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thePARENTLINK June 2011
TAKE A NEW APPROACH TO DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS
Parental stress goes up a notch as soon as kids
enter the dating scene. How can you
encourage your kids to have healthy
relationships with members of the opposite
sex yet stay safe and morally pure? Youth
leader Josh Pease offers these suggestions
that just might surprise you:
� Don’t demonize sex, but don’t over-
glorify it either. As you encourage kids to save
intimacy for marriage, also emphasize that sex
shouldn’t be just about self-satisfaction.
� Model healthy relationships. Let kids see
what a sacrificial relationship looks like—on
good days and bad. Show them how to work
out problems.
� Teach an “others-focused” approach to
dating. Instead of just asking, “Is this person
right for me?” dating teenagers should also
ask, “Am I right for this person?” Other
questions to consider: By my behavior, do I
influence the person I’m dating to be more
like Jesus? Am I focusing more on what I can
get out of them or on what I can do for them?
Is my presence in their life right now
distracting them from who God is revealing
them to be?
As we emphasize abstinence and the beauty
of God’s plan for marriage, Pease says, let’s
also teach kids to model Jesus’ sacrificial love
in their relationships now. That way, they’ll be
better equipped to thrive as spouses in the
future.
Tips “Guy Talk, Girl Talk 2: The
Cure for Cooties” offers
Bible-based dating tips:
� Turn off the negative
influences. Steer clear of hip-hop songs,
magazines, porn, and friends who degrade
people and go against God’s designs.
� Accept the differences. Realize that boys
and girls feel and see things differently.
� Take it slowly. First learn how to build
good friendships without the pressure of
romance and getting physical.
� Be responsible for your actions. Don’t
cause other people to stumble, whether by
how you speak to them or how you dress.
� Talk with Jesus about your experiences.
This may seem weird at first, but praying
about your friendships makes a lot of sense if
you’re trying to understand the opposite sex.
� Celebrate God’s love and friendship. In
every area of your life, God has a plan,
including a plan for friendship and love. Once
we trust God and rely on him and his timing,
we can celebrate him and his plan for us.
Statistics � 68% of teenagers say their friends are in
“healthy” romantic relationships, while 19%
say their friends are in “unhealthy”
relationships.
� 48% of girls and 40% of guys say trust is
the most important part of a healthy
relationship.
� When asked who influences their dating
relationships, teenagers list parents first (35%)
and friends second (28%). (National Campaign
to Prevent Teen & Unplanned Pregnancy)
Going Deeper
At SimplyYouthMinistry.com, Jane Dratz
explores how parents can help teenagers
through relational landmines:
When tough times hit on the romantic scene
and you’re pulled into the middle of teenage
drama, pass along these insights and
strategies that can bring a Godly perspective
to the challenge of ending a relationship.
� Always treat the other person with
dignity and respect. Remember the Golden
Rule (Matthew 7:12).
� Don’t let things drag on and on. Address
the source of the relational conflict. Talk it
out. When you can’t find common ground to
work things out and you know it’s inevitable
that it’s time to move on relationally, get up
your courage and deal with it. Of course, be
sensitive to specific timing.
� Unpacking personal conflict with others
should be done in person, if possible. Come to
the conversation calmly, not in anger
(Proverbs 15:1).
� Express appreciation for what’s been
good in the relationship. But if you believe it’s
time to move on, make that clear. Don’t leave
the other person dangling and hoping if you
know clearly that things need to be over.
Remember to run to God with the tough stuff
because he promises to walk beside you
through it all. A relationship with God through
Jesus is ultimately the only relationship that
will satisfy the deepest levels of your
relational being. When relational stuff hurts,
God’s there in the midst of it to wrap his arms
around you.
Discussion Questions
� What messages are your kids
receiving about relationships from
you? From their peers? From
society? From the media?
� What role, if any, should you have in
deciding whom your teenager dates
or marries?
� What can you do now to ensure that
you maintain positive ties with your
teenager and his or her spouse in
the future?
Resource Inspired by 1 Corinthians, in which Paul answers a series of
questions posed by the people in the Corinthian church, Pastor Mark
Driscoll set out to determine the most controversial questions
among visitors to the Mars Hill Church website. After an
introductory chapter devoted to the misconception that religion is
what saves us, Driscoll tackles the top nine issues, including dating.
Because the purpose of this book is to address commonly asked
questions, all readers will find relevant, engaging material, written in
Driscoll's distinctively edgy, yet theologically sound style.
Read this chapter for free at: villagebible.org/studentresources.
Pirates: On Stranger Tides Review
Read the rest of this and other reviews at www.pluggedin.com. ©2011, Focus on the Family
Plot: The flamboyant and often inebriated Captain Jack Sparrow
is once again marooned at port with need of a ship. Of course,
he'd love to be able to get his hands back on his beloved Black
Pearl, but, well, any ship in a storm, to twist the phrase. And
there does indeed seem to be a storm brewing around this
mincing, less-than-intrepid adventurer.
