Internet Safety For Parents And Kids

Kids & Social Media:Facing Up to Facebook, Twitter & Beyond –The Pros & Cons of How Students Use Social Media for Study, Friendship & Fun

PROPRIETARY & CONFIDENTIAL 4/28/2009Affect Strategies

Study, Friendship & Fun

Prepared for Epiphany Parent & Student Seminar.April 28, 2009

Sandra FathiPresident, Affect [email protected] 398 9680

Web: www.affectstrategies.comBlog: www.techaffect.comTwitter: @sandrafathiLinkedIn, Facebook: Sandra Fathi

Parents & Educators

Internet & Social Media are the New Reality»Required Skills for Social Development/Acceptance

»Required Skills for Education & Research


»Required Skills for Education & Research

»Required Skills for Job & Career Development

Educate & Arm Yourself with Knowledge» Investing in Your Child’s Safety

» Investing in Your Child’s Education

» Investing in Your Child’s Future

»To Connect

»To Be Social

Why do kids need the Internet?

PROPRIETARY & CONFIDENTIAL

»Social Planning/Events

»Staying Plugged In

»To Share

»Self-Expression

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Social Networking Websites

16 years of age:16 years of age:16 years of age:16 years of age:Friendster Online community connecting friends

14 years of age:14 years of age:14 years of age:14 years of age:


14 years of age:14 years of age:14 years of age:14 years of age:MySpaceA Place For Friends

At least 13 years of age & in high school:At least 13 years of age & in high school:At least 13 years of age & in high school:At least 13 years of age & in high school:Facebook Social Utility that connect people with those around them

Social Networking Websites: 13 Year-olds

Hi 5Who’s in?Xanga A weblog communityIMVUChat with friends in 3DThere Online virtual world


There Online virtual worldChamber of Chat Harry Potter online role playing gameSecond Life 3D Virtual WorldRunescape Online adventure communityBebo Social network for sharing and entertainmentGaia OnlineVirtual community with games, message boards & economyvSide Virtual music communityWindows Live Spaces Community of friends for sharing and blogging

Social Networking Sites: No Age Minimum

Imbee Social Networking designed for kids 8-12Active Worlds 3D virtual world chatBoom BangChat, make friends and

Club PenguinVirtual world for kidsMarapetsVirtual pet site with games and chat communityShining Stars Chatting, naming stars


Boom BangChat, make friends and explore a virtual worldDofusMulti-player online role playing gameAwol Chats, games, diary, friends, & cribsSanriotownHello Kitty games, community, blogs and forumsWebkinzVirtual pet community for plush pets

Shining Stars Chatting, naming stars and virtual star worldsNeopets Virtual world for petsEndless OnlineRole playing gamesEternal Lands Role playing gamesFurcadiaRole playing games Graal OnlineRole playing games Guild Wars Role playing games Hero OnlineRole playing games

What are some of the dangers?

»Privacy/Identity Theft

»Cyber-bullying

»Online Predators


»Online Predators

»Cybercriminals

»Piracy

»Inappropriate/Sexual Content

»Misleading Content/Propaganda

Quick Stats

93% of parents say they have established rules for their child’s Internet activity

37% of students report being given no rules from their parents on using the Internet

47% of parents feel their ability to monitor and shelter their


47% of parents feel their ability to monitor and shelter their children from inappropriate material is limited

95% of parents say they know “some” or “a lot” about where their children go or what their children do on the Internet

41% of students do not share where they go or what they do on the Internet with their parents

26% of students believe their parents would be concerned if they knew what they did on the Internet

I-Safe Statistics (www.isafe.org)

Quick Stats

58% of students admit to using the Internet unsafely, inappropriately, or illegally

12% of students have unsupervised Internet access at school


12% of students have unsupervised Internet access at school

55% of students report having given out personal information (e.g. name, age, gender, home address) to someone they have only met online

Online Predators

»71717171% of teens reported receiving messages online from % of teens reported receiving messages online from % of teens reported receiving messages online from % of teens reported receiving messages online from someone they did not someone they did not someone they did not someone they did not knowknowknowknow

»40404040% reported they usually reply and begin chatting with % reported they usually reply and begin chatting with % reported they usually reply and begin chatting with % reported they usually reply and begin chatting with that that that that personpersonpersonperson


that that that that personpersonpersonperson

»18181818% reported telling an adult about the % reported telling an adult about the % reported telling an adult about the % reported telling an adult about the encounterencounterencounterencounter

»45454545% have been asked for personal information by someone % have been asked for personal information by someone % have been asked for personal information by someone % have been asked for personal information by someone they did not they did not they did not they did not knowknowknowknow

»30303030% have of teens have considered meetings someone % have of teens have considered meetings someone % have of teens have considered meetings someone % have of teens have considered meetings someone they have only talked to they have only talked to they have only talked to they have only talked to onlineonlineonlineonline

14% HAVE HAD 14% HAVE HAD 14% HAVE HAD 14% HAVE HAD AN AN AN AN ENCOUNTERENCOUNTERENCOUNTERENCOUNTER

» Seeks Seeks Seeks Seeks out provocative user out provocative user out provocative user out provocative user names.names.names.names.

