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Dear Mz. Pink,I want to change my career, but I am too scared. I have been in my current position for years and it has been a good job for me. Recently I have been wanting to change the field I work in. I worry that if I take this step then I will lose everything that I have worked so hard to obtain. I worry that since I’ll be starting over that it will take me forever to get to a decent position where I will feel comfortable. I worry about money and the demands of a new job. What should I do? Should I just leave well enough alone?

Signed, Job Seeker-Indy

Dear Job Seeker,This could be a scary time in your life since you have been used to doing a certain thing for so long. Even thinking about making the change can be nerve-racking. But you could use all this doubt as ammunition to keep taking steps to make a change in your life.

I recommend doing extensive research in the field you want to work in. Meet people who work in that specific position and talk to them about what they do and how they got there. Find out if you need specific skills, or schooling for the position. You may be able to take classes while working in your current position, to help make the switch from one job to another. Talk to the manager or person in charge of your desired position and ask them to perform a mock interview. Research the classes available for that field, can you obtain certificates? Do you need a degree? Is it something that requires a background? Can you work freelance in that field to gain knowledge and credentials?

Figure out your finances, will it cost you more to pursue this dream job or will you even out? Will going to school make or break you? If you made the switch but needed time to get trained will you be comfortable in the transition without a complete lifestyle change? What if you do receive a pay cut, will you be okay with that? For how long? How much of a pay cut are you willing to take? Do you have enough in your savings to make this transition until you make the desired amount of money? If not, what are you willing to sacrifice to get there and to make ends meet? Make sure you are right with your bills and finances before making any big leaps.

Do not act on impulse with this, if you have been in your current position for a while then you are in a comfort zone and going outside of it may cause tension. Make sure that you go over all the pros and cons of switching careers, communicate with anyone who the job change might effect. Make sure you are not causing “bad blood” between you and anyone else. You need support right now, not someone who feels bitter towards you for wanting to go a different direction. This includes your current employer and coworkers and your partner or family who this will directly effect.

Double check with your current employer and make sure that they don’t have a position similar to what you’re looking for, if they do maybe it would be a smarter decision to transfer within the company. This could be very beneficial for you in many ways, and given your history with the company could be very obtainable without some of the difficult foot work.

Once you’ve made the decision you may have to do some interning or freelance work in that field to gain work experience, this is okay. It helps to land the dream job. Even if you have to start at the bottom at least you will have some background to help support yourself and make it easier for you to move up the ladder. Make sure you have the very best support team, it will make a world of difference, and be open to any and all possibilities. This is an exciting time, and no matter the outcome, you have to do what makes you happy and fulfills you.

Good luck,Mz. Pink

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At the end of the day I believe that every citizen should be able to live and work according to their convictions without fear the government will come in and force them to do something contrary to their sincerely held religious beliefs; but the nuance between a valid conscientious objection and an arbitrary refusal of service lies in the difference between material cooperation with an act and the superficial involvement with it such as refusing to dispense abortifacients for example which might actually prevent an abortion from happening. However, refusing to bake a wedding cake on the other hand, is just an unnecessary irritation that makes Christians and Christianity appear bigoted, intolerant, and petty.

Indiana Governor Mike Pence, with his super majority of republicans behind him, signed the Indiana Religious Freedom Act into law on March 26th, saying it ensures that religious liberty is “fully protected under Indiana law.” The legislation declares that state and local governments may not “substantially burden” a person’s right to the exercise of religion unless it is demonstrated that doing so is “essential to further a compelling governmental interest” and uses “the least restrictive” means to further that interest. What does this mean in layman terms? It means that if a business, for example, wants to refuse service to you based on their personal religious beliefs, they can do so with impunity and the government will not do anything about it unless it’s in its best interest to do so. This law is bad for the state of Indiana, bad for Hoosiers, and bad for business, plain and simple.

One of the challenges of living in a liberal society is that you have to be willing to get along with others who may not live according to your moral values or lifestyle. It is an inevitability of an enlightened people that there will be instances where personal or visceral disagreements that are based on ideological, religious, philosophical or academic beliefs will happen. However, a part of the inherent social contract that we all accept and adhere to as citizens of this country is that we agree not to force others to act in accord with our own personal beliefs.

I think it is vitally important to recognize that an individual's right to act according to their conscience should be protected under the law. However, the choice of an individual to have an abortion should not also give them the right to force someone else to participate in a process that another individual believes is tantamount to homicide. This is just one example of what would be a serious violation of an individual’s freedom of religion.

When “religious freedom” translates only to mean “Christian” rights, it no longer is about religious freedom as intended by the Constitution, but rather it becomes a blatant opportunity for a government-sanctioned public display of discrimination by some.

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viable. Put a notice on your door or window in plain sight so all of us can see whom you will or will not serve and see how it works for you. I have been contacted recently by a few mainstream businesses asking how they can demonstrate that they will not discriminate against gays. They want to form a march called “Wewillserveno hate” and they want our support and yet none have ever advertised their businesses with any LGBT publications nor have they ever supported any pride event. To those, I challenge you to demonstrate your solidarity against SB101 by taking action and showing your support in real terms.

The Word, under my leadership will continue to stand up and shine light on those that seek to hide behind closed doors and lurk in the shadows of ignorance and intolerance. We will seek out and expose those who want to turn back the clock on social advances that benefit our society as a whole and we will continue to encourage the fair-minded and good people of Indiana to step out of the background and get off the sidelines and be a part of the process by voting. We all must work hard to ensure that we continue reminding our elected officials that they have been elected to serve and protect ALL of the people of our state.

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Dear Dr. Fred:I have an unusual predicament I’ve never seen in your column or anywhere else for that matter.

I’m a middle-aged divorced gay male who was married to a woman for over twenty-five years, so I suppose I should describe myself as bisexual. However, I now consider myself gay as I’m attracted solely to men.

When I was married and dreamed of being with men sexually, I always assumed that when and if the time ever came I would easily find all kinds of men who were highly sexed and open to having it all the time. It now appears I had some unrealistic ideas about how gay men operate, because pretty much every man I’ve dated since my divorce has been a huge prude.

Several times I’ve gone out with someone for a while and when it looked to me like we knew each other well enough to take things to a sexual level, the other guy was indignant at the suggestion, saying they didn’t believe in having sex outside of a committed relationship. My response was, “how do you commit to a relationship without first knowing that the sex is good?” They all said they’d just have to take their chances on that, which is not a do-able option for me, having had unsatisfying sex with a woman for years while I was married.So after years of dreaming about gay sex, I now find myself dating a bunch of puritans. My question here is, how to find more guys interested in being “friends with benefits?”

