudd
ling
inth
eco
ldN
ewEn
glan
d~ters."
.'.
The
poin
tis,
thin
kab
outw
haty
oulik
eto
~o,
andin
tegr
ate
that
into
your
wor
klif
e.It'
sa
grea
tway
toge
t~o
knoW
pe~ple,
mak
efr
iend
s-an
dle
arn
wha
tyou
need
tokn
owab
outt
~e·cU
lture
!
e.H
eed
the
."myt
hsan
dle
gend
s"at
the
.off
ice.
'.As
Den
nis
Ken
nedy
reco
mm
ends
,,1"
"11l:e
lmYttis'and.l~gends'
atth
eof
fice
can
help
you
out.
Ifth
em
anag
ingpartn~rs
.oft
hefir
m
shar
eda
tabl
ein
the
libra
ryfo
rth
eir~t
·few
year
s.iIi
the
firm
,yo
uca
nle
arn
that
you'
llw
antt
ohe
sita
tebe
f9re
youd
e.m
and
new
furn
iture
.A
nof
t-rep
e'ate
dta
leofthefe~~e
part
nerw~o
'calle
din
toth
eof
fice
with
inan
hour
ofgi
ving
birt
hc~'~ve
yoti
acl
ue..(.
'"
asto
wha
tlaw
yers
will
thin
kof
your
requ
estf
orsu
bsta
ntia
lpat
er
nity
leav
e."
f•.~ay
mor
eat
tent
ion
tow
hatp
eopl
edo
than
wh
atth
eysa
y.
Ifth
eyta
lkpr
obo
nobu
trew
ard
huge
billa
bles
,the
irac
tions
are
spea
king
loud
erth
anth
eirw
ords
.Ift
hey
say
thei
roffi
ceis
open
and
colle
gial
,but
ever
ybod
yw
orks
behi
ndfir
mly
clos
eddo
ors,
they
've
gota
diffe
rent
inte
rpre
tatio
nof
"col
legi
al"
than
you
do.
g.A
skqu
esti
ons,
the
rig
htq
uest
ions
,ofj
unio
rass
ocia
tes.
Enco
urag
eth
emto
talk
toyo
u."W
hatd
oyo
uw
ish
you
knew
whe
nyo
ust
arte
dhe
re?"
"How
doyo
ulik
ew
haty
ou're
doin
g?"
Thos
eki
nds
ofqu
estio
nsw
illg
ive
you
allk
inds
ofva
luab
letid
bits
.A
slaw
yers
.atJo
nes
Day
poin
tout
,"A
ttorn
eys
mor
ese
nior
than
you
can
prov
ide
notj
usts
ubst
antia
lleg
alad
vice
buta
lsoin
sigh
tsin
toth
e'in
san
dou
ts'o
fthe
firm
."
h.L
ook
atyo
urem
ploy
er's
web
site
and
broc
hure
s.
see
wha
tthe
ybr
agab
outY
ouro
bser
vatio
nsat
the
offic
ew
illbe
mor
ere
leva
nt-f
orin
stan
ce,e
very
empl
oyer
brag
sab
outf
amily
fr
iend
lines
s,collegiali~
whe
ther
orno
ttha
t'sac
cura
te-b
utth
e'w
ayth
eypr
esen
tthe
mse
lves
toth
eou
tsid
eworl~
will
give
you
acl
ueto
how
they
like
toth
ink
ofth
emse
lves
.
i.A
skth
epe
ople
3:tth
eto
p.
.Law
yers.
atSt
epto
ean
dJo
hnso
nad
vise
that
you
"Go
tose
riior
part
ners
,mak
ea
cons
ciou
sef
fort
tose
ekth
emou
t,an
das
kth
emw
hat
they
did
whe
nth
eyst
arte
dth
atgo
tthe
irca
reer
offt
oa
good
star
t"W
hatt
hey
did
will
tell
you
wha
tthe
y'll
appr
ecia
tese
eing
yoa
do.
i..Id
enti
fypo
siti
vero
lemodel~.
Ask
the
recr
uitin
gco
ordi
nato
ror
am
ento
ryou
trus
t,"W
ho's
asu
pers
tar?
Who
shou
ld1t
ryan
dem
ulat
e?W
hats
tand
sou
tabo
utth
em?"
Fmd
positiv~
role
mod
els
and
then
doas
they
do!
k.
Enco
urag
epe
ople
tota
lkto
you.
Smile
and
look
inte
rest
edw
hen
they
talk
abou
twor
k.D
on't
beju
dgm
enta
l,do
n't
say
"Iw
ould
neve
rha
vedo
neth
at,"
or"S
he.
178
WHA
TU
WSC
HO
OL
DoE
SN'T
TEA
CHY
OU
•••
BUT
You
REAL
LYN
EED
TO~OW
Get
ting
Off
On
The
Righ
tFoo
t•••
Leam
ing
The
Cultu
re&
Get
tingO
rgan
ized
17
9
seem
slik
eth
ety
pew
ho..
."J
ustl
etth
emtalk~
Y?U
gett
o1j
sten
and
lear
n.
I.W
atch
how
peop
letr
eatt
heir
unde
rlin
gs.
.'
Ifth
eytr
eatt
hem
wel
l,th
at's
abi
gpo
sitiv
e.~
the.
othe
rh~d,
nom
atte
rho
wni
ceth
eyar
eto
you,
ifth
eytr
eatp
eopl
eba
dly
whQ
are
inno
posi
tion
tota
lkba
ck,t
hen
wha
tthe
y're
t~lling
you
.isth
at
give
nth
eau
thor
ity,t
hey'
dtr
eaty
oulik
edi
rt,to
o.
m.
Be
nice
toev
etyb
od.l'-
It's
notj
ustt
heat
torn
eys
who
can
tell
you
valu
able
thii1g
S.Se
c·
reta
ries,
para
lega
ls,a
ndsu
ppor
tsta
ffer
sin
gene
rali
mow
..ton
sof
valu
able
info
rmat
ion
abou
tthe
offic
e.Encourag~
them
,tocl
ueyo
u
in!
n.L
iste
nto
goss
ip!
Tha
t'sri
ght
rkno
wth
atth
est
anda
rdad
yice
.you
.hea
ris'''avo~d
goss
ip,"
butt
hat's
notw
hatp
eopl
ere
ally
mea
n.'~ote~tirely,
any·
way
.Gos
sipis
veTY
valu
able
.The
jung
ledr
Umst
e~ch
youthin~
you
can'
tlea
rnan
ywhe
reel
se.W
hatp
eopl
em~
is,a
voidbe~g
tagg
edas
ago
ssip
.Eve
nse
nior
partn
ers
liste
nto
thegrapevi~~.
If
you
wan
tto
"thi
nklik
ea
partn
et;"
you
shou
ldst
ayph
lgge
dip.
,.t~o!
As
Dew
eyB
alla
ntin
e's]o
hnR
agos
tasa
ys,"
Mal1cio.u~_gossip
has'
no.
plac
ein
busi
ness
.But
you
have
t~sta
yin
form
e<ia
bout
wha
t'sgo
ing
onin
the
firm
.Any
partn
erw
ouldw~t
tokn
owilnme9i~telY'were
ala
tera
lcom
ing
toth
efir
m,o
ran
asso
ciat
e'le
avin
g.W
hy~hoU:ld
you
asan
asso
ciat
ebe
any
less
inte
rest
ed?
Don
't'si
tinY0~
.~ff
ice
wit
hyo
urhe
adin
the
sand
I"H
ere's
wha
tyou
'nee
dto
know.a~out
hand
ling
goss
ip:.
1}St
ayon
the
'good
si~e
ofof
fice
goss
il?s.
",
.
You
need
tokn
owth
esc
oop.~d
'you
.don
't.~~~
~ali
-.
ciou
sgo
ssip
tobe
circ
ulat
edab
outyo~
T~at·
mea
nsth
at
whi
leyo
uab
solu
tely
dono
twan
tto
beco
nsid
ered
ago
ssip
your
self,
you
need
tokn
oww
hat's
b~in'g
said
!.A
sR
utge
rs'
Daw
neSm
ithsa
ys,"
You
d.one
ed.a
goss
ipy'
acqu
IDpt
ance
at
wor
k.es
peci
ally
ifyo
u're
notm
uch
into
.office·poli~cs~·.
You
'ha-
veto
tap
into
som
ebod
yw
hois
!"H
arva
rd's
Mar
kW
eber
adds
,"Pe
ople
who
are
inth
egr
apev
ine
lot/
eta
shar
e!"
How
ever
,you
don'
twan
tto
appe
arto
obU
ddy
budd
yw
itha
gos
sip,b
ecau
se"y
ouca
nlo
secr
edib
ility
that
way
,"sa
ysD
enve
r's
Jenn
iferL
oud
Ung
ar.
2)Pa
ssal
ong
"con
stru
ctiv
ego
ssip
"-go
ssip
that
will
help
the
subj
ecto
fthe
goss
ipor
the
pers
onyo
u're
telli
ng.
As
the
recr
uitin
gco
ordi
nato
rato
nela
rge
firm
said
,"Ig
eta
.lot
ofgo
odin
form
atio
nfro
mas
soci
ates
.Ifin
dou
tifs
omeb
ody
isun
happ
yor
havi
nga
little
troub
le.I
fIfin
dou
ttha
tsom
e-
.one
tsal
way
sas
leep
,Ica
ngi
veth
ema
gent
lere
min
der
abou
t
look
ing
aler
tatw
ork.
Onc
ea
sum
mer
asso
ciat
e'sfa
ther
was
real
lysic
k.H
etr
ied
toke
epit
outo
fthe
offic
e.A
noth
eras
so
ciat
eto
ld'm
eab
outI
t,an
dIt
ook
step
sto
have
the
sum
mer
aSSO
ciate
trans
ferr
edto
anot
her
offic
eso
he'co
uld
becl
oser
to
his
dad.
"
Ialw
ays
mak
ea
poin
toft
ellin
gpe
ople
whe
nI'v
e'h
eard
good
thin
gsab
outt
hem
.It's
love
lybe
ing
the
bear
erof
good
tidin
gs,a
ndpe
ople
love
tokn
owth
atni
ceth
ings
are
bein
g
said
abou
tthe
mbe
hind
thei
rba
cks.
Ital
sohe
lps
you
bean
offic
epe
acem
aker
.Ify
ou,k
now
two
colle
ague
sare
atw
aran
d
you
can
get
one
ofth
emto
say
som
ethi
ngni
ceab
out
the
othe
r-"T
here
mus
tbe
som
eth
ing
you
like
abou
tBlu
to"
pass
ing
that
com
men
tal
ong
toB
luto
will
goa
long
way
..
tow
ard
smoo
thin
gth
ings
over
and
mak
ing
your
offic
ea
lot
mor
eha
rmor
i.iou
sfo
reve
ryon
e.
3)K
eep
mal
icio
usgo
ssip
toyo
urse
lf.
This
isth
ego
Ssip
peop
lear
eta
lkin
ga.I
>out
whe
nth
eysa
y
"avo
idsp
re.ad
ing
goss
ip.".
Don
'tpa
ssal
ong
anyt
hing
abou
t
anyo
neth
atis
pers
onal
lyde
stru
ctiv
e.Lo
tsof
peop
lesp
end
time
atw
ork
criti
cizi
ngor
mak
ing
fun
ofot
herp
eopl
e.D
on't
succ
umb.
Itm
akes
you
look
bad.
AsJe
nnife
rLo
udU
ngar
says
,"D
on'tb
eth
efi
rstt
okn
oww
ho's
cryi
ng,.
who
'sch
eat
ing,
-who
gota
bad
reV
iew
,or
anyt
hing
like
that
.K
eep
itto
180
WHA
TLA
wSC
HO
OL
DO
ESN
'TTE
AC
HY
OU
•••
BU
Tyo
u~y
NEE
DT
OKN
ow
..~::'"
~~
.":"
.,':
':
Get
ting
Off
On
TheR
ight
Foot
...L
eam
ing
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d18
1
your
self,
and
ifan
yone
asks
you,
'Hey
,did
you.
know
.~..'
say
'Oh,
real
ly?'
Don
'tan
swer
!"
4)Pa
yat
tent
ion
toth
eso
urce
bejo
reyo
uac
to~
goss
ip.
As
Am
eric
anU
nive
rsity
'sM
attP
asco
cello
says~"Inf~rma
tion
isn'
tpow
er.A
ctin
gon
info
rmat
ion
ispo
wer
..·But
oilly
act
onit
afte
ryou
valid
ate
it,an
don
lyif
it~pacts
you.
"He
sug·
gests
that
you
"put
anyt
hing
you
hear
thro
ugh.
your
filtra
tion
syst
em."
Let's
say
that
you
hear
that
your
firm
isin
'tin~Cial
troub
le.
Pay
atte
ntio
nto
thedepar~,¥e
of'rainm~ng
part
ners
,bon
uses
that
are
susp
icio
usly
smal
lOJ:"non~xistent
com
pa
red
topr
iory
ears
,cha
nges
inhi
ring
patte
rns,
thos
eki
nds
of
thin
gs.
.'
.W
hen
the
goss
ipco
ncer
nsw
hats
omeb
ody'~
the.
offic
eis
like,
file
itaw
ay.
Ei/e
ryb
od
ysp
ea$,
sfro
mhi
s'or
'her
own
agen
da.
Whe
nth
eyre
coun
tconversatio~s.
toYO
ll,th
ey're
rem
embe
ring
wha
t'sre
leva
ntto
them
,not
nece
ssar
ilyw
hat
was
said
.As
Ron
naU
chte
nber
gsa
ysin
'her
\yon
derf
uI-b
ook
Wor
kW
ould
BeG
reat
IfIt
Wer
en't
ForT
hepe
op.!e
,"1;'
0fig
ure
outt
heir
agen
da,r
emem
bert
hatf
acja
iexp
ress
ions
are·
reve
al
ing,
asis
body
lang
uage
.Ash
rug_
Alif
ted
eyeb
row
.Aro
llof
the
eyes
.".
.. A
lsore
mem
ber
that
ever
ythi
ngyo
uhe~
~bout
som
eone
else
isan
opin
ion.
Ifso
meo
nete
llsyOl
.~.,
"Ale
x.lis
real
lya
schm
uck,
"an
dyo
urow
nex
perie
nce
with
Ale
x~
pret
trpo
sitiV
e,al
litt
ells
you
isth
atth
ePe
rson
who
mad
ethe
sch1
nuck
asse
ssm
entd
oesn
'tlik
eA
lex.
That.ffiigh~~
vaiuapl~
~orma
tion,
buti
tsho
uldn
'tde
tenn
ine
your~wn
asse
ssm
entW
hen
peop
lete
llyo
tith
eir
opin
ion
ofso
meo
ne,-
askWhy'th~y
thin
kth
at.
May
beth
ey'll
say
"H~'s
arro
gant
"or
'''He
'riev~t
shut
sup
,"w
hich
will
give
youva1uabl~
beha
vior
ai'~uesfo~y
ours
elf
arou
ndth
epe
rson
givi
ngyo
uth
eir
opin
ion.
The·.b
otto
.mlin
eis,
beca
refu
labo
utla
beli
ngpe
ople
'?n
thebas~'o
fo¢.~
peo
ple's
opin
ions
,bec
ause
ifyo
u,st
artbelie~g
wha
ttp.
eysa
y,it
may
beco
me
ase
lf-fu
lfilli
ngpr
ophe
cy.Y
ouge
tan.a
ssig
nmen
t
..' .;.
'.
......
..•. .....:~:
.
from
Ale
x,an
dev
ery
time
Ale
xdo
esso
met
hing
you
don'
tlik
e,yo
usa
y;"A
ha!
He
isa
schm
uck!
"As
Geo
rget
own'
sM
ar
ilyn
Tuc
kersays~
"Lis
ten
toot
her
peop
le's
opin
ions
butf
orm
your
own
conc
lusi
ons.
Whi
leth
ere
are
certa
inly
diff
icul
tpeo
pl
ein
ever
yor
gani
zatio
n,do
n'tb
ase
your
beha
vior
tow
ard
anyb
Ody
onso
meo
neel
se's
view
.Mak
eyo
urow
nju
dgm
ents
,an
dbe
open
toea
chpe
rson
.Don'~
get
off
toa
poor
star
tbe
caus
eof
polit
ical
naiv
ete!
"
2S
MA
RT
HU
MA
NT
RIC
K
Fem
ale
law
yer,
wan
tsto
leav
epr
ivat
epr
acti
cean
dw
ork
for
the
stat
ele
gisl
atur
e.T
heon
lype
rson
who
give
she
ran
offe
ris
som
ebod
yre
pute
dto
bea
terr
ible
scre
amer
.Aft
er
som
eth
ough
t,sh
ede
cide
sto
take
the
offe
r.Fo
rwha
teve
r
reas
on,
the
"ter
ribl
esc
ream
er'
take
sa
likin
gto
her.
He
neve
rscr
eam
sat
her,
and
afte
rsh
e's
'bee
nw
orki
ngfo
rhi
m
for
aye
ar,
hesa
ys,
"You
'redo
ing
agr
eatj
obfo
rm
e,b
utt
o
adva
nce
your
care
eryo
ure
ally
shou
ldm
ove
on
toso
me
thin
gel
se.
I'll
help
you
wit
hit.
"A
ssh
esa
ys,
HR
eput
atio
n
does
n'tt
elly
oufo
rsu
reho
wth
ings
will
befo
ryou
.P
eopl
e
pres
sea
chot
her's
butt
ons
diff
eren
tly."
o.T
ake
note
o~
phys
ical
evid
ence
ofw
hat's
acce
ptab
le•
Toys
onpe
ople
'sde
sks,
child
ren'
s~ork
inat
torn
eys'
offic
es(p
artic
ular
lyfe
mal
eat
torn
eys)
,cu
eslik
eth
atca
nte
llyo
ua
lot
abou
tho
wpe
ople
atw
ork
feel
abou
tin
divi
dual
ityan
dfa
mily
issu
es.
One
"rec
ruiti
ngco
ordi
nato
rpo
ints
out
that
"If
the
prim
ere
adin
gm
ater
iala
tthe
offic
eis
the
nove
lsof
Pear
lS.B
uck,
it's
not
exac
tlygo
ing
tobe
forw
ard-
thin
king
onw
omen
'siss
ues!
"
p.U
sten
for
euph
emis
ms.
"We
like
tow
ork
hard
and
play
hard
"m
eans
"We
puti
nlo
tsof
hour
s."
182
WH
AT
LAw
ScH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CH
YO
U••
•Bu
rYou
REAL
LYN~Er.i
T,O
.KN
OW
Get
ting
Off
On
TheR
ight
Foot
.•.L
earn
ing
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d18
3
3.W
hatt
olo
okfo
r••
•
a.H
ours
!L
aw
IsN
otA
Nin
eT
oF
ive
Job,
Unl
ess
You
Wo.r~
Par
t
Tim
e-In
Wh
ich
Cas
e,It
IsA
Nin
eTo
Five
Job.
.'.A
sis
true
wit
he
very
thin
gel
seat
wor
k,w
hen
you'
ret~g
abou
tthe
hour
syou
have
topu
tin;
you'
reta
ikin
gab
?uta
mat
tero
fpe
rcep
tion.
It's
notw
heth
eror
noty
ou're
putti
ngin
.the
h9ur
s..It'
sw
heth
eror
nott
hepe
ople
you
wor
kfo
rper
ceiv
eyo
u.a~
wor
king
asm
uch
asth
eyex
pect
you
tow
orL
Imag
eco
unts
.
~S
MA
RT
HU
MA
NT
RIC
K.0
phar
mac
ist's
deg
ree
ou
tof
stat
e.T
heof
fice
mat
eis
are
ally
go
od
guy,
smar
t,fu
nny,
hard
wor
king
.B
ecau
seth
eof
fice
mat
eis
from
ou
tof
tow
nan
dha
sno
thin
gel
seto
do,
his
wor
kis
his
life.
He'
sat
the
offi
cean
the
tim
e.T
hepa
rtne
rsst
artc
omm
ent
ing
on
the
disp
arit
yb
etw
een
the
hour
sth
etw
oju
nior
asso
ci
ates
pu
tin
.W
hen
the
juni
oras
soci
ate
men
tion
sth
isto
his'
care
erse
rvic
esdi
rect
orat
scho
ol,
she
reco
mm
ends
,"W
hyd
on
't
you
invi
teth
isgu
yto
have
dinn
erwi~
you
and
your
wif
epe
ri
odic
ally
?In
trod
uc.e
him
toyo
urfr
iend
s?Y
ou'll
neve
rsh
ine
next
tohi
mot
herw
ise.
"T
heju
nior
asso
ciat
edo
esas
she
says
,an
dit
wor
kslik
ea
char
m.
Juni
oras
soci
ate
ata
smal
lfir
m.
He'
sm
a'rr
ied
and
has'a
:ba~
y:'H
e
shar
esan
offi
cew
ith
ane
was
soci
ate
who
sew
ife'
isge
ttin
·ghe
r
Ju~i
oras
soci
ate
ata
larg
eW
ashi
ngto
':l,
D.C.
la.~·f
irm:·.
Hege
ts~II
ofhi
sw
ork
do
ne
and
wor
kspr
etty
long
hour
s..H
e'knC
?ws
that
on
epa
rtic
ular
part
ner,
Par
tner
Sun
dow
n-n
ot·
on~··th~f
he
wor
ksfo
r-m
akes
aha
bito
fst
roll
ing
the.
halls
at.l
Op.
m..e
very
nigh
t,to
see
who
'sst
illworking~
One
nigh
t,th
ej~
nior
'ass
ocia
te
has
tora
ceo
ut
ofth
eof
fice
tohe
lpa.
frie
ndat
.aro
und
·~.i
ne
o'cl
ock,
leav
ing
acu
pof
coff
eeo
nhi
sde
sk,
hisgla~se~··next.to
the
coff
ee,a
ndhi
sja
cket
on
his
chai
r.H
e~ever
gets
ba.c
~to
the
offi
ceth
atni
ght.
The
follo
win
gm
orni
ng,
his
supe
rvis
ing'
part
ner
cong
ratu
late
shi
m,
sayi
ngth
at"P
artn
erS
undo
wn
sa·id
yo'u
were
here
wor
king
late
last
nigh
t."
The
juni
oras
soci
ate
isco
nfus
ed,
know
ing
that
hew
asn
'tin
the
offi
cefo
rP
artn
er'S
undo
wn'
s:10
p.m
.IIsw
eep
."T
hen
he
real
izes
wh
atha
ppe'
ned:
Par
tner
Sun
dow
nsa
whi
sco
ffee
,gl
asse
s,an
dja
cket
,an
das
su'm
ed.th~
the
was
still
ther
ean
dha
dfu
stst
epp
edo
ut
ofhi
sof
fic;e
.for
a
mom
ent.
..
The
reaf
ter,
hem
akes
ap
oin
tof
leav
ing
apa
irof
glas
ses,
a
half-
full
cup
ofco
ffee
,an
da
jack
eton
his
chai
re~ery
nigh
t..
SM
AR
TH
UM
AN
TRIC~
.'..
.'::
~C'AREER
LI.
MiT
iNG
MO
VE
..
Fem
ale
sum
mer
cler
kat
ala
rge
firm
dow
nS
outh
.T
he
firm
's
.lib
rary
open
son
toa
larg
ero
ofto
psu
nde
ck.
She
take
sad
vant
age
ofth
esu
nde
ckfo
ra
tann
ing
sess
ion
ever
yd
ayat
opti
mal
tan
ning
hour
s.S
hesi
tsou
tsid
ein
.abi
kini
,sla
ther
she
rsel
fwit
hsu
n
tan
lotio
n,an
dre
laxe
sfo
rtw
oho
urs.
The
asso
ciat
esan
dpa
rtne
rs
wh
og
oth
rou
gh
the
libr
ary
can
dea
rly
see
the
bath
ing
beau
ty
thro
ugh
larg
epi
ctur
ew
indo
ws.
Whe
nth
ere
crui
ting
coor
dina
tor
gent
lysu
gges
ted
tohe
rth
atpe
rhap
sth
esu
ntan
ning
was
n'tg
iv
ing
her
the
righ
tim
age,
she
huff
ilyre
plie
d,II
Look
'at
my
tim
e
shee
ts.
I'mm
eeti
ngth
ebi
llabl
eho
urs
you
wan
ted
me
tow
ork.
I
can
man
age
my
own
tim
e."
She
isno
tinv
ited
back
.
1)Fi
gurin
gou
twhe
nyo
ure
ally
have
tobe
ther
e.It'
sdi
ffer
ent
from
plac
eto
plac
e,an
dsu
perv
isor
tosu
perv
isor
!
Ige
talo
tofq
uest
ions
for
my
Dea
rJob
God
dess
colu
mn
aski
ngm
efo
rpla
ces
wit
h"r
easo
nabl
e"ho
urs.
Tha
t'sa
toug
hqu
estio
nto~er,
beca
use
aith
ough
ther
ear
eso
me
gene
rali
ties
that
are
valid
,the
y're
nott
rue
ahu
ndre
dpe
rcen
toft
hetii
ne.F
orin
stan
ce,i
t'sg
en
era
llytru
eth
atif
you
wor
kfo
rthe
gove
rnm
ent,
your
hour
sw
illte
ndto
besh
orte
rth
anif
you
18
4W
HA
TLA
wS
CH
OO
LD
OE
SN'T
TEA
CH
YO
U••
•B
lITYo
uREAiL~
NEED
TOKN
owG
ettin
gO
ffO
nTh
eRi
ghtF
oot•
••'L
earn
ing
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d1'
85
wor
kfo
rpriv
ate
firm
s.B
utify~
u"re
inli
tiga
tio~
,whe~er
it's
.fo
rth
eJu
stic
eD
epar
tmen
tor
the.
SEC
o~'an~here
'else
,yo
u'll
wor
ka
lot.