» Studies Studies Studies Studies your profile. your profile. your profile. your profile.

» Starts Starts Starts Starts with an innocent with an innocent with an innocent with an innocent IM.IM.IM.IM.

» Asks Asks Asks Asks personal questions, personal questions, personal questions, personal questions, A/S/L.A/S/L.A/S/L.A/S/L.

» Wants Wants Wants Wants you to private you to private you to private you to private chat.chat.chat.chat.

» Asks Asks Asks Asks you for personal info. (Phone number, eyou for personal info. (Phone number, eyou for personal info. (Phone number, eyou for personal info. (Phone number, e----mail address, home address, mail address, home address, mail address, home address, mail address, home address,

Online Predators Tactics


» Asks Asks Asks Asks you for personal info. (Phone number, eyou for personal info. (Phone number, eyou for personal info. (Phone number, eyou for personal info. (Phone number, e----mail address, home address, mail address, home address, mail address, home address, mail address, home address, school name, etcschool name, etcschool name, etcschool name, etc.).).).)

» Wants Wants Wants Wants to be your best friend, boyfriend or to be your best friend, boyfriend or to be your best friend, boyfriend or to be your best friend, boyfriend or girlfriend.girlfriend.girlfriend.girlfriend.

» Starts Starts Starts Starts sexual sexual sexual sexual conversations.conversations.conversations.conversations.

» Is Is Is Is all about keeping all about keeping all about keeping all about keeping secrets.secrets.secrets.secrets.

» Asks Asks Asks Asks for personal for personal for personal for personal photos.photos.photos.photos.

» Wants Wants Wants Wants to send you strange to send you strange to send you strange to send you strange gifts.gifts.gifts.gifts.

» Wants Wants Wants Wants to set up a faceto set up a faceto set up a faceto set up a face----totototo----face face face face meeting.meeting.meeting.meeting.

» Makes Makes Makes Makes threats when you no longer want to chat with him or her.threats when you no longer want to chat with him or her.threats when you no longer want to chat with him or her.threats when you no longer want to chat with him or her.

Cyber-bullying

» Be strong and stop it early. Don’t stoop to their level and lash back.

» Don’t suffer in silence. Tell an adult. Keep telling people until someone takes action.

» Don’t open or read messages from cyber bullies.

» Contact your Internet service provider abuse department.

» If the problem continues, alert the local police department.

» Tell your school if it is school related. If your cyber bully attends


» Tell your school if it is school related. If your cyber bully attends your school, contact your teacher or principal.

» Don’t erase the messages. Log all dates and time. Put them in a folder and hold them as evidence.

» Change your e-mail address or screen name.

» If it’s happening with text messages, change your cell number.

» Take screen shots of your chat room pages.

» Save URLs, e-mail addresses, and profiles of the bully.

» Stay protected—never agree to meet with a bully face to face.

» Block the bully if you are in a chat room or IMing.

Cyber-Bullying: Consequences & Crime


Piracy: Illegal Downloads

Myth — I cannot be sued for downloading music and movies off P2P sites. They’ll never catch me.

Fact — True and False. You can’t be sued if you have downloaded songs that have been put online with the approval of record

labels and—you are violating copyright laws and you run the risk


songs that have been put online with the approval of record labels and—you are violating copyright laws and you run the risk

of being sued.

The Recording Industry Association of America (RIAA) filed 3,000 lawsuits against individuals as of May 2004, and in some

cases sought financial damages of up to $150,000 per copyrighted song.

Piracy:P2P Sites

P2P sites are not illegal, but trading unauthorized music and movies is. The argument is that P2P sites are not providing the illegal files —they are only providing a way to share files


the illegal files —they are only providing a way to share files with others logged onto the site.

Downloading music and movies without paying on unsanctioned sites is illegal and can result in criminal

penalties.

There is a good possibility of downloading a virus, creating a gateway for a hacker to jack your personal stuff or gain

access to files on your hard drive.

Piracy: Consequences & Crime


Cyberterrorists/Cybercriminals

Spam» Avoid opening e-mails from businesses you don’t know» Get anti-spam (GMail)

Viruses/Spyware» Get viruses from opening attachments not e-mails


» Get viruses from opening attachments not e-mails» Can also get a “Trojan horse” by downloading software and e-mail attachments

Cyber-criminals (identity theft)» Never give out credit card info to a site that isn’t “trusted” –Google tools

» Use PayPal – doesn’t give credit card info to sellers

Pornography, Plagiarism & Propaganda

Pornographic content»Use parental controls on internet options»Moderated safe search on Google»YouTube requires a login for over 18 – has strict policy


»Moderated safe search on Google»YouTube requires a login for over 18 – has strict policy against porn

Plagiarism»Make sure you reference your sources for school reports!

Propaganda»Many sites won’t be pornographic but not suited for children.