To make matters worse, one of the guys I’ve quit dating—I’ll call him Troy here—seems to be almost stalking me. When I broke it off with him, he was hysterical, and said he didn’t know how he was ever going to get over losing “our relationship.” I said, “What relationship? We’ve just had a couple of dates.” He professed to be deeply wounded by my “callousness,” saying I was “The One.” At that point, I got pretty creeped out and showed him the door.

But that wasn’t the end of him. He’s now calling my friends and asking them all kinds of questions about me, including am I dating anyone else yet? He even asked them to “put in a good word for him with me.” Yuck . . .

Plus, a number of times when I’ve been out shopping, we’ve run into each other, and he’s pretended to be very surprised at the “coincidence,” saying, “Isn’t it funny how we keep crossing paths? Seems like it’s meant to be.” That really creeped me out.

So my second question here is what to do to shake him off for good? Can I get a restraining order or file a complaint with the police? What other options are there? I can really use some help.

Sign me,Creeped Out in Clarksville

Dear Creeped Out:Reading this, I’m having flashbacks to the movie Fatal Attraction, and Glenn Close threatening, “I will not be ignored.” Hopefully we can get you some relief before you come home to find a bunny boiling on your stove.

Starting with your first question, I wonder how you’re meeting these men? Are you using online sites, and if so, which ones? Some sites are more relationship-oriented, while others are more about no-strings-attached sex. If you are using the internet, try broadening your search criteria to explore some of the more casual sites.

If you’re meeting guys through friends arranging blind dates, or at some gay church or club, let folks know what you’re looking for in your dates. Make clear you’re not just looking for sex, but for friends to have sex with. People may be assuming you’re seeking relationships, so make sure they know exactly what you want.

As for your second question, I’m certainly no lawyer, but I’ve counseled many clients over the years who’ve obtained restraining orders. My understanding is that there has to be “a clear and imminent threat” before such orders will be issued. In other words, some

harm has to have already been inflicted or appear about to occur. In your circumstances, that isn’t the case, at least not yet, and I hope that continues to be the situation.

That said, there are still many options open to you. I’d start by enlisting your friends in a “no-go zone” with your stalker. Ask them to refuse to talk with Troy about you, and to end any phone calls or conversations where he brings you up.

Next, when you “run into” Troy out in public, refuse to communicate with him. Turn away, cross the street, or do whatever you must to avoid interacting with him in any way. In Behavior Modification, this technique is called “extinguishing” an unwanted behavior by refusing to reward it.

Be prepared for this to upset him, or even temporarily escalate his behavior, because that’s normal when using the extinguishing process. However, he should eventually see the futility of continuing his games, and give them up. If not, you can have an attorney send him a cease and desist letter, and then pursue further legal action if he still doesn’t back off.

Finally, you might want to seek some counseling to deal with the frustration and stress you’re experiencing these days. You have a lot on your plate right now, and a therapist’s support could help you get through it.

Fred Schloemer, Ed.D., LCSW, is a gay psychotherapist in Louisville. Write him at [email protected].

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By Michael Wright with Edward D JonesHelp Mom with Her Retirement Income Strategy

Mother’s Day is almost here. This occasion may have special significance for you if you’ve been fortunate enough to have your mother around for your adult life. So naturally, you’ll want to bring Mom some flowers or another gift. But if she’s planning to retire soon, you may want to think about a longer-term way to improve her life — namely, by initiating a conversation about her retirement income strategy.

Of course, she may already have matters well in hand. But a great many people on the verge of retirement have not planned for those years, so you may be able to provide some valuable suggestions. Here are a few ideas:

• Boost contributions to retirement plans. If Mom is still working, urge her to contribute as much as she can afford to her IRA and her employer-sponsored retirement plan, such as a 401(k). The chances are pretty good that she will be spending many years in retirement — in fact, the average life expectancy for a 65-year-old woman is 20.5 more years, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. So she’ll want to accumulate as much as possible before she bids “adieu” to the working world.

• Discuss appropriate withdrawal rates. Encourage your mother to meet with a financial professional to determine an appropriate rate of withdrawal from her investments. To help ensure that she doesn’t outlive her resources, she needs to avoid taking out too much during her early years of retirement.

• Take care of legal arrangements. If you haven’t already done so, ask your mother if she has drawn up the important legal documents related to her estate plans. Does she have a will? Has she created a durable power of attorney, which allows her to name someone to make financial and health care decisions on her behalf if she becomes incapacitated? As you know, this is a sensitive topic, so you’ll want to approach it with care.

• Evaluate Social Security options. Your mother is probably well aware that she can start taking Social Security as early as age 62, but will get much bigger monthly payments if she waits until her full retirement age, which will likely be 66 or 67. But she may not know that she might be able to benefit from a Social Security “spousal strategy” that could result in her receiving more income than she could get by just taking her own benefits.

For example, if her spouse is the higher wage earner and can afford to delay taking benefits, your mother could eventually receive higher survivor benefits. Or, your mother and her spouse could employ a “file and suspend” strategy. Under this strategy, her spouse, upon reaching full retirement age, files for retirement benefits and then immediately requests to have those benefits suspended. As a result, your mother can file for spousal benefits, which would be larger than what she would receive at her full retirement age. To make sure they are making any Social Security-related moves correctly, though, your mother and her spouse will want to consult with a tax advisor who is thoroughly familiar with Social Security rules.

You want your mother to enjoy a long, happy and active retirement. So, talk to her about the moves she can make to help turn that aspiration into reality.

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“Step-by-Step” Approach Can Ease Estate-planning Process

Like many people, you may enjoy investing. After all, it can be invigorating to put away money for your future, follow the performance of your investments and track the progress you’re making toward your long-term goals, such as a comfortable retirement. However, you might be less excited about doing estate planning, dreading the perceived time, effort and cost. Yet, you can make the entire process more manageable by breaking it up into specific tasks.

What are these tasks? Everyone’s needs are different, but here are a few suggestions that may be applicable to your situation:

• Purchase life insurance. If something were to happen to you, would your family be able to stay in the house? Would your children be able to go to college? You should have sufficient life insurance to take care of these and other essential needs. You might hear about various “formulas” for how much insurance you should purchase, but you may be better off by working with a financial professional — someone who can evaluate your assets, goals and family situation, and then recommend an appropriate level of coverage.

• Draw up your will. For most people, a will is probably the most essential estate-planning document. Regardless of the size of your estate, you need a will to ensure that your assets and personal belongings will be distributed according to your wishes. If you die intestate (without a will), your belongings will be distributed to your “heirs” as defined by state laws — and these distributions may not be at all what you had in mind.

