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HOW TO USE THIS TOOLBOX, WITH YOUR GUIDES JOHN HARRIES AND SIOBHAN MAGGEE
• Thistoolboxconsistsofaseriesofcards.
• Oneachcardthereisatask,whichinvitesyoutoexploretheeverydaylifeoftheplaceinwhichyoufindyourself.
• Pickacardatrandomanddothetask.Ifthetaskdoesnotseemdoableintheplacewhereyoufindyourself,pickanothercard.
• Afteryoudothetask,composeashortreflectiononthisexperiencethatyoucansharewithothers.Readmoreaboutsharingyourreflectionsbelow.
• Youcanrepeatthesametaskseveraltimes,ordrawanothercardanddoanothertask.
• THAT’SIT.ITCOULDN’TBESIMPLER!(….butmaybeitisnotthatsimple…?)
BEING THERE
Someofthepeoplewhohavebeeninvolvedinputtingthisboxtogethercallthemselvesanthropologists.Anthropologistsareinterestedinhowpeoplelivetheirlives,howtheygetonwitheachother,andhowtheyorganisetheiractivitiesintopatternsofassociation,whichwesometimescallsociety.Theyarealsointerestedinhowpeoplethinkandfeelabouttheirlivesandabouttheworldaroundthem.Wesometimescallthesepractices,thoughts,feelings,andideasculture.
Anthropologistsmostlyagreethatthebestwaytocometoknowthelivesofotherpeopleisbysharingintheirlives.Youdon’tknowpeople(orforthatmattertigersorsparrows)bystaringatthemthroughthewindowoftourbus,asonewouldgawkatabigcatinazooorabirdincage.Youdon’tknowthemmuch(thoughyoudoalittle)byorderingfoodattouristrestaurantorbrowsingracksofpostcardsinasouvenirshop.
Youonlytrulycometoknowthelivesofothersby“beingthere”andbybeingtherewedon’tsimplymeanbeingphysicallythere,inPrague,KathmanduorTwillingate(lookitup,it’saniceplace).Wemeanbeingthereasakindofintimatedwellingthroughwhichyoucometofeelandknowsomethingoflifeasitislivedbeyondthelifetowhichyouarefamiliar.Thisinvolvesbeingwith:beingwithstrangersandsharingabitoftheirlives.
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Aslongaswearrivewiththeintentionofleaving,wecannot“gonative”.Whatsetslocalpeopleapartmorethananycustom,habitofdressorthought,istheirrelationshipwiththatlocality.Thisiswheretheymaketheirlife.We,incontrast,arepassingthrough.Wemaybelingeringforlongerthananormaltourist.Butwearevisitors.Muchofourlifelieselsewhere.Weknowit.Localpeopleknowittoo.Soevenasyoufamiliariseyourselfandbecomefamiliartoothers,youwillalwaysbeastrangerofsorts.Beingtheredoesmean,however,lettinggoofsomebitofthelifeweknew“backthere”intheplaceweleftbehind,andallowingourselvestobetakenbythecurrentsoflifeintheplacewefindourselves.
Thesecurrentsconsistofthosemyriadandmodesttransactionscalled“everydaylife”.Asvisitors,wemayfindourselvesdrawntothepeculiaranddramatic,toornatebuildingsandcolourfulfestivals,thelikesofwhicharelistedinguidebookswrittenforthosewhostayinaplaceaweekortwo.Theseplacesarewellworthseeing.Butinbeingthereandbecomingfamiliarwithalifethatisnotourown,weshouldparticularlyattendtotheordinary,tothatoftenpasseswithoutnotice,butinwhichsomuchofhowweinhabitandknowtheworldisrevealed.