» Hate sites, false information, lies and rumors

Personal Information

Obvious:

Name

Address

Age

Sex

Less Obvious:

School Name

School Mascot

Gaming Identities

Hobbies


Sex

Picture

Phone Number

Address

SSN Number

Bank Account

Credit Card


Hobbies

Interests

Landmarks/Hangouts

Team Names

What is Sexting?

When people take sexually revealing picture of themselves and send them as text message attachments,

it's called "sexting.“


People"sext" to show off, to entice someone, to show interest in someone, or to prove commitment. The

problem with that, is that the moment the relationship ends (and most of them do) someone is in possession of a highly compromising image that can be easily posted on a social networking site or sent around via email or text.


Sexting

Once an image is sent, it can never be retrieved -- youwilllose control of it. How would you feel if your teachers, parents, or the entire school saw the picture, because it

happens all the time.

Talk about pressures to send revealing photos. No matter


Talk about pressures to send revealing photos. No matter how big the social pressure is, the potential social

humiliation and consequences will be hundreds of times worse.

The buck stops with you. If someone sends you a photo, delete it immediately. If you do send it on, you’re

distributing pornography -- and that’s against the law.


Sexting Statistics

22% of teen girls and 20% of teen boys have sent nude or semi-nude photos of themselves

22% of teens admit that technology makes them personally more forward and aggressive


more forward and aggressive

38% say exchanging sexy content makes dating or hooking up with others more likely

29% believe those exchanging sexy content are “expected” to date or hook up

Revealing photos can be resent to a vast audience

Sending a sexual image of a minor or to a minor is illegal


Sexting:Consequences & Crime


Protecting Kids: Tools & Strategies


Tools & Strategies

Common Sense Media


ThatsNotCool.com


Safe Filtering & Blocking


Family Gameplan/ Contract


Safe Search: Google


Where Have You Been? History


Social Networking Sites


Blogs & Blogging

»Type of website

»Regular entries/updates

»Usually allows comments/interaction with visitors


»Usually allows comments/interaction with visitors

»May include text, pictures, video (vlogs), audio (podcasts) etc.

»Types:

»Personal

»Corporate

»News

»Blog Search Engines: Bloglines, BlogScope, Technorati

Blog On


Microblogging

»Blogging in short form

»Similar to texting


»Ability to send and receive messages

»Ability to follow and be followed

»Archive information

»Multiple delivery mechanisms

»Conversations and interactivity

Twitter


Microblogging: Twitter


Image Source: Caroline-Middlebrook.com

Twitter Profile


The Basics

Tweet: Message – 140 Characters

Twitter Handle: @sandrafathi

Retweet (RT): Resending a message from


Retweet (RT): Resending a message from someone else to your followers

Message: Direct message (private) from one Twitterer to another

Nudge: Prompt someone to Tweet

Hashtag: #eventname Easy search for events/topic


Facebook


Facebook: Groups & Pages


Facebook Privacy


MySpace: Individual Profiles


MySpace Safety


Closed & Open Communities


Create a Ning


You Tube


YouTube


YouTube Safety


Compete.com


Flickr: Photo & File Sharing


Flickr


Advice for Kids & Teens

Don’t say you are older than you are

The Internet is a public space

Don’t post embarrassing things or things that could expose you to danger


to danger

Think before you post – the Internet is forever

People aren’t always who they say they are

Protect your privacy

Report harassment, hate speech and inappropriate content

Avoid in-person meetings with people you don’t know in real-life

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Advice for Parents

Start a conversation

Report inappropriate behavior

Talk about Social Networking and the Internet


Talk about Social Networking and the Internet

Remind kids, and teens, to be cautious


Best Practices I

Kids Need Rules»Set time and limits for Internet usage

»Keep computer in public space


»Agree on websites

»Check compliance (history, filtering, tools)

Teach Internet Safety»Offline rules apply online

Reinforce Morality & Ethics Online

»Educate on criminal activity


Best Practices II

Use Privacy Controls»Don’t provide personal information

»Be careful about Pictures/Videos


»Be careful about Pictures/Videos

»Set sharing settings

»Respecting others’ privacy

»Don’t use automatic ‘remember’ settings

»Never share passwords

»Don’t meet strangers in person


Best Practices III

Communicate Responsibly»Don’t hide behind a screen name

»Block offenders


»Block offenders

»Report incidents

»Flag inappropriate content

Be a Skeptic»View content critically

»Be able to identify reliable sites and verify facts


Resources/Links


Internet Safety Organizations

Net Family News (http://www.netfamilynews.org/)

Safe Kids (http://www.safekids.com/)

Wired Safety (http://www.wiredsafety.org/)


Wired Safety (http://www.wiredsafety.org/)

NetSmartz (http://www.netsmartz411.org/)

Wired Kids (http://www.wiredkids.org/)

MySpace MyKids (http://www.myspacemykids.com/)

Safe Families (http://www.safefamilies.org/)

Enough is Enough (http://www.enough.org/)

Connect Safely (http://www.connectsafely.org/)

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Personal Assistant:Common Craft


Contact Information & Resources:


Sandra [email protected]: @sandrafathiLinkedIn, Facebook: Sandra Fathi

web: www.affectstrategies.comblog: www.techaffect.com

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