Intercourse and Islam

Intercourse and Islam

Eng. Khandaker Marsus

B. Sc. in Electrical & Electronic Engineering

Rajshahi University of Engineering & Technology

www.marsus.co.cc

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www.bdallinfo.com

N.B Intercourse means to legal sexual dealings between husband and wife.

(No need to keep away from non adult, as it is written in English format which may be rarely understandable by under adult)


First Edition: November 2, 2010



PREFACE It could be a common question that why I took the subject without having many important subjects. I think most of our writers are interested in writing common matters. But book about this type of matter with scientific explanation is rarely found. I saw many of our friends who have already married have many misconceptions about various matters. But that may not actually totally correct in the eye of Islam. We, most of our Muslims are fanatic to religion. Islam is both modern and scientific religion. We must have minimum duties to spread the glory of Islam. May Allah bless all and shows us the right path and remove our misconceptions.

Finally I gratefully acknowledge to the reviewers for their insightful suggestions. Hope to add more information and correction in next edition InshaAllah.

Khandaker Marsus

[email protected]

Date: November 2, 2010


My discussion is based on mainly 5 topics...

Birth control in Islam

Sunnah way of Intercourse.

Sunnah of the wedding first Night(Bed of Roses)

FAQ(Frequently Asking Questions)

All references that I have used



Birth control means family planning in normal sense. Birth control is not important for all the time. As every menstrual cycle there are both safe period and danger period days. Safe period is about 14 days, if menstrual cycle is 28 days. During safe period, no possibility to become pregnant. So birth control measures are applicable only for danger period.

Menstrual cycle: Safe period and danger period

The method of intercourse during safe period of menstrual cycle is called Rhythm method. Normally for 28 days cycle (Cycle may vary), just before and after 7days of menstrual is called safe period.

Every menstrual cycle consist of 3 phases.

1. Menstruation Phase 2. Proliferative Phase 3. Secretary Phase

First of you must understand that every month an egg is released. On rough calculation it is said that it occurs in the middle of the cycle


(about 14th days). If the periods are regular it is assumed that the egg releases on the mid day of both the periods, it may be 14th day. two days before and two days after this date are called most fertile period and all the other days are safe days as the fertilization does not takes place on these days.

Main basic, in a 28 days cycle there exists 2 safe periods

Assume that 28 days cycle.

1. Days one start bleeding, it may continue for about 3-4 days. This time intercourse is Haram.

2. About 14th days ovule is perfect for fertile. This is the most danger period


So about 7 days before and after menstrual is safe period.


Blue: Bleeding period, haram at this period

Green: Safe period (Before 7days and after 7 days of menstrual period)

Red: Danger period. Most danger at 14th days

An online menstrual Safe Period calculator is created for your greater benefit. Just visit the link: http://bdallinfo.com/page.php?114


Artificial Birth control

1. Permanent Method: All permanent methods are Haram.

2. Temporary Method: Below discussion


Permanent Method

Temporary Method

Azl

Allowed & best

Pills Allowed

Condom Allowed

All

Haram

Abortion

Haram


Permanent Method: Permanent method is defined as a method that permanently destroys the fertility of a man or woman. All permanent Methods are haram in Islam. As it change the normal human behaviors.

Temporary Method:

1. Azl (coitus interrupts): Azl is a process of withdrawing male sexual organ during intercourse, before injecting the sperm. In offensive language just out the penis from vagina before sperm inject.

Azl is the best practice. At the time of Prophet (Pbuh), he allowed the process.

2. Birth Control Pills

Birth control pills can be used

1. Mutual agreement of both husband and wife.


2. If it does not cause harm.

3. It is not being practiced on a permanent basis, but rather for a temporary period

If these three conditions are met, there is nothing wrong with taking these pills, but that should not be on a permanent basis, because that means preventing having children.

On the other sense Caesar operation is now a common phenomenon of Bangladesh. Taking large number of children, by Caesar operation patient (mother) is quite impossible. So birth control measure could be applied.

3. Condom (It may be male or female condom) A thin rubber tube that a man covers his penis during intercourse. It is permissible to use condoms so long as this does not cause any harm and so long as both husband and wife consent to their use, because this is similar to ‘azl. But it reduces the sensation of pleasure, which is the right of both partners, and reduces the chance of conception, which is also the right of both partners. Neither one of them is allowed to deprive the other of these rights.


So by mutual consent of husband and wife and if not harm to physical health, condom could be used.

4. Abortion Abortion is a process of removing (Destroying) developed baby from women’s body (womb). It is totally haram in Islam. As it is like killing the baby. In case of risk of the life of mother (death possibility) any method could be adopted.As children’s life is less valuable than mother’s life.