• Consider a living trust. Depending on your situation, you may need to go beyond a will when drawing up your estate plans. For example, you might want to create a living trust, which can allow your assets to go directly to your heirs, avoiding the public, time-consuming and expensive process of probate. A living trust offers other benefits, too, so you may want to consult with a legal professional to learn more about this estate-planning tool.

• Check beneficiary designations. The beneficiary designations on your insurance policies and retirement accounts, such as your IRA and 401(k), are powerful and can even supersede the instructions left in your will. So it’s in your best interests to make sure you’ve got the right people listed as your beneficiaries. Over time, you may need to update these designations to reflect changes in your family situation.

• Make final arrangements. Whenever you pass away, it will be a stressful time for your loved ones. To ease their burden, consider establishing a “payable-on-death” account at your bank, and then funding this account to pay for your funeral and related expenses.

• Share your plans. The most comprehensive estate plan in the world may not be of much value if nobody knows of its existence. Share your plans with your loved ones and heirs. It’s important that everyone knows their roles in carrying out your wishes.

When dealing with any estate-planning issues, you’ll want to consult with your legal and tax professionals. And by taking a step-by-step approach, you can keep the process moving forward — without feeling that you’re being overwhelmed.

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Hackin’ the Net

Summer is on the doorstep. That means a lot of us will be shedding long sleeve gear and diving into shorts. And that means exposing arms, legs, and in some cases, chests which have been covered. It also means showing what’s on those arms, legs and chests. I’m referring to tattoos here and if you have any you regret having done (A dare? A few too many drinks? A service thing? A former lover’s name?) and know how hard they are to ever get totally rid of, you will know what it’s like to get rid of a 15-year-plus e-mail address.

Yes, this column’s about our online ID and not about that ink on your (or your friend’s) leg or arm...but it is about the fact that just as you might regret having that ink but are stuck with it, your online persona may be stuck with an old e-mail for a long, long time.

As regular readers know, I sold my business, including this newspaper, back in the Spring. I thought it would be little bother to turn over the old domain name and e-mails associated to new owners. Fortunately, they have been great at forwarding errant e-mails to me, because now, weeks after they took over, companies are still sending me offers from stores I never shop with and my bank is writing to my old e-mail.

So what happened? And more importantly what to do?

Ah, where to start. I thought I had the right idea when I sent out notice to my whole e-mailing list. That’s the one of friends, companies I do business with and places I need (like that aforementioned bank, health insurance, etc.) weeks before the change was due.

I told them all “Hey this is my new address, it’s turned on and you can use it now.” As is the case with anything, a few “early adopters” changed immediately, but that left at least 20, most days closer to 50, e-mails from

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all over the place still thinking I was where I have been for way over a decade.

Next step: Print cards with my photo, the new address, and phone. Did I mention the buyers also got the office phone I’ve used for most of my calls for over 20 years? Call it: they will be glad to sell you an ad or have your news!

Anyway, I figured handing the cards out would solve a lot of the problem — but it didn’t. I was still getting ads for discount bicycles, bras and stuff I won’t describe in a family newspaper — though I was getting fewer. The issue here is that while I shop at their local stores, the e-mail lists are often kept in some far-off places like Albany, India or Frackville (Yes, it’s a real town in Pennsylvania. Look it up!) That meant the well-meaning locals knew where I was but not the folks keeping the lists, despite notifying them.

Next step: Go through all the errant e-mails and see where they are coming from. Places (like the bike shop, where I bought a friend a Fuji mountain bike for Christmas in 2012 and got added to their list) I never go to or need ads from all have an “unsubscribe” button on every ad. Look for it. It’s usually in TINY type at the VERY bottom of their e-mail or web pages. Click it and you should be unsubscribed. Yeah! No more ads for mountain bikes!

Doing that got rid of half of what was left, but what about the ones I am still (as of this writing) getting? Those — like that tattoo — are the real challenges. And like telling someone the name of their boyfriend in 1997 or their ship when they served in 2000 in tats are pretty irrelevant to most of us, trying to tell a best friend in Louisville or my Aunt Doris in Tulsa that the old address is no longer valid is a tough sell.


One old friend who sent some photos (of us in the 1960s as we do go back that far) got genuinely upset when I reminded him again of the change and told me “I’m trying to survive cancer. I apologise...” I did not have a reply for that and know if it takes a few more weeks the great new friends who bought the paper will continue to send along his letters.

But this being 2015 it’s not ONLY about e-mails from friends or ads. Your e-mail address is everything from your discount card for the grocery or drugstore to your boarding pass to fly and the way you get into iTunes and Netflix. That’s a lot of places you need to change, correct and re-do. When it came to my iTunes it was particularly difficult as I have accounts and credits in several different iTunes stores. There’s one for most every nation on earth and some apps (free and pay) are only in certain ones. For instance, if you wanna watch ABC (Australian Broadcasting Co.) shows or BBC iPlayer from the UK you’ll need their respective apps and a VPN (virtual Private Network) which we have talked about many times here and which “fools” their server into thinking you are in Melbourne or Perth or Glasgow while you actually are in Portland or Dayton. This bypasses “geographic restrictions” but creates a lot of places you will need to tell you are “moving”.

Each iTunes store demands a unique e-mail. And then there’s the matter of passwords. My iTunes U.S. account was so early that I had only six digits in it...but these days they (like most sites) have a demand for eight or more with “special characters”, upper and lower case and on and on. Suffice to say changing it once was a hassle, but changing it multiple times was a Xanax moment!

But wait...I am still not done. If you Tweet, Facebook or otherwise use social networks you will need to inform them, too. And I’ll still bet Aunt Doris won’t quite get it for awhile since she’s past 80 now.

So how do you make a possible change less painful? First, do not use your company or work e-mail to sign up for anything but legit work stuff. That way if you quit, retire, get fired or leave you won’t be locked out of all the items you need and want. Changing your e-mail with things you want to keep usually means every contact will send a confirmation e-mail to the old and new address. These all ask if you REALLY did want the change and some have a link you will need to click to verify that yes, it’s really you and yes, you really do mean to switch.

If that link is sent to an address you have no access to, you won’t get it. That means no Netflix, iTunes or other sites until you start over or hassle with a lot of folks for a long time. Luckily, I did not have that take place thanks to the kind folks who bought my business, but in most cases it may not be near as friendly. Now, weeks on am still seeing four or five daily e-mails forwarded to me from my sold account. If you lose a job or get downsized, you might well find yourself locked out of that company e-mail within minutes, so do not use it for your personal stuff. The boss will like that and you will, too. And do not think this can’t or won’t happen. Right now, while you can access everything is the time to spend a few hours changing. Like insurance it’s just good common sense.So where to go? What address to use that’s truly yours? Well, most providers (like U-Verse, at&t, your cable company, etc.) usually give you a free address or two with your plan. Not many of us actually use those

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(and you can lose that, too, if you change providers causing issues as above). Or you can buy a domain name. Why not be [email protected]? If that’s taken try annlouisville.com or ann.(and your college name).com or .net or something cute or memorable. Doing this costs anywhere from $5 to $25 depending what you pick and where you buy your domain. We use bigrock.com but godaddy.com and many others exist and all know what’s available and what’s taken. Give ‘em a look.

