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Tracy asks, What is the frog in your life that you need to kiss before you can achieve all that is possible for you? What are the negative experiences in your life that you need to embrace, deal with, and use to transform yourself into the amazing person you are capable of becoming?

3/30/2012kiss that frog2Kiss that frogI am christina his daughter3/30/2012kiss that frog3I am Brian Tracy

A professional speaker, trainer, consultant based in CaliforniaBrian learned lessons the hard way He left school without graduating , worked as labourer and became salesman and rose to CEO of a $276 m development co. His books, audio programmes, video seminars, webinars translated into 38 languages and used in 58 countries. Author of more than 50 books and Kiss that frog is the latest.3/30/2012kiss that frog4Brian TracyGraduated in Psychology from University of Southern CaliforniaMaster in Clinical PsychologyWith her passion for facilitating personal growth Christina focuses on helping individuals discover their strengths and accomplish goals leading to inspiring life.She has a private practice.3/30/2012kiss that frog5Christina Tracy SteinThe authors explore topics such as confronters versus evaders, gunny sackers, worry busters, starving negative thoughts and refilling with positive ideas, anger as the core of all negative emotions, blame and fear of rejection. This book is just packed cover to cover with revealing messages about emotions, feelings, unhappiness, happiness and success.

3/30/2012kiss that frog6Kiss that frogStein, who is a psychotherapist in private practice, provides a medical look at why some people are depressed and unhappy and others are the exact opposite. In the end, it all boils down to taking action now. The last few pages of the book provides a summary of ideas that should provoke action.

3/30/2012kiss that frog7Kiss that frogThe authors end the book with Action is everything! Resolve today to put these ideas to work, to kiss your frogs, to face unpleasant situations in your life, and to become a completely, positive, happy, healthy person.

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3/30/2012kiss that frog8Kiss that frog7 truths about youImagine your handsome princeLook your frog in the faceClear the Pond of ugly frogsDrain the swampChange the water in your pondLook for the beauty in frogsLeap forward confidentlyKiss your ugly frogs good-byeExpect the best of your frogLet go the painful frogsSeven keys to a positive personality3/30/2012kiss that frog9Kiss that frog- contentsA handsome prince was turned to a ugly frog by a witch and the curse could be broken only when kissed by a princess.What is frog in you needs to be kissed before you get all that you want.3/30/2012kiss that frog10The frog and the Princess

Natural state is to be happy (sat Chit ananda)If you are unhappy something is not right in your thoughts, feelings or actions and needs to be corrected.You are thoroughly good and excellent person.You are important (the broken pot story?)You have unlimited potential atma You create your worldYou are free to choose your thoughts(garden)You are put in this world with a great destinyThere are no limits

3/30/2012kiss that frog117 truths about youAs Shakespeare wrote in The Tempest whats past is prologueEverything happened to you in the past has been a preparation for the wonderful life that lies ahead of you in the future.3/30/2012kiss that frog127 truths about youIn the gallery of the Academy in Florence, Italy, stands the David, by Michelangelo, considered to be the most beautiful piece of sculpture in the world.He said I saw the David in the block of marble at the very beginning. My sole job from then was to remove everything that was not the David, until only perfection was left.You may be like the David imprisoned in the marble. Your job is to Kiss that frog and find the positive elements Identify the negative or self limiting beliefs.3/30/2012kiss that frog13Michelangelos DavidIdentify the negative or self-limiting beliefs that might be holding back. Then ask yourself what if they werent true?3/30/2012kiss that frog14Now do this

The magic wand exercise. Idealise blue skythinking.Decide upon the goal, that if you could achieve it within 24 hours, would have positive impact on your lifeResolve to take one action immediately to begin creating your ideal life3/30/2012kiss that frog15Imagine your Handsome PrinceStart dream big - a perfect lifeImagine you have a magic wand to wave over your career, family and relationship, health and fitness, and financial situation how would you make these perfectPractice blue sky thinking no limitsDecide whats idealDecide your ideal futureResolve to take one action immediately3/30/2012kiss that frog16Now do thisConfronter & evaderBe realistic (lower your expectations)Deal with reality (acceptance of the situation)Stop over reacting to set backs. Separate facts from problems = fact is unchangeable ; problems are changeablePast and Future facts are in past; problem in future.