----Allah knows the best----


Sunnah of Intercourse

1. Sex should be done in a chaste manner and should not be inspired by shaitan. Do not follow sex like animals. Do not have oral, facial sex at all. Just have sex like normally people do.

2. Allah has prohibited sex during menses and anal sex (sodomy).

3. Prior to intercourse please read the following dua: "bismillah alahumma janibnash shaitana wa janibish shitana ma razaqtana'( In the name of Allah - O Allah save both of us from shaitan and save what you will grant(offspring) from Shaitan) InshAllah your offspring will be protected from the evil of shaitan. 4. Allah has permitted intercourse in all positions liked by partners.

5. To have a covering over the bodies during the intercourse. (*1) 6. Not to look at each other’s sexual organs. (*2)

7. Speaking a little during the intercourse. (*3)

It is better to act in accordance with those recommendations but all kinds of intercourse is permissible as long as it is through the reproductive organ.


8. If you wish to repeat intercourse then please take bath. If bath not possible then at least do wudhu as per the sunnah of the prophet.

*1- Kanzu’l-ummal, 6/415 *2- Ibn Majah, Nikah, 28 *3- Fayzu’l- Qadir, 1/327



Sunnah of the Wedding Night

1. It is a desirable Sunnah that the groom puts his hand on the brides head and pray for her. The Prophet (SAW) taught us to say:

“O Allah, I ask you her goodness, and the goodness of the inborn dispositions which you have given her, and I solicit your protection from her evil, and the evil of the inborn dispositions which you have given her.” (Related by Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).

The groom may make this supplication aloud or silently.

2. It is desirable that they pray two rakat salaah together (bride behind groom), and then make a supplication after the prayer. The Prophet (SAW) said:

“Verily, affection is from Allah and repugnance is from Satan who wants you to hate what Allah has allowed to you. So when your wife comes to you, ask her to pray two rakat behind you, and then say: Oh! Allah, bless my wife for me, and bless me for her. Oh! Allah, unite between us in good, and if You separate us, separate us in good.” (Related by Abu Shaybah)


3. The groom is encouraged to please his bride and treat her with kindness. It is a Sunnah that he presents to her something.. to drink or eat. Asma Bint Yazeed (RA) said:

“I adorned Aisha (RA) for her wedding night, so the Prophet (SAW) came to her side and brought a big cup of milk from which he drank and then presented it to her, but she blushed and lowered her head.” (Related by Ahmad)

4. It is permissible that they take off all their clothes and be completely naked, but it is better for them to be under a common sheet, for the Prophet (SAW) said:

“Verily Allah is modest and discreet and He likes modesty and discretion.” (Related by Ahmad, Al-Tirmidhi, and Abu Dawud)

5. The couple is encouraged to engage in foreplay (proper excitation) before having intercourse. The Prophet (SAW) said:

“One of you should not fall upon his wife like the animal does, let there be a messenger between them. He was asked: And what is the messenger? He said: Kissing and talking.” (Related by Al-Daylami)

This indicates that the man should seek to satisfy his wife’s desires as she satisfies his.

6. Before starting intercourse, it is a Sunnah to make the following supplication:

“In the name of Allah, O Allah, keep Satan away from us, and keep Satan away from that (the offspring) which You grant us.”Â (Related by Al-Bukhari)

7. They are free to have intercourse in any position (in the vagina) they wish, as Allah (SWT) says:


“Your wives are as a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus) when or how you willâ¦” (Al-Baqarah 2:223)

8. They are free to have intercourse anytime they wish, but moderation is advised and sexual activity should not become an obsession as it may take over other activities of life. Having intercourse on the night before Friday is desirable as the Prophet (SAW) said:

“Whoever makes ghusl on Friday to clean himself from janabah (impurity due to having intercourse), then left for prayer, it is as if he offered a camel in sacrifice.” (Related by Al-Bukhari)

9. After intercourse, it is desired that they take a bath or ghusl (ghusl is Farz after intercourse) before going to sleep. If this presents a hardship on them, they should perform ablution and can postpone ghusl until before Fajr prayer. If they want to have intercourse a second time, it is desirable that the man performs ablution first, as the Prophet (SAW) said:

“If one of you had intercourse with his wife and then wants to come to her again, it is better for him to perform ablution, for it gives him vigor to come again.” (Related by Muslim)



FAQ(Frequently Asking Questions)

1. Is oral sex (Sexual organ in mouth) between husband and wife is allowed in Islam? Or, Can a woman suck penis of her husband and in return can a man suck clitoris of his wife during sex? ANS: Yes, but to a point as foreplay (only for excitation creation) not allowing the intake of discharge. In short sperm must not inject in mouth. Only for excitement this method can be applicable. (However, this question has some negative consent also by some Muslim scholars. But here I gave the answer from the view of maximum Muslim scholar.)