Or get a free Yahoo, Outlook.com or Gmail account. Those cost nothing and while they are just the “big three” there are hundreds of other free e-mail spots out there so do a search. But however you do it, get one (or two) addresses which are all your own and cannot be taken at the whim of a boss or by a corporate sale (or corporate name change) or anyone else easily. If you do that now and change the things (and people) you really need or want to find you all you will need to give up “if and when” will be the real work stuff.

Trust me. I know. And now if you will excuse me, I’ll tell you I need to call my bank again and see if I can get hold of Aunt Doris since I’m sure she’s trying to text me on my land line. But that is an entirely different topic for another column.


This will be a short story of a small town Goose in three parts. Never, ever, assume life will work according to some master plan. I am somehow thankful for the chaos. It reminds me of my own foolishness and of that of the human race. Still in all whatever life offers you, Goose believes life is a free buffet if only we see the fun in stuff.

Now before we get too many months past our local gay-LA where $175 meals were served and folks wore fancy dresses let’s do some picks and pans. I did offer my congratulations publicly to two folks that were lauded at the dinner, Paula Ison (a Cincinnati transgender activist) a volunteerism award, and our “ghey councilman” Chris Seelbach for a leadership award. When a group gets it right - I say it, and when they get it wrong, I’ll share it with reasons. It is called fairness.

What does amuse me is based on those simple statements of congratulations, I was proclaimed a shill for Mr. Seelbach and a lover of “A gays” hence losing whatever street credibility a queer can have in the world of gay-LAs. What it points out to me, just like politics in general, everyone is so damn reactive and so in a hurry to stick someone else in a box they overlook facts. You’ll find my carcass is too big to pigeon hole (sorry) or stick in a box.

Now, did I see the gay-LA dinner folks apologize for my diss four years back? Of course, not! I sat at their gay-LA watching them acknowledge someone who was not of working age for diversity work at P&G, while I sat unacknowledged a few rows back. Sure, I get informal acknowledgements it wasn’t right, and “oh, those people are no longer here.” I say, no one should be confused here. I can be happy for others when they get their just acknowledgement and still hold this dinner club group accountability for rewriting diversity history at P&G. A Goose has a long memory. Acknowledging recent good organizational behavior doesn’t mean I am obligated to overlook or minimize their revisions to history. You see dear reader of the Goose, I was there and stood alone for years in the P&G workplace. Then, I got a call from an emergency service for seniors. The kind of call that resets my mentality when I learned my 89 year ago mother had fallen at home. My sister and I had struggled for ten years to get Mom (the Granny Goose) out of her home, and into senior living. Now, there will be no independent senior living. Instead, rehab followed by assisted living and eventually to a nursing home. It is sad, not because it is my Mother, but to all of us who have elderly parents who refuse to confront the inevitable changes life will bring. All I can offer anyone is if your parents won’t listen to you, find someone they trust to have that talk. No one should wait to 89 years old to settle their funeral arrangements, or downsize. The Goose has a saying about “one should live life Spring Grove ready.” (Spring Grove is a local cemetery). Enjoy life, make a difference, but don’t expect others to unravel your mess. My hat is off to my sister who has lived nearby my Mother for years. Sister Sue is also a nurse, so it makes understanding some of the hurdles more manageable. We’ve emptied Mom’s house, put it up for sale, and saw to details that should have been dealt with years ago. Please have that talk with your parents today!

When visiting Mom, it didn’t take long to clock the “queers” on the staff. They read me like a book as well, not to say my “rainbow scarf” doesn’t give it away. But one of the staff said to me, wait till “he meets so and so.” Funny all this can happen around my Mother who watches Fox

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News. The Queendom is intact in that facility. I am indeed glad. Speaking of being elsewhere, the Grindr app showed me at my new location and suddenly I was fresh carne, sort of, on the rack. A guy from the west side of Cleveland liked my profile so much he took my iconic profile photo with the pink sun hat, and placed it next to a cartoon drawing of Mother Goose and sent it to me. He posted it on FB and we became instant friends. He noted on FB that it seems there is a “Mother Goose in Cincinnati and he is legit.” Yes, there really is a queer Mother Goose. May the circle of Goosey love go unbroken. May all your dreams come true.

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Life sometimes has a funny way of trying to get our attention. I’m sure we all have had the experience of being a witness to some seemingly odd, random act, only to later question the reason behind the experience. The happening can be a big bang or a barely perceptible bubble; either can be impactful enough to give us cause for pause. Whether the experience is good or bad is very subjective, since those types of values are based solely on perception. However, regardless of how we perceive the challenges that life presents, there will be those times when we are left with the feeling that someone or something is trying to tell us something.

Recently, I’ve lost two prominent figures in my life to death. We did not share familial genetic material, nor did we share a household but both of these men had a significant impact in my life. One was very involved in the leather/kink community. The other, while possessing the heart of a leather man, rarely ventured out into the community. Both had partners, one of thirty seven years, the other of five years. Both were Daddy/boy relationships but how that dynamic played itself out within the boundaries of the relationships was vastly different. While the relationship longevity time frames were not equal, the passion in each of these couples was parallel and palpable. One of the deceased was in their thirties, the other, in his late sixties. The circumstances surrounding their deaths were vastly different, one a yearlong battle, the other an abrupt, senseless, confusing ending. Even the amount of time the individuals were a part of my life, four years and twenty five years, respectfully, was remarkably different. However, even with the notable differences, the responses to the death of each of these men were equally as powerful for family and friends. Both of these men touched many lives in so many ways and left their partners, friends and families, grief stricken. Grief and the accompanying sadness are our constant companions when we are confronted with this particular point on the wheel of life. Grief is the great leveler in that it is an emotion that we will all experience to some degree in our lifetime.

I’d venture to say that if one has not experienced grief, one truly has not experienced a full life. Maybe that’s the real lesson of death, how have we experienced life between the inevitable transitions? Transitions, in that physical death, while the ultimate transition, is not our only life transition. We experience multitudinous transitions as we travel the earthly landscape, each of them with their own idiosyncratic initiations. Whether it’s leaving home for the first time, marriage or divorce, graduations, new jobs, or gender reassignments, we will grieve for what we had as well as fear what lies ahead. Because fear and sadness are not emotions that usually leave us feeling particularly powerful, we tend to avoid them. The result is unprocessed grief that ultimately adds additional discomfort when we experience fresh instances of what we’ve tried to avoid. Perhaps that is one of the many lessons of death, to learn how to experience the emotions that inevitably follow endings and beginnings. It certainly forces us to slow down and contemplate life and our place in it.