3/30/2012kiss that frog17Look your frog in the FaceA rained out Picnic 5 years agoThe Gunnysacker carrying the negative feelings and showing to others, because it protects them taking new decisionsAnalyse the situation Use Worry Buster- define worry clearly; determine the worst possible outcome; accept the worst; Begin to improve upon the worst immediately.

3/30/2012kiss that frog18Look your frog in the FaceAsk What exactly happenedHow did it happenWhat can be doneWhat actions will we take nowSee whether there is a process changes in your experience of the situation3/30/2012kiss that frog19 Now do thisThe main obstacle negative emotionsSee the positives in negativesControl of mind choose to be positiveIn Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Golman speaks of emotional snow balling feed the positive thoughts and starve the negatives Thought feeling-decision- action.Law of substitution interpretation style- reinterpret choose the correct words otherwise it evokes wrong feelings.Find out that negative area like the small part in Brians car.

3/30/2012kiss that frog20Clear the pond of ugly frogsIdentify one area where you might still be harbouring anger at a person from your past.Resolve today that you are going to reinterpret that experience into a positive way, learn to let it go.3/30/2012kiss that frog21Now do thisEmotions distort Evaluations - The abnormal behaviour of some during their emotionally stressed situations / times are eg. The Roots of Negative Emotions: The roots must be recognised to get rid of them Five major factors cause people to create negative emotions- Justification, identification, hypersensitivity, judgementalism, and ration alisation.3/30/2012kiss that frog22Drain the SwampJustification: defend negativity you may talk to yourself while driving arguing vehemently with people who are not there you can choose to hold on to the issue or let it go. identification with yourself take things personally. A 1000 people swept away in far off China would not hurt you and you develop no negativity..3/30/2012kiss that frog23Drain the Swamp3/30/2012kiss that frog24Drain the SwampHypersensitivity- people who are brought up under extreme criticism develop inferiority and inadequacy. A slight disapproval will crush them and a word of appreciation make them hyperactive. (third cause of negativism) judgementalism: When you judge others, you bring negativity in yourself. Free yourself from this. Let this attitude go 3/30/2012kiss that frog25Drain the SwampRationalisation: (it is rational lies) Even the worst criminal feels they are innocent and victims of circumstances. Anger : The Core Negative emotion.- All unhappy people are angry. Depression is inwardly directed anger caused by inability to expresss ones felings about a situation openly and honestly.Rage is outwardly directed anger.

3/30/2012kiss that frog26Drain the SwampThe roots of anger: The primary reason for anger is feeling attacked, hurt or taken advantage of by another person. Both anger and fear trigger the fight or flight response.(The fastest way to calm the angry person is to empathy.)The Centrality of Blame: It is impossible to hold any negative emotion unless you can blame someone or something that you are angry about.- The antidote is to accept responsibility

3/30/2012kiss that frog27Drain the SwampThree Magic words Iam responsibleFind reasons Not to express negative emotionsYou can control your responses- you make yourself happy or unhappy by the way you react to an unhappy experienceGet over it.Two fires burning (emotional desire & negative emotions burn the desire and the other dies out) stop the negative by three magic words.

3/30/2012kiss that frog28Now do thisWrite down the names of all the people whom you are still angry with. Next to their names what they did that causes you to feel justified in your anger. Now list the reasons they are not to blame and decide to let them leave the swamp.Burn this piece of paper ceremoniously.