So should not practice it at all.

2. Is anal sex (Sexual organ of male through Ass or buttock of

female) between husband and wife is allowed in Islam? ANS: NO


The Prophet (pbuh) said: "Allah does not have mercy on a man who carries out anal intercourse with his wife. (Ibn Majah Bayhaqi)

3. Is it allowed to sex at the time of period or menstrual period? ANS: It is totally prohibited. Haram

4. Does sucking of breasts of wife by husband is allowed in Islam?

ANS: YES

5. Can a husband drink of her wife’s milk?

ANS: Shouldn’t. As it is only the right of child.

6. Can one see her wife fully naked? ANS: YES

7. Can one touch their chest and other private parts below

stomach? Also with tongue? ANS: YES


8. Can one lick their chest and suck their Breasts/nipples? (In 1st 2 yrs and after 2 yrs of child been born)?

ANS: YES

9. Can one lip kiss? With tongue involved?

ANS: YES

10. Are wives allowed to drink/swallow or just taste husband's sperm? ANSWER: NO

11. Is it allowed to take (eat) drug before sex for increasing time

duration and stimulation (e.g. Viagra, Power plus) allowed?

Answer: Using a drug that helps sexual intercourse is permitted and there is no legal Islamic prohibition provided, if it does not contain ingredients that may harm health, or any intoxicating substances. If it increase the blood pressure suddenly like alcohol that may be cause to death, it is prohibited.

12. Is mutual masturbation (Stimulating one sexual organ by other) is allowed in Islam (only between husband and wife)?


ANS: Mutual masturbation that culminates in orgasm for both is permissible. It even bears merit for both parties as long as the partners are married.

13. Can one talk during sexual intercourse? ANS: From the Sunnah of the Prophet (SAAWS), talk during sexual intercourse is makrooh (disliked) because children born after such intercourse have some handicaps (a physical or mental injury) that interfere with the normal function of human speech.

NOTE: In most cases YES doesn't mean it is recommended to do...it just mean permissible.



Maximum questions of above is solvable by the below reference. CH: 2 V: 223 Your wives are as a tilt unto you; so approach your tilt when or how ye will. But do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah and know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter) and give (these) good tidings to those who believe.


All References ‘’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’

Most References I have taken from


1. islam-qa.com 2. islamcity.com

3. Wikipedia 4. Zawaj.com

5. And also from some other websites

Warning: On internet there exists both non Islamic site also which is running through Islamic names. It is the conspiracy of non believers. Always avoid them. Here is the list of Websites those are misleading the Muslims and non-Muslims about Islam by providing/offering FAKE Quran, hadith, Verses, Surah’s, and other maertials of islam.

Lists of Fake & Anti Islamic Sites are given below for your further research:

List of Fake sites:

1. http://www.islam-exposed.org/ 2. http://www.answering-islam.org/ 3. http://www.convertstoislam.org/ 4. http://www.thequran.com/ 5. http://www.aboutislam.com/ 6. http://www.allahassurance.com/

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References…………..


Here is the collection of fatwa that I have used to Wright the articles of above. May Allah bless, forgive, and guide us all. 1. Asalamelaykhum, Is any type of birth control allowed in islam? What would you advise a couple who is not financially capable of supporting a child until a year or two more? (Until they have a more stable source of income?) Thank you very much for any help you can provide, I can not tell you how greatly I would appreciate it. aishah Answer: Asalamu aleykum Contraception is allowed for a limited length of time and a specific purpose, with both partners' consent. It is allowed on a long term basis if pregnancy would endanger the life or health of the wife. It is not allowed solely for fear of poverty, because Allah provides each human being's income (resq.) Here's a good collection of fatawa on this subject: …………………………………………………………………. Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number: 587 Title: Permissibility of contraception Home > Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings > Transactions > Marriage > Kind Treatment of Spouses >


