IV. NEGOTIATION B. HOW TO DEFUSE CONFLICTS AND UTILIZE NEGOTIATION SKILLS
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IV. NEGOTIATION
B. HOW TO DEFUSE
CONFLICTS AND UTILIZE NEGOTIATION
SKILLSDEFUSING AND HANDLING CONFLICT
DEFUSE CONFLICTS: Step one
Step one:
Make sure you perceive the problem accurately
DEFUSE CONFLICTS: Step two
Step two:
Decide if the battle is worth fighting
What really matters to you?
How sure are you that you are right?
Whenever you are angry you have a choice between staying angry or letting your anger go – let go of anger over trivial matters
DEFUSE CONFLICTS: Step three
Step three:
Use your anger to resolve conflict, not to exacerbate it
DO NOT ACUSE, ATTACK OR CALL PEOPLE NAMES
After you have expressed your anger, don’t feel guilty, don’t hold a grudge, don’t sulk
Forgive and forget
Remember being angry at someone doesn’t necessarily mean hate or disrepect, simply that you want to resolve a conflict together
FIVE RESPONSES TO CHOOSE
FROM WHEN HANDLING CONFLICT
1. COMPETITION:
This is aggressive and uncooperative
• setting up a win-lose situation
• CREATES a competition set up between the two parties, one person has more authority than the other
• It forces a resolution.
• It is very power oriented
RESPONSE TWO
2. ACCOMODATION:
• This is uncooperative, but unassertive
• setting up a lose-win situation
• accommodating the individual at your own expense,
• you end up feeling resentful and angry;
• the conflict remains
RESPONSE THREE
3. AVOIDANCE:
• This is unassertive and uncooperative
• creating a lose-lose situation
RESPONSE FOUR
4. COMPROMISE:
• this is moderately assertive and cooperative
• with a modified win-lose situation
RESPONSE FIVE
5. COLLABORATION:
• This is a fully assertive and cooperative
• involving mutual problem solving
• and a compromise that sets up a win-win situation