Ifyo
u're
anas
sist
antd
istriG
tatto
rney
With
witn
esse
sto
inte
rvie
w,y
ou'll
bein
onth
ewee~~rid.
Ii~s
..aJ.so
gene
rally
true
that
you
tend
tow
ork
shor
terh
ours
.Inas
~all
firm
than
ala
rger
one.
But
agai
n,th
at's
nota
lway
s.the
case
.In
anu
tshe
ll,th
eho
ursy
ouw
ork
are
acu
ltura
lthi
ng."
How
doyo
ufig
ure
them
out?
The
sam
e-as
wit
hev
ery
othe
rele
men
tofc
ultu
re:W
atch
,learn~
emul
ate"
.Abi
giss
ueat
law
firm
sis
the
idea
of"f
ace
time,,
""'F
ace
tiine
Vb.
asic
ally
mea
ns,w
hen
doth
eyha
veto
seeyo~
face
at'tP
.~'of
fice?
Som
epl
aces
swea
rtha
tthe
yha
veno
such
thing
asfa
cetim
e.B
utyo
uca
n't
kno
wth
atfo
rsu
reun
tilyo
u.se
eho
w.~ey
beha
ve.A
nem
ploy
erm
ight
tell
you
"Ido
n'tc
are
whe
nyo
uw
ork
aslo
ngas
you
gett
hew
ork
done
,":b
utIp
r6i.n~e
you,
ifyo
uw
orke
da
grav
eyar
dsh
iftfro
m7
p.m
.to
8a.
m.,yo~'d
beou
tof
ther
eli
ke-w
ell,
you
know
wha~'
Her
e·ar
e.a'
few
guid
elin
esto
figur
tng
outw
hen
youhav~·to
beat
the
offic
e.
a)If
you'
vego
tade
adlin
e-or
apa
rtne
r-br
eath
ing
dow
nyo
urne
ck,s
tay
until
the
wor
kge
tsdo
ne.
..
.....
Even
plac
esth
atge
nmne
lydo
n'ts
eem
toreqtlir~
any
give
nse
tofh
ours
agre
eabo~t
that
I~it
.mea
ns.a
n.oc
ca
sion
alni
ght
inth
eof
fice
until
3a:~tn.'1
tb,a
t's~hat
it
mea
ns.I
fapa
rtner
wal
ksin
toyo
ur9f
fice
'wi:t
h~
new
assig
nmen
tat6
p.m
.and
says
,"In
ee~
this
.torr
iorr
ow1"
then
stay
until
itge
tsdo
ne.
(Don
't'as
sum
·e.tb
at"y
our
effo
rtsw
on't
be'ap
prec
iate
d,by
the
way
.<;>n
eju
nior
asso
ciat
eat
one
ofth
eco
untry
'sla
rges
tlaw
firm
sto
ldm
eth
ataf
terp
uttin
gin
long
hoU
rs'o
na·
cout
tsas
e,he
rpa
rtner
wal
ked
into
hero
ffice
the
daybef~re
Th.a~~giv
ing,
and
said
,"S
eeyo
une
n~e
ar."
'Whe
nsh
e.as
ked
wha
the
mea
nt1he
said
,"¥0
l:l've
wor
kedbar~
enou
gh.
Take
off.
Go
see
your
fam
ily.S
e~yo
uaf
terN
ewYe
ar's.
"A
ndhe
mea
ntit.
)
b}If
you
are
assig
ned
toa
supe
rviso
r,be
atth
eof
fice
whe
n(s
)he's
ther
e.Th
at'sit
Asyo
uge
tmor
ese
nior
ity,y
ou'll
have
mor
eco
ntro
lo~er
your
sche
dule
.B
ut'w
hen
you'
rene
w,
beth
ere
whe
nth
epe
rson
you
wor
kfo
ris
ther
e."I
fyou
rpar
tner
islo
okin
gfo
ryou
at7
p.m
.and
you'
reno
tthe
re,y
our
wor
kloa
dw
illsu
ffer,"
com
men
ted
one
recr
uitin
gco
ordi
na
tor.
The
partn
erat
on~
larg
efir
mta
lked
abou
thow
wh~
hew
asa
juni
oras
soci
ate,
hew
asas
signe
dto
two
partn
ers.
One
ofth
emw
ould
arriv
eat
7a.
m.,
and
the
othe
rne
ver
left
befo
re8
p.m
.H
em
ade
sure
hew
asth
ere
forb
oth
ofth
em."
Itm
eant
long
days
,but
itpa
idof
fin
the
long
run.
"
c)W
atch
how
jurii
oras
soci
ate
"sup
erst
ars"
hand
leth
eir
time,
and
emul
ate
them
.
Pay
care
ful
atte
ntio
nto
how
peop
lere
act
whe
na
juni
oras
soci
ate
atth
eof
fice
brag
sab
outh
ow"'1
spen
tth
ew
hole
wee
kend
here
"or
"Iw
ashe
reun
tilm
id
nigh
t."It
may
beth
atpe
ople
grum
ble
behi
ndth
ebr
ag
gart'
sba
ck,
"'He
does
n't
know
how
tom
anag
ehi
s
time,
"or
"She
'sno
t'im
pres
sing
anyb
ody
wit
hth
ose
hour
s.Sh
edo
esn'
thav
eth
ew
ork
tojU
stify
it"
d)Er
ron
the
side
ofst
ayin
ga
little
bitl
onge
rth
anyo
uth
ink
you
have
to,a
tlea
stat
first
.
.If
allo
fthe
juni
oras
soci
ates
leav
ebe
twee
n6:
30an
d7:
30,t
hen
leav
eat
7:30
.And
whe
nyo
u're
new
;don
't·le
ave
with
outw
alki
ngar
ound
the
~ffice
firs
tA
sH
am
line's
Vm
ceTh
omas
reco
mm
ends
,"If
mos
toft
hepe
ople
.~e
gone
,go.
Ifev
eryo
neis
still
ther
e,do
n'tl
eave
with
ou
task
ing
ifyo
uca
nhe
lpan
yone
befo
reyo
ugo
hom
e."
e)Be
awar
eof
any
"fac
etim
e"re
quire
men
ts.
Wha
tIm
ean
is,as
kar
ound
tose
eif
ther
e'ar
ean
y.ti
mes
whe
nyo
u're
expe
cted
tobe
atw
ork
rega
rdle
ssof
186
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
oESN
'TTE
AC
HYo
u••
•BU
T'Yo
uRE
ALLY
NE
ED
TO'K
Now
"':
~.
Get
ting
Off
On
The
Righ
tFoo
t.•.
Lear
ning
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d1
87
whe
ther
you'
rebu
syor
no
t-th
atis,
w;h
enth~v'expect
tose
eyo
urfa
ce.
Talk
toju
nior
asso
ciat
es'a
nd/o
ryou
rm
ento
rto
see
wha
t'sap
prop
riate
.At
one,
offic
e,s~m~
juni
oras
soci
ates
told
ane
was
soci
ate,~We
,hav
eto
'stay
until
6:30
or7.
"W
hen
the
new
-,ass
ocia
teas
ked
"Why
?"th
eysh
rugg
ed,a
ndsa
id,
"We
just
h~~e'
to."
Ifyo
uge
ttha
tres
pons
e,th
enit
mea
nsyo
uha
veto
·s~ay,
~~a
'A
talo
toff
irms,
Satu
rday
mor
ning
is~fac;e
time~"
As'
one
law
yer
reco
mm
ende
d,"S
atur
day'
mor
ning
sar
ego
odfo
ror
gani
zing
,be
caus
eno
o~e
isar
ound
.;It'
sa
good
time
toca
tch
up."
Ano
ther
lawy~r
com
men
ted
that
"Ato
urfir
m,t
hebo
ard
mem
bers
wou
ldco
me:
'inon
Satu
rday
for
boar
dm
eetin
gs.J
unio
ras
Soci
ates
:w~uld
mak
ea
poin
tofb
eing
atth
eof
fice
soth
eb0
3.!d:me~
bers
coul
dse
eth
em.
Itdi
dn't
muc
hm
atte
rif
,an:
you
wer
edo
ing
was
clea
ning
your
desk
orta
lkirig
with
pe~
pIe.
Buti
tw
as'a
risk.
Sometime~
you'~'
geta
"plu
mas
sign
men
tbec
ause
abo
ard
mem
berb
umpe
d.in
toyo
uon
aSa
turd
ay.O
nce
ina
whi
le,y
ou'd
-get
hand
edso
me
thin
gan
dth
ey'd
say,
'Ine
edth
isMO~,day;'
soY0
:Uju
stga
veup
your
wee
kend
.B
utit
wa,s
~go
od'id
eat<;
>,be
ther
eat
leas
tsom
eof
the
time.
",
Ato
nela
rge
firm
,the
man
agin
gpa
rtner
h~d.a~abit
ofco
min
gin
onSu
nday
mor
ning
sto
see
whi
cp.a
ssoc
iat
em
ailb
oxes
atth
eof
fice
had
mai
l'inth~m~
The
onsa
turd
ays
was
deliv
ered
at9
a.m
.;'an
q.~~
asso
ciat
eha
dm
aili
nhi
sor
her
mai
lbox
,the
,man
agin
gpat
tner
wou
ldkn
owth
eyha
dn't
been
in~and'
hew
ould
n't-b
eha
ppy.
Soas
soci
ates
,with
out
any
wor
ktp,
dq,w
ould
com
ein
at9:
15,
pick
upth
eirm
ail;"
an;d
'leay
e..O
ther
firm
sha
vesi
tuat
ions
that
echo
that
AtO
I1-e,
firm,-,
a"p
sy-
..
.",
chot
icpa
rtner
"w
ould
requ
ireth
athi
sas
soci
ates
·,¢om
ein
onSa
turd
aym
o'rn
ing
from
8:30
~tn
noori~Wh~n
one
ofth
empr
otes
ted,
"But
ifw
eha
veno
wor
k"w
hy
com
ein
?""B
ecau
seth
ere'
sso
muc
hto
lear
n!"
he'd
resp
ond.
He
him
self
didn
'tco
me
inon
Satu
rday
s,bu
the
'dso
met
imes
call
tose
ew
hopi
cked
up~e
phon
e.Th
eas
soci
ates
wou
lddu
tiful
lyco
me
inw
ithth
eirb
reak
fa
st,ea
ttog
ethe
:r;re
adth
epa
per,
and
leav
e.
.f)
Ifyo
u're
expe
cted
tosh
owup
once
ina
whi
leon
aw
eeke
nd,t
ry't
obe
ther
ew
hen
othe
rpeo
ple
are
ther
e.
Itdo
esn'
tre
ally
coun
tas
face
time
ifno
body
sees
your
face
lB
utif
you'
vem
ade
the
effo
rtan
dno
body
was
ther
e,m
ake
sure
tom
entio
nit
tope
ople
.Atl
unch
onM
onda
y,yo
um
ight
wan
tto
wor
kin
toth
eco
nver
satio
n,"W
hen
Iwas
here
onSa
turd
ay..
."
Rem
embe
r,on
lydo
that
ifco
min
gin
onw
eeke
nds
isco
nsid
ered
ago
odth
ing.
g)D
on't
rout
iriel
ypu
tin
time
whe
nyo
ursu
perv
isor
isn'
t:th
ere
just
tosa
yyo
udi
dit
Afte
ra.w
hile
-and
it's
impo
ssib
lefo
ryo
uto
dist
in
guis
hat
firs
t-yo
ule
arn
tote
llth
edi
ffer
ence
betw
een
real
emer
genc
ies
and
fals
eon
es.I
fpeo
ple
expe
ctyo
uth
ere
ever
yni
ghta
nd
ever
yw
eeke
nd,
you'
llso
onbe
load
eddo
wn
with
wor
kbe
caus
eth
eyfig
ure
you
live
ther
e.A
sIt
alk
abou
tin
the
sect
ion
calle
d"B
alan
ce,"
over
the
long
haul
you
just
can'
,tph
ysic
ally
wor
kth
ose
kind
sof
hour
s,'a
ndde
velo
ping
are
puta
tion
asa
wor
ka
holic
won
'the
lpyo
u.
h),D
on't
mak
ea
habi
tofc
omin
gin
late
,eve
nif
you'
rea
nigh
tow
l.
Ifev
eryb
ody
else
isin
the
offic
eby
9;00
and
you
rou
tinel
yw
ande
rin
at10
:30,
you'
llbe
rega
rded
asa
slac
ker
even
'ifit'
sno
ttr
ue.A
juni
oras
soci
ate
aton
ela
rge
firm
said~at
"The
re's
ape
rcep
tion
here
that
peo
ple
who
com
ein
afte
rnin
e-th
eon
esw
how
ork
until
mid
nigh
t-ar
ela
zy.I
t'sa
mis
take
toth
ink
that
peop
le
188
-,'
WHA
fLAw
ScH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEAC
HY
OU
•••
BurY
ouRE
ALLY
NEE
PTO
KNow
~.G
ettin
gO
ffO
nTh
eRig
htFo
ot••
•Le
amin
gTh
eC
ultu
reIf
Get
ting
Org
anize
d1
89
who
com
ein
the
earli
esta
reth
eha
rdes
twor
kers
,,'b\it
'al
lof
the
part
ners
seem
tobe
lieve
it.Th
,er'
~l1
com
o,,
men
tabo
utit
.So
Im
ake
sure
toco~e
inbe
fore
tij.e,
part
ners
arriv
e.Th~y
do
n't
real
ly,c'
are'
how
,lat
ey?
Ust
ay;
they
don'
tco
mm
ent
abou
tth~t.'
It's'
just
your
,ar
rival
time
they
notic
e.T
hey'
real
way
steu
illg~e
how
prod
uctiv
ean
dha
rd-w
orki
ngIa
m,'
even
thou~,
I'mpe
rfec
tly'i
nlin
ew
ith
ever
yone
'els
e.,'P
veju
st'
mov
edm
ysc
hedu
leup
afe
who
urs.
"A
tanoth~r
,firtn
:;"
the
juni
oras
soci
ates
wer
eex
pect
edto
wor
k'IT
om,8
:'inth
em
orni
ngun
til8
atni
ght,
whi
chis
whe
ntfl
e 'pa
rt·ne
rsw
ere
ther
e.O
neju
nior
asso
ciat
eha
d'ah
orse
,and
wan
ted
tole
ave
at5
o'cl
ock
ever
y'~ay,
torid~
h~r"
'ho
rse.
Toco
mpe
nsat
e,sh
eca
me
into
wor
kat
5.a.m~
On
her
eval
uatio
ns,h
ersu
perio
rs,d
inge
d'he
r-fq
r'not
bein
gth
ere
thre
eho
urs
ada
yw
hen
ever
ybod
yel
sew
asth
ere.
i)If
you
wor
kin
anen
viro
nmen
twhe
reth
e~pei:ViSion'
is've
ryla
x,m
ake
asp
ecia
latte
mpt
nott
osu
ccU
mb
t<?th
elu
xury
ofba
iling
oute
arly
.
As
one
law
yerc
omm
ente
d,"A
tour
firm
,w~
'geta
:lot
offr
eedo
mov
erw
hen
we
com
ein
'andw~eri
we'l
eave
..M
osts
enio
rass
ocia
tes
and
partn
ers,~n't
onyo
ur:b
acK
'W
e've
had
sum
mer
cler
ksw
ho'v
eta
ken'
th~t
~oo
far.
We
had
one
cler
kw
how
ould
n'tb
othe
rto
co:rp.~
back
:tow
ork
afte
rlu
nch.
Or
he'd
leav
e'in
them
id~l
e'o
fthe
afte
rnoo
n.lit
eral
ly,h
e'd
wor
km
aybe
four
-hou
rsad
ayan
dth
ensh
owup
atfir
meven~-.
His,
'meD
:tptd
idn'
tev
enkn
ow.I
t'sj~t
aba
dha
bitEV~
ifn6
b~Y'
s'watc
h-:in
g,yo
uha
veto
bea
grow
n-up
,bec
auSe
.ultimat~lYy~ur
care
erde
pend
son
wha
tyou
:dO
.,",
j)If
you'
reun
assi
gned
(or
you
wan
tto
switc
h',s
U,.pe
rvi
sors
),fin
dou
twhe
nth
epe
rson
yo:u
want
.tow?~k
for,
isat
the
offic
e,an
dm
ake
sure
you'
reth
ere,
too.
,'.'
As
one
juni
oras
soci
ate
said
,"I
was
just
dyin
gto
wor
kfo
ra
spor
tsla
wye
rato
urof
fice.
Ifou
ndou
tfro
mhi
sse
cret
ary
that
here
gula
rlyca
me
tow
ork
betw
een
eigh
tand
ten
inth
em
orni
ngon
Satu
rday
s.So
Ista
rted
doin
gth
at,t
oo,a
ndIm
ade
sure
hesa
wm
e.W
e'dch
atca
sual
ly,
and
then
,be
caus
eIw
asju
stab
out
the
only
asso
ciat
eth
ere
that
early
onSa
turd
ays,
hest
arte
dgi
ving
me
wor
k.N
owhe
'sm
ysu
perv
jsor."
k)Ig
nore
the
hour
syou
wor
ked
asa
sum
mer
cler
k.
Tha
twas
n'tr
eal,life~
This
is.P
ayat
tent
ion
tow
hat
juni
oras
soci
ates
actu
ally
do,n
otw
hatt
hepa
rtylin
eis
.
~CAREfR
LIM
ITIN
GM
OV
E•••
Juni
oras
soci
ate
ata
larg
eM
idw
este
mfi
rm:
"In
som
efi
rms,
'fam
ilyfr
iend
ly'm
eans
you
get
Chr
istm
asof
f.I
cler
ked
atth
isfi
rm,
and
they
sold
me
abi
llof
good
s
abo
ut
how
they
're
a'li
fest
yle'
fi.rm
,th
ey'r
efa
mil
y
frie
ndly
.T
hat's
real
lyim
port
antt
om
ebe
caus
eIh
ave
,aw
ife
and
two
smal
lch
ildr
en.
Infa
ct,
duri
ngth
e
sum
mer
they
wou
ldse
ndm
eho
me
at6
p.,:"
.ev
enif
Iwan
ted
tost
ay.W
hen
Icam
eba
ckas
ap
erm
anen
t
as~ociate,
Istu
ckw
ith
thos
e'ho
urs.
,Iw
asge
ttin
gm
y
wor
kdo
ne.
But
then
Ihe
ard
thro
ug
hth
egr
apev
ine
that
my
supe
rvis
ing
part
ner
was
n't
hap
py
wit
hm
e,
no
tbe
caus
eof
my
wor
k,b
ut
beca
use
ofw
hat
he
perc
eive
das
my
po
or
wor
ket
hic.
Iwas
stun
ned.
The
less
onis
this
:R
ealiz
eth
atev
enif
afi
rmte
lls
you
it's
'fam
ilyfr
iend
ly,'
that
does
n't
mea
na
9to
5w
orkd
ay.
No
,one
will
pay
you
mor
eth
an$
50
,00
0a
yea
rto
star
tw
ith
ou
tex
pect
ing
you
tow
ork
the
hour
sit
take
sto
get
the
job
do
ne
toth
eir
sati
sfac
tion
."
2)H
owto
bevi
sible
whe
nyo
u're
invi
sible
.
190
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CH
YoU
'.'••
BU
TYo
uRE
ALLy
NEED
TOKN
ow
-. "
Get
ting
Off
On
The
Righ
tFoo
t.••
Leam
ing
The
Cul
ture
ftG
ettin
gO
rgan
ized
191
We
live
ina
wir
edag
e-ac
tuap
.y,a
~eless
one..
"It's
poss
i-.
ble
tow
ork
from
just
abou
tany
whe
re.I
fpeo
ple.
atyo
ur~ffice
don'
twor
kon
wee
kend
san
dyo
uta
keyo
urw
orkb.om~
wit
h
you,
you
run
the
risk
ofno
tge
tting
,suffi
cien
t"cr
edIt
for
it
beca
use
nobo
dyse
esyo
uw
orki
ng.T
hesolution~Ori~
Flor
ida
law
yer
says
,"E
ven
ifyo
u're
wor
king
atho
me,
.'ouf
'on'
the
deck
,you
can
gett
hem
essa
geac
ross
that
you'
repu
tting
inth
eho
urs
ina
loto
fsub
tlew
ays.
You
can
retU
rne-
mai
lson
Satu
rday
atno
on.
You
can
retu
rnvo
ice
mai
lson
'Sun
day
nigh
t.T
hatw
ay,
peop
lew
illkn
owyo
u're
':wor
kin'g
ev~n
if
they
don'
tsee
you.
"
3)M
ake
sens
eof
the
hour
s,an
dyo
uw
on't
rese
nt'th
etp.
so
muc
h.If
you'
reex
pect
edto
puti
nlo
ngho~,
it's,
easYt
obe
c?m
ere
sent
ful.
Ithe
lps
toth
ink
abou
tthe
wh
yo~
.tho
se'.
hour
s.
Firs
tofa
ll,as
man
yla
wye
rspo
inte
dou
;t,ia
wis.
acl
ient
dr
iven
busi
ness
..A
sla
wye
rs.a
tC
arlto
nFi
elds
sugg
este
d,"T
ypic
ally
,cl
ient
sar
eno
twill
ing
topa
y"la
wye
rs.~
t:ltil
the
prob
lem
has
beco
me
seve
re,
and
then
they
expe
ct.t
heir
law
yers
'un
divi
ded
imm
edia
teat
tent
ion.
,"Ca
Tlto
nFi
elds
'H
ardy
Rob
erts
adds
,"T
hew
ord
'inju
ncti
on',~e
ans
,'the
yne
edit
tom
orro
w.'
It's
agu
aran
teed
all~nigh~er!""",Akin
Gum
p's
J.D.N
eary
echo
esth
at,
sayi
ng,
"Nob
ody
li~s
and
tells
you
it's
a9
to5
job.
It's
allcli~nt-driven.
~fth
eyne
edst
uffS
atur
day,
they
need
iU"
F1orida'St~te's
.~tepha.ru.e
Red
fear
nad
ds,"
The
re's
ahu
gete
mpt
atio
nto
knoc
ko,f
fat3
p.m
.on
Frid
ay,a
fter
wor
king
hard
allw
eek.
Bu~.~~
,pro
blem
isth
atth
at's
whe
nth
ebi
giss
ues
com
ein
.It's
ofte
nwh
eJ;l.
the
clie
nts
pani
C,s
oyo
uha
veto
~eth
ere.
~D
espJ
teyo~:
best
-laid
plan
s(a
ndth
ebe
stef
forts
ofyo
ur.s
upel'Yis~r)
'.the~~
may
betim
esw
hen
you
are
calle
din
tow
ork
unex
pect
edly
beca
use
acl
ient
need
syo
u.A
sD
enve
r'sJen~er
Loud
~ngar
'sug
gests
,"B
ew
illin
gto
chan
geev
enin
gan
dw
eeke
ndpl
answ
ithno
notic
e.Le
tpeo
ple
know
whe
reyo
uca
nbe
reac
hed
whe
n.
,-~
you'
reaw
ayfo
rth
ew
eeke
nd.
Usu
ally
they
won
'tbu
gyo
uun
less
ther
e'san
emer
genc
y,bu
titm
akes
you
look
good
."Se
cond
ly,r~member
that
the
hour
syo
upu
tin
are
"an
inve
stm
enti
nyo
urse
lf,"
says
NY
U's
Gall
Cut
ter.
"You
need
topu
tin
the
time
notj
ustt
oge
tthe
skill
s,bu
tto
earn
your
cred
ib
ility
.Ify
ouev
erth
ink
you
mig
htw
antt
ow
ork
part
time
orge
tpar
enta
llea
ve,y
ouw
on't
beab
leto
ifyo
uha
ven'
tbui
ltup
cred
ibili
tyw
ith
the
firm
,fir
stA
ndth
atta
kes
hard
wor
k."
Inyo
urea
rlies
tday
sw
ithan
empl
oyer
,you
'rebu
ildin
ga
repu
ta
tion
fory
ours
elf.
AsM
inne
sota
'sN
ora
Kla
phak
esa
ys,"
Ifyo
ush
owup
early
for
wor
kth
efir
stfe
wm
onth
sth
atyo
uar
eth
ere
and~rop
inon
wee
kend
s,yo
uca
nea
seup
afte
rth
atbe
caus
eyo
u've
esta
blis
hed
your
self
asa
'wee
kend
war
rior'
oran
'early
bird
.'".
Third
ly,w
hen
you'
reto
rque
dab
outl
ong
hour
s,re
mem
ber
that
"The
re's
are
latio
nshi
pbe
twee
nw
haty
ou're
paid
and
wha
tyo
uha
veto
prod
uce,
"sa
ysG
eorg
etow
n's
Abb
ieW
illar
d.As
Iex
plai
nin
deta
ilin
the
"Eca
n10
1"se
ctio
nif,
you
wan
tthe
mto
show
you
the
mon
ey,y
ou'v
ego
tto
show
them
the
wor
k.R
emem
ber
also
that
nota
llho
urs~e
crea
ted
equa
l.Lo
ngho
urs
don'
tne
cess
arily
mea
nth
atyo
u're
'kill
ing
your
self
from
sun-
upto
sund
own.
As
Geo
rget
own'
sB
eth
Sher
man
poin
tsou
t,"A
sane
was
soci
ate,
alo
tofw
haty
oudo
does
n't
take
alo
tof
thou
ght.
Tho
seho
urs
aren
'tas
tirin
gbe
caus
eyo
uar
en't
usin
gas
muc
hbr
ain
pow
er."
And
you
can
min
im
ize
your
time
atth
eof
fice
bym
akin
gsu
reth
atw
hen
you
are
ther
e,yo
u're
bein
gef
fici
ent
As
Car
lton
Fiel
ds'
Eric
Ada
ms
says
,"T
hem
ost
impo
rtan
tth
ing
isth
atyo
ugi
veth
emhi
gh-q
ualit
yw
ork.