Question: Is contraception allowed ? Answer: Al-hamdu lillaah. Contraception is permitted under the following conditions: 1. Mutual agreement of both husband and wife. 2. It does not cause harm. 3. It is not being practiced on a permanent basis, but rather for a temporary period (such as two years until the breastfeeding of the current baby is completed, for example). Islam Q&A Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________ …………………………………………………………………………………. Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number: 7205 Title: Is it permissible to use birth control because one is afraid to have children due to the corruption of society? Home > Psychological and Social Problems > Question: Is it permissible to use birth control so that a person has a child every five years, because he sees the corruption in society and would not be able to raise a lot of children close in age in this overwhelmingly corrupt society? Answer: Praise be to Allaah. We put this question to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, may Allaah preserve him, who replied: So long as this is the intention, then it is not permissible to do this, because it reflects a lack of trust in Allaah with regard to the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be


upon him) who said “Marry the one who is loving and fertile…” But if the birth control has to do with the condition of the woman – because she cannot cope with repeated pregnancies – this may be permissible, but it is better not to do it. Question: Do you mean that it is more important to pay attention to the woman's condition than to the corrupt nature of society? Answer: Of course, because there is no certainty that one's children will be corrupt; they may be righteous people who will bring benefits to society. And Allaah knows best. Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________ ………………………………………………………………………………………… Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number:: 12529 Title: Is it permissible to engage in coitus interruptus or to use a condom? Home > Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings > Transactions > Marriage > Kind Treatment of Spouses > Home > Manners > Etiquette of Marriage > Question: On the first night after getting married, can one use contraception ( e.g condom ) or should this not be allowed. This is because it may be possible (by the will of Allah) for my future wife to get pregnant, but we may not choose to have children so early in our marriage.Please advise. Answer: Praise be to Allaah. It is permissible to engage in coitus interruptus if a person does not want a child, and it is also permissible to use a condom, but that is subject to the condition that the wife gives her permission for that, because she has the right to full enjoyment and also to have a child. The evidence for that is the hadeeth of Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: We used to engage in coitus interruptus at the time of the Messenger of Allaah


(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). News of that reached the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and he did not forbid us to do that. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 250; Muslim, 160 Although that is permitted, it is nevertheless makrooh and intensely disliked. Muslim (1442) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was asked about coitus interruptus and he said: “That is the secret burying alive of infants.” This indicates that it is strongly disliked. Al-Nawawi said: Coitus interruptus means intercourse in which, when ejaculation approaches, the man withdraws and ejaculates outside the vagina. It is makrooh in our view in all circumstances and with all women, whether the woman consents to that or not, because it is a means of preventing offspring. Hence in the hadeeth it is called “the secret burying alive of children,” because it cuts off the means of producing offspring, like killing a newborn by burying him or her alive. With regard to it being haraam, our companions said that it was not forbidden… These ahaadeeth and others, when taken in conjunction, may be understood as meaning that it is makrooh, but not strongly so, and the reports in which permission is given for that may be understood as meaning that it is not haraam; they do not mean that it is not makrooh. It is better for the Muslim not to do that, unless there is a need for it, such as if the woman is sick and cannot cope with a pregnancy or it would be too difficult for her or would cause her harm. Also, coitus interruptus cancels out one of the purposes of marriage, which is to have a lot of children, and it also means that the woman's pleasure is incomplete. See also question no. 3767 . Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________ ……………………………………………………………………………………………. Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number:: 3767 Title: Contraception in early pregnancy Home > Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings > Transactions > Marriage > Kind Treatment of Spouses > Question: Is it forbidden to use contraception for two years at the beginning of marriage by mutual consent and until both parties are certain that the marriage will continue?


Answer: Praise be to Allaah. This question was put to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, who answered as follows: “This is not forbidden, but it is better not to do this, and to be optimistic and think positively of Allaah [i.e., put one's trust in Him that the marriage will succeed].” Having a child might bring the couple together and create deeper ties between them, and bring them both great joy. And Allaah is the Source of strength. Islam Q&A Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________ …………………………………………………………………………………………. Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number:: 20597 Title: He is practicing ‘azl with his wife so that she will not get pregnant because she is still studying Home > Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings > Transactions > Marriage > Kind Treatment of Spouses > Question: Is it permissible to practise ‘azl (withdrawal or coitus interruptus) or a similar method (of contraception) if that will go on for two years or more, so that the wife can finish her studies before she gets pregnant? Or does this go against one of the most important reasons for marriage in Islam?. Answer: Praise be to Allaah. Firstly: One of the purposes of marriage in Islam is to have children and increase the numbers of the ummah. Abu Dawood (2050) narrated that Ma'qil ibn Yasaar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Marry the one who is loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers before the nations [i.e., on the Day of Resurrection].” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 1805.