I feel for the two men who, without their partners, are trying to figure out what the future has in store for them. Predictions are best left to the psychics and seers. The best we can do is leave our spirits open and trust that grieving our losses will allow us grow. It hurts but is through the hurt and sadness that we know we have loved and been loved.

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This column is about relationships; the dynamics of love, the machinations of sexual chemistry, the keen blade of heartbreak, and all that glimmers in the mosaic of who we are and how we interact with others. There are relationships that exist outside the framework of romance and sex however, and one of the most important relationships that we have is with our family. For men like myself, sometimes the relationship that we have with our fathers can be a difficult one. Following in the footsteps of a masculine role model when we are often viewed as less than masculine can be a painful road, and almost every man I know has had a rocky relationship with their dad. Whether we want to admit it or not, we strive for our father’s approval and acceptance, and in doing so we often take on false personas in order to please the man who bestowed upon us our athletic ability, our creative genius, or our brilliant mind. The problem with these fabricated lives is that it’s not who we really are. One of the hardest things you can do is learn to be yourself around your father, and many of us will never get this chance because we still fear what might happen or we missed the opportunity and he’s already gone. We still struggle with who we are and who we have yet to become, and this internal struggle is deepened by the anxiety of how our fathers will react. Let me tell you a little bit about my dad. When I was a kid, my dad seemed larger than life—a good-looking, musclebound giant in a brown corduroy coat with green wool lining. He had a case full of trophies in seemingly every sport except fencing, and our house was full of photographs of him and my mom; him with his curly blonde hair, football shoulders and swanky ties, and my mom, perfectly coiffed, in glove-tight dresses and sky-high heels. They looked like they just stepped out of an episode of Mad Men. They were different people then—just a man and a woman madly in love and frozen in time while living their life before I came along. Now, I was a pretty runty kid, but my dad would carry me on his shoulders so I felt tall, holding me up with hands that had worked on farms, boxed in rings and fired lethal weapons. At night, I would wait at the corner for him to come home from work, and then I would race the car to the driveway to show him how fast I was. He taught me how to throw a ball and ride a bike, even though my interests were comic books and action figures, and when I had to deliver newspapers in waist-high snow, he was up at five a.m. to help me. That’s what kind of dad he was. As I grew older, I became taller and taller, my skin got worse and worse, and unfortunately I weighed about the exact same as I did when I was a kid. That’s when I suddenly began to feel his shadow looming over me. I yearned to be like him; charming, muscular, and brilliant but as the years passed and I realized I was different, I had a sinking feeling that it would never happen. And more importantly, I felt like he wouldn’t love me now that I knew who I really was. But I was wrong. I didn’t know that then, and I rebelled as much as I possibly could, convinced that my dad would despise the real me. The fights we had were epic, and the words we used were like poison arrows. It was brutal. As time ticked past, I began to realize that no matter what happened between us or who I had become he was always there for me. When I won the spelling bee, he was there. Dead battery, flat tire, or scorched and burning engine, he was there. When I had my appendix taken out, he was there. When I set foot on stage for the first time, he was there. When I crashed my car and my face was cut to ribbons, he was there. He always had a cool cloth for my forehead when I was sick, and he was always on the other end of the phone when I was homesick at Culver Military Academy. He has always been there. Looking back on my life, I don’t know what I would have done without him. Now that I’m charming, muscular and brilliant, not to mention modest, I realize it’s because of him. He was the one that showed me how to lift weights when I was just a skinny pup. He was the one that encouraged me to read even though he would rather have had me running the gridiron. And as for the charm, well, some things are just genetic I guess.

I am lucky to have a father who never judged me and let me find my own way. When I was younger I was convinced my dad didn’t know anything. Now I realize he knows everything. Not everyone has the same kind of relationship with their father as I do, and some people don’t even acknowledge or speak to their fathers at all. The simple fact is this: there will be many men that pass through your life but you only have one father. He held you in his arms when you were a baby, he held your hand when you were a little boy, and he holds all those memories in his heart just like you do. Whether or not you grew up to be a doctor or a lawyer or an NBA superstar, you will always be his son. If you have grown apart from your father there is always a road that leads back home. Robert Frost said that you don’t have to deserve your mother’s love but you have to deserve your father’s, because he’s more particular. I don’t believe that’s true. Your father sees himself in you whether it’s in your eyes or your freckles or your sense of humor. He’s a part of you. Call him and tell him you love him. Or better yet, go see him while you still can, and tell him in person. If not for anything in particular, then just for being your dad. Because any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.

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Your Vote CountsBy Rick Sutton

RFRA WRAPUP: A FUNKY RECIPE

Here’s your Indiana RFRA Summary, from a different perspective—think of your favorite casserole, full of varying ingredients. Mix it up and bake for awhile.

The result is a mixed bag, but a definite step forward. And a challenge for the future.

Start with:

** A Republican legislative Super-Majority, thanks to 2011 reapportionment which was probably America’s best-crafted map. Democrats don’t even have to show up for a quorum. Unchecked, it can lead to hubris and arrogance….the Majority folks are a tad removed from reality.

** A Republican governor whose entire resume is far-right-wing Poster Child. Add more hubris for flavor.

** The 2014 HJR 3 scenario, which left political shrapnel galore, especially for the three groups who pushed relentlessly for over a decade to pass a needless Marriage Discrimination Amendment. Their frustration was palpable.

** The largest subtle ingredient is the undeniable national momentum toward full LGBT civil rights. Its progress is swift and historic—however isolated Hoosiers think they are, this swift progress did not escape Indiana.

** One of the world’s largest sporting events on the horizon—which focuses huge media attention on the city.

** Almost four decades of a carefully-crafted image-building. Indianapolis is recognized as a major convention hub and the Amateur Sports Capitol of the world. The city’s convention center was expanded with a new sports dome specifically to accommodate an NFL team and a $4.5 billion annual convention business. That’s over 100,000 central Indiana jobs. Huge.

Those factors combine for an incendiary mix. The third ingredient---specifically the American Family Association of Indiana, Advance America and the Indiana Family Institute—demanded legislation which would protect their perceived “lost” religious liberty.

And along came the Religious Freedom Restoration Act.

It’s almost like gasoline on a fire. Never mind the hyperbolic imagined loss of “freedom”. Folks of Faith were a major part of the 2014 HJR 3 debate—most major branches of that community had a strong presence in the Freedom Indiana campaign.