Ifyo
usp
end
two
hour
sre
adin
gsp
orts
onth
eIn
tern
etan
dth
enre
aliz
eyo
uha
veto
nsof
wor
kto
do,
then
you'
resp
endi
ngm
ore
time
atth
eof
fice
than
you
have
to."
4}W
hatt
odo
whe
nyo
u're
away
from
the
offic
edu
ring
the
day.
192
WHA
TLA
wSC
HO
OL
DO
ESN
'TTE
ACH
YOU
•••
BUT
You
REAL
LYN.
EEO
TOKN
owG
ettin
gO
ffO
nTh
eR
ight
Foot
.••
Leam
ing
The
Clilt
ure
6'G
ettin
gO
rgan
ized
193
Whe
nyo
ule
ave
the
offic
edu
ring
the
day,
Min
neso
ta's
Nor
aK
laph
ake
reco
mm
ends
that
you
"Let
othe~S'know
wha
tYO
li.'re
wor
king
onan
dw
here
you
are.
Ann
ount
elo
udlyen~~
for
seve
ralp
eopl
eto
hear
that
you
arego
ing
toco
urto
rmee
ting
acl
ient
outs
ide
the
offic
e.T
hatw
ayth
eydo
n'ta
ssU
me.
tha~.you
are
outp
layi
nggo
lfor
shop
ping
fora
naf
tern
oon.
".
b.
Who
'sgo
tthe
juic
e?M
any
law
yers
poin
ted
outt
om
eth
atat
.ever
Yfir
m,
.mer
e'ar
epa
rtner
sw
hose
asso
ciat
es"n
ever
mak
ep·
artn
er."
Som
epa
rtner
sse
empo
wer
fulb
utth
eyre
ally
aren
't;ot
hers
may
see-
m'~id.~d
out
ofth
elo
opbu
tth
ey're
actu
ally
high
ly·v
alue
dan
dw
ell
..
-'
resp
ecte
d.As
Dic
kins
on's
Elai
neB
ourn
esa
ys,.
"Whe
.nyo
u~tart,
you
~ay
have
ape
rcep
tion
that
so-a
nd-s
ose
ems
tobe
ala
me¢~ck.
The
ydo
n'ts
eem
todo
alo
t,th
ey're
quie
t,n~t~o~sterous,
.and
whe
nth
eyco
me
toyo
u,yo
um
aybe
tell
ing
your
self
that
thei
rwor
k.i
sn't
asim
po
rtan
tB
utdo
n'tb
low
them
off!
You
need
.to~o~~hat
the
pow
erst
ruct
ure
real
lyis.
".
Inev
ery
orga
niza
tion,
som
epe
ople
will
belli
ore
pow
erfu
ltha
not
hers
,eve
nif
you
can'
tide
ntify
'the
mim
med
iate
ly.A
s.o~e
i'e<:
ruit
ing
coor
dina
torp
utit,
"You
can
smel
lthe
fear
·whe
n·.·c
erta
inpe
ople
wal
kdo
wn
the
hall.
"U
seyo
ur"c
ultu
ralt
ools
"to
·fin
do~t
who
's
real
lygo
tthe
juic
e.H
ofstr
a'sR~becca
Kat
z-W
hite
tells
you
to'"W~~ch
who
'hang
sout
with
who
,the
soci
alin
tera
ctio
n."Miami;~
Ma;I
'cyC
oxte~s
you
that
"Atm
eetin
gs,s
eeho
wpe
ople
resp
ond'
toth
epe
fSon
who
'sta
lkin
g.T
heon
ew
hota
lks
allt
hetim
em
ayno
tberespec~ed~
bhtp
eopl
em
ayre
ally
situ
pan
dta
keno
tice.
whe
na
pers
onw~o's
usua
llyqu
iet
take
sth
eflo
or.
Som
ela
wye
rsar
e've
ryqu
iet·an~"ery
.wen
re
spec
ted.
"G
eorg
iaSt
ate's
Vic
kieBro~
adds
that
you.s
hoUl
d"S
eew
hola
wye
rsgo
tofo
radv
ice
and
info
rmat
ion.
That
'shO
ws'
y~u
who
they
thin
kha
sso
und
judg
men
t"A
ndof
c.oW
'se;l
iste
n.f?~
peop
le's
com
men
tsab
outt
hepe
ople
they
wor
kw
ith
!.
.
How
shou
ldyo
uus
eth
isin
form
atio
n?A
sGeorgeto\$~s
Bet
hSh
erm
ansa
ys,"
Ifyo
udo
n'tk
now
wha
tyou
wan
t.to
do,
find
a.
.
wel
l-res
pect
edpa
rtner
and
wor
kfo
rhim
orhe
r.Y
ou'll
have
ago
odex
perie
nce.
"A
ndas
Chi
cago
Ken
t'sSt
epha
nie
Rev
erC
huad
vise
s,."Y
oune
edto
know
who
nott
ocr
oss!
~tm
ight
bean
atto
rney
,an
offic
em
anag
er,a
secr
etar
y.Th
etit
ledo
esn'
tcou
nt.T
hein
fluen
cedo
es."
Als
o,us
eyo
urcu
ltura
ltoo
lsto
see
ifyo
urs
uper
viso
ris
pow
er
ful.
Wat
chw
hen
you
men
tion
his/
hern
ame
toot
herp
eopl
e.W
atch
thei
rre
actio
ns-e
nthu
sias
tic?Nqnc~mmittal?
Sym
path
etic
?A
ndlis
ten
toho
wth
eyre
spon
d.If
you
have
n'tb
itche
dyo
urw
agon
toa
star
,yo
une
edto
use
tool
sto
adva
nce
your
care
er-y
ou'll
fmd
thos
eto
ols
inth
ese
ctio
nca
lled
"How
ToBe
You
rO
wn
Car
eer
Cou
nsel
or."
c.T
ips
onw
orki
ngfo
ryo
ursu
perv
isor
Inth
e"H
owTo
Cru
shR
esea
rch
And
Writ
ing
Ass
ignm
ents
"se
ctio
n,I
tell
you
abou
tthe
impo
rtanc
eof
gath
erin
gin
telli
genc
eon
wor
king
for
ane
wsu
perv
isor
-for
inst
ance
,you
need
toge
tadv
ice
from
othe
ras
soci
ates
who
've
wor
ked
fory
ours
uper
viso
rbef
ore.
Ifyo
ursu
perv
isor
has
likes
,dis
likes
,qui
rks-
you
wan
tto
know
that
.be
fore
you
mak
ea
mis
take
.
~S
i\'I
AR
TH
UIV
IAN
TR
IC
K•••
Fem
ale
asso
ciat
ea
tasm
allf
irm
says
,"J
was
war
ned
sho
rtly
afte
r
star
ting
my
job
tha
tif
on
epa
rtic
ular
pa
rtn
erf
ire
dm
eIs
ho
uld
n't
pack
my
thin
gs-
he
fire
dev
ery
asso
ciat
ea
tone
time
or
anot
her.
Sur
ee
no
ug
h,
he
sto
rme
din
tom
yo
ffic
eo
ne
da
ya
nd
fire
dm
e
over
som~thing
stu
pid
.Iignor~
it,
an
dhe
calm
ed
do
wn
.If
I
h~dn/t
hear
da
bo
ut
his
rep
uta
tio
nah
ead
oft
ime
,I
wo
uld
have
been
deva
stat
ed."
d.So
cial
izin
gex
pect
atio
ns
You
need
tofi
tin.
AsH
arva
rd's
Laur
aSh
are
Kal
inad
vise
s,"Y
ouca
n't
lock
your
self
away
.Be
soci
al!"
You
need
tow
atch
tose
ee
xact
lyw
hat's
expe
cted
ofyo
u.M
inne
sota
'sSu
san
Gai
nen
tells
194
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CH
You
•••
Bur
You~y
NEE
DTQ
KNow
.~-
Get
ting
Off
On
TheR
ight
Foot
•..L
earn
ing
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d19
5
you
to"W
atch
forb
ehav
ior
cues
a~w
ork.
Do
peop
ie~atl
unch
~tth
eir
desk
s?D
oth
eygo
outt
oget
her?
Do
they
wor
kou
ttog
ethe
r?Fi
gure
outw
hat's
goin
gon
bylo
okin
gca
refu
lly.a
roun
d'You~
Don
't.is
olat
eyo
urse
lfan
ddo
n'th
ang
oute
xclu
siye
lyin~e
com
pany
of
supp
orts
taff
oryo
urag
epe
ers!
".'
.'.
.O
neca
reer
serv
ices
dire
ctor
told
ofa
stud
entw
hoca
lled
her,
telli
nghe
rhe'd
rece
ived
anof
ferf
rom
agr
eatf
irm.
His.Q~1-contact
thus
far
had
been
inte
rvie
ws
atth
eof
fice.
The
man
agJn
gpar
tner
had
sent
him
ale
tteri
nviti
nghi
mto
the
firm
'sam
iual
golf
o~ting.
The
lette
rinc
lude
dth
elin
e,"W
ekn
owyo
u'm
ayno
tgol
f;'!d
on't,
butI
parti
cipa
teev
ery
year
."Th
est
uden
task
edth
eca
reer
~rvices
dire
cto
r,"D
oIr
eally
have
togo
?I'v
ego
tto
study
fort
heB
arex
am.A
ndI
don'
tgo1
f!"Sh
ere
spon
ded,
"Abs
olut
ely!
You
shou
ldte
ll.th
emth
atyo
u're
real
lyex
cite
dab
outi
t,bu
tyou
've
neve
rhel
da
golf
club
."H
epr
otes
ted,
buts
heco
ntin
ued,
"You
dOli'
t.kno
wif
this
isan
.eve
ntyo
uca
nbl
owof
f.Th
eto
neof
the
lette
rsug
gests
that
'ever
yla
wye
rin
the
firm
goes
.Ift
hey
alld
oit,
you
can'
ttur
ndo
wn
the'~Vi~tion."
e.T
he
fina
nci
alh
ea
ltho
fyo
ure~ployer
Ifyo
uw
ork
fort
hego
vern
men
t,w
ea
llfe
rven
tlyho~
*at
your
empl
oyer
isfin
anci
ally
soun
d.If
youaI~
'a~a
priv
ate
firm'~
you
can
neve
rbe
sure
.You
rem
ploy
eral
mos
tcer
tain
lyw
on't~ay
anyt
hing
offic
ially
ifth
ings
are
goin
gba
d.Y
ouha
veto
use
your
cultu
ral
tool
s-an
dyo
urgo
odse
nse-
tofig
ure
itou
tfor
yourself~
.If
you
star
tyou
rca
reer
wit
ha
larg
efir
mwh~re
you'
rem
akin
gsix
figur
esto
star
t,yo
une
edto
be.~
pec£illyvigi1ant,
abou
tfin
an
cial
mat
ters
.Sky
rock
etin
gsa
larie
sar
ecr
eatin
g'an
uph~ava1
inth
een
tire
busin
ess
ofla
w.A
mer
ican
LaW
yere
ven
ran
an,a
rticl
e,un
der
the
head
line
"Eat
Our
You
ng,"
that
prop
osed
that
thean~er
isno
tto
hire
first
year
asso
ciat
esat
all.
Ylk
eslT
heta
ct'is"
~ere
are
alo
tof
partn
ers
who
are
plen
typi
ssed
off
abou
t-~ih
star
ting
sala
ries.
You
'vego
tto
keep
your
eyes
and
ears
·open'to,se~
..thei
rpot
entia
lef
fect
onyo
urfir
m.A
sth
ese
nior
partn
erat
one
mmto
ldm
e,"I
f
prof
itsat
afir
mla
gbe
hind
,ift
hecompe~sation
topa
rtner
sge
tsre
duce
d,pa
rtner
sle
ave
and
take
thei
rboo~
ofbu
slIle.
ssW
ithth
em.
Vo:
:ah
tho
v'r
pm
;lKln
O-;
llo
to
fmon
evan
vwav
.But
ifth
eYpe
rcei
ve
..~
.the
yca
nm
ake
mor
ew
ithou
thav
ing
tocu
tin
new
asso
ciat
esw
ithbi
gsa
larie
s,th
ey'll
jum
p."
Sodo
n'tb
ese
duce
dby
the
mah
ogan
ypa
nelin
gan
dlu
shsu
rroun
ding
sint
oth
inki
ngth
atno
thin
gca
nro
ckyo
urw
orld
.Be
vigi
lant
!O
neca
reer
serv
ices
dire
ctor
told
how
she
had
two
stud
ents
spen
dth
esu
mm
erat
afir
m.
Nei
ther
gota
nof
fera
tthe
end
ofth
esu
mm
etW
hen
she
calle
dth
efir
mto
ask
why
,the
finn
said
,"Th
eir
skill
swer
eba
d."
She
knew
the~dents
and
was
high
lysu
spic
ious
ofth
isan
swer
.On
top
ofth
at,s
hekn
ewth
atth
efir
mha
dbe
ensh
rinki
ngfo
rtw
oye
ars.
Sure
enou
gh,s
ixm
onth
sla
ter,
itcl
osed
.O
neof
the
peop
leIi
nter
view
edfo
rthi
sbo
okw
asan
asso
ciat
eat
Finl
ey,K
umbl
e-a
firm
that
was
the
thir
dla
rges
tlaw
firm
inth
eco
untry
inth
e19
80's.
Itco
llaps
edin
asp
ecta
cula
rfa
shio
n,de
scri
bed
inth
ebo
okS
hark
Tank
.The
form
eras
soci
ate
said
,"Th
efir
mse
ntou
tpre
ssre
leas
es,h
e~d
pres
scon
fere
nces
sayi
ngth
at'T
heru
mor
sar
eto
tally
unfo
unde
d,th
efir
mis
notg
oing
unde
r.'It
sent
am
emo
inO
ctob
erto
allo
fthe
atto
rney
sin
the
firm
,de
nyin
gth
eru
mor
s,sa
ying
that
'Rum
ors
that
we
are
goin
gto
clos
ear
eab
solu
tely
fals
e,'a
llun
derli
ned
and
inca
ps.T
hefir
mcl
osed
two
mon
ths
late
r.Th
ele
sson
Ilea
rned
was
this
:Alw
ays
mak
ea
poin
tof
know
fi?g
ano
sype
rson
inth
ekn
oww
hoca
nke
epyo
uab
reas
tof
thin
gs.M
erge
rdea
ls,fin
anci
alst
atus
,the
faet
that
partn
ers
are
leav
in
g.Ev
enlfy
oudo
n'tg
etin
VO
lved
,list
enII
fthe
timiis
goin
gun
der,
they
won
'tte
llyo
uof
ficia
llybe
caus
eth
ey're
afra
idyo
u'll
jum
psh
ip.
But
ifyo
udo
n'tl
iste
n,yo
u're
stuc
kfo
rtw
ore
ason
s:(1
)yo
u're
stuc
kw
ithm
ore
wor
kbe
caus
eof
the
peop
lew
hodo
know
and
are
jum
ping
ship
,and
wit
hth
eex
traw
ork
you
don'
thav
eth
etim
eto
look
fora
noth
erjo
b,an
d(2
)whe
nyo
ufin
ally
figur
eit
out,
allo
fthe
othe
rpeo
ple
who
didn
'tlis
ten
are
figur
ing
itou
t,to
o,an
dyo
u've
gota
ton
ofco
mpe
titio
nfo
rjob
s."
~.
SM
A'I
iT
HU
MA
NT
R~C
K•
••
.Ass
ocia
teat
ala
rge
Eas
tCoa
stfir
min
the
earJ
y19
90's
.It's
am
at
ter
of"s
pecu
lati
on"-
a/k/
agossi~that
"We'
real
lge
ttin
g
196
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEAC
HY
OU
•••
BUT.
YOpR~LY
NEED
TO.K
Now
.G
ettin
gO
ffO
nTh
eR
ight
Foot
•••
Lear
ning
The
Cul
ture
&G
ettin
gO
rgan
ized
19
7
fire
d."
The
firm
line
is,"W
e're
notl
ayin
go
ffan
yone
/'T
heas
so-'
dat
esa
ys,.
"1he
arth
at,
and
the
nIl
ook
atm
yp~'rson,al
expe
ri
~nce
.I'm
no
tbill
ing
en
ou
gh
tosu
pp
ort
mys~lary.~ton
101
tells
me
that
I'mn
ots
tayi
ng
."S
ome
oft
he
.·ass
oci,a
tes
brin
gup
the
unsu
bsta
ntia
ted
rum
ou
ra
tth
en
ext
firm
.-w
ide
me,eti~g~
Th
e
part
ners
angr
ilyst
and
by
the
irp
ub
licst
atem
ents
,and
view
with
disp
leas
ure
bein
gembarras~ed
byth
e,a
ssoc
iate
s'yv
ti.obr
ing
up
the
ma
tte
rin
~ubl
ic.
The
asso
ciat
esa
ys,~'Sh.ortly
aft~'r
that
,Ig
et
are
view
that
'spa
rtic
ular
lyug
ly.T
he,q
ua~.
ity
of,:
"y'~~rk~asn't
chan
ged,
and
I'mw
ork
ing
for
thesa~e
pa
rtn
er
I'vew~.rked
for
inth
epa
st.
tre
aliz
e:th
ey'r
ese
ttin
gm
eup
.The
y're
'lay
ing.
the
gro
un
dw
ork
for
ge
ttin
gri
do
fm
e.'"
Hei~mediately
fou
nd
.an
oth
er
job
.A
nd
sho
rtly
aft
er
hele
ft,
ma
ny
ofth~
asso
Cia
tes
wer
e,in
fact
,la
idof
f.:.
f.T
heci
rcum
stan
ces
ofas
soda
tes
leav
ing
the
empl
oyer
befo
reyo
ugo
tthe
re.
List
enca
refu
llyw
hen
peop
leta
lk.a
bout
asso
ciat
esw
how
ere
forc
edou
tbef
ore
you
arriv
ed.T
hefa
ctis,
diff
eren
tem
ploy
ers
have
diff
eren
tsen
sitiV
ities~out
diff
eren
tthi
ngs.
for-
som
e'of
them
,get
ting
drun
kan
dpa
ssin
gou
tat
a.p
artn
er's
'P~ty·
.WoU
ldge
tyou
cash
iere
don
the
spot
.Ato
ther
s,it
wou
ldn'
t~·Ev
enth
01.fg
h~s
are
hype
r-con
scio
usof
sexu
alha
rass
men
tiss
ues,
thet
ear~.·ce~t:ain
part·
.ne
rsat
certa
inpl
aces
Who
are
sopo
wer
ful't
hat"
ifth
ey'h
aras
sa
fem
ale
asso
ciat
e,th
epa
rtner
will
stay
and
thef~male'~sso~iate
will
befo
rced
ou
tIf
you'
rea
wom
an,
it's'
extrem.~(y'impottant
tokn
owif
ther
ear
em
enlik
eth
atat
wor
k,so
thatyou'~
avoi
dth
emat
allc
osts.
The
botto
mlin
eis
,see
wha
t'ski
lled
othe
rsa~
theo
ffice
,so
that
you
can
avoi
dth
esa
me
deat
h!
g.A
ttit
udes
abou
tpro
bono
wor
k.
Ever
yla
wfir
mw
illpu
blic
lyhe
rald
itsde
dica
tion
topro
bono
wor
k.As
Idis
cuss
in"E
con
10I-
Th
eB
usin
ess
ofLa
w,~th~
trut
hm
aybe
very
diff
eren
t.Th
eon
lyw
ayyo
uca
n,te
ll.w
hat
your
om
ntn
vP
t'l'
P~l1
vthink~
ofn
robo
nois
bv
uSin
g:yo
urcu
lture
tool
s.
Wat
chca
refu
llyan
dse
eho
wpr
obo
nois
trea
ted.
Ason
ela
wye
rpo
ints
out,
"Pro
bono
com
mitm
entv
arie
s.So
me
firm
sar
eve
ryco
mm
itted
.Ato
ther
s,it'
syo
urow
npe
rson
alob
ligat
ion.
"A
noth
erla
wye
radd
edth
at,"
Atm
any
big
firm
s,th
ere's
real
lyon
lyon
epe
r-.so
nw
hodo
esal
lthe
pro
bono
,but
the
cred
itis
spre
adou
t."Th
ehi
ring
partn
erat
one
larg
e.fir
mla
men
ted
that
"We
doa
loto
fpro
bono
wor
k,an
dit
mak
esne
was
soci
ates
belie
veth
atin
ever
ythi
ngw
edo
,we'
reon
the
side
ofth
e'r
ight
.'T
hat's
notr
ealis
tic,a
ndif
they
look~d
mor
ecl
osel
y,th
ey'd
real
ize
that
"
h.H
andl
ing
bill
able
s.
Rec
ordi
ngyo
urtim
eis
anar
ttha
tvar
ies
toso
me
exte
ntfro
mem
ploy
erto
empl
oyer
.Ico
uld
prob
ably
have
told
you
abou
tith
ere.
Itw
ould
fit
But
beca
use
the
who
leid
eaof
billa
bles
isso
tied
inw
ithth
ebu
sine
ssof
law
,Ita
lkab
outi
twith
thos
eto
pics
,in
stea
d
unde
r"Ec
on1
01
-The
Bus
ines
sofL
aw:"
LHan~g
expe
nse
repo
rts.
You
need
tole
arn
wha
t'sap
prop
riate
toch
arge
toth
eof
fice,
and
wha
tisn
'tTh
isis
very
muc
ha
cultu
ralm
atte
r;di
ffer
ente
mpl
oyer
sfe
eldi
ffere
ntly
abou
tdiff
eren
tite
ms..
The
easi
estt
hing
todo
isto
ask
the
recr
uitin
g'aQ
rnin
istra
tOl;
hirin
gpa
rtnet
;ory
ours
uper
visor
befo
re
yousub~tyo~
expe
nse
repo
rtA
sCar
lton
Fiel
ds'E
lizab
eth
Zaba
ksu
gges
ts,"
Do
note
xpec
tthe
firm
tore
imbu
rse
you
for
ever
ythi
ngun
dert
he~un.
Ifyo
uex
ceed
the
budg
etfo
rre
crui
ting
dinn
ers
and
the
like,
don'
tjus
tsub
mit
the
expe
nsesta~ement
and
hope
fort
hebe
stD
oa
little
publ
icre
latio
ns.G
ose
eth
ere
crui
ting
adm
ini.s
t:lito
rto
expl
ain
the
situ
atio
nan
dle
ther
know
that
you
don'
texp
ectt
obe
reim
burs
edor
why
this
part
icul
ardi
nner
gotq
utof
hand
.Bei
ngup
front
goes
alo
tfur
ther
than
hopi
ng~mething
will
slip
by.S
omeo
new
illno
tice,
and
you
don'
twan
titt
obe
the
man
agin
gpa
rtner
."G
eorg
etow
n's
Abb
ieW
illar
dre
com
men
dsth
at"F
orlo
ngtr
ips,
ask-
how
man
yda
ysca
nyo
utra
velb
efor
esu
bmit
ting
adr
ycl
ean·
ing
char
ge,o
rsho
esh
ine,
orha
ircut
?A
lway
ser
ron
the
side
ofco
nservatism~
And
beaw
are
that
guid
elin
esfo
rmea
lsar
edi
ffer
entf
oras
soci
ates
than
they
are
forp
artn
ers!
"
198
WH
ATLA
wSc
HO
OL
DoE
SN
'TTE
AC
HYo
U••
•.Bu
rYou
REAL
LY~EED
TOKN
owG
ettin
gO
ffOn
The
Righ
tFoo
t•.•
Lear
ning
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d19
9
~CAREER
LIM
!T
IN
Gi\~OVE·.
•·
An-
asso
ciat
efil
esan
expe
nse
repo
rt,a
skin
gfo
rga
s'm
ileag
ere
im
burs
emen
t...
for
driv
ing
toa
din
ne
rpa
rty
ata
part
ner's
h~me.
Apa
rtne
r's.w
ifeas
ksth
efi
rmto
pay
for
he
r.ne
wga
sgr
ill,ar
gu
i'ng
that
"su
rely
we
will
beho
stin
gm
an
youtd~orpa
rti~
sfo
r
sum
mer
asso
ciat
esin
the
futu
re."
j.Pe
rcep
tions
ofyo
u
AsV
erm
ont's
Pave
lWon
sow
itzad
vise
s,"Y
oune
ed·t
oke
ep'y
our
finge
ron
the
puls
eo
fwha
t'sbe
ing
said
abou
tyou
.~W
hen
s,~me
body
brin
gsyo
uba
dne
ws,
tharuc
them
.Don~t
shoo
tthe
,~~enger.
Whe
npe
ople
have
ane
gativ
eop
inio
nof
you,"
they
,will
.,b~
loat
heto
say
thin
gsto
you
dire
ctly
-but
they
pro~ably
WO
]1't
beas
shy
abou
tsay
ing
thin
gsbe
hind
your
back
.Sch
muc
ks!W
J;1en
,~ose
com
m
ents
com
eto
your
atte
ntio
n,ke
eptw
oth
ings
inm
ind:
'1),
The
mes
seng
er's
mot
ivat
ion
inte
lling
you.
Don~t
betra
y,an
yem
otio
n.U
seyo
urpe
rcep
tions
ofyo
urco
ntac
tand
'ofth
e0r
:igin
al~peak~r
tose
eho
wm
uch
cred
ence
togi
veto
the
com
men
t.2)
Rem
embe
rtha
tan
ybod
y's
perc
eptio
nis
just
that
:It'
son
lya-~rception.
Itte
llsyo
uon
lyw
hatt
hesp
eake
rth
inks
ofyo
uat
the
mom
entt
hey,~ade
the
com
men
t.D
on't
take
itpe
rson
ally
.You
canch
~ge.
perc
epti
~ns.