Secondly: Practising ‘azl – which means ejaculating outside the vagina – is permissible, but that is subject to the condition that it be with the wife's permission, because one of her rights is full enjoyment, and another of her rights is to have children, both of which are lost as a result of ‘azl. It was narrated that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: We used to practise ‘azl at the time of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when the Qur'aan was being revealed. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4911; Muslim, 1440. Muslim added: Sufyaan said: If there had been anything wrong with it, the Qur'aan would have forbidden it. Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: With regard to ‘azl, some of the scholars regarded it as haraam, but the view of the four imams is that it is permissible with the wife's permission. And Allaah knows best. Majmoo' al-Fataawa, 32/110 See also Question no. 11885. Thirdly: It is permissible for the spouses to agree on family planning so long as that is temporary and not a permanent thing – subject to the condition that the means used does not cause any harm to the woman. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: With regard to using temporary means of preventing pregnancy, such as when a woman gets pregnant easily and pregnancy is exhausting for her, and she wants to space her pregnancies so they will be two years apart and so on, this is permissible so long as her husband gives his permission and so long as that will not cause her any harm. Risaalat al-Dimaa' al-Tabee'iyyah li'l-Nisa' And Allaah knows best. Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________ ……………………………………………………………………………………… Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number:: 10143 Title: Ruling on tying the tubes unnecessarily Home > Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings > Transactions > Marriage > Rights of spouses >


Question: I am a 36 year old woman with 6 kids and i am now with my 7th child and would like to know if it is permissible in Islam to tie my tubes when this baby is born? i don't want to cut and burn them i want to place a band around the tubes to avoid the egg from dropping all the way down. i know i cannot stop the will of Allah i just want to try to loose weight i weigh more that 250 lbs. everytime i try to loose weight i end up pregnant. Answer: Praise be to Allaah. It is not permissible to prevent pregnancy except in cases of necessity where competent doctors have stated that giving birth will cause the mother to become exhausted or ill, or will make her sickness worse, or there is the fear that pregnancy or childbirth will most likely cause the mother to die. In that case it is essential to have the husband's agreement and consent to prevent or end pregnancy. When this reason is no longer a factor, then the woman should go back to not using contraception. Fataawa al-Mar'ah al-Muslimah, 2/977 Because losing weight does not reach the degree of necessity mentioned above, it does not come under the same ruling, especially since this operation to tie the tubes requires the female doctor to uncover and touch the ‘awrah. It is even worse if the doctor is male, so this is another reason not to allow it. But you have to follow the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with regard to food. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach. It is sufficient for the son of Adam to eat a few morsels to keep him alive. But if he must (fill it), then one-third for his food, one-third for his drink and one-third for air.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, al-Zuhd, 2303; classed as saheeh in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, no. 1939) You should also follow the permissible means (of preventing pregnancy), such as withdrawal during intercourse (‘azl). The correct scholarly view is that there is nothing wrong with ‘azl even if there is no reason for it, because of the hadeeth of Jaabir: “We used to practise ‘azl at the time when the Qur'aan was being revealed.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Nikaah, 4808). And Allaah knows best. Fataawa al-Mar'ah al-Muslimah, 2/658 Perhaps what Allaah has decreed for you of children will be better for you than you think, and they will be a blessing that is stored up for you, especially in old age. Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________ ©Copyright Islam Q&A 1997-2000 You are granted the right to use and display all the information on this site without any consent from the site maintainer(s). You may copy, distribute, print, link to any document, or translate to any language, as long as the information is quoted in its entirety, the source is mentioned, and without changing the contents.


………………………………………………………………………………………… Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number:: 21169 Title: Using the birth control pill and the coil Home > Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings > Customs and traditions > Medicine and medical treatments > Question: What is the shar'i ruling on using the coil (IUD – intrauterine device) as a means of preventing pregnancy, knowing that this means does not prevent fertilization of the egg, but it prevents the embryo from attaching itself to the wall of the uterus? May Allaah reward you with good. Answer: Praise be to Allaah. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: What the Muslims should do is to have as many children as they can, because this is the command issued by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he said, “Marry the one who is loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers.” Because increasing the number of children increases the size of the ummah, and being of great numbers is a source of pride, as Allaah said, reminding the Children of Israel of that (interpretation of the meaning): “And We helped you with wealth and children and made you more numerous in man power” [al-Israa' 17:6] And Shu'ayb said to his people: “ ‘And remember when you were but few, and He multiplied you'” [al-A'raaf 7:86 – interpretation of the meaning] No one would deny that if the ummah is great in number this will lend it pride and strength. This is contrary to what is imagined by those who think evil thoughts, that the large numbers of the ummah is the cause of its poverty and hunger. If the ummah increases in number and relies on Allaah, and believes in His promise, in the aayah “And no moving (living) creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allaah” [Hood 11:6 – interpretation of the meaning], then Allaah will make things easy for them and will grant them sufficient means from His Bounty. On this basis, the answer to the question is as follows: A woman should not use birth control pills unless the following two conditions are met: (1) She should have a reason for that such as being sick and unable to bear a pregnancy every