Regardless, the three “family” groups thought they could sell their mislabeled bag of tricks.

And they almost did. Except for the media firestorm, and perhaps a little kismet.

AND YOUR LITTLE DOG, TOO

Any truly great political story includes raw luck. From Speaker Brian Bosma’s press conference which announced the RFRA “fix”:

“I listened to a longtime idol of mine, Greg Louganis….describe RFRA…as unwelcoming.” And the back story: The iconic Olympic diver, Louganis, cut his athletic teeth in Indianapolis. At the 1987 Pan American and multiple national competitions in Indy,

he dazzled the world with his athletic prowess and personal story: his friendship with glitterati, his HIV journey, his coming out, and of course his longtime friendship with Ryan White.

Louganis was coming to Indianapolis to promote a new book on the 25th anniversary of White’s death. Local anti-RFRA forces got an offer for him to make public appearances or help in any way. He attended a meeting of the Indianapolis City-County Council on March 30 which passed an anti-RFRA resolution. He spoke to the council and was enthusiastically-received.

The next two days contained multiple Louganis moments, and I was the tour guide. With Greg and his near-constant companion, an adorable Jack Russell terrier. THE GOVERNOR and THE SPEAKER

On March 31, Greg decided to attend the morning press conference of Gov. Mike Pence. Simple enough, right?

Wrong.

We entered the State Library for the 11 a.m. presser and quickly the governor’s handlers decided we shouldn’t be there. The State Library is across the street from the Statehouse. As if the RFRA stench would somehow be cured 300 yards away.


Greg tweeted the rude exit, and within five minutes the breathless staffers for Bosma were in front of us: “We want you to come across the street and watch this press conference in our office.”

The press conference was carried live on TV–by then, the RFRA brouhaha was an epidemic of huge proportion. Business groups and allies were meeting nearby to formulate their response and Pence trotted out his lame defense of “that picture.” The secret signing ceremony whose graphic evidence was straight out of central casting.

We were ushered into the Speaker’s office to greet his entire leadership team. They were already legislative adversaries on this issue, but they were painstakingly polite. They did not understand the national impact of their legislative action.

And within three minutes, Greg had them in the palm of his hand.

He explained his dozens of visits to a welcoming city and state. How he had been treated with love and respect, sometimes under difficult circumstances. His longtime friendship with the iconic Ryan White and the media event that was his funeral 25 years prior. And one sentence created a gasp in the Speaker’s office:

“I sat in California and watched this RFRA stuff and thought ‘that’s not the Indiana I know and love,” said Louganis. “It made me feel very unwelcome here. Instantly.”

As he was talking, those legislative leaders were hanging on his every word. His athletic legacy was carved in Indianapolis, when they were younger. They had admired his grit and determination under difficult circumstances.

They liked him. And his little dog, who by then was sitting on the Speaker’s lap.

For an hour we sat there, they took selfies with Greg, and they were genuinely moved by his commentary.

The “fix” was underway.

BREATHE A LITTLE

All of which created a Zen-like moment, which was a lesson for me:

Never under-estimate the celebrity power of a middle-aged athlete. Messages can be delivered in multiple ways by all kinds of messengers. And when we encounter folks who are coming around to our LGBT story, however late they arrive at the station—give them time to absorb it. Stand back, breathe a little. Don’t oversell the message, because it’s often powerful.

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Is this a dream? Snap out of it Miss Cleo! It may feel too good to be true but this is no trance. The atmosphere is ripe with rewards for Pisces. Just remember that you put yourself here with all of your hard work. Letting go of fear and insecurity is key in May if you want to continue propagating blessings. Celebrate and spend time with those dearest to you.

In a lyric versed by Nelly Furtado, love has been reported to “�oat” out the window. Aquarius should avoid putting their �ame on the back-burner this month or love might just speed o� on the back of a cheetah. Foxy understands you have many irons in the professional �re, but can they alone keep you warm. Be a little less passive and implement a bit more passion.

You would do well to snu� this “Jan Brady/Skipper/Kelly Rowland” stigma you have in May. This is paranoia at its worst and you’re above that silly. You are number one whether you feel that way or not. Instead of feeding the ho-hum self-loathing, get out of your head and redecorate. Being progressive while handling your own a�airs should remind you of the power you possess.

In the words of Heather small: “What have you done today to make you feel proud?” This will be the theme of your month darling Sagittarius as you reach deep inside yourself and nurture your inner humanitarian. This is good for all parties involved, save for an opposing assumed friend. Don’t let their sel�shness subdue your sel�essness.

When power gets placed into your hands this month make sure you don’t get all “Cruella” with things. Scorpio, exacting your long awaited revenge may seem like a good idea in the heat of the moment, but what goes around comes around. Spare yourself your own Karma. Living well is the best revenge and your �nan-cial energy this month will see to that.

Foxy would recommend you stick to the philosophy of “Salt n Peppa” and push it! Life is balanced and to the Virgoan mind this can mean boredom. Lest you slip into a slump and watch this homeostasis fall from your �ngertips you will need to �nd new ways to challenge yourself. Restore your image, review your morals, re�ne your diet, and more. This is a month of expansion.

Whether you’ve been accused of being �aming or not, it’s that red-hot wallet trying to burn a hole in your pocket. Resist the urge to spend frivolously and you may just save up enough to spoil a new sweetheart walking into your life mid-month. May for Leo holds a lighthearted carefree vibe. Soak up this much needed fun and relaxation without consequence.

Your entrepreneurial spirit is alive and thriving this May. Regarding new information, Gemini thirsts like Tara Reid with two new livers alone in a dive bar. The ardor is strong within you and there is no better time to �nish, begin, and adopt projects. You may attract the verbal slander of a few jealous souls, but they can’t snu� your �ame. Deal with them later and shine on.

The problem isn’t that it’s ending Taurus. The issue at hand is how you so desperately cling to this dysfunction. A magni�cent and momentous life awaits you as soon as you channel your inner “Jojo.” Have the courage to stop su�ocating yourself and breathe in the change. The energies this month will support the new you. Don’t let the old you win when you’ve come so far.

Your entrepreneurial spirit is alive and thriving this May. Regarding new information, Gemini thirsts like Tara Reid with two new livers alone in a dive bar. The ardor is strong within you and there is no better time to �nish, begin, and adopt projects. You may attract the verbal slander of a few jealous souls, but they can’t snu� your �ame. Deal with them later and shine on.

Your self-reliance has always been strong Aries, but know that life is a team e�ort. This May there is potential to meet a new “bestie” the �rst week. Social dynamics are about as stable as a dollar store origami headpiece constructed by a belligerent ca�eine addict, but “c’est la vie.” Remember to choose peace over con�ict. Don’t lose your head, or be self-absorbed.