(1ta
lkab
outt
his
ingr
eatd
etai
lin
the
sect
ion
calle
d"U
seEy
alua
tions
And
Crit
idsm
ToPr
opel
You
rCar
eerForWaro~")
'.
'O
neas
soci
ate
ata
firm
inth
eM
idw
estt
alke
daboti~
'aneX
peri
ence
heha
dw
hen
hest
arte
dto
wor
k.~I
had
just
finis
hed,
'the
first
clie
ntle
tter
Ieve
rwro
te.M
yse
cret
ary,
Tany
a,br
ough
tit~
,.an
dI
sign
edit
.Sh
eas
ked,
'Wou
ldyo
ulik
ea
.cop
y?'S
heh,a~
a.he
avy
Bos
ton
acce
nt,a
ndIt
houg
htsh
esa
id'C
offe
e.':S
o,Ir
espo
nded
,'I'd
love
aco
ffee!
Tha
nks.
Ita
keit
ligh
tW
ithsu
gar.'
;S~e'
angr
ilyre
spon
ded,
'I'm
noty
ours
lave
!'an
dst
onne
do~t
of.m
yof
fice;
Iwas
tota
llyco
nfus
ed.A
noth
erse
cret
ary
cam
eup
to'm
efif
teen
min
utes
late
r,an
dsa
id,'
How
coul
dyo
usa
yth
atto
Tany
a?Se
cret
arie
she
redo
n'tb
ring
coffe
eto
thei
rbo
sses
.Get
your
head
outo
fthe
Fifti
es.
Nob
ody
will
wor
kfo
ryou
ifyo
uha
vean
attit
ude
like
that
.'T
hank
God
she
said
som
ethi
ngto
me!
Itga
vem
ea
chan
ceto
stra
ight
enth
ings
outw
ith
Tany
a,an
dW
ithal
loft
heot
hers
ecre
tarie
sWho
had
dagg
erso
utfo
rme.
"
k.
.How
toL
ook
the
Par
t(.•
•an
dW
hy
Ally
McB
ealI
sN
otA
Goo
dR
ole
Mod
el)
You
rcl
othe
sha
veal
way
ssa
ida
lot
abou
tyo
u.W
hen
you
beco
me
ala
wye
t;yo
uw
anty
ourc
loth
esto
say
wha
tyou
rem
ploy
er,
your
clie
nts,
and
ever
ybod
yel
seyo
uha
ve,c
onta
ctw
ith
prof
essio
nal
lyw
illex
pect
them
tosa-
y.H
ere's
wha
tto
doto
mak
esu
reyo
ulo
okth
epa
rt:
1)U
ntil
you
figur
eou
tthe
dres
sco
deat
wor
k,w
earw
haty
ouw
ore
toin
terv
iew
s-as
long
asyo
udr
esse
dco
nser
vativ
ely
for
thos
e! You
rte
mpt
atio
nm
ight
beto
buy
aw
hole
new
war
drob
ebe
fore
you
star
twor
king
.Tha
tmak
esse
nse
only
ifyo
u've
'sp
ent s
ome
time
wit
hth
eem
ploy
erpr
evio
usly
,eith
erw
ith
acl
erks
hip
orw
ith
som
eca
sual
visi
tsor
,in
the
case
ofpr
osec
uto
rs,b
yvi
sitin
gth
eco
urtro
omah
ead
oftim
ean
dw
atch
ing
them
wor
k.Y
ouca
nal
sobu
ya
war
drob
ebe
fore
you
arriv
eat
the
offic
eif
you
sitd
own
first
with
the
recr
uitin
gco
ordi
nato
ror
hirin
gpa
rtner
toas
kab
outw
hat's
appr
opria
te.O
ther
wis
e,ha
veju
sta
few
"int
ervi
ew"
outfi
ts,a
ndho
ldof
fon
any
maj
orpu
rcha
ses.
The
reas
onyo
ush
ould
doth
isis
that
ifyo
ubu
yah
ead
oftim
e,yo
um
ight
bebU
ying
som
ethi
ng,t
otal
lyin
no
cently~
that
'sw
rong
for
the
offic
ecu
lture
.E
ither
that
,or
you'
llbu
yan
entir
ew
ardr
obe
that
'sto
oco
nser
vativ
e,w
hen
you
mig
htfin
do~t
that
ther
e's
alo
tmor
ele
eway
fori
ndiv
id
ualit
yat
your
offic
e.Y
ouca
nal
way
sad
dliv
elie
rcl
othe
sto
'yo
urco
nser
vativ
ein
terv
iew
wea
ron
ceyo
u've
lear
ned
the
unifo
rmat
wor
k.A
sT
exas
.Tec
h's
Kay
Flet
cher
says
,"Y
ou
200
WHA
TLA
wSC
HOOL
DO
ESN
'TTE
ACH
YOU
•••
BlIT
You
REAL
LYNE
EDTO~OW
Get
ting
Off
On
TheR
wzt
Foot
••.L
eam
ing
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d20
1
neve
rge
tcrit
iciz
edfo
rdr
essi
ngto
o'co
nser
vativ
ely~hen
you'
star
t!If
you'
reto
ori
sque
you'
llst
aD.~
ou
tfor
allt
hew
rong
reas
ons.
"C
arlto
nFi
elds
'E
lizab
eth
Zaba
kpoi~ts
.o~t
that
"Law
isa
cons
erva
tive
prof
essi
on.Y
ouri
nitia
l'iIil
pres
sion
will
bea
last
ing
one.
You
wan
tto
bere
mem
bere
dfo
ryou
ru1
telli
genc
ean
dab
ility
,not
the
leng
thof
your
skirt
,you~
h$sty
leor
your
mak
e-up
.""W
hen
you'
rene
w,y
oudo
n't-
wan
tto
wea
ran
ythi
ngth
atw
illm
ake
peop
leta
lkabou~yoti,~
'adds
Min
neso
ta's
Susa
nG
aine
n.-
2)W
atch
wha
toth
erpe
ople
wea
rtowork~and
know
wha
tto
wat
chfo
r.
Rem
embe
rth
em
ovi.e
"Men
InBlac~"?
Whe
n.R
ipTo
rnsa
ysto
Will
Smith
,"T
lme
topU
t"ito
n.T
he,la
st:s
uity
ou'll
ever
wea
r,"an
dha
nds
him
abl<
i:ck
suit?
Wel
l,W
O,rk
isn'
tlik
ely
tobe
that
stri
ct.B
utas
.ane
wla
wye
r,yo
uar
egq
ip.g
tobe
wea
ring
som
ethi
ngof
aunifo~.
And
that
unifo
,rmw
illbe
deci
ded
bype
ople
inyo
urof
fice.
Her
e's'.w
n-at
you
wan
tto
wat
chou
tfor
:
a)I'v
eal
read
yto
ldyo
uto
keep
aneY~aDd
ear-
oUtf
orth
em
ostr
espe
cted
juni
oras
soci
ates
.W~ar
w-h
at:th
eyw
ear.
b)Be
awar
eth
atdi
ffer
entk
inds
of.-einploy~rs
have
diffe
ren
tqui
rks.
Geo
rget
own'
sA
nna
DaV
isr~ounts
her
own
expe
rienc
eas
ane
wla
wye
ron
Cap
itolH
ilLSh~
Says
,"I
figU
red
Icou
ldn'
tgo
wro
ngif
I.Wor
e~conse~atiVe
blue
suit
tow
ork.
Idi
dn't
realiz~th~t.on
.the
'~i11,
'pag
esw
earb
lue
suits
.Ico
uldn
'tfig
ure'
out:
wha
twas
goIn
gon
whe
nev
eryb
ody
hand
edm
een
velo
pes.
)bey
'th~
Ught
Iw
asa
page
,not
ala
wye
r!".
c}If
you
are
wor
king
ina
part
ofth
eco
Unt
ry.th
at'$
'new
toyo
u,"B
ees
peci
ally
adep
tatp
icki
ngup
clues
abo':
!tw
hat
the
sarto
rialn
orm
s'ar
e,"
says
Kentu~ky's,
bru~il1a
Bak
ert.
Peop
lem
entio
ned
$is
tom
eal
lov~r
$e-coun~
In
:.:.'
New
Yor
kan
dLo
sA
ngel
es,y
ouca
nbe
mor
efa
shio
nfo
rwar
d.A
talo
tofe
mpl
oyer
sin
thos
eci
ties,
'am
anca
nge
taw
ayw
itha
four
-but
ton
suit
that
wou
ldn'
tfly
in
mor
eco
nser
vativ
epl
aces
.In
Texa
s,w
omen
are
expe
cted
tow
ear
mor
em
akeu
p.In
the
Paci
ficN
orth
w
est,
just
the
oppo
site
istru
e;a
mor
ena
tura
lloo
kis
the
norm
.The
seare
ofco
urse
gene
raliz
atio
ns,b
utth
epo
int
isth
is:
bese
nsiti
veto
.geo
grap
hic
war
drob
est
yles
if
you'
rein
ane
wpl
ace.
d)Be
awar
eth
atso
me
peop
lein
efle
ryof
fice
dres
sin
ap
prop
riate
ly.
Bem
ore
cons
erva
tive
than
the
wild
erdr
esse
rs.A
nd
don'
ttak
eyo
urdr
ess
cues
from
the
sup
port
staf
f!As
Dav
eJa
mes
ofth
eSa
nD
iego
City
Atto
rne
y's
Offi
cesa
ys,"
Figu
reth
atth
esh
orte
stsk
irts
are
too
shor
t;th
em
ostc
asua
llydr
esse
dar
eto
oca
sual
;the
mos
t'ru
mpl
edsu
itsar
eto
oru
mpl
ed.
Ifyo
urdr
ess
isat
the
oute
rm
argi
nsof
attir
ein
your
offic
e,yo
un~ed
tom
ove
tow
ard
the
cent
er.W
hen
you
find
your
self
defe
ndin
gyo
urdr
ess
byco
mpa
ring
it.fa
vour
ably
tow
hats
ome-
.'bo
dyel
sein
the
offic
ew
ears
,rem
embe
rhow
impr
esse
dth
ehi
ghw
aypa
trolo
ffice
ris
whe
nyo
usa
y,'B
utO
ffice
r,.
othe
rsw
ere
goiil
gfa
stert
han
me.
'".
Furth
erm
ore,
rem
embe
rth
atm
ore
expe
rienc
edla
wye
rsha
vem
ore
leew
ayto
dres
sm
ore'i
ndiv
idua
listi·
cally
.Bec
ause
they
are
pow
erfu
l,th
eyha
vea
barg
aini
ngch
ipth
atyo
udo
n'th
ave
asa
new
law
yer.
Whe
nyo
u've
earn
ed.so
me
juic
e,yo
uca
nw
ear
the
red
leat
her
.min
iski
rt,t
oo(u
nles
syo
u're
am
an,i
nw
hich
case
that
'spr
obab
lyne
Yer
ago
odid
eano
mat
ter
ho
wpo
wer
ful
you
get).
e)Pa
ym
ore
atte
ntio
nto
wha
tpeo
ple
inyo
urof
fice
wea
r,th
anyo
udo
toar
ticle
sab
outw
hatl
awye
rsar
esu
ppos
edto
wea
r.M
ississ
ippi
'sJo
yce
Whi
tting
ton
tells
the
follo
w
ing
stor
y:"1
saw
anar
ticle
one
day
ina
natio
nall
egal
.
202
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
oES
N'T
TEA
CHY
OU
•••
BU
TY
ouRE
ALLY
NEE
DTO
KNow
Get
ting
OffO
nTh
eRi
ghtF
oot•
..Le
c.min
gTh
eCu
lture
ftG
ettin
gO
rgan
ized
203
mag
azin
eth
atsa
idth
atm
ensh
ould
only
wea
rshO
esth
atla
ceup
,not
slip-
onso
fany
kind
.It,w
asdu
ring
on-e
ampu
sin
terv
iew
seas
on.W
hen
agr
oup
ofab
outs
ixm
ale
inte
rvi
ewer
sca
me
into
my
offic
eth
ene
xtda
y;th
em
agaz
ine
was
onm
yde
sk.A
swe
allw
alke
d~ut
ofm
yoffice~
one
ofth
em
enas
ked
me
ifIh
adre
adth
em
agaz
ine
on'm
yde
sk.I
told
him
Ihad
,and
said
,'It
was
inte
rest
ing
tos~e
that
they
said
men
shou
ldon
lyw
ear
tie-u
p;wingtip-lik~
shoe
s.'W
eal
lfou
ndou
rsel
ves
imm
edi;;
ite1y
loqk
ing
dow
nat
ever
yone
'sfe
etA
sit
turn
sou
t,no
neof
,them
,~ere
wea
ring
the
shoe
sth
ear
ticle
had
saidw~re
man
qato
ry.
All
ofth
emha
don
very
nice
slip-
onS.
I,tol
d'th
emjo
king
lyth
atsin
ceth
eyw
eren
'tdr
esse
dap
prop
riate
ly;'t
hey
show
,dgo
hom
ean
dch
ange
!"
Arti
cles
tell
you
only
abou
t'w
hatt
he'repor~er'
:who
wro
teth
ear
ticle
was
told
byw
hom
ever
(s}h
einte~
view
ed.I
fwha
tpeo
ple
wea
rat
your
,?ff
ice
bel:i
es'a
nypu
blis
hed
sour
ce,f
ollo
ww
haty
ouse
eat
wor
k!'
3}"..
.B
utW
hyD
oIH
ave
ToD
ress
like
Ever
Ybo
dyEl
se?"
,,
The
shor
tans
wer
is:y
oudo
n't.
Not
allt
hetime.,At~ome,
you
can
wea
ra
tutu
,scu
bage
ar,a
ndm
uklu
ksif
ittl
oa~
your
boat
But
atw
ork,
you'
rea
law
yer.
And
th~re
are'a
b~~,
ofgo
odre
ason
sfo
rdre
ssin
glik
eev
eryb
ody:
elSe
.',
a)Y
ouw
antt
obe
take
nse
rious
lyas
'ala
wye
r:by,the,p~o·
pIe
atyo
urof
fice.
Ifyo
udo
n'tl
ook
the
pari,
you
won
'tpe
.As
Geo
rge
tow
n's
Abb
ieW
illar
dsa
ys,"
Whe
npe
op,le
look
atyo
u,yo
udo
n'tw
antt
hem
tono
tice
how
,shor
tyou
r,sk
irti
sor
how
expe
nsiv
eyo
ursu
itis
."N
ova
Sout
heas
tern
'sPa
t Jas
onpo
ints
outt
hat'
''Ify
oudre
ssp~6,vocativ'ely,
you'
llha
vea
hard
time,
bein
gta
ken
sen?
u,sl
y.,N
q(oD
lyth
at,b
utyo
u'll
bepe
rcei
ved
a~in
secu
re.Y
ouCaD.~t
put
your
best
foot
forw
ard
ifit
'scl
ad'i
n.~shoc~~
pink
five-
inch
heel
!"
"~:t
'~CAREER
LIM
ITIN
GM
OV
E...
New
fem
ale
asso
ciat
e,la
rge
firm
.S
heat
tend
sa
mee
t
ing
wit
ho
ther
part
ners
and
asso
ciat
es.
Eve
rybo
dyis
shoc
ked
tose
eth
atsh
eis
wea
ring
anH
Ally
McB
eal"
outf
itw
ith
av
ery
shor
tski
a:t.
She
sits
dow
n,an
dto
mak
em
atte
rsw
orse
,sh
ed
oes
n't
cros
she
rle
gs.
Whe
nth
em
eeti
ngis
over
,th
ebu
zzbe
hind
her
back
isab
ou
th
erb
rig
ht
yell
owu
nd
erw
ear-
vis
ible
toev
eryb
ody
inth
ero
om.
As
DeP
anfil
is&
Val
1erie
'sC
arrie
Col
ange
losa
ys,"
Ifyo
u're
afe
mal
elit
igat
or,y
ouha
veto
star
tout
play
ing
byth
eru
les
ifyo
uw
antp
eopl
eto
view
you
asca
pabl
e.I
star
ted
out p
layi
ngby
the
role
s.In
my
min
d,yo
uea
rnth
eri
ghtt
ow
ear
the
cand
yap
ple
red~t.
Onc
eyo
u've
been
arou
ndan
dyo
ukn
oww
haty
ouar
edo
ing,
it's
all
righ
tto
stan
dou
t.B
utw
hen
you'
rene
w,a
nq.y
ouha
veno
clue
wha
tyou
'redo
ing
orso
met
imes
even
whe
retf:le
heck
the
cour
troom
you
need
tobe
inis
loca
ted,
your
maj
orob
ject
ive
isto
surv
ive.
You
don'
twan
tto
bere
mem
bere
das
the
inco
mpe
tent
law
yeri
nth
epi
nksu
itT
heru
les
only
chan
geon
ceyo
ukn
oww
hat
you'
redo
ing.
"
b}If
you
don'
tdr
ess
appr
opria
tely
,p~ople
will
ques
tion
yoW
'pro
fess
iona
lcom
pete
nce.
Itdo
esn'
tse
emfa
ir,b
ut
peop
ledr
awco
nclu
sion
sab
outy
our
abili
ties
base
don
wha
tyou
wea
r.T
hey'
llth
ink,
ifyo
uca
n'tg
etth
ecl
othe
sri
ght,
wha
tels
ear
eyo
um
essi
ngup
?It
influ
ence
sth
eiro
pini
onin
way
sthe
yth
emse
lves
may
note
ven
real
ize.
One
olde
rat
torn
eyde
scrib
eda
youn
gfe
mal
eat
torn
eyas
bein
g"j
ust
som
com
pete
nt.A
ndev
eryt
hing
she
owns
isth
eco
lor
ofsh
erbe
t!"T
hat's
nott
hew
ayyo
uw
antt
obe
view
ed.
204
WH
ATLA
wSc
HO
OL
DO
ESN
'TTE
ACH
YoU
•••
BUT,
YOU
REAL
LyN
EED
'TO
KNow
Get
ting
Off
On
TheR
ight
Foot
...L
earn
ing
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d20
5
c)Y
ourc
lient
sde
serv
eto
have
ala
wye
rwho
dr-es
ses.
the
'w
ayth
eyex
pect
law
yers
to~ess.
',
,Eve
nif
yOU!
offic
eha
sgo
neto
,"b~iness
casu
al"
(and
we'
rego
ing
tota
lkab
outt
hati
na
min
ute}
,'rem
.em
ber
that
whe
neve
ryo
uha
veco
ntac
tw
ithdie~ts,,ca~ual
wea
rdo
esn'
tfly
.As
Ven
able
,B
aetje
r'sS~ernn,'
Tuck
ersa
ys,"
1al
way
sw
ear
atie
whe
nIm
eetw
ithcl
ient
s.It'
sa
resp
ectt
hing
."H
ofst
ra's
Reb
ecca
'Ka~.,White
poin
tsou
ttha
t,"W
hen
you'
reyo
ung,
your
'clie~ts
have
aha
rden
ough
time
taki
ngyo
use
rious
ly.Y
out:lee~
tose
eyo
ur
self
asa
prof
essi
onal
,an
dth
at,m
eans
'look
ing
like
a.
law
yer.
You
act
mor
epr
ofes
sion
ally
whe
nyo
u're
dres
sed
appr
opria
tely
."W
hen
you
have
payi
ngcl
ient
s,th
eyex
pectyo~
tolo
oklik
ea
wor
thw
hile
investm~~t.
As
Car
lton
Fiei
ds'
Kev
inN
appe
rsay
s,"I
fyou
wer
epa
ying
s<;>
meo
nehu
ndr
eds
ofdo
llars
anho
ur,w
ould
n'ty
ouw
ant$
'emto
look
the
part?
"D
ePan
filis
&V
alle
rie's
Carn
eC
olan
gelo
adds
,"If
you
wan
tto
geta
clle
ntto
hire
your
firin
and
pay
ate
nth
ousa
nddo
llar
retainer~
your
'sto
ckin
gssh
ould
n'th
ave
runs
inth
em,y
~u.r
mak
eup
,shou
ldbe
on,
and
your
nails
shou
ldbe
neat
.'If
you
~oo~,like
am
ess
and
can'
tpre
sent
ago
odim
age,
whY
shpu
ldan
y-on
eth
ink
you
coul
dpr
esen
ta~e
atca
Se?"
,,"
,If
you
are
apu
blic
defe
nder
o~ot
herW
isew
ork"
wit
h
low
-inco
me
clie
nts;
take
spec
ialc
are~
wha
tYO
lfwea
rw
hen
you
mee
twith
them
.You
wan
ttodr
e.ss
resp
ect
fully
.A
son
epu
blic
defe
nder
poin
teq,
out,
"We
have
men
who
grad
uate
from
law
scho
olan
dc9m~
toour
offic
e,an
dth
ink,
'Hey
,her
el'a
m~
t:hi
s,'.
co~l
,off
ice
inth
epu
blic
sect
or,t
here
'sno
thin
gWl'O~g
withh~ving
apo
nyta
ildo
wn
tom
yw
aist
."It'
sno
tfa
lrto
,the
ircl
ient
s!Th
eyha
vea
righ
tto
som
ebod
yw
ho,l
ooks
like
ala
wye
r!"
You
also
wan
tto~
care
ful~
oui
na\,1
Iltin
g...
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..Th
""Tt
,..,.I
t'h
t....
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",H
OT
'lt<
-
.,,:
:
:',
.
AsN
orth
ern
Illin
ois'
Mar
yO
brzu
tsa
ys,
"You
can'
t'dr
ess
like
aJun
ior
Leag
ueri
fyou
'reap~lic
defe
nder
."A
ndon
efe
mal
ela
wye
rad
ds,"
Whe
nId
ealw
ith
wor
ker
s'co
mp
clie
nts
orI'm
doin
gpr
obo
now
ork,
Idon
'tw
ear
my
diam
ond
enga
gem
entr
ing.
Iwas
once
tryi
ng
toex
plai
nto
acl
ient
why
hesh
ould
acce
pta
rath
erpa
ltr
ysu
mof
mon
eyfo
rhis
not-s
o-gr
eate
ase.
He
look
edat
'm
yrin
g,an
dsa
id,'
Loo
k-'-I
don'
texp
ecty
outo
unde
rst
and'
my
life.
'"
4)G
ettin
gth
eha
ngof
"bus
ines
sca
sual
."It
'sno
tthe
sam
eas
"law
scho
olca
sual
."
The
lega
lpro
fess
ion
is,in
anup
roar
abou
tthe
conc
epto
f"b
usin
ess
casu
al."
The
fact
is,
no
bo
dy
know
s'w
hati
tmea
ns.
Itdi
ffers
from
offic
eto
offic
e.H
ere's
som
ead
vice
abou
thow
you,
shou
ldha
ndle
"bus
ines
sca
sual
."
a}A
sk! Th
ebe
stad
vice
onfig
uriri
gou
twha
tto
wea
rto
a"b
usin
ess
casu
al"
offic
eis
toca
llah
ead
oftim
ean
das
kth
ere
crui
ting
coor
dina
tor,
hir
ing
partn
er,o
ran
ybod
yw
hoin
terv
iew
edyo
uab
outw
hate
xact
lyis
appr
opria
te.
AsA
rizon
a'sM
ary
Birm
ingh
amsa
ys,"
Ask
wha
tto
We
at
They
'llap
prec
iate
that
you
both
ered
toas
k!"
b)"B
usin
ess
casu
al"
does
n'tm
ean
"law
scho
olca
sual
."
Spor
tshi
rtsan
dja
cket
s,kh
akis
,sw
eate
rs,p
ants
uits
forwomen~t.hat's
all
fine.
Flip
flops
,T-
shirt
s,je
ans,
shor
ts,l
eggi
ngs,
flash
yje
wel
ryar
eno
t.If
you
see
iton
,M~
nobo
dysh
ould
see
you
init
atth
eof
fice.
Bra
s,de
finite
ly.V
isib
lebr
ast
aps,
no.D
on't
com
eto
wor
kin
the
outfi
tin
whi
chyo
uw
entc
lubb
ing
last
nigh
t.O
ther
outfi
tsre
crui
ting
coor
dina
tors
have
seen
new
asso
ciat
esw
earin
gto
wor
k:be
ach
wea
r,ga
rden
ing
outfi
ts,
and
paja
mas
.Don
'tgo
ther
e!
c)"B
usin
essc
asu~"
does
n'tm
ean
"che
aplo
okin
g."
206
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEAC
HYo
u••
.BUT
You
REAL
LYN
EED
TOKN
ow
,.
.",'
Get
ting
Off
On
TheR
ight
Foot
•..L
earn
ing
The
Cul
ture
&G
ettin
gO
rgan
ized
207
AsM
ary
Birm
ingh
amsa
ys,
"You
still
have
toio
okgr
eat.
You
can
geta
way
wit
hpo
lyes
t~r,
buti
tc'~
ttbe
plas
ticba
gpo
lyes
ter.
nSh
opat
qual
ity'
stor
es,a
ndse
ew
hatt
heir
idea
ofca
sual
is.So
me
firm
sev
enha
vein
hous
efa
shio
nsh
ows
from
Bro
oks
Bro
ther
s!.D
icki
nson
'sEl
aine
Bou
rne
says
that
ifyo
ugo
to'"
Talb
ots,
Bro
oks
Bro
ther
s,st
ores
like
that
-the
yha
vepe
ople
.who
'dea
lw
ith
'bus
ines
sca
sual
'eve
ryda
y:"
.
d)Ev
enat
abu
sines
sca
sual
offic
e,al
way
shav
e.so
met
hing
form
alat
wor
kin
case
you'
re'c
alle
dou
toft
heo~ce
onbu
sines
sat
am
omen
t'sno
tice.
.
I've
mad
eth
ispo
int
seve
ral
times
thro
ugho
utth
ebo
ok,
but
it's
wor
thm
akin
gag
ain.
