It’s Time to Get a Coach1

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There are three types of trust1. Relationship trust2. Organizational trust3. Expert trust

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Counselor Career planner Therapist Holder of hands Confidant

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A mentor helps with the overall game plan (strategical).

A coach is working with you on technique (tactical).

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A mentor might say this, “You need to take up tennis; you have the talent and drive.”

A coach would say, “You need work on your backhand and approach; here are some drills.”

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A mentor might say, “You need to have more influence on this board of directors starting with Susan.”

A coach might say, “People like Susan react well to this type of approach….”

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A mentor might say, “A masters degree would do a lot for your career, but taking that job in Phoenix - is that what you want?”

A coach, would say, “I can help you with your networking skills, and I would not wear a paisley tie to this meeting.”

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In a position to witness your behavior and activities

Help you build SMART goals Give feedback Suggest adjustments Help you build good HABITS Look for patterns Help you with triggers

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Malcom Galdwell and 10,000 hours It has to be the right 10,000

Daniel Kahnaman Our decision making systems are flawed…especially so when it comes

to decisions and observations about ourselves.

A doctor who has herself as a patient is a fool.

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By the time you know what to do, you're too old to do it.

When you need to get good at something, and you don’t have 10,000 hours

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When you are good at something and want to be better

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Do it when you need to learn something new and need to learn it fast

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When you need to keep yourself honest

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Do it to show others and yourself that you can take criticism and advice in a safe way

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Do it to network

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Do it when the map you’re looking at looks unfamiliar

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Do it when you need to know what you need a coach for

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Do it to re-calibrate

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To hold you accountable To make you practice Not to hold your hand Not to patiently sit and listen to you whine A level of confidentiality No bullshit

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Willing to admit you are ignorant You will be able and willing to take instruction You are capable of learning Willing to spend time with the coach That you know where you want to go No bullshit

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Yes! It doesn’t have to be money per se. Buy them lunch or a coffee or a beer

Givers get. So what do you have to offer in exchange for their help?

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Look for the expert in that field Someone who knows more than you do Local and known Someone you have admired Someone at work Someone in your network Ask your network, Who do you know? LinkedIn

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PMV statement Journaling Spreadsheet Who, for What, and When How did I improve? Little Bigs

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Then you are the coach

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Suggested Reading

The Art of Work, Jeff Goins

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey

Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman

The Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell

The Power of HabitCharles Duhigg

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The Art

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