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Communication Workshop
Semira RahemtullaApril 18, 2016
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Why are we doing this?
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One Big Idea
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INTENTNeeds
MotivesStories
Reality #2
IMPACTAssumptions
FeelingsResponses
Reality #3
3 Realities (The “Net” Model)
The Net
BEHAVIORVerbal
Non-Verbal
Reality #1Shared
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Feelings & Emotions – Why??Feelings & Emotions – Why??
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Self-Disclosure
Will I be less liked,
respected, influential
(leader-like)?
Is it relevant? Will it further the discussion – the
relationship?
Will others use this
information against me?
How will others
see/assess/ judge me?
“What in my ‘bubble’
should I share?”
Self-Disclosure
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“ VULNERABILITY ISTHE BIRTHPLACEOF CONNECTION. ”BRENÉ BROWN
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Authentic Leaders
“The single factor distinguishing top quartile managers from bottom quartile managers was strength of affection.”--“Encouraging the Heart: A Leader’s Guide to Recognizing and Rewarding Others”, Kouzes & Posner
Authentic Leaders
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Feedback & Influence
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#1 Factor for Happiness on the Job: Feeling appreciated
-- 2014 BCG/The Network survey of 200K employees
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityBuilding a culture of appreciation
1. Create a space for it2. Lead by example
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Photo: Robbie Grubbs
Can I give you some feedback?
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Social situations ≈ Physical threats
Threat Response
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So… how do we communicate feedback while minimizing defensiveness?
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INTENTNeeds
MotivesStories
Reality #2
IMPACTAssumptions
FeelingsResponses
Reality #3
3 Realities (The “Net” Model)
The Net
BEHAVIORVerbal
Non-Verbal
Reality #1Shared
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityHow to Give Effective Feedback
• Focus on specific, observable behaviorWhen you do [x]…
• Describe the impact of that behavior on youI feel [y]…
• Ask about the other person’s motives or intentions
Can you tell me what’s going on for you?
Stay on your side of the net!
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityLet’s try some examples…
1. Steve, you clearly don’t care about this presentation.
2. Steve, I noticed that you are looking at your phone. You are clearly bored with this presentation.
3. Steve, I noticed that you are looking at your phone. I am feeling anxious about what message that might send to others in the room.
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityLet’s try another example…
1. You’re not very approachable.
2. When I asked you for time off last week, you didn’t respond very well. You’re not very approachable.
3. When I asked you for time off last week and you said “oh man, the team really needs you right now,” I felt guilty for asking, even though that time off is important to me. And I’ve noticed I’m more hesitant now to approach you with questions or requests.
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityHow to Give Effective Feedback
When you do [x]…
I feel [y == emotion] that / like
And my story is [z].
Can you tell me what’s going on for you?
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityThe Setup
1. Check in – “Is now a good time?”
2. Soft Start– Do not use praise to buffer criticism (“The Sandwich”)– Do emphasize mutual goals & positive intent:
“My intention is…… / This matters to me because…”
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityReceiving Feedback
• Look for “Grains of Truth”– Goal is understanding, not winning
• Help the other person feel heard– Ask clarifying questions
• Acknowledge your feelings– Manage your own defensiveness: “Affect Labeling”– Disclose your reactions
• Gift mentality: Say “Thank you!”
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityEnd with Agreements
• Make requests– What are we going to try / do differently going forward?
• Be specific• Discuss the error case
– What can we do if someone doesn’t do their part of the agreement?
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityLast Reminder
Stay on your side of the net:
When you do [x]…
I feel [y]…
And my story is [z].
Can you tell me what’s going on for you?
Use the Vocabulary of Emotions.
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilitySuggested Topics For Feedback
Work Product– Timeliness, quality, quantity, focus
area
Communication & Management– Too much/little– Choice of format– Email etiquette
– Language choices, communication style with others
– Transparency of project status, hiring/firing/promotions
Role Modeling & Presence– What energy do you feel from
this person?
– How do they impact others?
– What do they model well?
– Anything you worry about?
– Arrival/departure times
– How they speak/listen/act/dress
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Thanks, good-bye, and stay on your side of the net