Ifyo
u're
4res
sed
casu
ally
,you
wil
lnot
beab
let~
'take
uP,a
seni
orat
tor
ney'
sof
fer
togo
.to
aclie
ntm
eet:i
ng,c
putt
fuilc
tio:q
,or
prof
essio
nale
vent
AsR
onda
Sta~e's,Steph~e.
Red
fear
npo
ints
out,
"Mor
ese
nior
atto
rney
ste
ndto
.dre
ssdo
wn
onoc
casi
on,b
utth
at's
beca
use
they
know
,the
irsc
hed
ules
and
know
whe
nth
eyar
e'go
ing
tobe
goiIi
gto
:cou
rtor
mee
ting
with
clie
nts.
As
ane
was
soci
ate,
you
don'
tha
veth
atki
ndof
sche
dule
m~tery.
U:y
ou're
n~,W:,
dres
spr
ofes
siona
llyor
have
som
ethi
ngat
the
oijic
eto
puto
n.A
law
yer
may
call
and
say,
'Who
Wan
tsto
com
e.to
this
depo
sitio
nw
ith
me?
'o~
'Who
wan
tsto
co,xn
e·t~'c
ourt
with
me?
'Ify
ouar
en't
dres
sed
appr
opria
tely
,you
'llm
issth
ech
ance
."Th
ela
wye
rat
aco
untY
,'atto
rney
'sof
fice
com
men
ted
that
one
day
whe
nsh
ew
as,w
eatin
g'a
dres
san
da
shaw
l,he
rbo
ssra
nin
to'h
eroffice~
and'~
aid,
"Ine
edso
meo
neto
argu
eth
isca
sein
theSeco~~
Circ
uit
Our
adve
rsar
yw
illpi
ckyo
u~p
here
."Th
ela~er
was
mor
tifie
d;sh
ew
asdr
esse
dco
mpl
etel
yin
appr
opria
tely
for
aco
urta
ppea
ranc
e.A
ftert
hat,
sheal~ays~ept
for
mal
clot
hes
atw
ork.
5)Y
oura
ppea
ranc
eis
n'tl
imite
dto
the
doth
esyo~
wea
r.
.".:
..;
,.
;-."
.'.
-
"Dre
ss"
isre
ally
shor
than
dfo
r"a
ppea
ranc
e."
You
rapp
ear
ance
inge
nera
lsho
uld
bepr
ofes
sion
al.A
tth
eri
skof
telli
ngyo
uw
haty
ouun
doub
tedl
yal
read
ykn
owtth
ere
are
lots
ofst
ylis
hac
cout
rem
ents
that
don'
tfiy
whe
nyo
u're
ala
wye
r.B
ody
pier
cing
?D
on't
have
anyt
hing
pier
ced
that
will
show
whe
nyo
u're
wea
ring
asu
it.
Api
erce
dlip
orto
ngue
-no.
Any
thin
gbe
low
your
neck
-fin
e.N
obod
yw
illse
eit
Form
enan
dw
omen
-no
back
pack
s.B
riefc
ases
.As
Qui
nni
piac
'sD
iane
Bal
lou
says
,"Y
ouca
nbr
ing
ina
brie
fcas
eev
enif
iton
lyco
ntai
nslu
nch,
snea
kers
,and
am
agaz
ine!
n
Form
en-"
Wat
ches
,sho
es,a
ndti
essa
yit
all,"
says
Ron
naLi
chte
nber
gin
Wor
kW
ould
BeG
reat
IfIt.
Wer
en't
For
The
Peo
ple.
"Wat
ches~e
basi
cally
spor
tsca
rson
men
'sw
rists
."Fo
rwom
en,w
atch
wha
tthe
othe
rw
omen
atth
eof
fice
dow
ith
thei
rhai
r,an
ddo
n'ts
tray
far
from
that
One
recr
uite
rin
the
Nor
thea
stco
mm
ente
don
asu
mm
ercl
erk
who
cam
ein
with
huge
po
uff
yha
ir:"S
helo
oked
like
aba
nshe
e."
Ifev
ery
body
else
,att
heof
fice
has
big
hair,
that
'sfin
e.B
utif
they
don't-r~uce
the
volu
me
onyo
urs.
Also
,nai
ls.K
eep
them
rela
tivel
ysh
orta
ndw
ell-g
room
ed.N
olo
ng,c
urve
dac
rylic
s..
No
desig
ns!S
etup
are
gula
rm
anic
ure
appo
intm
entf
oryo
ur
self.
It'ss
omet
hing
that
used
tobe
anin
duig
ence
,but
now
that
you'~e
apr
ofes
sion
al,i
t'sa
nece
ssity
.For
jew
elry
-not
hing
chea
por
flash
y.Makeup-naturallookin~,
nolip
stic
ksth
atta
keyo
uan
ywhe
reon
the
colo
urw
heel
away
from
the
red
fam
ily.S
ave
the
blue
lipst
ick
forc
lubb
ing-
orH
allo
wee
n.
6)Fi
gurin
gou
twha
t'sde
rigeu
rsoc
ially
.
.As
istru
ew
ithev
ery
othe
rasp
ecto
fbus
ines
sdr
essin
g,yo
uca
n'tg
ow
rong
byas
king
wha
t'sap
prop
riate
.Whe
ther
it's
the
firm
retr
eato
ra
sem
iform
alaf
fair,
ask.
9ne
law
yer
talk
edab
outs
how
ing
upat
his
firm
'8an
nual
retre
atat
are
sort
wea
rin
ga
colle
gesw
eats
hirt
"Eve
rybo
dyel
sew
asw
earin
gkh
akis
and
polo
shirt
s,"
hesa
id."
tloo
ked
like
Iwas
ther
eto
swab
the
floor
s!"
208
WHA
TLA
wSC
HOOL
DOES
N'T
TEA
CH
YOU
•••
BUT
You
.REAL
LYN.E
EDTO
KNow
Get
ting
Off
On
The
Righ
tFoo
t.•.
Lear
ning
The
Cultu
re&
Get
ting
Org
anize
d20
9
Atm
ore
form
alpa
rties
,it'
sea
sier
for
men
'tha
n·it
isfo
rw
omen
.For
men
,for
mal
mea
ns~
tux.
Abl
ackt
uX;y
ou.d
on't
wan
tto
look
like
Tom
Han
ks'i
n"B
ig."
(Ren
tit.
It's
funn
y.)
Sem
i-for
mal
mea
nsa
suit
and
tie.F
ora
holid
aypa
rty,m
aybe
aC
hris
tmas
tie.
Forw
omen
,for
mal
mea
nsa
long
'gow
n,an
dse
mi-f
orm
alm
eans
ahe
adac
he.
AsSo
uth
Car
olin
a'sPh
yllis
Bur
khar
dsa
ys;"
Fem
ale
atto
rney
sar
ein
aqu
anda
ryw
hen
itco
mes
~~semi:"formal~ear
..Do
you
'look
like
aw
oman
'in
dres
syat
tire,
.:or
.do
you
'look
like
ala
wye
r'in
asm
t?"A
skot
herf
emal
e"law
yers
atth
e,offi~~
wha
t'sap
prop
riate
;ask
them
wha
tthe
yw
eart
oth
ese
kirids
~fev
ents
..Ph
yllis
Bur
khar
dre
com
men
dsso
met
hiIig
.like
ata
ilore
ddr
ess
or"s
omet
hing
abi
tm
ore
flash
yth
anwh~t
you
wear.
toth
e
offic
e,bu
tstil
lbus
ines
slike
."St
ayaW
ayfro
m~methirig:.terribly
sexy
.As
one
law
yerc
omm
ente
ddr
yiy,"
You
don't.w~t
togo
toa
seni
orpa
rtner
'spa
rty
perc
eive
das
com
petit
ion
(orh
isw
ife."
Ifyo
uw
ind
upbe
ing
over
dres
sed;
Gre
enbe
rgTrawi~'s
eti
quet
tegu
ruSh
aron
Abr
aham
ssu~ests
that
you
follo
whe
rm
othe
r'sad
vice
,and
say,
"Exc
use
me,
butw
eha
vean
othe
rfu
nctio
nto
goto
"-an
dpr
eten
dyo
udr
esse
dfo
r.tha~
.:If
you
are
goin
gst
raig
htfro
mw
ork
toa
soqa
Ifu
nctio
n,Sh
aron
Abr
aham
ssa
ysth
at.f
orm
en,y
ou'c
anwe
arex
actly
wha
tyou
wor
eto
wor
k.Fo
rwom
en,"
You
wan
tto
lo?k
alit
tle
mor
efe
stiv
e.W
eara
shift
unde
ra
suit
coat
to·w
ork.
For
the
even
ing,
add
abi
tofj
ewel
ry,r
emov
e~e
jaCk~t,
add
alit
tle
mor
em
akeu
p,an
dch
ange
shoe
s.."
.
7)R
emem
bert
haty
ou'v
ego
tto
rely
onyo
urpo
wer
s:of
obse
rva
tion
and
answ
ers
toth
equ
estio
nsyo
uas
kas
gpid
epos
tsto
wha
tto
wea
r.
AsH
amlin
e'sVm
ceTh
omas
~ys,
"Law
yers
won
'tte
llyo
uyo
u've
dres
sed
wro
ng,b
utth
eyw
illn
otic
e.an
dth
ey~
talk
abou
tit"
Ason
ela
wye
rpoi
nted
auti
"Dre
ssisn'~
acci
dent
al.
The
rear
eth
ese
won
derf
ulth
ings
calle
dm
irro
rs.
Thin
kab
outt
heim
agey
ou're
crea
ting.
"
1.T
hree
situ
atio
nsw
her
eyo
ush
ould
defi
nite
lyig
nore
the
cul
ture
and
"do
the
righ
tthi
ng."
Afte
rte
lling
you
over
and
over
agai
nto
follo
wth
ecu
lture
atw
ork,
ther
ear
eth
ree
situ
atio
nsw
here
you
shou
ldab
solu
tely
,pos
itiv
ely
igno
reth
ecu
lture
and
follo
wyo
urbe
tteri
nstin
cts.
They
are:
1)Et
hics
.
It's
the
cultu
reof
your
firm
to"b
end"
the
rule
sof
ethi
csan
d!or
they
enco
urag
eyo
u'to
doso
,get
outb
efor
eyo
u're
led
away
inha
ndcu
ffs.
Und
ern
oci
rcum
stan
ces
"fol
low
the
herd
"in
toet
hica
lvi
olat
ions
.(I
addr
ess
this
inm
ore
deta
ilun
der
"Eth
ical
Issu
es".
)
2}Ra
cist,
sexi
stbe
havi
ot
Whe
ther
it's
inap
prop
riate
joke
sor
disc
rimin
ator
yor
hara
ssin
gbe
havi
ot;d
on't
goth
ere.
Just
~on't
You
don'
twan
tth
era
cist
and!
orse
xist
tag
todo
gyo
ufo
ryou
rent
ireca
reer
,.
even
ifyo
uw
ere
just
goin
gal
ong
wit
hth
epa
ck.
3)Tr
eatin
gsu
ppor
tsta
ffba
dly.
May
beyo
ursu
perio
rstr
eatt
hesu
ppor
tsta
fflik
ea
rent
edm
ule.
Don
'tyo
udo
itIt'
sin
hum
ane
and
wro
ng.A
ndit
tells
.yo
uso
met
hing
very
sign
ific
ant-
and
very
bad-
abou
tth
epe
ople
you
wor
kfo
r.
4.H
you'
reA
fric
an-A
mer
ican
,her
e's
som
ead
vice
abou
tsta
rtin
g
your
care
erfro~
anex
peri
ence
dA
fric
an-A
mer
ican
attome~
I'mno
tAfri
can-
Am
eric
an.M
yhe
ritag
eis
Brit
ishan
dIn
dian
.So
half
ofm
yan
cest
ors
oppr
esse
dth
eot
herh
alf.
The
poin
tis,
Ican
'tpo
ssib
lykn
oww
hati
t'slik
eto
beA
frica
I';l-A
mer
ican
.B
utm
anypeopl~
Iin
terv
iew
edpo
inte
dou
tto
me
that
new
law
yers
who
are
Afr
ican
-Am
eric
anfa
cea
host
ofiss
ues
that
whi
tela
wye
rsdo
n't
Fora
dvic
eon
this·
issue
,Itu
rned
toan
Afri
can-
Am
eric
anse
nior
asso
ci
ate
ata
larg
eM
idw
este
rnfir
m.
He
is'of
ten
calle
dup
onto
addr
ess
race
and
gend
eris
sues
for
grou
psof
law
stud
ents
and
new
prac
titio
nerS
.H
ere's
his
advi
cefo
ryou
.
21
0W
HA
TLA
wSC
HO
OL
DO
ESN
'TTE
ACH
YOU
•••
Bill
You
REAL
LYN
EE
DTO
KNow
,",
Gett
ing
OffO
nTh
eRig
htFo
ot•.
.Lea
rnin
gThe
Cultu
reFJ
Gett
ing
Orga
nize
d21
1
II.A
san
Afri
can-
Am
eric
anas
soda
teat
ala
rge
firm
,rea
lize
that
starti
ng,a
ta
larg
efi
nnis
toug
hfo
re1
1e1}
'bodJ
1.Y
ouca
n'ts
ulk
too
m,u
ch.Y
ouca
n'tt
ell
your
self,
'Eve
rybo
dyha
sit
easie
rtha
nm
e.'Y
ou're
o~y
mak
ing
itha
rder
for
your
self.
Don
'tbe
eate
nup
byfe
elin
g'I'
mno
tbei
ngtre
ated
fairl
yhe
re.'
Inth
atse
nse
colo
ris
nodi
ffer
entt
han
gend
er.Y
ouca
n'tb
~b~~er
.and
mak
epa
rtner
.Y
ouha
veto
bese
rene
.D
on't
draw
ener
gyaw
ayfr
om,w
hat's
alre
ady
adi
ffic
ultt
ask-
Uyo
uge
tsw
allo
wed
up.b
yan
ger,
the'f
irmw
on't
care
.The
y'll
just
say
that
you'
rean
othe
r'ass
odat
ew
hodi
dn'(r
nake
itYo
uca
n'tb
edi
stra
cted
byth
ings
that
will
destroyyo~
ifyo
uw
antt
o,~cceed.
"Ith
elps
ifyo
ufin
da
soci
alni
che.
Fmd
asi
tua~
onw
here
colo
rorg
en
deri
sn't
anis
sue.
Find
golf,
tenn
is,a
erob
ics,
bow
ling,
abo
okcl
ub.
Get
your
self
into
situ
atio
nsw
here
dist
inct
ions
disa
ppea
r;ge
tto
kno
wpe
ople
ona
fund
amen
tall
evel
tobr
eak
dow
nth
era
cean
dge
nder
bairt
et'"A
san
Afr
ican
-Am
eric
anla
wye
r,us
ew
arm
1;h
and'
cand
orto
brea
kdo
wn
barr
iers
.Spe
akca
ndid
lyab
outy
ouro
wn
life
expe
rienc
e-so
peop
leca
nsa
y,'In
alo
tofw
ays
he's
nodi
ffer
ent~anme~
He's
mid
dfe,
clas
s,he
wen
tto
law
scho
ol,h
eha
sdr
eam
sfp
rhi
sca
reer
-now
diff
eren
tis
here
ally
?'Te
llpe
ople
abou
tyou
rpa
rent
s'jo
bs,a
bou.
tyou
rc~dhood.
Let
them
gett
okn
owyo
u.Le
tthe
mse
eth
atyo
u're
stru
gglin
gto
mak
ea
suc
cess
ofyo
urca
reer
,too
.Don
'tbe
onpi
nsan
dne
edle
s.Let.th~m
know
they
can
joke
arou
ndw
ithyo
u.,O
fcou
rse
you
have
.eve
ryfi
ght
tobe
aloo
f,bu
tith
elps
tobe
war
mif
you
can!
."W
hen
Ista
rted
atm
yfir
m,
Iwas
the
first
African-Am~rican
law
yer
they
'dev
erhi
red.
The
rear
em
any,
man
yla
wfir
ms
wit
hve
ryfe
wat
tor
neys
ofco
lor,
may
beyo
urs
incl
uded
.Whe
nyo
u're
mth
atsi
tuat
ion
it's
very
easy
toha
veyo
urhe
adtu
rned
.I'r
emem
berg
oing
toa
furn
iture
store
tobu
ya
desk
form
yap
artm
entw
hen
Ifirs
tsta
rted
outW
hen
I'got
talk
in
gw
ithth
esa
lesm
an,h
eas
ked
me
wha
tIdi
dfo
r.a'l
ivin
g..W
hen
Itol
dhi
mw
here
Iwas
wor
king
,he
resp
onde
d,w
ithge
nuin
erespec~
'You
are
wit
hth
efin
estl
awfir
min
this
city
.'Iw
aspr
etty
full
ofmyS~!f.
Then
Igot
invi
ted
toa
coun
tym
inor
ityla
wye
rs'a
ssoc
iatio
nm
eetin
g.T
he'sp
eake
rw
as'th
efir
stA
frica
n-A
mer
ican
judg
ein
the
county
.The
room
was
full
ofgu
ysw
hoha
dgr
adua
ted
from
law
scho
olin
the
1960
s'an
d70
s;w
hen
ajo
blik
em
ine
wou
ldha
vebe
en.cl
osed
toth
em.T
hey
wer
e.ve
ryta
lent
edbu
tthe
yw
ere
shut
outw
ithou
ta·c
hanc
e.Th
eyha
dca
reer
sbu
tnot
alo
t
';~.
".:;
.; ", :.'
ofpr
estig
e.Se
eing
peop
lew
host
rived
the
way
they
did
was
ahu
mbl
ing
expe
rienc
e.Ih
adno
pret
entio
usne
ssaf
tert
hat
The
fact
that
Iwas
the
first
oIl;e
atm
yfir
min
stea
dof
one
ofth
emw
asa
hist
oric
alac
cide
nt.I
tsho
uld
have
been
one
ofth
ese
olde
rlaw
yers
who
brok
eth
eco
lorb
arrie
r.It
does
nttp
ayto
bear
roga
ntno
mat
terw
hoyo
uar
e.Y
oudo
n'th
ave
topu
mp
your
self
up.T
hefa
ctis
,ify
ouw
ina
big
case
ordo
grea
twor
kor
gete
lect
edto
offic
e,pe
ople
will
heap
prai
seon
you
nom
atte
rwho
you
are.
You
'llge
tyou
rdu
e."
C.
GE
TT
ING
OR
GA
NIZ
ED
••.
AN
DS
TA
YIN
GT
HA
TW
AY
!
May
beyo
u're
ana
tura
llyor
gani
zed
pers
on.B
utth
enu
mbe
rofb
ooks
onth
em
arke
tabo
utge
tting
orga
nize
dsu
gges
tsth
atyo
u,'r
epr
obab
lym
ore
like
me.
I've
gota
bunc
hof
thos
ebo
oks,
and
asso
onas
Ican
lay
my
hand
son
them
inm
yof
fice
I'mgo
ing
toge
torg
aniz
ed.I
know
they
'rein
here
som
ewhe
re.
The
fact
is,l
ifeis
alo
teas
ier
fory
ouif
you
geto
rgan
ized
and
sta
yor
gan
ized
.Thi
sca
me
hom
eto
me
aco
uple
ofye
ars
ago,
whe
n.m
ysw
eetie
Hen
ryan
dIw
ere
plan
ning
atri
pto
sanF
ranc
isco
and
the
Nap
aVa
lle}'.
.Iw
asch
attin
gw
ithou
rne
ighb
orC
laud
ia,
and
whe
n'I
men
tione
dou
rtr
ip,s
hesa
id,
'Oh
,
com
ein
toth
eho
use.
I'msu
reIh
ave
anar
ticle
abou
tthe
win
eco
untry
.'If
ol
low
edhe
rint
ohe
rden
,whe
resh
eop
ened
afil
eca
bine
ttha
twas
met
icul
ousl
yor
gani
zed.
She
flipp
edst
raig
htto
"Tra
vel"
and
unde
rth
atto
pic,
"Win
eC
oun·
try."
She
pulle
dou
tthe
artic
lean
dha
nded
itto
me.
The
who
leex
erci
seto
okhe
rabo
utte
nse
cond
s.Iw
asdu
mbf
ound
ed.H
eck,
ifyo
uas
ked
me
tobo
rrow
abo
ok,i
t'dta
kem
eho
urst
ofin
dit
Even
for
abo
okIw
rote
.Cla
udia
saw
the
look
onm
yfa
ce,a
ndsa
id,"
Ialw
ays
say:
ifyo
uca
n'tf
ind
it,yo
um
ight
asw
ell
noth
aveit
"A
ndby
gum
,she
'srig
ht.
Inth
isse
ctio
n,w
e'll
talk
abou
teve
ry
thin
gyo
une
edto
know
toge
torg
aniz
ed-a
ndw
hyyo
ush
ould
beth
atw
ay!
1.S
ixgr
eatr
easo
nsto
mak
eyo
urof
fice
hum
like
aw
ell-
oile
d
ma
chin
e
Asa
law
yer,
you'
vego
talo
tmor
erid
ing
onyo
uror
gani
zatio
nals
kills
than
your
vaca
tions
.The
rear
esi
xex
celle
ntre
ason
sto
take
the
time
toge
torg
aniz
edri
gh
tno~
II
.j
311
that your employer can easily track your web usage. If you have to visit
dirtypanties.com (I heard that there actually Was such a web site)J do it
from home. And get professional hel,p ·while you're at It. At work,
'''Extracurricular' web surfing constitutes a misuse of employer time and
property," says Gail Cutter. Nobody cares if you s'can the web for head
lines or sports scores or stock quotes a few times a day, but other than
that, save it for home..It T:Uay be that you visit chat rooms for lawyers; some local bar associa-
.tions have them, and I gather they can be pretty lively places to visit (not
as lively as dlrtypantles.com, but everything's relative). As. Lewis &
Clark's Lisa Lesage points outJ "If yo:u comment about facts of a case In
lawyer chat ro~ms on-line, be careful that you don't reveal prIvileged
information. There's no expectation of prIvacy In an Internet chat room.·'
~¥1~~t~;'~5:;;"" ihe.~Peop'e" Part OfWork. It's Not What You're Like . ..
.....:.
H. SOCIAL GRACES, OR-How NOT To BE SEEN As A PIG, AND
How To MAI<E CONVEHSATION WITH ANYBODY IN ANY SOCIAL
SITUATION
.. :t'; Sodal FuncUons. As Woody Alien SQYS Or-Ufe': CC80%of it'is' . . .' "
. showing up.;' Here's how to haDdlethe other .20%i. . .•.. . '.' '. . : ,
If you' don't feel entirely comfortable in emptoyer-re'lat~d social s~tua
tioDs, you're far from alone. Dr. Joy Browne,·my favourite' radio psycholo-··
gist, reports that 83%' of people think of. themselves as. shy. Boston
University's Betsy Armour says that "Lawyers as a group are not comfort~
able with cocktail parties. It's a necessary evil." Georgia State's Vickie
Brown adds, "If you're new, you're intimidated. Everybody is." Sharon
Abrahams, who runs business etiquette seminars around the country,
says that the most common question she gets from summer clerks and
new lawyers is: What do I talk about?
PH tell you how to feel more comfortable, and what to say when you
do talk to people. Here are a few ideas for you:
a. It's not the Dataan Death March. It's a party.
copyright Harcourt Legal & Profess;onal P bl' ,.. u ~cat~ons 109.
312
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AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OFS
N'r
TEAC
HYo
u••
.alIT
You
REAL
LYNE
EDTO
KNow
.:~
,'J.
:•
t.-:
The
IIPeo
plel1
Part
O/W
ork.
It'sN
otW
hatY
ou're
Like
•••
31
3
Soci
aliz
ing
isre
ally
alo
tofru
nify
ouap
proa
ch.it
as'a
lear
ning
expe
rienc
e.W
illR
oger
sus
edto
say
that
astr~
ger"
is~~st
afri
end
heha
dn't
met
yet.
For
ally
oukn
ow,.s
omeb
odyyo~
mee
tat
anem
ploy
erev
entc
ould
turn
into
alif
el?n
g.frien~
..An9
.no
mat
ter
how
muc
hyo
udr
ead
it,r
emem
bert
hat"
Y0t
:t've
got'to
achi
eve
ale
velo
fcom
fort
with
prof~ional
soci
alsi
tuat
ions
atsom
epo
in4"
says
Bet
syA
rmou
r."Y
ou'v
ego
tto
star
tso
oner
.~,r
.late
r.So
you
mig
htas
wel
lsta
rtno
w."
b.D
on't
wa
lkin
alon
e.
Bet
syA
rmou
rsu
gges
tsth
atyo
u.b
uddy
up.wi
t;h.'s
omeo
ne,a
ndw
alk
into
geth
erw
ith
anot
hers~er.cl~rk
oras
soci
ate
soth
atyo
udo
n'tf
eels
oin
timid
ated
.(Howev~r,
once
you~re
,a~
the
even
t,do
n'tc
ling
toyo
urbU
ddy.
Therea~on
you'r~
ther
eis
:to,m
eet,
and
talk
wit
h,ot
herp
eopl
e.So
split
upas
soo~
as.y
ouar
rive!
)
c.T
alk
abou
twha
t'sin
the
new
s.