The authorities are chasing him through the streets of London
for some reason. And rumors are swirling that someone is
impersonating him and raising up a crew. This won't stand! The
only person allowed to impersonate a captain named Jack
Sparrow is Jack Sparrow himself!
Upon confronting the interloper, Jack discovers that he's a she.
Specifically, she's Angelica, a hot-blooded former flame. But
after some cross words and few crossed swords, Jack is
convinced … well, shanghaied into helping his beautiful ex.
Angelica and her father, Captain Blackbeard, you see, are off to
find the Fountain of Youth. And they're not alone. It seems
everybody is suddenly bitten by the bug to locate Ponce de
León's fabled fount. Jack's longtime rival, Captain Barbossa, has become a privateer for the crown of
England. And the king of Spain has sent his own powerful force to join the hunt too. All are racing to
claim the mystical waters of everlasting life. They just need to find two magical challises and a single
tear from a mermaid first, but mermaid tears aren't as easy to come by as you might think.
Conclusion: The past three entries in Disney's Pirates of the Caribbean franchise have all had several
things in common: dark grotesqueries mixed with beautiful women, handsome but scruffy men, and a
general attitude of "devil take the consequences as long as I get me pile o' booty."
Now make it four movies all together. Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides boasts swords, rum,
revenge, zombies, fights with nude mermaids and dark magicking. If Jack is the personification of these
films, then a short conversation he has with Angelica sums things up. She yelps, "You haven't changed!"
To which he responds, "Implying the need."
Still, here you'll also find one thing that's unexpected. Peel away several musky layers of tattered linen
and raw-throated "arrrgghs," and you'll find something that resembles a soul. Not a hearty Spirit of
Christmas Present soul who blesses the house one and all, of course. But rather a small, squinty-eyed
piratey soul who lets out a contemplative half grunt before drawing sword.
At least this soul bothers to take some time to wonder about right and wrong. At least characters long
for salvation for the wicked and make self-sacrificial choices to protect the innocent. At least an
authority figure states, "Only God can grant eternal life." And at least Captain Jack Sparrow blanches at
the idea of some poor victim dying for the bounty of another.
Now, this meager bit of heart doesn't mitigate all the other rough-skinned folderol onscreen. But it does
add something positive. It helps us care a little more about what happens to those trapped in this
apparently never-ending theme park ride-inspired tale. And that's something that hasn't necessarily
been the case in the past.
Perhaps it could even motivate some young, modern-day pirate with a poster of the dreadlocked Cap'n
Jack on his or her wall to pause with a half grunt ever so often. And that is worth at least a half-hearted
"yo ho ho." I just wish we could all skip past the mermaids.
This review is not intended to endorse this film, but rather to help parents make informed decisions.
Calendar of Events June 2011
Sun Mon Tue Wed Thurs Fri Sat
29 30 31 1 2 3 4 AC Cause/Squared
Gathering 6-8:30 PM
SG Refuge/Aliens Meeting 6:30-9 PM
IC Cause/Squared Gathering 7-9 PM
5 6 7 8 9 10 11 AC Cause/Squared
Gathering 6-8:30 PM
SG Refuge/Aliens Meeting 6:30-9 PM
IC Cause/Squared Gathering 7-9 PM
12 13 14 15 16 17 18 AC Cause/Squared
Gathering 6-8:30 PM
SG Refuge/Aliens Meeting 6:30-9 PM
IC Cause/Squared Gathering 7-9 PM
19 20 21 22 23 24 25 AC Cause/Squared
Gathering 6-8:30 PM
SG Refuge/Aliens Meeting 6:30-9 PM
IC Cause/Squared Gathering 7-9 PM
Lake Ann Camp
26 27 28 29 30 1 2
AC Cause/Squared Gathering 6-8:30 PM
Refuge Family Reunions/ Aliens 5th Wednesday
6-9 PM
Six Flags Outing Jr & Sr High
8am-12midnight $65|$50 early bird
Upcoming Events July 5-8 Aliens Junior High Mission Trip with Wayside Cross - $125 July 10 All-Campus Capture the Flag Outreach in Indian Creek | 2-4pm July 23-31 Senior High Detroit Mission Trip - $300 | www.centraldetroitchristian.org August Aliens and Refuge Wednesday Nights are Off-Site
Sugar Grove Aliens and Refuge meet at various students’ homes August No Cause or Squared for Aurora and Indian Creek during August September 7 Sugar Grove Campus Back 2 School Bash | Jr & Sr High at separate locations | $5 September 12 Aurora Campus Back 2 School Bash September 15 Indian Creek Campus Back 2 School Bash October 28-30 Fall Camp | Senior High and Junior High | $120 ($99 early bird) November 12 Kendall County Food Pantry Service Project | Pack Thanksgiving Meals November 16 Ad Vivum – Moody Bible Institute Drama team | Junior High & Senior High November 19 Senior High Turkey Hunt | 5:30 – 10:30 PM | $5 | Meets at SG Campus December 3 Pack Teen Christmas Bags | $10 per teen bag donation