year, or being physically weak, or having other reasons why getting pregnant every year would be harmful for her. (2) Her husband should give his permission, because the husband has the right to have children. This must also be done in consultation with a doctor, to find out whether taking these pills will be harmful to her or not. If these two conditions are met, then it is OK for her to use these pills, but that should not be on a permanent basis, i.e., she should not use the type of birth control pills that prevent pregnancy permanently, because this is preventing progeny. (Fataawa al-Mar'ah al-Muslimah, 2/657, 658) Concerning the harms caused by contraception, the Shaykh (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Birth control pills: I have heard from a number of sources that doctors say they are harmful. Even if we do not know this from the doctors, we know it from ourselves, because preventing something natural that Allaah has created and decreed for the daughters of Adam is undoubtedly harmful. Allaah is Wise, and He has only created this blood which flows at certain times for a reason. If we prevent it with these medicines, that is harmful without a doubt. But I have heard that the matter is worse than we imagine, that they may be a means of damaging the womb, and a means of causing nervous disorders. This is something we must beware of. (Liqaa' al-Baab al-Maftooh, question no. 1147) Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: What is the ruling on removing the uterus in order to avoid having children for medical reasons which are either present, or may occur in the future and have been predicted by medical and scientific means? He answered: if that is necessary, then it is OK, otherwise it should not be done, because the Lawgiver urges us to have children and promotes that in order to increase the size of the ummah. But if there is a necessary reason then it is OK, just as it is permissible to use means of contraception for a limited time for a legitimate shar'i reason. (9/434) What is said concerning the birth control pill may also be said concerning the coil. It has been definitely proven by the doctors that this contraceptive method causes harm, especially when it is used continually. It is known that the woman who has a coil inserted has an increased flow of menstrual blood, and her period may come twice a month, which causes an iron deficiency in her body. Iron is one of the important minerals which the body needs. Some women may become anaemic when they use the coil and it makes their periods longer, resulting in the woman losing a large amount of blood and thus a large amount of the iron stored in the body. It has also been proven that many women suffer infections of the uterus as a result of using the coil. Despite all this, a woman may become pregnant with the coil in place, as has happened to a number of women. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound. And Allaah knows best. Islam Q&A Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________


………………………………………………………………………………………….. Islam Questions & Answers www.islam-qa.com Question Reference Number:: 5196 Title: Using birth control pills at first in case the marriage fails Home > Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings > Transactions > Marriage > Kind Treatment of Spouses > Question: Is it permissable for a woman to go on the pill (female contraception) prior to her marriage, so as to avoid pregnancy in case the marriage does not work out (ie. she becomes pregnant and then they divorce and she is left with the child)? Should she inform her spouse on the wedding night or prior to the nikkah that she is on the pill? In light of the above, is it permissible to use contraceptives to avoid pregnancy in the event that the marriage might not work out (ie for the first year of the marriage)? Answer: Praise be to Allaah. If it is medically proven that birth control pills are harmful to women, then it is not permissible to use them either before marriage or afterwards, on the basis of the rule that no harm should be done. This rule is based on the aayaat (interpretation of the meanings): “And do not kill yourselves” [al-Nisa' 4:29] “and do not throw yourselves into destruction” [al-Baqarah 2:195] Unless it is possible to produce pills that are free of harmful side effects, they should not be taken. As for using any non-harmful means of contraception at the beginning of marriage, fearing that the marriage may not work out, there are a number of reservations about this, such as: 1. it may be a kind of pessimism, because you are expecting it to fail. 2. It may lead to an unhappy marital life and both spouses expecting bad of one another, because it is known that one of the most important purposes of marriage is to have children, and if this is delayed for a specific reason the relationship may cool off. If the husband finds out that this is what his wife is doing, it will spoil the relationship between them. 3. Pregnancy is one of the most important functions of women, which generates feelings of love and compassion towards her husband and children. If pregnancy is prevented the opposite feelings develop.


4. The fuqahaa' (may Allaah have mercy on them) stipulated the condition for ‘azl (coitus interruptus) or other forms of contraception used by the woman, that it should only be done with the permission of the other spouse, because both of them have the right to have children. So it is not permissible for the wife to take birth control pills without her husband's permission and consent. 5. The fear that the marriage may fail and the fact that there is a high divorce rate cannot be dealt with in this manner. The way to deal with it is to make the right choice of spouse and make sure that this is the right choice. The prospective husband should be allowed to see the prospective wife, because this is one of the ways of fostering love after marriage. Other means should also be used. We ask Allaah to guide us all. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad. Islam Q&A Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com) ________________________________________ ……………………………………………………………………………………….. Question is it permitted to kiss or lick the vagina of wife. Yes. Sexuality and Faith: For A Better Fulfillment Your love lifts my soul from the body to the sky And you lift me up out of the two worlds. I want your sun to reach my raindrops, So your heat can raise my soul upward like a cloud. Rumi Images of love making and sounds of heat-filled exchanges are splashed on screens more than from pages of Scriptures. Yet, sex is not the franchise of wicked pimps and the merchandise of insane harlots, running amok on Bollywood dance floors and spewing haram semen on lounge bars. The story of a naked Adam in company with a nude Eve is as much primordial as it is sacred reading of all our divine Books. Notwithstanding, married people are torn between these two oddities, it seems like, without much reference from Islamic sources, as to what should be the stand when sex and faith are jamming. Does sexual