Shar
onA
brah
amsrecommen~s
.that
you
talk
abou
twha
t'sin
the
new
s."I
give
peop
le'a
list,"
she
says'~
"Lls
ten
toth
ene
ws,
read
the
new
spap
er,
scan
Tim
ean
9-N
ewsw
e,ek
'and
Busin
ess
Wee
k.If
you
don'
tha
vetim
e'to
wat
ch't
hene
ws,
liste
nto
Nat
iona
lPub
licR
adio
'sA
llTh
ings
Con
side
req
andM
orni
ngEd
i·tio
n,at
leas
tatt
heto
pof
the
hour
and
'att
h;e
half~our
for
the
head
lines
."W
hat
she's
sayi
ngis
,m
ake
your
self'
anin
tere
stin
gco
nver
satio
nalp
artn
erI
Theeasi~f
way
t6ta
lk'W
ithpe
ople
isto
men
tion
som
ethi
ngth
atyo
uhe
ard
inth
e'n
ews~
oran
'int
eres
ting
stor
yyo
uhe
ard
orre
ad.
"Can
you
belie
veth
ey,f
oU:~d
wat
eron
Mar
s?Ih
eard
that
they
thin
k..
."
One
thin
gyo
u.,sho~d
avoi
ddi
scus
sing
isw
haty
ou're
wor
king
on.A
SKe
ntuck
Y'sD
rusil
laBa
k·er
tadv
ises
,"T
ryto
find
.som
ethi
ngto~
abou
£ot
her
than
the
fasc
inat
ing
mem
oyo
u're
wor
king
on;"
Whi
le'?-
riinte.~est
inyo
urw
ork
isso
met
hing
that
ever
yem
ploy
erlo
oks"
fo,r,
som
etim
esyo
u've
gott
otu
rnit
off.
Law
yers
wor
kha
rd.~eY'like
toge
taw
ayju
stas
muc
has
you
dol
Prep
are
toha
vecl
ient
spr
esen
t,at
som
e:so
cial
func
tions
by"k
eepi
ngup
with
wha
t'sgo
ing
onin
your
clients~
indu
strie
s,"sa
ys
Shar
onA
brah
ams.
Ifth
ey're
inbi
otec
h,re
adup
onth
ehu
man
geno
me.
Ifth
ey're
car
deal
ers,
keep
upW
ithga
s-el
ectri
cca
rs,
etha
nol-
wha
teve
riss
uesf
ace
them
.Thi
sw
ay,w
hen
you
talk
with
them
,the
y'll
see
that
you'
reta
king
anin
tere
stin
thei
rbus
ines
s,an
dth~t
mak
esyo
uan
exce
Uen
tpo
tent
ial
rain
mak
er(a
nda
char
min
gco
nver
satio
nalis
t,to
boot
!).
d.D
on't
say
anyt
hing
that
wille
mba
rras
spe
ople
.
Whe
nyo
u're
new
,it's
nott
he'ti
me
tote
styo
ursk
ills
asa
prov
oca
teur
.The
rear
eto
nsof
inte
rest
ing
thin
gsto
talk
abou
twith
out
stre
tchi
ngth
ebo
unds
ofgo
odta
ste.
Tons
.Vut
ually
anyt
hing
inth
ene
wsp
aper
isfa
ir.g
ame.
Don
'tsa
yan
ythi
ngth
atw
illm
ake
peop
lequ
estio
nyo
urjudgment~and
won
derw
heth
eryo
uca
nac
tdec
oro
usly
arou
ndcl
ient
s.
Out
ata
barw
ith
part
ners
and
sum
mer
cler
ks,o
nesu
mm
ercl
erk
issi
ttit:l
9ne
xtto
apa
rtne
r.S
hepd
ints
toa
bow
lof
pean
uts
onth
eba
ran
dca
sual
lysa
ys,
"Did
yo
ukn
owth
eydi
da
stud
yth
at
'sho
wed
that
nine
type
rcen
t"o
fpe
anut
so
nba
rsha
veur
ine
on
them
?"Sh
ego
eson
toex
plai
nit'
sbe
caus
em
eng
oto
the
john
,
do
n't
was
hth
eir
hand
s,an
dco
me
back
toth
eb
arw
here
the
y
grab
atth
epe
anut
s."1
tho
ug
ht
I'was
goin
gto
chok
e,"
com
m
ents
the
part
ner.
e.O
nly
disc
uss
poli
tics
ifyo
uan
dth
eco
llea
gues
wit
hw
ho
myo
uar
esp
eaki
ngha
veth
esa
me
view
s.
Save
polit
ical
deba
tes
for
your
frie
nds
outs
ide
ofw
ork.
AsSh
aron
Abr
aham
sad
vise
s,"W
hen
itco
mes
tota
lkin
gpo
litic
s,kn
owth
epo
litic
sof
the
firm
you'
rego
ing
to.I
fyou
disa
gree
,don
'tdi
scus
spo
litic
sat
all.
"Th
efa
ctis,
they
'reno
tgoi
ngto
conv
ince
you,
and
you'
reno
tgoi
ngto
conv
ince
them
.And
you
may
like
ago
odpo
liti
calt
hrO
W-d
own,
butt
hey
mig
htn
ot-
and
you
can'
trisk
it.So
ifyo
use
ea
phot
oon
your
boss
'sof
fice
wa
llof
him
shak
ing
hand
s
31
4W
HA
TLA
wS
cHO
OL
DO
ES
N'T
TE
AC
HY
ou••
•B
urY
ouR
EALL
YNE
ED,T
OKN
ow
''''',;{
,
The
IlPeo
ple"
Part.
OfW
ork.
It's
Not
Wha
tYou
're"L
iJ<e
•••
315
wit
hPr
esid
entR
eaga
n,do
n'ts
pout
offa
boutho~
you
thin
k.G
eorg
eB
ush
isan
empt
ysu
it.
~'c
AR
EE
RL
IMi
TIN
CM
,OV
E'
Sta
unch
Rep
ubli
can
new
asso
ciat
e,ve
ryli
bera
lfi
rm.~e
take
s
ever
yo
pp
ort
un
ity
tom
ake
wh
ath
ebe
liev
esar
epr
ovoc
ativ
e,
joki
ng
com
me
nts
ab
ou
tD
emoc
ratic
,pol
itici
ans.
With
insi
x
mon
ths,
he's
aske
dto
leav
eth
efir
m.
'
f.If
you'
resh
y,ta
lkon
e-on
-one
.'
Den
ver's
PatP
owel
lsug
gests
that
you
soci
alite
in,y
o~.
"com
fort
zone
.""Y
oudo
n'th
ave
tobe
thelif
e.of
the'
parq
,.dat
icin
gin
the
mid
dle
ofth
eflo
otY
ouca
nsi
tand
talk
tope
opie
one~oii-oJ1e,
ifyo
upr
efer
it"
go.
Tak
ead
vant
age
ofso
da!
even
tsto
culti
vate
.pow~1fUI
peop
lean
des
peci
ally
peop
leyo
uw
antt
ow
ork
for.
Inth
ech
apte
ron
bein
gyo
urow
nca
,reer
couns~lor,
Ital
kab
out
the
fact
that
the
best
way
toge
tthe
wor
kyo
uw
anti
sto
goto
peo
ple
you
wan
tto
wor
kfo
r,an
da
skfo
rit
Ata
soci
alev
ent,
you
won
'tas
kfo
rw
ork-
buty
ouca
.nge
tto
know
the
peop
le'y
ouVl
?ant
tow
ork
fors
oth
atth
eykn
owyo
uan
dfe
elcp
mfo
rtal:>
lew
ithyo
u.As
Geo
rgia
Stat
e'sV
icki
eB
row
nsu
gges
ts,"J
uste
xten
da
hand
and
say,
'Iha
ven'
tmet
you,
and
Iwan
ted
tosa
yhe
llo.'
Saywhat\~ou've
liked
sofa
rab
outy
ours
umm
erde
rksh
ip(o
rnew
.job)
tom
ucke
!y-m
ucks
,an
dbe
hone
stab
outi
t.N
obod
ylik
esa
phon
ysu
ck-u
p,bu
teve
ry
body
love
she
arin
gho
nest
com
plim
ents
.And
don'
tfee
lfun
nyab
out
itTh
eyne
verg
etsi
ckofhe~
posit
ive
com
men
ts;n
~~Ody'
does
!"
b.
Ask
ques
tions
!
As
com
mun
icat
ions
guru
Dal
eC
atne
gie~~YS.~~d,
.i!'y
ouge
tpe
ople
tota
lkab
out
them
selv
es,
they
'll.lo
ve',y
ou..·
As~
clie
nts,
'''How
did
you
geti
nto
this
busi
ness
?''W
hatd
o,'y
oulik
e'ab~ut
it?'
'Whe
rew
illit
bein
five
year
s?'T
hen
shut
upan
dlis
ten!
"sa
ys'.
'.
", ~.'
.
Shar
onA
brah
ams.
Ask
law
yers
,"W
hat's
your
mos
tin
tere
stin
gca
se?"
"Wha
tare
you
wor
king
on?"
"Whe
redi
dyo
ugr
owup?~
If,y
oukn
owso
met
hing
inte
rest
ing
they
've
done
,brin
git
up!
Ofte
nw
hen
you.
mee
tagr
oup
ofpe
ople
,you
'llle
arn
inte
rest
ing
thin
gsab
outo
ther
peop
lein
the
grou
p.Y
oum
ight
beta
lkin
gto
one
asso
ci
ate
wh
osa
ys,
"Hey
,di
dyo
ukD
.ow
that
Sea
ncl
imbe
dM
ount
Rai
nier
?"or
"Did
you
know
that
Ele
anor
once
met
Pr.e
side
ntK
enne
dy?"
Whe
nyo
um
eetS
ean
or.E
lean
or,a
skth
emab
outt
hein
cide
ntyo
ual
read
ykn
owab
out.
Don
'tw
orry
abou
task
ing
them
,abo
utan
inci
dent
they
've
prob
ably
disc
usse
da
lot
oftim
esw
ith
othe
rpe
ople
.D
onL
arse
n,.t
heN
ewY
ork
Yan
kee
pitc
her
who
pitc
hed
ape
rfec
tgam
ein
the
1956
Wor
ldSe
ries,
was
once
aske
d,"D
on't
you
ever
gett
ired
ofpe
ople
aski
ngyo
uab
outy
ourp
erfe
ctga
me?
"H
ean
swer
ed:
"Why
wo
uld
I?"
i.U
se"p
erso
nald
iscl
osur
e"to
brea
kth
eic
e.
Shar
onA
brah
ams
reco
mm
ends
that
you
brea
kth
eic
ew
ith
per
sona
ldi
sclo
sure
,"s
omet
hin'
gin
offe
nsiv
eab
out
your
self.
""I
've
neve
rbee
nto
this
even
tbef
ore-
have
you?
""I
neve
rkno
who
wto
mak
ea
choi
ceat
asa
lad
barl
ike
this
."Sh
esu
gges
tsth
atyo
up
rac
t,ice
talk
ing
tope
ople
inal
lkin
dsof
sett
ings
-att
hecl
eane
rs,t
hedr
ugst
ore,
all
over
the
plac
e_"N
obod
yca
res
ifyo
ulo
okfo
olish
ther
e-an
dyo
u'll
polis
hyo
urco
nver
satio
nals
kills
,"sh
esa
ys.
j.D
ontt
expe
ctev
eryo
neyo
um
eett
o'b
ea
spar
klin
gco
nver
sa
tiona
list i
nre
turn
!
VIrt
ually
ever
ybod
yis
inte
rest
ing
ifyo
uge
tthe
mta
lkin
gab
out
som
ethi
ngth
atfir
esth
emup
.But
som
epe
ople
...
wel
l,no
teve
ry
body
'sgo
ing
tobe
your
cup
ofte
a.So
met
imes
peop
lear
epr
eocc
upi~d,
orw
antin
gto
beso
mew
here
else
,or
obno
xiou
s.Iw
asat
apa
rtya
little
whi
leag
o,an
dth
epe
rson
Iwas
talk
ing
toas
ked,
"So
wha
tdo
you
do?"
Ian
swer
ed,
"I'm
aw
riter
,"an
dhe
wen
ton
,"N
o-I
mea
n,'w
hatd
oyo
udo
fora
livi
ng?"
Oh,
wel
lthe
n-I'
ma
pros
titU
te.
Dub
.See
va.I
ffor
wha
teve
rre
ason
the
conv
ersa
tion
isn'
tcat
chin
gfir
e,sta
yfo
ram
inut
eor
two
soyo
udo
n'ts
eem
rude
,an
dth
enex
cuse
your
self
wit
ha
smil
e-an
ddo
n'tc
ome
back
.
316
WH
AT
LAw
ScH
OO
LD
OE
SN
'TTE
ACH
YOU
•••
BUrY
ou~y
NEED
TO'K
Now
The
Ilpeo
ple"
Part
OjW
orl:.
lt'sN
otW
7zat
You'r
eLike
•••
317
~'.~"
hour
ort
wo,
the
part
ner
look
sar
ound
,as
tho
ug
hun
com
fort
able
,dur
ing
apa
rtic
ular
lylo
ngsp
eech
.H
epi
cks
up
asm
oked
glas
sw
ater
pitc
he
rin
fron
tof
him
.It
disa
ppea
rsu
nd
erth
eta
ble.
Am
inu
tela
ter,
he
pu
tsth
ew
ater
pitc
her
back
on
the
tab
le.
It's
fuJI
.A
ndhe
'ssm
ilin
ga
reli
eved
smile
.
3.D
on't
dri
nk
the
cont
ents
oft
hefi
nger
bOW
l,an
dot
herh
azar
dso
fdi
ning
wit
hyo
urco
llea
Pes
Ifyo
uea
tas
thou
ghyo
ule
arne
dyo
urm
anne
rsat
aho
tdog
eatin
gco
nte
st,n
obod
y's
goin
gto
wan
tto
soci
aliz
ew
ith
you-
and
they
won
'ttu
rnyo
ulo
ose
infr
onto
fclie
nts.
Nob
ody
expe
ctsy
outo
beab
leto
nego
tiate
a24
-pie
cepl
ace
setti
ngof
Que
enA
nne
cutle
J}r,
orto
wie
ldal
ies
carg
otut
ensi
1lik
ea
pro
(rem
embe
rJul
iaR
ober
tsin
"Pre
ttyW
oman
"?).
But
you
doha
veto
have
som
em
odic
umof
good
man
ners
!W
hatI
'lldo
here
isto
give
you
ave
rybr
iefp
rimer
onco
mm
ondi
ning
faux
pas.
My
sour
cefo
rm
uch
ofth
isad
vice
isth
ew
onde
rful
Shar
onA
brah
ams
ofG
reen
berg
Tra
ung.
She
isan
etiq
uette
guru
and
runs
sem
ina
rsab
outb
usin
ess
etiq
uette
(her
cont
acti
nfor
mat
ion
isin
App
endi
xC
,at
the
back
ofth
ebo
ok).
Let's
see
wha
tyou
need
tokn
ow!
a.T
he,c
ardi
nalm
le:I
fyou
can'
tide
ntif
yit
,do
n't
eati
tor
touc
hit
unti
lyou
've
see
som
ebod
yel
setr
yit
first
.
Onc
eyo
u've
been
wor
king
for
alit
tlew
hile
,yo
uca
nbe
anad
vent
urou
sdi
ner
(asl
ong
asth
ere
aren
'tan
ycl
ient
spr
esen
t).B
ut,a
sa
sum
mer
derk
orbr
and-
new
asso
ciat
e,pe
ople
'sop
inio
nsof
you
are
still
bein
gfo
rmed
.Stic
kW
ithw
haty
oukn
ow!
Ifyo
use
ea
bow
lw
ithle
mon
fioat
ing
iiJ.it
sitti
ngne
aryo
ursa
lad,
it's
nots
alad
dres
sin
g.D
on't
,drin
kit
It's
a"f
inge
rbow
l,"de
sign
edto
rinse
your
fin
gers
befo
reth
ene
xtco
urse
.Ify
ousi
tdow
nan
dse
ea
little
plat
ew
ithw
hatl
ooks
like
aqu
arte
r-si
zed
embo
ssed
dinn
erm
into
nit,
don'
tpic
kit
upan
dpo
pit
inyo
urm
outh
.It's
form
edbu
tter,
and
it's
mea
ntfo
ryou
rbre
adro
ll.Lo
okar
ound
and
see
wha
toth
erpe
ople
doW
ithso
met
hing
unfa
mili
arbe
fore
you
try
ityo
urse
lf!:.
:',
'.;,"
-....
.A
nu
mb
erof
law
yers
from
asm
allf
irm
atten~'
atesti~o~ial
dinn
erfo
r
alo
cal
judg
e.O
ne
ofth
ese
nior
part
ners
sits
on
~h~.
dais
wit
ha,~um-
ber
ofo
ther
lum
inar
ies.
His
coll
eagu
essi
tat
ata
ble
inth
eau
dien
ce.
'~~::,',
Asth
eev
enin
gpr
ogre
sses
and
the
spee
ches
dron
e,'o
nan
do
n,
the
part
ner'
sco
llea
gues
noti
ceh
eis
get
tin
gin
crea
sing
lydr
unk.
.~After
an
Tw
oju
nio
ras
soci
ates
go
toin
terv
iew
stu
de
nts
at,a
laiw':s~h?ol
in
Ne
wY
ork.
The
two
go
tolu
nch
and
ge
thamme~ed~,!h
e)'
stum
ble
bac
kto
scho
olfo
rth
eaf
tern
oo
nin
terv
iew
s.Th~
next
'Int
ervi
ewee
they
talk
tosa
ys,
"I'm
sorr
y,I
did
n't
get
yo
urnames~"
Th
eyw
rite
thei
rn
ames
on
Pos
t-It
No
tes
and
stic
kth
emto
th.e
irfo
rehe
ads,
shri
ekin
gw
ith
laug
hter
.
2.N
owth
atyo
u're
a"r
eall
awye
r,"
you
stiH
ean'
tget
tank~d
at-,
empl
oyer
soci
alev
ents
..•
even
thou
ghth
eyca
n'tw
ithd
raw
your
off
er! Whe
nw
eta
lked
abou
tsum
mer
cler
kshi
ps,'i
nth
e"1
,640
-Hou
rIn
ter
view
"ch
apte
r,It
alke
dab
outh
owyo
uca
n'td
rink
heav
ily,a
tstm
lffie
fso
cial
even
tsbe
caus
eyo
urem
ploy
eris
judg
ing
you
even
atpa
rties
.Whe
nyo
ust
artt
ow
ork
afte
ryou
grad
uate
,it's
temptin~
toth
ink,
"Hey
lI'm
in!
Party
dow
n!"
It's
true
that
you'
reno
long
erQ
eing
sniff
edo~er
as~ffer
mat
eria
l,bu
tthe
sear
est
illy
ourp
rofe
ssio
nalc
olle
ague
s,an
dyo
uha
veto
show
som
ede
coru
m.
Get
ting
drun
kob
liter
ates
your
good
judg
t'nen
tBe
fore
you
know
it,yo
u're
hitti
ngon
aco
lleag
ue{b
adne
wS}
'orex
posin
gcl
ient
secr
ets
ina
crow
ded
bar(
rea/
9'ba
dne
ws)
.SQ
you
shou
ldre
read
"Em
ploy
erSo
cial
Eve
nts
Are
n'tT
he:~
lace
Topr
ove
You
rBee
r-Drin
king
Cap
acity
And
You
rAbi
lity
To~elch
The
Alph
abe
t..
.A
ndO
ther
Alc
ohol
-Rel
ated
Adv
ice.
"It'
sin
the,
~1,
640-
:Hou
rIn
terv
iew
"ch
apte
r.T
here
you'
llfin
dev
ery!
hi1l
gyo
une
edto
krto~
'abou
tnu
rsin
gdr
inks
with
outs
eem
ing
like
adw
eeb.
,
~CAREER
LIM
ITiN
GM
OV
E
~CAREER
LIM
IT
IN
GM
OV
E
318
",'
,.~
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CH
YO
U••
•B
UT
You
REA
llYN
EED
TOKN
ow,
The
"Peo
ple"
Part
OfW
ork.
It'sN
otW
hatY
ou're
Like
...
319
EM
BA
RR
AS
SI
NG
(BU
TK
~'N
D·
0F
EN
DE
AR
ING
)M
OM
EN
T•••
'.:"
"....:
outs
ide
goes
first,
and
you
wor
kyo
urw
ayin
war
d,to
war
dth
epl
ate,
With
ever
yco
urse
.If
you
have
any
ques
tions
abou
tw
hich
fork
goes
with
wha
t,di
scre
etly
ask
the
wai
ter•
.In
terv
iew
lunc
h.N
ew
Yor
kla
wfir
m,
stu
de
ntf
rom
~sm
allt
own
inth
eM
idw
est.
On
epa
rtne
ran
dtw
oas
soci
ates
~ake
the
stud
ent
toan
exqu
isite
Chi
f1es
ere
stau
rant
.The
part
ner
orde
rsfo
rth
eta
ble.
On
eo
fth
edi
shes
heor
ders
isM
uS
huC~icken.i
adi
sh
whi
chis
serv
edw
ith
thin
panc
akes
that
look
Sor
:net
hing
like
flour
tort
illas
.W
hen
the
dish
esar
rive
,th
ew
aite
rp
uts
the
Mu
Shu
panc
akes
ne
xtto
the
stu
de
nt.
Mis
taki
ng~em
for·
~ace.t
owel
s,
she
pick
so
ne
upan
dd
abs
he
rfa
cew
ith
it.·.T
hela~ers,
not
wan
ting
toem
barr
ass
her,
do
the
sam
e.
,":. ..::
~SMART
HU
MA
NT
RIC
K•••
Asso~iate
ata
larg
efir
min
Was
hing
ton,
D.C
.She
isat
din
ner
ata
very
fanc
yre
stau
rant
wit
hpa
rtne
rsan
dcl
ient
s.Sh
eha
sei
ghte
enpi
eces
ofcu
tlery
inhe
rpl
ace
setti
ng.S
hesu
rre
ptiti
ousl
yca
llsov
erth
ew
aite
r,an
dsa
ys,'
Wh
atth
ehe
ckdo
Ido
wit
hth
is?"
assh
ege
stur
esto
war
dth
ecu
tlery
.The
wai
ter,
smile
s,an
dsa
ys,
"Bar
bara
Bus
has
ksth
esa
me
thin
g."
Su
mm
ercl
erk
at
ala
rge
firm
.He~s
bril
lian
t,#1
inhi
sla
w
sch
oo
lcl
ass.
At
firm
cock
tail
part
ies,
he
che
ws
wit
hhi
s
mo
uth
op
en
and
spit
spa
rtia
lly-
mas
tica
ted
bits
of
foo
dat
5)N
o"w
ande
ring
fork
s."
One
law
yert
old
me
abou
talu
nch
she'd
had
wit
hth
em
an
agin
gpa
rtner
ofth
efir
man
da
few
othe
ras
soci
ates
."W
eal
lge
tour
mea
ls,a
ndth
ene
xtth
ing
you
know
,th
em
anag
ing'
partn
ersa
ys,
'Hey
,you
rslo
oks
gooc
H'A
ndst
abs
api
ece
of.
chic
ken
onm
ypl
ate.
Ihad
noid
eaho
wto
reac
t"
6)N
o"t
rain
wre
ckin
atu
nnel
."If
ther
e's
food
inyo
urm
outh
,yo
urlip
ssho
uld
becl
osed
.
As
Shar
onA
brah
ams
says
,"C
hew
ing
wit
hyo
urm
outh
open
isO
Kif
you'
reth
ree
year
sol
dan
dyo
uha
vea
stuf
fed
nose
.O
ther
wis
e,it'
sno
tO
K."
She
adds
that
like
muc
hof
good
man
ners
,"It'
sju
stco
mm
onse
nse.
Ifyo
uta
lkw
ith
your
mou
thfu
ll,yo
uca
nch
oke.
"
CA
R·E
ER
lf
MjT
EN
GM
0V
EA
ND
A.
SM
AR
TH
UM
AN
TR
iCK
•••
:~.
r
',;'
':',
'.,."y:
:
....:.
\.
':.:
:'':'
.::~r
4)Si
lver
war
e-Y
ouw
ork
your
way
from
th~
o~:tside
m.N
om
atte
rhow
man
yfo
rks,
kniv
es,'an
dspo
otis~e
plac
ed,':J
d,in
fron
tofy
ou,t
heru
leis
alw
ays
the
sani~:
.The
',cut
lery
atthe
·.\:,Wt
Ifth
edi
shes
com
eou
tatd
iffere~t
times
;'tha
:es.n
otyo
ursi
gnal
tost
rap
onth
efe
edba
g.S
itti
ght.
It'~
up't
~:th
epe
rson
(orp
eopl
e)w
hois
still
.wai
ting
tofir
eth
est
arte
r'sp~stol
and
give
you
perm
issi
onto
star
t.D
on't
dig.
iIitin~
,you
,get
the
gree
nlig
htfro
mth
em.
2)N
o"b
oard
ing
hous
ereaches~-if
you
wan
tso~ething
that
'sno
tin
fron
tofy
ou,a
s~th
atit
bepa
ssed
toyq
u.,
Ala
wye
rat
one
firm
talk
edab
outb
eing
atlu
nch
with
aco
lleag
uew
ho."
reac
hed
acro
ss~y
plac
e'fo
r·.1
;hebu
tter.
Ico
uld
have
bitte
nhi
m,h
isar
mw
assO
clos
eto
my·
face
.Eve
nw
orse
,he
drop
ped
his
slee
vein
my
dish
!';.
.
3}It'
sno
tabi
b,it'
sa
napk
in.I
tgoe
son
your
lap.
.
b.
Thr
ough
outt
hent
eal:
How
tosh
ow
peop
leyo
,:!w
ere
"rai
sed
ina
hous
ew
ith
ata
ble,
no
tatr
ough
...''
.
1}Fo
reve
ryco
urse
,wai
tunt
ilev
eryo
neis
serv
edbe
fore
you
dig
in.
320
WH
AT
LAw
ScH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CHYo
U••
.B
UT
You
REAL
LYN
EED
TOKN
owTh
eIlP
eop/e
nPa
rtO
JWor
k.It'
s Not
Wha
t You
'reli
ke. .
