Impact of Low Self-Esteem

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Impact of Low Self-Esteem

C6436 Individual Counseling Theoryand Practice

Presented by:James J. Messina, Ph.D


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What is Low Self-Esteem?InsecurityClosed to OthersPoor Decision Maker AnxiousFear of IntimacyNot able to have fun

Black and White Thinker Poor Anger ControlHigh Need for ApprovalLots of GuiltLots of Depression


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What is Healthy Self-Esteem?

Sense of ProductivitySense of AutonomySense of UniquenessAltruisticLeadership AbilitySense of Competence

Self-ConfidenceHealthy Self-ConceptIndependent Thinker Self-Accepting & LovingGood Decision Maker


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What Contributes to Low Self-

EsteemDysfunctionalEnvironments

Bad relationshipsCodependentHas DisabilityNon -supportiveschool, workAbusedConditionalacceptance and love


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What causes Dysfunction?

Things moreimportant than people

Mental illnessMajor LossesAbuseRigid feelingsIce BoxesAddictionDisability

Big Pay Off


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Looking -Good

HeroHigh Achiever

Over-responsibleDrivenApproval Seeker

Looks together Goal: Denial of Problems


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Acting OutScapegoatIrresponsibleTrouble-Maker

RebelliousPoor - Under Achiever Anti-authoritySelf-destructiveCausticGoal: Divert focus


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Pulling InInvisibleLoner Bookish

Quiet - RecluseHard to knowAloof

Avoid problemsProtect self -overweightGoal: withdraws to

survive


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ENTERTAINERClownMascotComic Relief

ImmatureHyperactiveNot taken seriouslyDistracter Attention gettingTalks a lotGoal: Divert attention


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Troubled PersonIrresponsibleAddictUnstable

Blame othersOut of controlBroken

Con artistDenial of problemsProblem for othersGoal: Self-serving


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EnablingProtect & Save othersOver-responsibleCo-dependentNagger Covers upControlling

DemandingGoal: get troubledpeople to change


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RescuingHelper MotivatedVictimizedStuckIrrational LoyaltyBurdened-down

Self-NegatedUnassertiveGoal: reduce tension,hurt & pain


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People Pleasing

Easily likedPlacator Always smilingOutgoingFriendlyCourteous

GenerousFits inWorks hard to pleaseGoal: get approval


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Non-FeelingStoicNothing bothersIntense thinker

Low-KeySteady even-temperedNo strong feelingsBlack & WhiteGoal: deny feelings tosurvive


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Impact of Low Self-Esteem

T h i n k i n g d i s t o r t e d

b yi r r a t io n a l b e l ie f s &o l d b e h a v i o r a l s c r ip t s

F e e l i n g s d i s t o r t e d

d e n ie d , r e p r e s s e d ,e x a g g e r a te d o r e x p l o s i v e fe e l in g s

B e h a v i o r s d i s t o r e d

u n h e a l th y , i r re s p o n s i b le ,c o m p u l s i v e , u n p r o d u c t iv e ,s e l f - d e s t r u c t i v e

U n r e s o l v e d L o s s I s s u e s U n r e s o l v e d A n g e r I s s u e s

S e l f - D e s t r u c t i v e B e h a v i o r s P e r s o n a l A d j u s t m e n t P r o b l e m s

C o n t r o l I s s u e s F a u l t y C o m m u n i c a t i o n s

I n t e r p e r s o n a l R e l a t io n s h i p P r o b l e m s

C o m p u l s i v e P e r s o n a l i t y T r a i t sL o o k in g G o o d , A c t in g O u t , P u l lin g I n ,

E n t e r ta i n i n g , E n a b l e r , T r o u b l e d P e r s o n ,P e o p le P l e a s e r , R e s c u e r , N o n f e e l in g

L O W S E L F E S T E E M

S o u r c e s o f L o w S e l f - E s t e e md y s f u n c t io n a l e n v i r o n m e n t s , d i s a s t e r o u s r e la t io n s h i p s , c o d e p e n d e n c y ,p h y s i c a l a b u s e , e m o t io n a l & v e r b a l a b u s e , s e x u a l a b u s e , a d d i c t i o n s ,d i s a b i l i t y , p e r s o n a l f a il u r e s , c h r o n ic i l ln e s s , n e g l e c t , p u t d o w n s


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Healthy Adult Self-Esteem

S e l f N u r t u r in gu n c o n d i tio n a l s e lf lo v e & a c c e p t a n c e

a c c e p t s e lf a s u n i q u eo p e n & h o n e s t in p e r s o n a l fe e l in g s

N u r t u r in g E n v i r o n m e n tr e c o g n i t i o n & a c c e p t a n c e

d e f in e d & e n fo r c e d l i m i t sr e s p e c t & f r e e d o m t o b e s e l f

N u r t u r in g R e l a t io n s h i pu n c o n d i tio n a l l o v e & a c c e p t a n c e

g o o d c o m m u n i c a t io n sw a r m t h , c a r in g & lo v e o f o t h e r s

S e l f - w o r t h S e l f - D e s e r v e d n e s s

P r o d u c t i v e P e r s o n a l i t y P e r s o n a l l y R e s p o n s i b l eC r e a t i v e P r o b l e m S o l v e r A l t r u i s m

L e a d e r s h i p H e a l t h y C o p i n g S k i l l s

H e a l t h y S e l f - c o n c e p t O p t i m i s m

H e a l t h y S e l f - E s t e e m

N e c e s s a r y C o n d i t io n s f o r G r o w t h


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Self-Esteem Recovery Model

R a t i o n a l T h i n k i n gl e a r n w h a t is r e a l i t y & n o r m a l ,

d i s p e l i r r a t i o n a l , c r e a t e a f f i r m a t i o n s

H e a l e d R a t i o n a l F e e l i n g sl e a r n h o n e s t a n d o p e n i d e n t if y &

e x p r e s s f e e l in g s

H e a l t h y R a t i o n a l B e h a v i o r sa c t o n r a t io n a l th o u g h t s a n d f e e l in g s ,a c c e p t r e s p o n s i b i li t y - L e t G o t o G o d

L e t g o o f L o s s I s s u e s R e s o l v e A n g e r I s s u e s

E l i m i n a t e S e l f - D e s t r u c t i v e B e h a v i o r sI m p r o v e d p e r s o n a l f u n c t i o n i n g

S e l f - c o n t r o l - l e t t i n g g o o f o th e r s I m p r o v e d C o m m u n i c a t i o n s

I m p r o v e i n t e r p e r s o n a l r e l a t i o n s h i p s

I m p r o v e d S e l f - E s t e e m

C h a n g e d O l d P e r s o n a l i t y T r a i t sr e w r it e o l d s c r ip t s , r e d e f in e s e l f

S o u r c e s o f R e c o v e r yI n d iv i d u a l , c o u p l e , fa m i l y , g r o u p c o u n s e l i n g , T r e a t m e n t

P e e r s u p p o r t , 1 2 S t e p P r o g r a m s , B u d d i e s a t S E A ,A A , N A , G A , O A , A l a n o n , A C O A , C o D A

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