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Impact on Family Systems Bob Campbell, Psy.D., M.Div. MKSN Conference April 20, 2013
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Impact on Family Systems. Bob Campbell, Psy.D., M.Div. MKSN Conference April 20, 2013. Family Differences. “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” - Tolstoy . Interconnections. Interconnections. Interconnections. Trauma. Triangles. Triangles. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Impact on Family Systems
Bob Campbell, Psy.D., M.Div.MKSN Conference
April 20, 2013
Family Differences
“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
- Tolstoy
Interconnections
Interconnections
Interconnections
Trauma
Triangles
Triangles
Triangles
Homeostasis• Every system works to maintain itself• Change increases stress
Triangles
The Effect of Childhood Trauma• Stress and stress response• Every situation is different• Diathesis/stress model
• Connections may be broken• Sense of being understood is lost• Feeling intensely vulnerable
Self-Protection
System Out of Whack
Guilt• “I did something wrong”
Shame• Guilt says “I did something wrong.”• Shame says “I am something wrong.”• Embarrassment• Silence• Stuckness
Blame• Blaming the perpetrator• Blaming the church• Blaming the structure• Blaming God• Blaming the family• Essence of blame – a struggle
to understand and interpret
This is even more complex …
Rigidity
Rigidity• Secrecy, decorum, rules, and shame• Related to faith stance• Black and white thinking• Oughts, shoulds, and can’ts
Boundaries• Open and closed systems• Family rules
Depression
Isolation
Anxiety
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder• Flashbacks• Re-experiencing• Avoidance• Distress• Hypervigilance• Irritability• Comorbid mood disorders
Even more complexity
Brokenness from Outside
External Trauma
Brokenness from Inside• Most important relationships• Trusted • Empowered• Authorities• Connected with Faith
• Loss of connection, attachment • Abandonment• Betrayal• Development of shame from lack of attachment
Internal Brokenness
Internal Brokenness
Ripple Effects
Repetitive Traumatization
• Learned hopelessness• Impact on developmental schema• Loss of meaning• Withdrawal from social support
TRAUMA
Healing the Family System
Seeking Assistance
Keeping Healthy Boundaries
Opening Lines of Communication
The F-word• Alternatives• Letting go• Softening• Learning assertiveness• Learning self-care• Defusing• Working toward, rather than against• Finding purpose
Increasing Flexibility
Resilience
Dr. Bob [email protected]