EXPLORING EVERYDAY LIFE
Considerthesecardsasinvitationstoundertakeavoyageofdiscoveryinthecompanyoflocalpeople.ItisonethingtoleanonabarandwatchtheMontrealCanadiansandBostonBruinsplayicehockeyonthetelevision.Itisquiteanotherthingtoturn
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toapersonnexttoyouandaskthemwhotheyaresupportingand,ifyoudon’tknowthenuancesoficehockey,toexplainafewthingstoyou.Hereyouarenotjustcomingtoknowaplace,butcomingtoknowaplaceasitisinhabitedbythinking,feelingpeople.Allplacesarecomposedbythewaysthatpeoplerendertheirlivesmeaningful.Thesecardsencourageyoutoworktofindouthowlocalpeoplecomposetheirlivesthroughsmallgesturesandeverydayroutines.Onceyougettalkingandgettoknowpeople,whoknowswhereyourexplorationswilltakeyou?Oftentheywilltakeyounowhere.YoumaychatwithanelderlywomanaboutthebeautyofsunrisewhilecrossingtheBospheros,aconversationofsmilesandgesturesandmutuallyintelligiblewords,shespeakingnoEnglishandyouspeakingnoTurkish,andthatwillbethat,yousharedamomentoftogethernessandthengoyourseparateways.Othertimes,however,onethingmayleadtoanother.Youfindaparkwherelocalpeopleplaychess.Youaskifyoucanplayafewgames.Youhaveagoodtime.Winafew,loseafew.Theybuyyouacoffee.Youbuythemacoffee.Andmaybethisbecomessomethingofaroutineforyouandsoonyouareabsorbedintoasmallbitofcitylifethatmostvisitorswouldpassbywithoutaglance.
MAKINGASTORY
Youmight,wesuggest,keepadiaryoftheseadventures.Youmaywishtotakephotographsorevenshortbitsoffilm.Youmaywishtocapturethesoundsofplaceorcollectsmallsouvenirs:astained
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beermat,atake-awaymenuorastonefromabeach.Someofthecardshavespecificinstructionsastohowbestmakearecordofyouradventure.Somedonot.Butalwaysendeavourtomakearecordofsomekind.
Thisrecordisthestoryofyourexplorationsofeverydaylife.Itwillbeamessystory,disjointed,broken-up,athingofbitsandpieces,strangediversions,anddeviations.Thatisok.Infactthatisbetter.Everydaylifeismessy.Yourencounterwiththeeverydaylifebeyondthefamiliarwillbemessy.Intellingstorieswearetemptedtotidythingsup,tofillintheblanks,toexplainthings,butreallyyourstoryshouldbeastrueaspossibletotheexperienceofbeingthere,andsoshouldallowforandreflectthenonlinearnatureofthatexperience.
Inthefirstinstanceyouwillbewritingastoryforyourselfbutwewouldalsoencourageyoutowriteastoryforothers.Youmaywishtosharethesewithothersexplorersofeverydaylifeandforthisreasonweareprovidingawebsitewhichwillallowyoutoshareyourstorieswitheachother.Youmayevenwishtosharethesestorieswithpeopleyoumeetduringyourexplorations.IfyoumeetawomaninateahouseinNepalwhotakesthetimetoshowyouhowtomakemomos,littlesteameddumplingfilledwithmeatandshreddedvegetables,andyoutakeherphotographthensometimelateryoucookmomosyourself,followingherinstructions,andservethesetoyourfriends,perhapsconsideremailingorwritingalettertothiswomangivingheracopyofthephotographandtellingherofhowyoutriedtocookfromherrecipeandthankingherforspendingsometimewithyou.Thesestoriesareimportantbecausetheybindpeopletogetherandallowthosewhoknownothingoftheplaceyouhavebeenandthepeopleyouhavemettolearnalittlesomethingofsomewhereandsomeoneelse.Butmorethananythingelsethesestoriesareimportantbecauseintellingthemyoubegintoreflectonyourexperiencesand,inreflecting,gainsomeunderstanding
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ofotherpeopleandotherplaces.
Thisunderstandingshouldnotassumeabstraction.Intellingthesestoriesyoushouldnotseektotransformthespecificexperienceofyourexplorationsintogeneralisationsconcerninganother“culture”or“society”.Theriskisthatwegeneralisetooquicklyandeasilyandsoproducestereotypeswhenreally,ideally,weshouldbetryingtogobeyondstereotypesandimmerseourselvesinthedense,messyeverydaybeingofaplace.
Sointhefirstinstancetellthestoryofeverydayencounters,ofsounds,sights,smellsandtastes,ofrealwordsspokenbyrealpeople.Andremember:youarepartofthisstory.Thisisthestoryofyourexperience,youradventuresandhow,intheseadventures,youcultivateagrowingawarenessofthelifeoftheplaceyouhavechosentoexplore.Tellthatstoryinwhateverwayseemrightandworksforyouandistruetothatexperience.
