Independent Living

Day #22 :)

Journal entry

• 1. When you think of engagements and proposals, what’s your “ideal proposal” look like?

• 2. What are 3 characteristics you believe that lead to the engagement period?

Discussion• Purposes of engagement 29.1

• Learn about each other• Identify differences

• Develop Teamwork• Trust, Communication, Compromise

• Establish new relationships• When children are involved

• Seek advice• Premarital counseling

• What are your initial thoughts when you hear counseling?

Discussion

• Broken engagements• How do they happen?• Why do they happen?

Discussion• Make Wedding Plans 29.2

• Contracts and customs• Marriage laws• Prenuptial agreements

• Protecting property• Establishing ownership• Defining roles

• Would you want this?

• What kind of customs would you like in your wedding?

Discussion

• Honeymoons • Importance

• Managing expenses• Thinking of others

Marriage Qualities

• Everyone will take two sticky notes and write down a quality or a characteristic that makes a marriage or long term commitment strong?

• Why do you believe this qualities/characteristics are important?

Discussion

Qualities of a strong marriage 30.1

• What makes a marriage strong?• 1. Commitment (thinking back to triangular

love theory)• Desire to make a marriage work

• 2. Realistic Expectations• 3. Acceptance

• Respect differences

• 4. Flexibility• 5. Thoughtfulness

Discussion

• U-Shaped Satisfaction Curve• Starts at a high level, drops as time goes on,

then rises again.

Discussion

• Skills and Resources for Marriage 30.2

• 1. Resolve conflicts

• 2. Communicate

• 3. Share Intimacy• Need for intimacy• Spend time together

• 4. Make decisions together• Common values

• 5. Manage family finances

Discussion

• Other resources• Family and friends• Marriage enrichment• Marriage counseling