.32
1
peop
le. T
he
man
agin
gpa
rtne
r cal
lsin
the.
rec"
:Ji~
ngco
o~
din
ato
ran
dsa
ys,
"We
can
'thi
reth
isgu
y.He
'~'so
cial
lyun
acce
ptab
le."
Th
ere
crui
til'J
gco
ord
inat
or '
gent
lybr
eaks
the
issu
eto
the
cler
k,w
ho
take
sit
,wel
l,.H~
goes
ou
tto
IIpr
acti
ce"
dinn
ers
wit
hfr
iend
s,as
king
~hem
tocr
itiq
uehi
sm
anne
rs.
He
clea
nsu
phi
sac
t,an
dw
inds
upw
ith
anof
fer.
7}If
you'
veus
eda
fork
orkn
ife,
itne
ver
goes
. ba~
onth
eta
ble-
only
onto
the
plat
e.So
met
imes
you'
llon
lybe
give
non
e~e,
,and
you
use
itfo
r you
r sal
ad. Y
ou'll
need
akn
ifefo
r yoU
rm~
dish
. Wha
tdo
you
do?
Don
'tpu
t it b
ack
onth
e~le,
and
for
gosh
Sake
sdo
n't w
ipe
itof
fwith
your
napk
in. I
Iiste
ad, j
ust a
skth
ew
aite
rfo
r ano
ther
one.
8}W
heny~u're
done
, 'put
your
silv
erw
are
side
by~i.de
onyo
urpl
ate
toin
dica
teyo
u're
finis
hed.
Don
't'cr
isscr
oss
~ton
the
plat
e.'
,
EM
BA
RR
AS
SIN
GMOMENT.~
••
Juni
oras
soci
ate,
on
abu
sine
sstr
ipto
london~
.She
,din
esal
one
ata
fine
rest
aura
nt.
Sho
rtly
.afte
r she
~e9i
ns"t
oea
the
ren
tree
,sh
ege
tsup
tog
oto
the
rest
room
,le
avin
ghe
rkn
ife
and
fork
side
bysi
deo
n' h
erne
arly
-fu'
U, p
late
.Sh
eco
mes
back
tofi
ndh
erdi
nner
' cle
ared
aw.a
y.T
he,w
aite
rth
ou
gh
tsh
ew
asfi
nish
ed.
[Thi
sis
Kim
mta
lkin
g.'1
grew
upin
Eng
land
. The
yta
keth
iscu
tler
yst
uff~eIys~rio~slr!]
9)N
oel
bow
son
' the
tabl
e.
10)
Cel
l pho
nes
and
beep
ers
off!
(Or-s
etth
emon'vibrat~~
whi
chis
mor
efu
nan
yway
.)D
oyo
ure
mem
ber
the
TVad
whe
reth
e.gu
y'sce
lioph
one
..
.'rin
gsdu
ring
agr
and
paus
ein
ano'
pera
, and
h~"~swers
it,
"
:.: ~~
.~";
"': .:.
z"
":."
,.1.
",
.:.....
and
th~
diva
onst
age
thro
ws
afla
min
gsp
ear
thro
ugh
the
phon
eto
the
Wild
appl
ause
ofev
eryo
nein
the
audi
ence
?E
very
body
feel
sth
atw
ayab
out c
ell p
hone
s.U
nles
syo
u're
antic
ipat
ing
anur
gent
clie
ntca
ll,yo
urw
ife's
abou
t to
give
birth
, or
the
Pres
iden
t is
goin
gto
cons
ult y
ouan
ym
inut
eab
out p
ushi
ngth
ebu
tton,
turn
oJ/Y
our c
ell p
hone
whe
nyo
usi
t dow
nto
eat.
Ifyo
use
t you
rbe
eper
orce
llph
one
onvi
brat
e,"G
etup
and
excu
seyo
urse
lf,"
advi
ses
Shar
onA
brah
ams.
"Don
'tlo
okat
the
beep
erat
the
tabl
e,or
-God
forb
idI-
talk
onth
ece
llph
one.
"
11)
Don
'tth
row
your
wei
ght a
roun
dw
ithth
ehe
lp. I
t'll m
ake
you
look
bad.
~CAREER
LfM
iTIN
GM
OV
E•••
Su
mm
er
asso
ciat
esi
tsin
are
stau
rant
wit
ho
thei
sum
me
rcl
erks
,a
tto
rne
ysan
dm
embe
rso
fth
eR
ecru
iting
Dep
art
men
t.H
eis
ext
rem
ely
rude
and
dem
and
ing
toth
ew
aite
r.T
hein
cid
en
tis
disc
usse
dex
tens
ivel
yat
the
Em
plc;
>ym
ent
Com
mit
tee
mee
ting
whe
no
ffe
r dec
isio
nsar
ebe
ing
mad
e.
~CAREER
LIM
ITIN
GM
OV
E....
Sum
mer
cler
k,di
ning
wit
h'o
the
rsu
mm
ercl
erks
and
two
part
ners
ata
fanc
yre
stau
rant
.O
ne
ofth
epa
rtne
rs,
the
man
agin
gpa
rtne
rof
the
firm
,is g
etti
ngfl
uste
red
tryi
ng
toat
trac
tth
ew
aite
r'sat
tent
ion.
Th
ew
aite
ris
stan
din
gat
aw
ait s
tati
onso
me
dist
ance
away
. The
sum
mer
cler
kst
ands
up,
and
thro
ws
his
fork
atth
ew
aite
r to
attr
act h
isat
tent
ion.
I2}
Disc
ussio
nta
boos
.Y
ou've
hear
dth
eol
dsa
wab
out a
void
ing
sex,
polit
ics,
and
relig
ion.
Cur
rent
affa
irsis
asa
feco
nver
satio
nto
pic,
alth
ough
322
WH
AT
LAw
SC
HO
OL
DoE
SN'T
TEA
CH
YO
U••
•B
UT
You
RE
ALI
;{N
EED
TOKN
owTh
e"P
eopl
e"Pa
.rtO
fWor
.tIt'
sNot
Wha
tYou
'reLi
ke.•
•32
3
~;:'
.
asSh
aron
Abr
aham
spo
ints
out J"t>~ing
the
Mon
ica~win
sky
scan
dal,
curr
enta
ffairs
wer
e'al
labo
utset:aD.~
polit
ics.
Soso
met
imes
you
can'
tavo
idit
!".
One
othe
rto
pic
isof
f-lim
its,a
ndit
'san
ythi
nggr
oss.
This
isn'
tthe
time
todi
scus
sth
atsu
rger
yspe~ia1
you
saw
onth
eD
isco
very
Cha
nne4
orth
eRo
.ad.K
illC
ookb
ook·
you
just
hear
dab
out-
oran
ythi
ngdi
sgus
ting
you'
ve'e
ver
eate
n.W
hen
you'
reea
ting
wit
hyo
ur'fr
iend
s,h~ck,
anyt
liing
;sfa
irga
me.
But
thes
ear
ebu
sine
ssm
eals
we'·
reta
lkin
gab
out,
and
you
have
tobe
abit
mor
eca
refu
l.
~C
AR
EE
RL
IMIT
I·N
G..·
M0
VE
'.
Sum
mer
cler
kat
ala
rge
New
Y~rk
finn
,ea
~ir:
tgdi
nner
with
two
othe
rcl
erks
and
two
asso
ciat
es'.
"One
.~f
the
othe
r
cler
ksst
arts
talk
ingab
o~t~o
meth
iii~
·.ca
il~~'~
ggle
fish
'
whi
lew
e're
look
ing
atth
emenus~~~
rn~~
.~.a
sks
him
wha
tit
is,
and
hesa
ys,
'It's
thes
elit
tle.fi
sh,
and.
they
real
ive
whe
nyo
up
ut
them
inyo
urm
outh
.~ha
t'sw~y
they
call
them
'wig
gle
fish
.'T
hey
don"
tdie
until
you·.bi~e
dow
non
them
.'Ic
ould
see
from
the
look
son
thefa
~es
oft
heas
soci
at
esth
atth
eyw
ere
gros
sed
out.
But
theo~her
cler
kdi
dn't
noti
ce.
He
goes
on,'T
hati
~n
oth
ing
.I
saw
this
mov
ie
'Fac
esof
Dea
th,'
whe
repe
ople
~re
eati
ng.l
~ve
mon
key
brai
ns.T
hey
dam
pth
is~onkey's
head
th~9u.gh
aho
lein
the
mid
dle
ofth
eta
ble..
.I
I.lo
oked
ove~
atth
etw
oas
so
ciat
es.T
hey'
relo
okin
gat
this
guya
sthou
"g'h
they
reth
ink
ing,
'Hav
eyo
ulo
styo
urm
ind?
'"
13)
Ifyo
uha
veto
use
the
rest
rOO
lIi",
just
excu
seyo
urse
lf-y
oudo
n'tn
eed
toad
d,"I
've
gott
odr
aIn
th~·lizar~."·
Trus
tme.
Ifyo
uge
tup
p-om
th~
tabl
eiD.
the
rrndd
leof
amea
l
and
sa)T,
"Exc
use
me,
"no
body
'sgO
.ingt
o~
you
.sudd
enly
got
.:.~:.~...
calle
dto
appe
aron
"Who
·Wan
tsTo
BeA:
Mill
iona
ire?"
You.
don'
thav
eto
anno
unce
whe
reyo
u're
goin
gan
ym
ore
than
you
have
tobe
spec
ific
abou
twha
tyou
'rego
ing
todo
inth
ere.
And
espe
cial
lyif
you
don'
tkno
wyo
urfe
llow
dine
rsre
ally
wel
l,av
oid
cuteeuphe~sms.
Rem
embe
rRob
ertW
agne
rin
Aus
tinPo
wer
s,w
here
hepl
ays
Dr:.E
vil's
unde
rIing
,and
he's
sitti
ngin
aca
sino
ata
blac
kjac
kta
ble.
He
gets
upan
dsa
ys,"
Excu
sem
e,I'v
ego
tto
goto
the
little
boys
'roo
m."
That
was
sapp
osed
tobe
funn
y:Yo
udo
n'tw
antt
hati
mag
ew
ithyo
urpr
ofes
siona
lcol
leag
ues!
Sha~on
Abr
aham
spo
ints
outt
hati
t'sm
uch
mor
epo
lite
ifyo
uhi
tth
ejo
hnbe
fore
you
sit
dow
n.If
you
doha
veto
excu
seyo
urse
lfdu
ring
the
mea
l,"L
eave
your
napk
inon
your
chai
rify
ou're
com
ing
back
,an
don
the
tabl
eif
it's
atth
een
dof
the
mea
land
you
won
'tbe
retu
rnin
gto
the
tabl
e."
14)
Rel
axyo
urfo
rmal
man
ners
ina
casu
alse
tting
,lik
ea
firm
picn
ic.
Plas
ticcu
tlery
does
n'tc
ome
with
four
kind
sof
fork
s.If
you'
reat
aca
sual
do,d
on't
cutt
hem
eato
ffth
erib
sw
ith
akn
ifean
dfo
rkw
hile
you'
reba
lanc
ing
a'pl
ate
onyo
urla
p.If
ever
ybod
y's
eatin
grib
san
dco
rnon
the
cob,
then
use
your
fing
ers-
butb
eas
tidy
aspo
ssib
le!
Api
cnic
isno
talic
ense
tole
tyou
rfac
elo
oklik
ea
Jack
son
Polla
ckpa
inte
din
barb
ecu
esa
uce.
c.O
rder
ing
the
food
.It
'sa
min
efie
ld!
1)D
on't
orde
rany
thin
gyo
u've
neve
reat
enbe
fore
just
beca
use
itso
unds
exot
ic.
Alu
nch
ordi
nner
wit
hne
wco
lleag
ues
isno
tthe
time
toex
plor
ebr
ave
new
culin~
wor
lds.
Itm
ight
turn
outt
obe
sO!J1
ethin
gyo
uh
ate-
orc
an't
figur
eou
t
EM
BA
RR
AS
SIN
GM
OM
EN
T....
Sum
mer
cler
kat
ala
rge
los
Ang
eles
firm
.T
hecl
erk
had
ne
ver
trie
dar
tich
okes
befo
re,
and
orde
red
one.
"'tc
ame
324
Wto
o:LA
wS
CH
OO
LDO
ESN'
TTE
AC
HY
OU
•••
Bur
youREALIY~NEE~,TOKNOW
The
uPeo
ple"
Part
O/W
olt.
It'sN
otW
hatY
ou're
Like
•••
325
:.:",: ..:"
ou
ton
apl
ate
and
itw
asar
rang
edlik
eab
e~utitul
~ower.
I
did
n't
kno
wh
ow
toea
tit
.I,d
idn
'tkn
ow
,You
.'re~upposed
toea
tth
eed
ible
part
off
the
leaf
.In
stea
d;Ip
uta
leaf
inm
ym
outh
and
chew
edan
dch
ewed
an
dch
ewed
,.I:W
aSdy
ing.
Itw
aslik
ea
hu
ge
tum
ble
wee
din
my
mo
uth
."Fi
rial,l
y,in
desp
erat
ion,
Ispi
titi
nto
my
napk
in,
drop
ped"
the
napk
in
on
the
floo
r,an
dki
cked
itaw
ayfr
omth
eta
ble
!",
,
2}W
hile
you'
rest
illa
sum
mer
cler
k,do
n't
orde
r,th
em
ost
expe
nsiv
eth
ing
onth
em
enu.
A$Sh
aron
Abr
aham
spo
ints
out,
"Fora
nintervi~yv-
or'su
m·
mer
cler
kshi
pdi
nner
,you
us~
thes~e
rule
you'
dus
e,o
na
date
whe
nit
com
esto
the
pric
eof
your
entre
e:don'~
read
from
right
tole
ftan
dor
dersometh~g,
beca
use
it's
the
mos
tex
pens
ive
thin
gon
the
men
u!"
'.Th
ere's
only
one
exce
ptio
nto
this.
,Ify
our
host
say~,
"Oh,
you
real
lysh
ould
try
the
chat
eaub
riap.
ds~ed
with
'foie
gras
intru
ffle
d24
-kar
at-g
old
sauc
e.It
'sde
light
ful"
-the
n·yo
u've
gota
free
pass
.Go
ahea
dan
dor.d~r
it!
3)D
on't
orde
ran
yfoo
dth
atca
nsab~tage
you.
.',
Ther
ear
eon
lya
few
food
stha
tare
onth
e'ba
nned
liSt.w
hen
you'
redi
ning
wit
hco
lleag
ues,~d
they
're.p
retty
,obv
ious
.Sh
aron
Abr
aham
sca
llsth
ese
the
food
sth
atca
n"s
a?ot
age"
you,
like
"Fre
nch
onio
nso
up(th
ech
eese
.stri
ngs
are
simpl
yun
cutta
ble)
,and
anyt
hing
you
eatw
ith
yourbands~om
onth
eco
b,rib
s,fri
edch
icke
n,lo
bste
r,cr
abl~~.
And
~on'f
orde
ra
burg
er.A
sso
onas
you
puta
burg
erto
geth
erah~.~e
abi
te,
who
osh!
The
burg
erfli
esou
tthe
oth~
sid~.:
It's
mes
syan
dgr
easy
.Ord
eryo
urbu
rger
with
outa
bun'
and
tell~e,m
you'r
eon
the
Zone
diet
Then
eati
twit
ha
knife
~d'
fork
.?'.
...
You
can
orde
rch
icke
non
the.
bone
,bu
twpe
nyou
geti
t',;:;
'..:
youha~e
tocu
tth
ech
icke
nof
fthe
bqne
ande
itit
with
afo
rk.
"You
can'
tpic
kup
thech~cke~
bone
san
dea
tUle
last
",go
bbet
ofm
eatf
rom
them
,"sa
ysSh
aron
Abra
ham
S.,.
~CAREER
LIM
iTIN
Gr~OVE
•
Med
ium
-siz
ed.f
irm
,bu
ysa
tabl
e's
wo
rth
of
tick
ets
for
a
dinn
erho
nori
nga
retir
ing
jud
ge
.S
ever
alo
fth
ela
wye
rs
take
alon
g'th
eth
ree
sum
mer
cler
ks.T
hefo
odis
Chi
nese
.,
and
it's
serv
edfr
oma
buff
et.
On
eo
fth
esu
mm
ercl
erks
pick
sup
apl
ate
ofC
hine
seri
bsfr
omth
ebu
ffet
an
dbr
ings
itba
ckto
the
tabl
e.S
heea
tsth
em
eat
off
the
bone
,an
d
then
-to
the
slac
k-ja
wed
asto
nish
men
tof
herco
rrea
gues
~
she
proc
eeds
toea
tth
ebo
nes
them
selv
es,
wit
ha
loud
Crr
unch
!C
rrru
nch!
assh
esn
aps
off
ever
ybi
te.
4}If
you
follo
wa
spec
iald
iet,
hand
leit
disc
reet
ly.
As
Shar
onA
brah
ams
reco
mm
ends
,"I
fyou
follo
wa
diet
that
isko
sher
orve
geta
rian
oryo
uon
lyea
tpla
nts
that
don'
tki
llth
epl
antt
hey
com
efro
m.o
ryou
have
alle
rgie
s;ca
llov
erth
ew
aite
rarid
tell
them
quie
tlyw
haty
ourd
ietr
estri
ctio
nsar
e.I'm
alle
rgic
toW
heat
,so
I'ca
n'th
ave
soy
sauc
e,an
dI
ofte
nha
veto
men
tion
that
toth
ew
aite
r.Y
ouha
veto
take
resp
onsib
ility
fory
our
own
food
."
Ifyo
u're
orde
ring
from
am
enu,
it'ssimpl~
enou
ghto
have
your
mea
lpre
pare
dsp
ecia
lly.I
fthe
mea
lis
cate
red,
Shar
onA
brah
ams
sugg
ests
that
you
"Cal
lah
ead
and
ask
for
the
men
u.If
you
can'
teat
it,as
kfo
r'ju
sta
sala
d'or
wha
teve
ryou
can
eatT
hey'
llac
com
mod
ate
you.
"
5).O
rder
ing
drin
ksan
dw
ine.
Whe
nit
com
esto
drin
ksw
ith
mea
ls,
"The
days
ofth
eth
ree-
mar
tinil
unch
esar
eov
er,"
says
Shar
on·A
brah
ams.
"Get
tin
gd~k
does
n'ti
mpr
ess
peop
le.A
tlun
ch,d
on't
drin
kat
all.
Atd
inne
r,if
som
eone
else
wan
tsto
orde
rwin
e,fin
e.Y
ouca
nha
veon
egl
ass,
nom
ore.
"
Wha
tifa
supe
rior
asks
ifyo
uw
anta
drin
kat
dinn
er,a
ndth
eyha
ven'
tor
dere
dye
t?A
sG
eorg
etow
n's
Bet
hSh
erm
anad
vise
s,"B
eca
refu
l.Y
ouca
nsa
y,'1
have
n'td
edd
edvp
tW
hv
326
WHA
TLA
wSCHOO~
DOES
N'rT
EACH
You
••.
BUTYo~
REAL
LYN
EED
ro:k
Now
The
"Peo
ple"
Part
O/W
ork.
lt'sN
otW
hatY
ou're
Like
•..
327
don'
tyou
star
!?'I
fthe
yor
dera
drin
k,th
enyo
uca
n,to~but'
rem
embe
rto
stop
aton
edr
ink.
"..
'.
Ifth
eyas
kyo
uto
orde
rth
ew
ine
andyou'v~~ever
<;lon
eth
atbe
fore
,itc
anbe
emba
rras
sing
.Bet
hSh
erm
an'sl
:l:gg
ests
that
you
say;
"Tha
nks,
Iap
prec
iate
the
com
plim
ent/,
and
then
ask
the
wai
ter
for
aw
ine
reco
mm
enda
tion;
·and
then
you
can
geta
cons
ensu
sfro
mth
eta
ble
abou
tthe
win
eev
ery·
body
wou
ldlik
eto
drin
k.
d.llD
leto
chow
!
1)W
hich
ism
ybr
ead
plat
e?W
hich
ism
yw
ater
glas
s?
This
used
totri
pm
eup
allt
hetim
e.I'd
-5itd
oWn.
With
pro
pIe,
we'
dal
lgra
bth
ebr
ead
plat
ew
etho.ught~~sours~and
som
eone
wou
ldw
ind
upw
ithou
tapl
ate
whi
leso
meb
ody
onth
eot
hers
ide
ofth
eta
ble
had
two.
Her
e'sth
eru
le,'
perS
haro
nAbrah~s:
~oUi"bread
plat
eis
onyo
urle
ft,an
dyo
urw
ater
glas
sis
.on
your
righ
t",
2}M
uch
ado
abou
tbre
ad..
.
OK
.Isa
idyo
uco
uldn
'tea
twith
your
hand
s.Buty6u'~
look
like
am
ajor
dork
ifyo
uus
eda
knife
and
fork
toea
t.adi
ni1e
rroll
!In
stea
d,Sh
aron
Abr
aham
ssa
ysth
at"Y
ou'ca
n.eat
the
brea
dw
ith
your
hand
s.Th
eydi
dit
inthe
Bibl
e,sb
."it's
·OK
for
you,
too.
You
take
one
roll.
,put
iton
your
plat
e,tak
e'on
epa
tof
.but
ter
and
puti
ton
your
pla~e.
Bre
akth
ero
llu,~
mtotw
opi
eces
,the
nea
chha
lfin
totw
o.B
utte
rthe
~iece
you'
rego
ing
toea
t.Y
ouca
nbi
teit
and
puti
tbac
kdo
wn;
you
don'
thav
eto
brea
kth
ero
llin
tobi
te-s
ized
piec
es."
Wha
tift
hebr
ead
arriv
esin
alo
af,i
nste
ad'ot
indi
vidu
alro
lls?
You
can'
ttea
rth
elo
afap
artw
ith'y
ourh
ands~
You
'reno
tPi
ltdow
nM
an.
You
'reci
Vili
zed
Inst
ead,
""p
"se
then~pkin
that
com
esw
ith
the
loaf
toho
ldth
e10
afdo
wn.
W1t
h'o
neha
nd,"
says
Shar
onA
brah
ams,
"and
cuto
ffyo
Urs
lice.
"
3)C
uttin
gup
your
mea
t.D
on't
min
ceth
ew
hole
mea
l·bef
ore
you
take
abi
te.
::;
.,.
",. ..'
..~..'
:.. ":::
.
Shar
onA
brah
ams
tells
you
that
"Ify
ouea
tthe
Am
eric
anw
ay,w
ith
your
fork
inyo
urri
ghta
ndth
ekn
ifein
your
left
(as
oppo
sed
toth
eEu
rope
anw
ay,w
hich
isth
ere
vers
e),y
oudo
n't
cut u
pa
who
lest
eak
wit
hyo
urfo
rkin
your
left
hand
befo
reY0
l:!tra
nsfe
rthe
fork
toyo
urri
ghth
and
toea
tCut
offt
hree
orfo
urbi
tes,
eatt
hose
bite
s,an
dth
encu
tup
som
em
ore.
"
4}If
roy
dess
ertc
omes
inach
ocol
at~
cup,
can
Ieat
the
cup?
Ofc
ours
e!.T
hat's
the
best
part.
Oth
erw
ise
they
mig
htas
wel
lser
veyo
urch
ocol
ate
mou
sse
ina
bagg
ie.S
haro
nA
bra
.ham
ssa
ysth
atyo
ush
ould
"Hol
ddo
wn
the
cup
with
one
uten
sila
ndbr
eak
itw
ithan
othe
r.If
you
don'
thol
dit
dow
n,it'
llfly
!Th
enyo
ust
ick
the
bits
ofcu
pto
your
spoo
nw
itha
bit
ofth
em
ouss
e."
5)A
taca
tere
dsi
t·dow
n.ev
ent,
sign
alth
atyo
udo
n'tw
antc
offe
eby
turn
ing
your
.cup
over
.
e."C
anI
have
ado
ggy
bag?
"W
hatT
oD
oW
hen
You
'reD
one
Eat
ing.
1)N
odo
ggy
bags
.Dam
!
Espe
cial
lyif
you'
rea
sum
mer
cler
kan
dyo
u're
spen
ding
. you
rsum
mer
ata
larg
e~,
you'
llpr
obab
lygo
outt
olu
nch
seve
ralt
imes
aw
eek
No
mat
terh
owof
ten
you
dine
outw
ithco
lleag
ues
(unl
ess
it's
agr
oup
offr
iend
s),
you
can'
tta
kea
dogg
yba
g.If
you:
'rea
new
asso
ciat
ean
dyo
u're
taki
ngsu
m
mer
cler
ksor
inte
rvie
wee
sto
lunc
h,a
dogg
yba
gis
also
ver
bote
n.I'm
nots
ugge
stin
gth
atyo
ucl
ean
your
plat
e.A
talo
tof
rest
aura
nts 7
the
porti
ons
look
mor
elik
eso
met
hing
Fred
Flin
tst
one
wou
ldea
tB
utlik
eth
esa
ying
goes
,you
can'
ttak
eit
wit
hyo
u.It
does
n'tl
ook
pr9f
essio
naL
~CAREER
lIM
IT
!N
GM
OV
E.
'••
Sum
mer
asso
ciat
e,la
rge
Mid
wes
tlaw
firm
.A
tlu
nch,
she
328
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CH
YO
U••
•BU
TY
ouRE
ALLY
N~i:D
TOKN
ow
':"
The
«Peo
ple"
Part
OjW
oTt.
It'sN
otW
hatY
ou're
Like
•..
329
and
ifsh
ew
asto
ofu
ll,sh
e'd
ask
for
ado
ggyb
ag-n
otj
ust
for
he
ro
wn
plat
e,bu
teve
ryon
eel
se/s
as..w
ell.
.2)
"How
muc
hdo
Itip
?"