MINDFUL REFLEXIVITY (OR REFLEXIVE MINDFULNESS)
InundertakingtheseexplorationsbyfollowingtheinstructionsonthesecardsyouwillbecultivatinganattitudeofMINDFULREFLEXIVITY(ormaybeREFLEXIVEMINDFULNESS).
Whileundertakingyourexplorationsofeverydaylifeyoushouldbewide-awaketothepresent.Thismayseemobvious,butweareusuallyoblivioustomostofwhatitgoingonaroundus.This
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is,inpart,becausewhatisgoingaroundusisfamiliarandsowedon’tneedtopayitmuchheed.Thisisalsobecauseweareoftenpassingthroughthepresenttowardsthefutureandsoevenasweinhabittherehereandnowwearethinkingtowardswherewearegoingnext.
Sayyoustopatashoptobuyasoftdrinkandbagofcrisps.Usuallyyouwillnotthinktoomuchaboutthisfleetingtransaction.Youwillnotthinkabouthowthecrispsarearrayedonshelves,orhowthewomanatthecashregisterhandlesmoney,orthesmallgesturesandwordsofpolitenessthataccompanytheexchangeofcoinsforsaltysnacks.Youwillbethinkaboutgettingyoursnacksandmovingon.AMINDFULexploreroftheeveryday,however,isalerttotheseverygesturesthatusuallywouldpasswithoutnotice.Theyarenotjustthinkingaboutwheretheyareheadingnext.Theyarethinkingaboutwheretheyarenowand,insodoing,awholedensityofdetailcomesintoview.
Beingmindfulisnoteasy.Butwhenyoupulloutoneofthesecardsthatinviteyoutoundertakeanadventureintotheeveryday,wesuggestthatyouadoptthisattitude.Howdoyoudothis?Well,onethingyoucandoisSLOWDOWN.Usuallywerushbythings,hurrytowardswhatevercomesnext.Ifyouslowdownthenyouwillfindyourselfseeingandhearingmore.Thismeansliterallyslowingdown.Walkmoreslowly.Sitonabenchandwatchtheworldgoby.Takeyourtimewithpeople.AnotherthingyoucandoistoELIMINATEDISTRACTION.Wecarrystuffwithustofacilitatedistraction:mobilephones,tablets,newspapers,andnovels.Thatisfine,butwhenundertakingyourexplorationsoftheeverydaygetridofallthesedistractions.Don’tbetexting,surfingtheinternet,updatingtwitteroranyofthatstuff.Bewhollyalerttothegoingsoninyoursurroundings.
TheotherwordisREFLEXIVITY.Bythiswesimplymeanthatyoushouldcreateaspacewhereyoucanreflectonyourmindful
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experiencesofbeingamongstandtalkingwithotherpeople.Thismeanscreatingaspacewhereyoucanactuallydoabitofquietandfocussedthinkingaboutyouradventures.Again,thiscanoftenquiteliterallybeamatteroffindingaspacetodothis.Fashioningsomekindofnarrativefromyourexperiencesisoneofthebestwaysofmakingsuchaspace.Bywritingthingsdown,bydrawingamap,bylookingthroughphotographs,bypullingasouvenirfromyourpocket,youbeingtothinkaboutwhathappened,aboutwhatyoulearned,aboutwhatitmaymean,abouthowothersrelatetoyouandhowyourelatetoothers.Maybeitisonlytenminutes,maybeyouwillwanttowriteforanhour,butifyougiveyourselfabitoftimetothinkaboutwhathashappenedthenyouwillfindthatyoubegintolearnfromthatexperience.
Inasensethisattitudeofmindfulreflexivityiseasiertoadoptwhenyouarevisitingafarawayplacewhereeverything,eventheslightesteverydaytransaction,isbewildering.Withoutanyfamiliaritywenaturallyadoptamindfulattitudeifonlybecausewewanttofigureouthowthingsworkandhowtogetalong(andinsodoingmakethingsfamiliar).However,onethemagicalthingsaboutadoptingatechniqueofMINDFULREFLECTIVITY(orREFLEXIVEMINDFULNESS)isthatyoucanexploretheeverydayeveninfamiliarplaces.Sayyouwalkdownthesamestreeteverydayfromwhereyoulivetowhereyouworkandstudy.Usuallywehurryonpastshopsandthepeoplewhofallbehindusaswerushtowardswhereverwearegoing.Buttryslowingyourselfdown,orientingyourselftowardsthepresent,eliminatinganydistractionsandthenfindingthetimetoreflectonyourexperiencesandyouwillmaybebeamazedhowstrangeandwonderfulthefamiliarcanbe.
