INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE

Marriage is not a man-

made arrangement. It is God’s design.(Gen. 1:26-

2:25)

TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE

Crisis in Marriage is an opportunity to depend on

Christ and allow us to grow as

his children.

TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE

“The secret to making a marriage work is TO WORK AT YOUR MARRIAGE. Marriage is hard work and too many people are not willing to put in the time and effort.”

i. understanding iNTIMACY

From the DictionaryA close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person

I. DEFINITION

From the Bible- (Gen 1:26-2:25)

Biblical principle of ‘oneness’

“…and the two shall become one” (Gen. 2:24)

Hebrew term for intimacy is Yahdah which describes sexual relationship.

It has different uses such as:to know, learn to know, perceive, discriminate, know by experience, recognize, admit, consider and sexual union. 

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In short it is… "In-to-me-see.

How do male(if you’re male) female (if you are female) describe intimacy, what must be there for you to be called intimate with your partner?

What are the benefits of having intimacy in marriage?

ANSWER BRIEFLY

Personal sharingMutual Understanding Deepening commitment

Caring

COMPONENTS OF GROWING AND INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

Let’s discuss it among ourselves

It develops one another in loveIt bonds relationship It gives satisfaction to the relationship

It deepens relationship

II. WHAT IS THE ROLE OF INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE?

The Book of Song of songs pictures the intimate relationship between lovers.

“My beloved is mine, and I am his. ..” Song of Songs 2:16

III. WHAT THE BIBLE SPEAKS ABOUT MARRIAGE INTIMACY

The book can be divided into three:

the courtship (1:1 - 3:5); the wedding (3:6 - 5:1); and the maturing marriage (5:2 - 8:14).

THE CONTEXT OF SONG OF SONGS

Knowledge of each other should be developed (even their vulnerability) 1:2-6

The role of communication in building up intimacy is important 2:1-7

Kind words, words that build and words that focus on strengthoFor the king 5:10-16oFor the wife 7 :1-9

DISCOVERY FROM THE SONG OF SONGS

Separation is unhelpful to intimacy 3:1-4

Sex was created by God as sacred for marriage 4:6-7 and keeps the marriage more intimate

They enjoyed each other’s company

DISCOVERY FROM THE SONG OF SONGS

1) Possession

“But because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. “(1 Corinthians 7:2)

  

Practical Perspectives of Marriage

2) Obligation

“Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3) 

 

3) Control over

“The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” (1 Corinthians 7:4) 

4) Devoted“But one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, …but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.”(1 Corinthians 7:33-34)

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1) Give your spouse the attention he or she needs. Take the time to truly know your spouse.2) Encouragement and praise, not criticism, are vital to a successful relationship.3) Enjoy each other. Plan some getaways. Be creative, even playful, with each other. Delight in God’s gift of married love.

PRACTICAL APPLICATION

4) Do whatever is necessary to reassure your commitment to your spouse. Renew your vows; work through problems and do not consider divorce as a solution. God intends for you both to live in a deeply peaceful, secure love.

PRACTICAL APPLICATION

Answer these questions:1.When you and your spouse

were dating, what did you do to make him or her feel special?

2. What are you currently doing to make your mate feel special?

LET’S GIVE IT A TRY

3. What was the last fun activity you and your spouse did together?

LET’S GIVE IT A TRY

I feel loved and cared about when…..(list three things )1. 2.3

LET’S GIVE IT A TRY