pleasure betray of a weakening Faith and/or should a strong faith exclude sexuality? The sharing of passions, sexually, is the result of a connection between hearts and the sexual organs. It’s a natural thing. One should not be ashamed of it, and neither perplexed. Without sexual passions shared and moreover, shared in a responsible, deep-seated and satisfying way, one cannot hope to enjoy the greatest gift of life- cohabitation. Faith ensures that this element of intimacy is alive and kept sustained between the two consenting parties, in this case married and of humans of opposite sexes. The dynamics of sexuality isn’t to be reduced to mere meetings; simply the unions for procreation or fulfillment of marital duties. Just as food needs spices besides taste so does nocturnal relationships. Just as clothing needs style plus colors so too does conjugal relations. Just as Faith needs fanning of its dying embers so too does Love needs refueling of it’s depleting energy i.e. the rejuvenation of sexual encounters between rightful parties have to receive ominously from the quarters of love, passion, conversation, surprise, travels, retreats, erotica, entertainment, company, laughter, humor, lingerie, spontaneity, text messages, prayers, et al. Let the Quran speak! 2:223 “Your wives are as a garden unto you; so approach your farms when or how you will…” Foreplay is the gardener’s main job here. He digs up the soil, fertilizes it, waters the seeds and constantly overlooks the earth so flowers may spring. Imagine people are still stuck on whether to caress is fine; to kiss; to mutually enjoy sex orally; to practice fetish; to simply ruminate wild imaginations on the flesh of wet dreams or to touch one’s own genitalia for personal pleasures. These are acts that the verse above, without categorization or prohibition, calls hars- preparing your garden. Aisha, May Allah be pleased with her, reports that her husband, never mind being understandably older and religious, did not leave her sexual life high and dry. He, on whom be peace, ensured the carefulness towards a virgin, the spontaneity of a lover and the romance of a poet when he referred to her as a crystal! So they recited poetry together, ran races in laughter, bathed in the same bath tub out of sexual adventure and guarded each others secrets like true friendship demands. The Books of Fiqh from olden times discussed in detail sexual acts without a blush! I once attended a Scared Sex workshop on World Religions and was impressed when the presenter finally came to Islam, he said: lastly, Islam, this religion has the best view- it’s an act of worship! Sex itself is an act of Ibada, for procreation or not. Abdullah ibn Abbas, ra, used to perfume his tent in preparation of his mate’s nightly encounter and considered this the greatest virtue- to please her! The Companions enjoyed multiple wives without the morning nagging. The Quran reminds us, according to Al Gazalli, that when a man is in erection or a woman experiences orgasm, and by the way this is the most lacking Sunna among Muslim women today, the minds loses control. Q. 2:286 Our Lord! Lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. According to the Da Vinci Code the Divine vision takes over in that


brief moment of faintness. Therefore, ensure you do the best for each other sexually as such ecstasy breeds mysticism and definitely a security of marriage. So let not Faith stand in the way of your sexuality, except, where precept clearly erects; like intercourse during menses as it’s painful or anal activity because it’s unhealthy or without matrimony as it produces illegitimate offspring and a tirade of jealousy. Q: 2:187 “Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and you are their garments. Allah knows what you used to do secretly among yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now have intercourse with them, and seek what Allah has ordained for you…” Rather allow the sweet sensation to tingle longer on the soft emotions of love and ride deeper into the abyss of your inner happiness, while lying bare on the rocks of Eden. Oh Allah I ask you of the good of it and seek your refuge from the evil of it. ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. The well-known Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, states: “During the life-time of the Prophet’s Companions (may Allah be pleased with them all) it happened that one of the Companions was making love with his wife, and in the course of love-making he (the Companion) sucked her breasts to the extent that some of the milk reached his stomach. Following that, the Companion went to Abu Musa Al-Ashàri (may Allah be pleased with him) and asked him about the ruling. Replying the man, Abu-Musa Al-Ashàri said that the man’s wife had become forbidden for him. (i.e., like his mother) After that, the man went to ask Àbdullah Ibn Masùd (may Allah be pleased with him) about the same ruling and Ibn Masùd stated that there was nothing wrong with what happened. Ibn Masùd backed his argument by citing the Prophetic hadith, which clearly states that suckling is confined only to the two earlier years of a child. Ibn Masùd cited this Qur’anic verse: 'Mothers shall suckle their children for two whole years; (that is) for those who wish to complete the suckling…' (Al-Baqarah: 233) The apparent meaning of the aforementioned verse is that the suckling, which may act as a cause of prohibition, is confined to the suckling during the first two years. After the elapse of