Themoralisthatyoudonothavetogofartobeanexplorerofeverydaylife.Thewonderfulstrangenessofthemundaneisallaroundyou.Youjustneedtofindit.
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GETTING ON WITH PEOPLE AND STAYING SAFE (SOME RULES OF ENGAGEMENT)
Whenusingthesecardsweneedtothinkaboutafewrulesthatshouldensure,asmuchaspossible,thatthisisasafeandhappyexperience.
Someofthesemayseemalittlecontradictory,butthenmuchoftheworkofgettingtoknowthelivesofothersisaboutwalkingathinlinebetweenbeingforward(ifyoudidn’tpushyourselfforwardyouwouldneverlearnanything)andbeingrespectfulofotherpeople’sboundaries.
1. Attendtolocalcodesofpolitenessandtrytoadoptthemasmuchaspossible.Bemindfulandobservantofthemannersthatseemtogovernsocialconduct.Conformtothisetiquetteasmuchaspossible,butunderstandthatpeopleare(usually)forgivingofstrangersbecausetheyrealizethattheymaybeignorantoflocalhabits.Ifyoumakeagrosserrorofetiquettedon’tfreakout–apologise,learn,andmoveon.
2. Learnasmuchofthelocallanguageasyoucananduseit.Askpeopletoteachyouwordsandphrases(itisoftenaneasywayofstartingaconversation).Usethatlanguage,especiallygreetingsandwordsofpoliteness.Don’tbeworriedifyoumakemistakesandpeoplepointoutthesemistakestoyou(maybewhilelaughing).Nooneexpectsastrangertobefluentintheirlanguage,anditismuchbetterthatyoushowawillingnesstotry
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thantosimplyassumethatalltransactionsshouldbeginandendinyourlanguage.
3. Givecompliments.Thishelpsyougetonwithpeopleandalsoinvitesconversation.Don’tgiveexceptionallypersonalcompliments.Totellastrangerthatyouparticularlyadmirethegracewithwhichtheywalkmaybetruebutwilllikelybetakenasoverfamiliar.Butifyouareservedamealandyoufinditdeliciousthensaythateffusively.Itmayfeelstrange,butitwillalmostalwaysbeappreciatedandpeoplemaywellwarmtoyouthatlittlebitmore.
4. Reciprocityisimportant.Sociallifeiscomposedofreciprocalgestures.Ifsomeonesayshellotoyouinthestreetyoushouldsayhelloback.Todootherwisewouldberude.Thisishowreciprocityworks.Culturalcodesofreciprocitycanbecomplexandyoushouldbeattentivetothese,whileexpectingtomakemistakes.Generally,however,ifsomeoneshowsyouasmallkindnessthinkaboutawayyoucanrepaythatsmallkindnessinsuchawaythatitdoesnotseemtobeapayment(thisisadifferentkindoftransaction).Similarly,bereadytoreceivesmallkindnesseswithgraceandthankfulnessand,conversely,begenerousinperformingsmallactsofkindness.
5. Becheerfullyopentoconversationandspendingtimewithpeople.Thisenquiryintotheeverydayonlyworksifyouarewillingtotalkwithpeopleandtotalkwithpeoplemorethanyoumaybenormallywould.Inoureverydaylifewemayseeacatcurledupinbasketinalocalcafeandsaytoourselves,“whatacutecat”,andorderacoffeeandmoveon.Anexplorerofeverydaylifewouldspeaktothemanworkinginthecafeandasksay“whatalovelycat,doesitbelongtoyou?”andifhesaysyes,thenaskmorequestions(“whatishisname?”,“howoldishe?”etc.).Thisactuallyrequiressomebravery.Notallofusarecomfortableinitiatingconversationswithstrangers,butyouwill
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needtoovercomethisinhibitionandcreatesomeconversations.Butinsodoing...