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‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ will be available May 1 ‘BOYSTOWN’ series author Jake Biondi has revealed the release date for the highly-anticipated third book of his ‘BOYSTOWN’ series. ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ will be released on May 1, 2015.

“The wait is almost over,” Biondi told fans of his ‘BOYSTOWN’ book series. “Due to the success of the first two books in the series, fans from all over the country have been emailing me to know when the third book would be released. They want to know what’s coming next for their favorite characters and couples. Well, their wait is finally over.”

Biondi added, “’BOYSTOWN’ fans are the best. I am so humbled by and grateful for my readers and their positive response to the books. I regularly receive notes from fans who are connecting with the characters and want to know what the future holds for them.”

Biondi promises that readers won’t be disappointed. “’Season Three’ picks up with the aftermath of the New Year’s Eve explosion. While I won’t reveal who lives and who dies, I will say this: lives will be forever changed.” Biondi also previews that ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ continues the storylines from the first two books while introducing new ones -- and some hot new characters, too! As in his second book, Biondi pays tribute to and features some of his favorite performers in ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three.’ The “Whiskey & Cherries” trio, singer Amy Armstrong, and pop sensation Steve Grand are all featured in the third ‘BOYSTOWN’ book. “Meredith, Danielle, and I are thrilled to again be written into the ‘BOYSTOWN’ series. As an avid fan of our musical trio Whiskey & Cherries, Jake Biondi has included us as the musical entertainment for the fundraiser at the end of the book. As in book two, it’s always exciting to read about yourself interacting with the primary characters and being a part of the never-ending twists and turns in the brilliant plot line,” said Brian Felder of W&C. Amy Armstrong added, “I’m so excited that I got to be a part of this outstanding series.” The ‘BOYSTOWN’ series has a fascinating history. It began as an online story released in installments, each ending with a cliffhanger that left readers wondering what would happen to their favorite characters. Enthusiastic ‘BOYSTOWN’ fans from all over the world petitioned Biondi to release the installments more quickly; they simply couldn’t wait to find out what happened next. Overwhelmed by and grateful for the fans’ responses to the series, Biondi began to write more quickly.

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In 2013, Biondi published the first ten ‘episodes’ in book form as ‘BOYSTOWN Season One.’ The sequel, ‘BOYSTOWN Season Two,’ was released in July of 2014. Ending in a spectacular cliffhanger, ‘Season Two’ left the lives of several main characters in peril. Readers were left wondering who would survive and what would happen next. Now, ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ answers readers’ questions and, of course, provides even more twists and turns for the fans.

Early reviews of ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ are very positive. Journalist and ‘BOYSTOWN’ fan Dustin Shrader, who previewed the book, said, “Iconic writer Jake Biondi has done it again. ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ is an emotional roller coaster with page after page of twisting thrills and crafty curveballs coming along at such speed that readers are left breathless. They will not want to get off this ride.” Editor and ‘BOYSTOWN’ fan Lisa Tepper said, “This story is amazing; it's filled with excitement, drama, romance...you name it, it has it.” Like the first two books, ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ will be available at bookstores across the country as well at online at amazon.com, bn.com, and itunes. The series is available in paperback and all e-book formats. Readers may also order autographed paperback copies of the books directly from Biondi’s website: www.JakeBiondi.com Biondi will reveal the book cover of ‘BOYSTOWN Season Three’ on one week. For additional information or to schedule an interview with author Jake Biondi, please send an email to [email protected].


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The Music Corner Top Ten for May 2015

01. Maroon 5-Sugar02. Ivy Levan-Biscuit03. Zedd Feat. Selena Gomez-I Want You To Know04. Taylor Swift-Style05. Pitbull Feat. Ne Yo-Time Of Our Lives06. Clean Bandit Feat. Jesse Glynne-Real Love07. Calvin Harris Feat. Ellie Goulding-Outside08. Jason Derulo-Want To Want Me09. Ariana Grande-One Last Time10. Fedde LeGrand & Jewelz & Spark-Robotic

Hello and thanks for checking out another edition of the Music Corner. Let’s get right into it. It has been a very strange spring for the music world. Several of the artists we typically expect to produce results in album sales (and hype) have simply received a universal “yawn” when their new material dropped. One of the biggest disappointments is Madonna. This time however, the music on her new album isn’t the issue. Yes, she is pushing the same typical Madonna material with nothing really new or different to set it apart from even her own work. However the typical sales numbers are just not there. As I have written in past articles, the industry is really having problems figuring out how to market and sell music this year. The trend towards streaming music, instead of buying a specific album, seems to really be denting the sales figures. Madonna may be an artist that has a more “tech savvy” fan base emboldened to the new format. Of course the haters will always blame the music (and her age) but I applaud Madge for inventing the reinvention strategy. It is not as effective today because everyone is doing it, except for Carly Rae Jepsen. Poor Carly failed to change her look, and her music, further solidifying herself as a one hit wonder. It seems odd that her latest video for the song “I Really Like You” features Tom Hanks performing most of the video. Justin Bieber also appears with Carly and Tom during the ending dance routine, making us wonder whose career will get the biggest boost from this? What Carly should do is grow up with her fans and work on a more mature third album. I would expect that if she is

by DjDandy indeed getting help from Max Martin, the pop attempts will keep coming till her money runs out.

Another artist who failed to make a splash for the first time in years is Rihanna. Her first single off of a yet to be released eighth studio album “Four Five Seconds” was certainly not helped by the antics of Kanye West. However in this case, the material just isn’t connecting with fans. The second single is even more of a step away from pop radio. Articles and music writers have claimed that “Bitch Better Have My Money” will have a strong showing in the clubs, but I think the gay clubs will pass on it. To me, it is the same song (and video) as “Pour It Up” and that song went nowhere. I think the “twerking trend” that plagued the gay clubs last year has come to a quick end, like dubstep. The only people who still do it are the bachelorette groupies who wander in and try to guilt gay club deejays into playing Ginuwine’s “Pony”!

I am excited to play Ivy Levan’s song Biscuit, even though it refers to something I’ve never had the opportunity to taste, and no amount of butter or jam is going to change that. This girl has an amazing voice coupled with an edgy sound. Mixes by Dave Aude and Ralphi Rosario should push this song to the top of the dance charts even though the song will not make the radio due to the subject matter. As I am writing this article, Giorgio Moroder’s song “Right Here Right Now” featuring Kylie Minogue is at number two on the Billboard dance chart. I am hoping it makes it to number one. It would be amazing to see this artist/producer make the top of the chart again, and the song is certainly worthy. I wish him luck! Nick Jonas has put out a new video for the previously released track “Chains”. So why point this out? Well the first video is a dark, violent, and deep piece that expresses the emotion of the song. Seeing him in a dirty torn white t-shirt doesn’t hurt either. The new “Wynwood Walls Edition” is a shiny pop infused film that makes him look like a Backstreet Boy. This new version makes no sense. It looks like an adult Disney Electric Parade that is totally at odds with the songs premise. Can we drop this and see if there is a third single on that album Nick!