the first two years, suckling is no longer a cause of prohibition. Hearing the above argument, Abu-Musa Al-Ash`ari (may Allah be pleased with him) said: 'Do not ask me while this erudite scholar is there to guide you. In conclusion, sucking the wife's breast, as far as Islam is concerned, does not render her unlawful for the husband."

Is Viagra Halal or Haram?

(Editor's note: For those of you who may not know, Sildenafil Citrate, marketed under the name Viagra, is a prescription drug developed by Pfizer which treats erectile dysfunction, or male impotence).

Shaikh Shaykh Abdul Aziz ibn Baz (may Allah have mercy on hime) was asked in Riyadh on June 26, 1998, whether the drug Viagra is permissible to use.

The Shaikh said, "Using a drug that helps sexual intrecourse is permitted and there is no legal Islamic prohibition provided it does not contain ingredients that may harm health, or any intoxicating substances." (quoted from Okaz newspaper).

Note: If you're a man who uses nitrate drugs, like nitroglycerine, (drugs commonly used for the treatment of chest pains) never take Viagra with any nitrate medicine, as your blood pressure could suddenly drop to an unsafe or life threatening level. Viagra must never be used by men taking nitrates of any kind, any time.

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Can a husband make use of every part of his wife during sexual intercourse? Question

I have received a message from a friend that is it: 'is it true that, a husband is allowed to use any part of his wife's body opening during intercourse?' can u please answer this question? thanks..

Member Name: fbsamet | Date: 04-April-2009, Time: 17:33:22

Answer

Dear Brother/Sister;

A rule like "Every part of a spouse is mubah (permissible) for the other spouse, it is not haram (forbidden) is not right; According to Ahl Sunnah, anal intercourse is not permissible. The mouth was not created for sexual intercourse but for other things; oral sex is contrary to the creation and the nature of man; people with uncorrupted nature hate it. Islam is a religion that covers the whole life of man and evaluates every issue. Therefore, Islam did not ignore sexuality that has an important place in the life of man and sex education. It was arranged within certain criteria and within the limits of halal (licit), being enough for pleasure. Sahaba (the Companions of the Prophet) and their wives, who asked the Prophet about all of their problems, asked him about the issues regarding sexuality in person and learned from him. As a matter of fact, one of the Companions wanted to have intercourse through her wife’s reproductive organ but he wanted to approach her from the back; his wife objected to it by putting forward the Judaist understanding that the child to be born out of such intercourse would be cross-eyed. When our Prophet was informed about the issue, the verse stating, “husbands could approach wives as they wished so long as the intercourse was through the reproductive organ.”(1) Our prophet explained that verse and stated that “intercourse could be carried out from behind, top, bottom, side and as the spouses wished as long as it was through reproductive organ.” (2) Islam prohibits a man to have sexual intercourse with his wife for the following cases: 1- Intercourse when the woman is in menstruation period and afterbirth period. 2- Anal intercourse. It is a great sin for a man to have anal intercourse with his wife. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "Allah does not have mercy on a man who carries out anal intercourse with his wife. (Ibn


Majah Bayhaqi) We understand that our religion allows sexual intercourse except those mentioned above and does not regard it haram as long as it is done through the reproductive organ. We can say that what the spouses do to prepare themselves for the sexual intercourse like licking, caressing, kissing touching various places with hands or lips are not regarded as haram. However, the fact that there is not a definite ban does not mean there are no recommendations: The following are the issues that are advised to be paid attention during sexual intercourse: 1- To have a covering over the bodies during the intercourse. (3) 2- Not to look at each other’s sexual organs. (4) 3- Speaking a little during the intercourse. (5) It is better to act in accordance with those recommendations but all kinds of intercourse is permissible as long as it is through the reproductive organ. References: 1- Chapter al-Baqara, 223 2- See Elmalılı Hamdi Yazır and Ibni Kathir tafsirs: the interpretation of the verse 223 of al-Baqara. 3- Kanzu’l-ummal, 6/415 4- Ibn Majah, Nikah, 28 5- Fayzu’l- Qadir, 1/327

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