6. Respectpeople’sboundaries(privatestuffisprivate).Thisvariesfromculturetoculture,butgenerallyspeakingthereisstuffthatisprivateandthatpeopledonotwishtosharewithpeoplethattheydonotknowwell.Generallyspeaking,thisprivatestuffincludesissuesconcerningthecomplexandintimateaffairsofclosefamily,detailsaboutmoneyandpropertyanddeepandcomplexfeelingsaboutlifeandlove.Certainlyitalsoincludesanyactivitiesthatanyonemaybeengagedinthatcouldbeconsidered“illegal”or“immoral”.thisstuffisnoneofyourbusinessand,untilyougettoknowsomeonewellandtheyinviteyouintoconversationaboutmoreprivatethings,youshouldnotinquireintotheseareas.Ifyoudoinquireintoanaspectofsomeone’slifeandtheyindicatetheyarenotcomfortablewiththatlineofenquiry,moveontoanother,safer,topic.
7. Seriousstuffisseriousandshouldbetalkedaboutseriously.Againthisvariesfromplacetoplaceand,aspartoflearningcodesofpoliteness,youshouldbecomesensitivetowhatissuesaretakenseriouslybylocalpeople.Generally,however,localpoliticsareaseriousbusiness,deeplyheldreligiousconvictionisaseriousbusiness,mattersofnationalprideareaseriousbusiness,sometimesevenfootballcanbeaseriousbusiness.Ifyouinviteorfindyourselfdrawnintoconversationaboutthesemattersthendiscussthesethoughtfullyandseriously.Listencarefully.Donotmakegliborjudgementalstatements.Ifpeopleaskforyourthoughtsoropinionsonthesemattersthenbetruetoyourthoughtsandopinions.DonotpretendtobelieveinGodifyouareanatheist,evenifyouarespeakingtoabeliever.Butbegentle,considerateandmoderateinstatingyourthoughtsandopinions.
8. Beopenaboutyourself(but,again,privatestuffisprivate).
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Insharingtimewithpeopleandcomingtoknowalittlebitoftheirlivesyoushouldbereadytobeopenaboutyourselfandyourownthoughtsandfeelings.Thisispartofreciprocity.Thefactofthematteristhatpeoplearelikelytobeinterestedinyou,justasyouareinterestedinotherpeopleandifthisistobearealandhumanencounterthenyoushouldbepresentasarealhumanbeing.However,justastheprivatebusinessofotherpeopleisprivate,soyoushouldnotfeelthatyouneedtobeforthcomingaboutthoseaspectsofyourlifetheyyoudonotwishtosharewithanybutthosewhoknowyoubest.Ifsomeoneenquiresaboutthemoreintimatedetailsofyourlifethen,again,youshoulddiscretelymovetheconversationontoeasiertopics.
9. Ifthingsdon’tseemright,leave(andmakesureyouhaveanexitstrategy).Peoplearegenerallygoodandconsiderateandwishnoharmonothers,butveryrarelyyoumayfindyourselffeelinguncomfortableandabitthreatenedbyasituation.Listentothosefeelingsandthengetoutofthatsituation.Ifatallpossibledosodiscretelyandgentlyandamicably.Youmay,ofcourse,beentirelywrong,butbettersafethansorry,andanywaytheseexplorationsareforfunandenlightenmentandthereisnopointcarryingonifyouaregettingupsetorfearful.Finally,morethananythingenjoyyourself.Otherpeoplearewonderful,mysterious,andsometimesfrustrating.Youcandiscovertherichnessoflifeinthesimplestofencountersifyouentertheseencountersmindfullyandarewillingtoreflect.Getoutthere.Leavethebeatentrack,evenifthisleavingisjustamatterofslowingyourstepandlookingaround.Stopandtalkwithpeople.Discoverthehumofbeingaroundyou.Itisgoodfun.
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THIS TOOLKIT WAS BROUGHT TO YOU BY...
JohannaHoltan,EUSAGlobal|InstituteforAcademicDevelopmentJohnHarries,SocialAnthropology
LorenaGeorgiadou,Counselling&PsychotherapyAretiManataki,Informatics
AletteWillis,Counselling&PsychotherapySiobhanMagee,SocialAnthropology
DesignedbyDavidMcNaughton,www.davidmcnaughton.net
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