Well that wraps it up for this month. I hope everyone gets out and supports the local nightlife in your area. I’m sure your favorite deejay would love to see your face on the floor. The dancefloor that is! Next month is Pride Month! I can’t believe it’s already here. See you soon!


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The past year has been a stellar one for Hollywood, with something to appeal to just about every taste in movies: action blockbusters (American Sniper, Hunger Games, Guardians of the Galaxy), critical favorites (Birdman, The Grand Budapest Hotel, The Theory of Everything), and low-key, independent sleepers (Mr. Turner, Whiplash, Boyhood).

While watching and listening to movies in eye-popping 3-D and wrap-around stereo in large, air-conditioned theaters is still the norm for most people in North America, there are so many outlets for movie-watching these days that you no longer need to leave the comfort of your own home to enjoy films. DVDs (especially through 24-hour-a-day vendors like Redbox, often situated outside grocery stores, all-night pharmacies, and shopping malls) are still popular, but you still have to leave the house to get them, sometimes in the rain or snow!

Streaming films online provides you with greater choice, access, and immediacy than multiplexes or vendors like Redbox. If you feel like watching a horror film, hey presto! You can find a ‘70s classic like The Exorcist or the latest gory splatter film. If you want a romance or a musical, you can choose from Hollywood’s Golden Age of Cinema or a brand new LGBT independent film. Netflix, Amazon Instant Video, HBO Go, Hulu, YouTube, and dozens of free online channels provide more films than anyone could possibly see in a lifetime. All at your fingertips—24/7.

The downside, of course, is that you still have to pay for the privilege of watching movies online—one way or another. HBO Go is free as long as you are an HBO cable subscriber; Netflix charges a flat monthly fee for its services; Amazon Prime (which you have to join to access Amazon Instant Video) charges an annual fee, plus add-ons for new releases and popular films. Crackle and other channels are free but run commercials every ten minutes or so, making watching a feature length film painful.

Another drawback to watching films in the comfort of your home is that you are limited by your hardware. If you have a 60” flat screen TV with a surround sound entertainment unit, and you like action films, then great! It’s almost like watching at a multiplex. But, if (like me) you prefer quieter, more reflective movies, size doesn’t matter so much. I am happy watching a comedy on my iPhone. The jokes sound just as funny. And for most movies, a reasonably sized TV screen works just fine.

For example, I saw Birdman and The Grand Budapest Hotel on the big screen last year, and watching them again recently on my TV screen, using Amazon Instant Video, the experience was just as enjoyable.

When the Oscars came around in February, I was really torn because I loved Birdman and The Grand Budapest Hotel so much. I wanted both to sweep as many categories as possible. Michael Keaton is fabulous as the embittered former Hollywood actor who tries to resurrect his flagging career with a Broadway production of an obscure play in Birdman. As Riggan Thomson, Keaton is a walking time bomb—neurotic, insomniac, prone to drunken binges and temper tantrums. Ralph Fiennes also gives a tour-de-force master class as the suave and dapper Monsieur Gustave H. in The Grand Budapest Hotel. Both films utilize exceptional ensemble casts, and while Birdman is dark and satirical, Wes Anderson’s film is witty, charming, and just as off-the-wall as all of his previous films.

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Birdman is simply a stunning film on every level. The script is razor sharp and understatedly funny. The dialogue sounds like real people talking, even when they are talking pretentiously. The small ensemble cast (Keaton, Edward Norton, Naomi Watts, Andrea Riseborough, and Emma Stone) is near flawless, giving the kind of intimate, up-close performances that are usually confined to the theatre. But this IS theater—theatre masquerading as film.

Visually, the film is visceral and energizing. Director Alejandro González Iñárritu planned to shoot Birdman in one single take. While some manipulation has been done in the cutting room, the film has, for the most part, the feeling of one seamless, continuous shot. This gives the film an immediacy and intimacy that is breathtaking. It also captures the emotional and psychological constriction that is suffocating Keaton’s character.

On one level Birdman is a satire that takes on the superficiality of modern popular culture, skewering our pretensions and petty obsession with trivial things. But as it chronicles Riggan Thomson’s struggle to redefine himself through his work and relationships, to find relevance in an increasingly meaningless world, it becomes a very serious and very important work of art. It tells an emotionally engaging story of redemption, renewal, and hope.

The Grand Budapest Hotel is much lighter in tone than Birdman, but no less artfully constructed. A nod to classic Hollywood filmmaking as well as a hommage to European cinema, it combines elements of the murder-mystery, art-heist, and jailbreak film with political intrigue, insurrection, and war. There is romance and comedy a-plenty, with a more specific tip of the hat to the ever-popular “buddy” movie.

Infused with nostalgia for an age of lost innocence, the film also harks back to a time when people and places seemed more elegant and sophisticated. As in all of Anderson’s previous films, the plot of The Grand Budapest Hotel is loopily convoluted and mannered but the writer-director’s control of his material is steady and self-assured. He leads the audience down dark, comically twisted passages and we are happy to follow. The story is a house of cards of bizarrely interconnected incidents and Anderson is a master of the visual and thematic non sequitur.In its mélange of narrative and visual styles, the film draws comparisons with Bunuel, the Coen Brothers, David Lynch, Guy Maddin, and Lars von Trier. Like Maddin and von Trier, Anderson’s films often play fast and loose with geography and history, but are very much grounded in actual places and real historical periods.

The film’s ensemble cast almost reads as a Who’s Who of American, British, and international cinema: Fiennes, F. Murray Abraham, Adrien Brody, Willem Dafoe, Jeff Goldblum, Edward Norton, Jude Law, Harvey Keitel, Tilda Swinton, Saoirse Ronan, Tom Wilkinson, and Bob Balaban. There are also cameos by Anderson alumni like Bill Murray, Jason Schwartzman, Owen Wilson, and George Clooney (in a blink-and-you’ll-miss-it shot).

Even with such a stellar cast enmeshed in a thrillingly entertaining tale, it is the eponymous hotel that steals each and every scene. The Grand Budapest Hotel is simply breathtaking.

If you didn’t get a chance to catch Birdman and The Grand Budapest Hotel when they were in theaters, and you don’t welcome the idea of trekking to the local video store, you can check out these Oscar-winners and others on Amazon Instant Video, HBO Go, iTunes, and Netflix. Enjoy!

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