3/30/2012kiss that frog29Change the water in your PondA reason for everythingProgrammingNew habit pattern of thought power of positive affirmationsyou believe what you see- visualise Prepare before the eventThe most powerful word for success is ask

3/30/2012kiss that frog30Now do thisThink of an upcoming event where you feel apprehensive or fearful of the outcome. Create a positive affirmation on it.3/30/2012kiss that frog31Look for the Beauty in frogsHave a happy childhoodNever complainGreat power- you will not learn until the lesson hurts; The great power sends you lessons to learn; learn from each problems;When it is darkest, men will see starsChange your vocabularySeek and you will findSuffering and pain learn from sufferingsResistance and Acceptance- accept that a new change in youNo regrets, no blaming avoid if only

3/30/2012kiss that frog32Look for the Beauty in frogsThink of the futureGain or lossAccept the loss as a sunk cost

3/30/2012kiss that frog33Leap forward confidentlyDestructive criticism and lack of love in childhood 2 major sources of unhappiness and dysfunction in adulthoodFear of loss and criticismFully functional person contentment

3/30/2012kiss that frog34Kiss your ugly frogs good byeFeeling of guiltUnlearn the feeling of guiltAvoid victim language- criticising and complaining are the forms of victim languageRefuse to criticise yourself ; refuse to criticise others; refuse to use guilt on other people; refuse to be manipulated by guilt

3/30/2012kiss that frog35Expect the best of your frogDeveloping personalitySome people are perpetually unhappy because life was not fair to them. This leads to resentment, envy two negative emotionsEnvy the deadly sinAdmiration vs envyAlways want for others what you want for yourselfResolve never to envy who is successful than you are

3/30/2012kiss that frog36Let go of those painful frogsForgivenessBrain has success mechanism and failure mechanism- failure mechanism works automatically when there is no positive thoughts.Green buttons and Red buttonsForgive Parents, Intimates, Others, Yourself

3/30/2012kiss that frog377 keys for positive personalityPositive self talk I am responsible, Ill do itPositive visualisation:Positive people Avoid negative peoplePositive mental food inspirational booksPositive training formal education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortunePositive health habits Positive expectationsResolve today to kiss your frogs, to face unpleasant situations, and to become a completely positive happy, healthy person1.identify the frogs2. Realise that you are a good person3.decide to confront any negative situation4.identify causes repeat iam responsible.3/30/2012kiss that frog38Action is everythingRefuse to criticiseAccept yourself repeat I like myselfDecide exactly what you want in life talk of it all the time to get rid of negative thoughtsFree from the guilt feelingLook for good in every problemSeek valuable less in setbacksTreat every person to make him most importantPractice 7 keys to become purely positive 3/30/2012kiss that frog39Action is everythingZig ZiglarFor many generations before this century the standard procedure for developing skilled craftsmen was for the father to teach the sons his trade. The skills necessary for the craft were passed from one generation to another. Many years ago a shoe-maker was teaching his nine-year-old son his craft to prepare him for life. One day while working, an awl fell from the shoe-makers table and tragically put out the eye of his nine-year-old son. Without the medical knowledge and expertise of today, the son ended up losing not only that eye, but the other one as well.

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His father put him in a special school for the sightless. At that time the blind were taught to read by using large, carved wooden blocks. They were clumsy, awkward to handle and required a considerable amount of time to learn. The shoe-makers son, however, was not content only to learn to read himself. He knew there must be an easier, better way. Over the years, he devised a new reading system for the blind by punching dots into paper. To accomplish his objective, the shoe-makers son used the same awl that had blinded him. His name was Louis Braille.To subscribe Banking News send mail to [email protected]

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The old saying is still true: Its not what happens to you; its how you handle what happens to you that count. I love what President Reagan said about his first term in office: Since I came to the White House I got two hearing aids, a colon operation, skin cancer, a prostate operation and I was shot. He paused. Ive never felt better in my life. I believe you will agree that attitude will propel you farther than bemoaning unfortunate incidents in your life. Give it a try. Take the advice of Helen Keller, who said, If the outlook is not good, try the uplook. Its always good. If you do, I will see you at the top!

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