Shar
onA
brah
ams
advi
ses
that
"Atu
psca
le'~estaur~ts,
18to
20%
isde
rigeu
r.A
tare
gula
rres
taur
ant,.
15%
.isO
~~".
f..D
isas
ter
stri
kes!
Wha
tto
dow
hen
som
ethi
ng.go~
sW
rong
ata
mea
l.
1)"E
ww
w!
Itoo
ka
bite
,and
it's
disg
ustin
g.".
You
take
abi
tean
dit'
sgr
oss.
Wha
tdo
you
do?
Shar
onA
brah
ams
says
that
"The
reat
etw
orules~
Ifit
;~s.
o~et
hing
ined
ible
,lik
ebo
ne,g
ristle
,or·a
hunk
Offat~yo:u.
disc
reet
lysp
itit
into
your
napk
in,a
ndas
kth
ew
aite
rfo~
a.ne
wna
pkin
.If
you
don'
tlik
eit,
toug
hno
ogie
s.".sw~ow
'itqU
i~k1
Yan
dch
ase
itdo
wn
wit
hso
me
wat
eror
.abi
teof
.~re~d
.tdge
trid
ofth
eta
ste.
You
can'
tpu
lla
Tom
Han
ks.i
nth
em
ovie
~'Big,"
whe
rehe
tries
cavi
arfo
rth
efir
sttim
e,.h
ates
it,ar
id.tr
ies
toho
over
itof
fhis
tong
uew
ithan
apki
n.
2)"I
drop
ped
my
fork
I"
Easy
.Ify
oudr
opa
piec
eof
cutle
ry,j
usta
sk'fo
r~other
one.
You
neve
rpic
kit
up.A
ndyo
une
ver·
ever
'.eve
rpic
kit
up,
wip
eit
off,
and
cont
inue
usin
git.
It's
alo
tqui
cker
,-bu
tit's
sim
ply
notd
one!
Not
asth
ough
any
ofus
have
ever
eate
nan
ythi
ngof
fthe
floor
.H
eave
nfo
rbid
.You
'reat
hom
e,·the
appl~:s~'pS.o
utof
your
hand
,you
pick
itup
,wip
eit
onyo
urSh
irt,
and
eati
t
Righ
t?Ir
emem
bero
nce
whe
nm
ylit
tlei:liec~Em~yw~
thre
eye
ars'
old.
My
brot
herK
eir,s
ister
-in-la
w~llie,.·~d
Ettn
riyan
dI
wen
tto
the
zoo.
We
wer
eth
ere
alld
ayan
dtowar~s
the
end
ofth
eaf
tern
oon,
Emm
yw
asat
the
end
ofhe
rli~e
stririg~
She
was
whi
ning
fori
cecr
eam
.Kei
rbou
ghth
era.
cone
,jus
t.ast
heve
ndor
was
clos
ing
upsh
op.A
she's
wheel~g
he~"away'
from
the
ice
crea
mst
and,
she
take
son
elic
kof
theco
ne,a
ndth
e
...(
.':':. .';"
.
.~;'
..~...'
scoo
pof
ice
crea
mgo
essp
lat
onth
egr
ound
next
tohe
rstr
olle
r.Sh
est
arts
tosc
ream
.Keir
look
sar
ound
tom
ake
sure
noon
e'slo
okin
g,an
dm
akes
asn
apju
dgm
ent:
hequ
ickl
yre
ache
sdo
wn
and
scoo
psup
the
ice
crea
min
his
hand
and
plop
sitb
ack
onth
eco
nein
Emm
y'sha
nd.S
he's
happ
y:H
ey.C
ome
on.I
fyou
've
gotk
ids,
you'
vedo
nest
uffl
ike
that
,too
.B
utw
hen
you'
reat
abu
sine
ssm
eal,
ifit
hits
the
tUIf
-qon
'tto
uch
it!
3)"O
ops!
Ispi
lled
itl"
Shar
onA
brah
ams
advi
ses
that
ifyo
usp
illso
met
hing
onyo
urse
lf,yo
.uha
ilth
ew
ater
,as
kfo
rcl
ubso
da,
and
excu
seyo
urse
lfto
goto
the
restr
oom
and
wip
eof
fyou
rclo
thes
.If
you
spill
som
ethi
ngon
som
eone
else
,ap
olog
ize
pro
fuse
ly,h
ail~e
wai
terf
orth
ecl
ubsoda~
ando
ffert
opa
yth
edr
ycl
eani
ngb
ill-
infa
ct,i
nsis
ton
it.
Don
't,ho
wev
er,t
ryto
.dab
the
spill
offt
heir
clot
hes
your
self.
The
stor
ies
are
legi
onab
oute
mba
rras
sed
sum
mer
cler
kstr
yin
gto
dab
the
spill
edC
oke
from
afe
mal
eas
soci
ate's
ches
tora
mal
eas
soci
ate's
lap.
Inth
ose
case
s,th
ecu
reis
wor
seth
anth
edi
seas
e!
4..C
ockt
ailp
artie~,
or-
Ho
wdo
Ish
ake
hand
sw
hen
fmho
ldin
gch
icke
nw
ings
and
abe
er?
a.W
hen
tosh
owup
..
Wha
tdo
you
doif
ther
e'sa
cock
tail
party
at7,
follo
wed
bydi
nne
rat8
?Sh
aron
Abr
aham
ssu
gges
tsth
at"I
fyou~re
asu
mm
ercl
erk
oryo
u're
new
atw
ork,
ther
ear
ede
finite
lype
ople
ther
eyo
uw
ant
toor
shou
ld.se
e.Yo
usho
uld
arriv
eat
the
cock
tail
party
ontim
ean
dlo
okar
ound
for
the
pers
onyo
umos~
wan
tto
sitw
ithat
dinn
er.
Mak
ea
beel
ine
for
that
pers
on,
intro
duce
your
self,
ask
whe
reth
ey're
sitti
ng,a
ndas
k'M
ind
ifIs
itw
ith
you?
'Go
away
fort
here
stof
the
cock
tail
hour
and
then
com
eba
ckto
them
a~di
nner
.Arra
nge
your
dinn
erpa
rtner
sat
the
star
toft
heco
ckta
ilpa
rty,b
ecau
seon
ceyo
u're
sitti
ngdo
wn
atdi
nner
,you
'rest
uck
with
the
peop
leyo
u're
sitti
ngw
ith."
330
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CH
YO
U••
•B
urYo
u~Y.NEED
TOKN
owTh
e"P
eopl
e11Pa
rtO
fWot
tIt~
Not
Wha
tYou
'reLi
ke..
.33
1
5.W
hen
asu
perio
rinv
ites
you
todi
niie
ratt
heir
hOIJ;
le~.•
•
Sum
mer
asso
ciat
eat
ala
rge
firm
.T
hefi
rmha
s'ar
rang
eda
Fri
day
mor
ning
trai
ning
sess
ion,
com
plet
ew
ith
a~reill<fast
bu
f
fet.
The
sum
mer
asso
ciat
ego
esto
the
buff
etta
ble,
pick
sup
som
efr
ench
toas
tst
icks
wit
hhe
rfi
n·ge
.rs-
and
stan
dsat
the
buff
etta
ble
eati
ngth
em,
one
afte
rth
eot
her,
fro
mth
ese
rvin
g
tray
.
a.W
hati
fyou
have
diet
ary
rest
rict
ions
!.
May
beyo
u're
ave
geta
rian
oryo
utre
alle
rgic
tonuts.~
The
soci
ally
corr
ectt
hing
todo
isto
goto
the
dinn
erpa
rtyan
dea
t.w
hate
ver
you
can.
Ata
larg
edi
nner
party
that
's.ex
ac;tl
y'~ght.
':HaV
ing
said
that
,w
hen
Ith
row
dinn
erp'
artie
sIa
lwaY
sas
k·my
gues
tsif
they
have
any
alle
rgie
sor
disl
ikes
that
.1sh
ould
kn0V
\!·.~q~4
IW
ant
them
tobe
happ
y,an
dif
that
mea
nspr
epar
ing
anex
tradi
sh,I
don'
tm
ind
that
!
b.R
ecog
nize
that
the
poin
toft
he
fUnc
tion
isth
epeople-~ot
the
food
..
..
....
.
Ifyo
u're
goin
gto
aw
ork-
orie
nted
cock
tail
party
,you
'reth
ere
for
the
peop
le.A
sSh
aron
Abr
aham
ssa
ys,"
Don
'tgCl'h~gry
toa
cock
ta
ilpa
rty!
You
don'
twan
tto
stan
dat
thebuff~t
~le.
stuf
fing
your
se
lfor
spen
dth
eev
enin
gfollo~g
arou
ndth
etra
ys.o
fho
rsd'
oeuv
res.
Apa
rtfro
man
ythi
ngel
se,i
t'sal
way
s'fa
ttenm
gfo
odth
at's
bad
fory
ou.I
nste
ad,g
oto
the
cock
tail
party
full.
Eat.y
our~
urger
inth
eca
ruyo
uha
veto
.Ify
oudo
n'th
ave
time
toea
tfirs
t,go
and
eat
ina
com
er,d
oa
toot
hch
eck
tom
ake'
sUre
ther
e's.n
psp
inac
hst
uck
betw
een
your
fron
ttee
th,a
ndth
enso
daliz
e.Yo
uca
n'te
at~d
talk
.Es
peci
ally
wit
hth
ose
little
skew
ers
offo
od..I
fyou
'reho
ldin
gon
e,an
da
plat
e,an
da
drin
k,yo
uca
n'ts
hake
hand
s.It
c.N
ever
pick
.up
buff
etfo
odw
ith
your
hand
s..
Ifit'
san
intim
ated~er-perhaps
just
you,
your
date
orsp
ouse
,an
dyo
urho
sts-
your
skip
ping
aco
urse
ora
dish
wou
ldbe
mor
e.o
bvio
us.W
haty
ouco
uld
doin
that
situ
atio
nis
tobe
very
gent
leab
outi
t,an
dsa
yso
met
hing
like,
"Tha
nks
for
the
invi
tatio
n.I'm
delig
hted
toco
me.
I'ma
vege
taria
nbu
tI'll
beha
ppy
eatin
gan
ysa
lad
orbr
ead
orve
geta
bles
that
you
serv
e;pl
ease
don'
tmak
esp
eci
alar
rang
emen
tsfo
rme.
"O
fcou
rse
they
willd
oso
met
hing
spe
cialf
oryo
ubu
tyou
have
n'tb
eenr~de!
Oth
erw
ise
you
coul
dsa
yso
met
hing
like,
"Ilo
veto
cook
,mys
elf-
butI
driv
em
ygu
ests
nuts
beca
use
I'ma
vege
taria
nan
dId
on't
cook
mea
t"T
hatw
ayyo
u're
letti
ngth
emkn
oww
ithou
tbei
ngde
man
ding
.T
heth
ing
toay
oid
inan
yso
cial
setti
ngis
shrie
king
,"D
oyo
ure
aliz
eyo
u're
eatin
gde
adan
imal
s?"
Don
'tsk
ewer
peop
lefo
rth
eir
choi
ces
any
mor
eth
anyo
u'd
wan
tto
bevi
lifie
dfo
ryOW
'S!
b.D
on't
show
upem
pty-
hand
ed.
AsSh
aron
Abr
aham
sad
vise
s,"I
fyou
are
invi
ted
toyo
ursu
perv
iso
r'sho
use
for
dinn
er,
brin
ga
gift
.A
box
ofG
odiv
as,a
bottl
eof
win
e,flo
wer
sw
ithno
stro
ngsc
ent.
Ifyo
ubr
ing
win
e,re
mem
ber
that
the
host
ess
isno
tobl
igat
edto
serv
ew
haty
otIb
ring
-don
'tge
tyo
urno
seou
tofj
oin!
!"If
they
cella
ryou
rbot
tleof
whi
tebu
rgun
dyan
dpu
llou
tthe
cran
berr
yw
ine
wit
hth
esc
rew
top,
that
'sth
ew
ayit
goes
.
c.B
eon
time.
Duh
.For
adi
nner
party
;do
n'ts
how
upla
te.Y
ourh
osts
won
'tap
pred
ate
it,an
dne
ither
will
the
souf
fle.
d.B
efor
eyo
ule
ave,
seek
ou
tth
eho
sts
and
tha
nk
them
.
Ifth
edi
nner
party
isa
little
larg
erso
that
your
host
sco
uld
beab
sorb
edw
ithot
herp
eopl
ew
hen
you
leav
e,do
n'ts
link
away
into
the
nigh
tAlw
ays
say
your
than
k-yo
u's
firs
t
e.F
ollo
wu
pw
ith
ath
ank-
you
note
.
Than
k-yo
uno
tes
mak
ean
incr
edib
leim
pres
sion
.As
Shar
onAb
raha
ms
says
,"Th
eydi
ffer
entia
teyo
u."
She
adds
,"D
on't
e-m
ail
your
than
k-yo
u's
orfa
xth
em.S
end
ape
rson
alno
te."
Ikee
pa
stac
k
.. '.'
.'.
.~.
~C
AR
EE
RL
IMIT
ING
M0
V.1:
332
WH
AT
LAw
SCH
OO
LD
OES
N'T
TEA
CH
YO
U•••
Bur
You
RE
ALl
YN
EED
TOKN
ow,
"
.'.~..:.
The
"Peo
ple"
Part
OfW
ork.
It'sN
otW
7zat
You'r
eLi
ke•.
•33
3
,'
,
ofno
teca
rds
for
just
such
purp
oses
.You
can
ge~
any
kind
-:-w
ithyo
urin
itia
lsor
som
ene
utra
lpic
ture
.(M
i:oe'~ave'Tiff~y
win
dow
son
them
.The
y're
beau
tiful
,and
alw
ays
suita
ble.
I'ge
tthe~
from
Papy
rus
inN
ewY
ork
City
.)K
eep
them
hand
yan
dus
eth
emfre
qu
ently
:Peo
ple
will
notic
e!
~SMART
HU
MA
NT
R1
,CK
•••
larg
eF
lorid
ala
wfi
rmth
row
sa
cock
tail
pan:
ya~
'a'J
awsc
hool
whe
reit'
sinterviewin~.
Itin
vite
sth
ehu
ndre
dof
so:l
awst
uden
tsit
will
bein
terv
iew
ing
the
follo
win
gda
y.O
fth
,eh
un
dre
dst
uden
tsw
ho
atte
ndth
eco
ckta
ilpa
rty,
on
lyo
ne
of
them
wri
tes
ano
te
afte
rwar
dsto
the
man
agin
gpartne~,
than
king
him
,for
invi
ting
hi,m
toth
eco
ckta
ilpa
rty.
Eve
nth
ou
gh
his
grad
es~te
med
iocr
e,
hew
inds
upw
itha
job
offe
rove
rb
ett
ers
tud,
ents
."be
caus
ehe
had
the
dece
ncy
tow
rite,
"sa
ysth
epa
rtne
r."I
fyo,"
,'w
antt
ost
and
out
fro
mth
ecr
owd,
do
the
ten-
min
ute,
thin
gth~t
mak
esyo
ush
inel
"
~S
MA
RT
HU
MA
NT
RiC
K•
~•
Rec
ruiti
ngC
oo
rdin
ato
r,la
rge
New
,Yor
kfir
m,~
ells"the
follo
win
gst
ory:
"We
rout
inel
yta
keo
ur
sum
mer
cler
kSo
utto
the
mov
ies.
On
esu
mm
ercl
erk
had
gu
ests
infr
om
~ut
of
tc;>w
nth
eda
yof
on
eo
fou
rm
ovi
e'f
jeld
trip
s.'
Ito
ldh
im,,
'Bri
ngth
emal
ong.
'
The
sum
mer
cler
kse
nt
me
ath
ank
you,
'and
his
g.ue
sts
did
the
sam
e.It
'sa
little
thin
gth
at
mak
esa
big
impr
essi
on.
Itcr
eate
sa
hap
py
feel
ing.
"
I.W
OR
KIs
WO
RK
,Y
OU
RP
ER
SO
NA
LLI
FEIs
YO
UR
PE
RS
ON
AL
LIFE
••.
AN
DP
EO
PLE
AT
WO
RK
AR
tC
OL
LE
AG
UE
SF
IRS
TA
ND
FR
IEN
DS
SE
CO
ND
.
That
soun
dsaw
fully
cold
,doe
sn't
it?B
utit'
sth
etr
uth.
,It's
impo
rtant
tolik
eyo
urw
ork
and
the
peop
leyo
uw
ork
with
.You
spen
dm
ore
ofy
our
wak
ing
:.,:~.
...;.
.'
..: ,', ,-,'
hour
sw
orki
ngth
anpl
ayin
g.B
utit'
sda
nger
ousl
yse
duct
ive
toge
tyou
rwor
kan
dpr
ivat
eliv
esm
uddl
ed.A
twor
k,yo
u've
gott
oha
veyo
urem
otio
nsun
der
cont
rola
ndyo
urpr
ivat
elif
eou
tofs
ight
Ther
ear
ego
ing
tobe
times
whe
nyo
uw
antt
ote
aryo
urha
irou
tors
crea
mor
cry.
Fine
.Get
outo
fthe
offic
eor
doit
behi
ndcl
osed
door
s.Sc
ream
ing
ata
cow
orke
rw
illm
ake
peop
leth
ink
you
can'
tco
ntro
lyou
rsel
f,an
dth
ey'll
bere
luct
ant
togi
veyo
ure
spon
sibi
lity
whe
reyo
u'll
have
cont
actw
ithcl
iep.
ts.Te
ars
offr
ustra
tion
will
mak
epe
ople
thin~
you
can'
than
dle
the
pres
sure
ofbe
ing
ala
wye
r,an
dyo~
don'
twan
ttha
t.If
you
goth
roug
h.a
pers
onal
trag
edy-
God
forb
id-n
obod
yex
pect
syo
uto
bea
tow
erof
stre
ngth
.Cry
,but
doit
disc
reet
ly.W
hoyo
ute
llan
dw
haty
oudo
abou
titd
epen
dson
the
natu
reof
the
trage
dy.I
fit's
abr
eak-
upw
itha
boyf
riend
orgi
rlfrie
ndor
the
loss
ofa
pet,
you'
rebe
ttero
ffno
ttel
ling
anyb
ody
atw
ork
atal
l.W
hile
thes
eki
nds
ofev
ents
can
be
deva
stat
ing-
gosh
,I'v
e,se
enpe
ople
cry
mor
eov
erth
ede
ath
ofth
eir
dog
than
whe
nth
eylo
stth
eir
gran
dpar
ents
-on
the
trage
dysc
ale
they
'don
'tra
nkve
ryhi
gh.
One
law
yer
sugg
ests
that
wit
htro
uble
slik
eth
ese,
"Lea
veat
5p.
m.i
fyou
mus
tfor
afe
wni
ghts
and
cry
for
the
even
ing,
then
goto
bed
and
getu
pan
dgo
toth
eof
fice
and
puti
tout
ofyo
urm
ind
fort
hene
xtei
ghto
rnin
eho
urs.
That
'sw
hata
prof
essio
nald
oes.
An
amat
eurc
ries
athe
rde
skan
dte
llsal
lher
cow
orke
rshe
rtro
uble
s.Th
epr
oble
mw
illsti
llbe
ther
eat
5p.
m.C
ryab
outi
tthe
nif
you
mus
t.If
it's
too
muc
han
dto
ose
rious
,it's
ago
odtim
eto
take
som
eva
catio
ntim
e."
Ifth
epe
rson
altro
uble
ison
eth
atan
yone
wou
ldre
cogn
ize
asm
ore
seri
ou
s-a
deat
hor
serio
usill
ness
ofa
spou
seor
fam
ilym
embe
r,fo
rins
tanc
ega
ther
your
wits
abou
tyo
uan
dex
plai
nbr
iefly
wha
t'sgo
ing
onto
your
supe
rvis
oran
dpe
rhap
sa
very
clos
eco
lleag
ue.
You
'llpr
obab
lyfin
dth
emtre
men
dous
lysu
ppor
tive.
But
don'
tmak
eyo
ur'p
rivat
ebu
sine
ssge
nera
lnew
s.Sa
veyo
urte
ars
forw
hen
you'
rew
ith
your
fam
ilyan
dou
tsid
efr
iend
s,an
dge
tw
ithth
emas
soon
aspo
ssib
le.D
ow
hate
very
oune
edto
doto
mak
eyo
urse
lf,f
eelb
ette
r 7b
utd
oit
away
from
the
view
ofy
ourc
olle
ague
sin
gene
ral.
You
're,n
ohe
lpto
anyo
ne,i
nclu
ding
your
self,
ifyo
u're
soto
rnup
insi
deth
atyo
uca
n't
,,pa
yat
tent
ion
toth
ew
ork
you'
resu
ppos
edto
bedo
ing.
Take
time
off,
talk
toa
ther
apis
t-yo
urem
otio
nalh
ealth
isul
timat
ely
mor
eim
porta
ntth
anan
ythi
ngel
se-b
utw
hen
you'
reat
the
offic
e,pe
ople
need
tose
eyo
ufo
cusi
ngon
your
wor
k.It
isco
ld,b
utit'
sth
etru
th.
33
4W
HA
TLA
wS
cHO
OL
DoE
SN'T
TEA
CH
YO
U••
•B
UT
You
REA
LLY
NEED
TOKN
owTh
e"Pe
ople"
Part
O/W
ork.
It~
NotW
hatY
ou're
Like
...
335
",~.:
.:::
::::
.
~n-ho~se
pat
ent
law
yer.
'He'
sfr
ien
ds
wit
hm
any
pe.o
ple
atth
eco
mpa
ny,
incl
ud
ing
ano
lde
rm
anin
ma
nu
fact
uri
ng
.T
heco
mpa
nyha
sa
big
layo
ff,
and
the
old
erf
rien
dis
on
eo
fthe
peop
lela
idof
f.H
e's
furio
us,
and
beco
mes
part
ofa
·Iaw
suit
agai
nstt
he
com
pany
alle
ging
age
disc
rim
inat
ion.
The
case
isha
ndle
dby
outs
ide
coun
sel.
The
gu
yw
hoge
tsla
ido
ffca
llsth
ein
-hou
se
pate
ntla
wye
r,sa
ying
,"L
et's
have
lun
ch."
The
in-h
ouse
law
yer
isun
com
fo
rtab
le,
but
likes
the
guy,
an
dso
heac
cept
sth
ein
vita
tion
.H
esa
ys,
"At
lunc
h,al
lth
isg
uywant~d
tod
ow
asp
um
pm
efo
rin
form
atio
nab
ou
twh
at
~as
go
ing
on
atw
ork.
Itw
ase
xtre
me
lyu
nco
mfo
rta
ble
.Jd
od
ge
dhi
squ
es
tions
.I
cou
ldn
'tbe
lieve
he
'dac
tuaU
yth
ink
I'd
say
som
eth
ing
ne
ga
tive
abou
t th
eco
mp
any
-esp
ecia
lly
wit
hh
imsu
ing
us!
An
dI
real
lyd
idn
'tlik
e
hear
ing
all
kind
so
fbile
ab
ou
tth
eco
mpa
ny,
beca
use
aft
er
all,
fstil
lha
dto
wor
kth
ere.
Whe
nIg
ot
back
tom
yof
fice
,m
yse
cret
ary
had
me
nti
on
ed
to
my
boss
tha
tIw
asha
Vin
glu
nch
wit
hth
isgu
y.M
ybo
ssch
ewed
my
head
off,
qu
est
ion
ed
my
loy
alty
-an
dm
yin
tell
igen
ce.
Ire
aliz
edth
atun
til
this
who
leth
ing
blew
over
,Ir
eally
cou
ldn
'tbe
frie
nds
wit
hth
isg
uy.
"
QUin
nipi
~c's
Dia
neB
allo
ure
com
men
ds,
"The
less
peop
lek
no
wab
outy
outh
ebe
tter.
Don
'tta
lkab
outy
our
date
s.U
sten
mor
eth
anyo
uta
lk.
The
nle~
can
besa
idab
outy
ou!"
.~CAREER
LIM
ITIN
GM
OV
E•••
.~...:
One
hirin
gpa
rtne
rto
ldm
eab
outa
youn
gasso~iate
athi
sfir
mw
hqw
asgo
ing
thro
ugh
ado
uble
wha
mm
y-adivor~e
.an
daba~ptcy.
He
said
,"W
eal
lfel
tte
rrib
lefo
rhe
r,bu
tit.
was
way
too'
com
mon
kIi9w~edge.
She
stay
edat
wor
k,bu
tcou
ldn'
tdo
anyt
hing
.Her
supe
rvis
orga
vehe
rwor
kth
atju
stsa
tth
ere.
She
real
lyne
eded
tota
kea·
leav
eof
abse
nce,
but
she
just
wou
ldn'
tdo
it."
Inci
dent
ally
,I'm
nott
ryin
gto
sugg
estt
haty
ourcow9rk~rS~on't
besy
mpa
th
etic
.The
ym
aybe
incr
edib
lysy
mpa
thet
ic.T
heymi~t
star
tleyo
uw
ith
the
dept
hof
thei
rca
ring;
I've
hear
dm
any,
man
yw
onde
rful
stor
ies'
abou
tcow
ork
ers
com
ing
thro
ugh
ina
cris
is.W
hatI
am
sayi
ngis
that
'you
'can
'tco
unto
D
that
,and
you'
vego
tto
sold
iero
nas
best
you
c.an
inth
ecircums~ances.
Don
'tev
er,e
vers
hare
with
colle
ague
san
yin
form
atio
nab
outy
our
priv
ate
life
tlfat
refle
cts
adve
rsel
yon
your
prof
essi
onal
ism
.The
partn
erat
que
firm
inN
ewEn
glan
dto
ldm
eab
outa
sum
mer
cler
ksh
e'd
hiTe
d.·"H
ew
asgi
ving
me
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