How to Respect Yourself in the Morning: Getting Comfortable Saying No

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HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF IN THE MORNING Larissa Scordato | @larissascordato Digital Project Management Summit, 2015 getting comfortable with saying no

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HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF IN THE MORNING

Larissa Scordato | @larissascordato

Digital Project Management Summit, 2015

getting comfortable with saying no

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no

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1.  Used to give a negative response 2.  Expressing disagreement or contradiction 3.  A negative answer or decision 4.  Used to indicate that something is quite the

opposite of what is being specified

no /no/ /

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I live in Phoenix…

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. . . . . .

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. I work with Phuse…

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over-communication a.k.a. the art of managing an international, remote team of clients and co-workers

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Our memory is like the telephone game: Each time we recall an event, our brains

distort it

http://www.northwestern.edu/newscenter/stories/2012/09/your-memory-is-like-the-telephone-game.html

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story time!

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I got my start at Forty…

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idea ! Why waste project hours to walk a client through a plan they’re perfectly capable of reading?

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Clients read all of our emails,

don’t they?!

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No

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OMGWTF?! TL;DR About 15% of people read everything you send them (and more!) The rest are like, “K, thanks, bye!”

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The biggest communication issue we have boils down to our assumption

that it has already taken place.

https://hbr.org/2011/02/your-communications-may-not-be.html

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You never told me that…

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Um…that’s not what we asked for.

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I feel like you’re trying to nickel and dime me…

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Not setting ground rules, and

clear expectations from the

beginning leads to project failure.

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This is why Project Managers should have a “first date” with every client.

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1. kickoff/goals

2. assumptions/tech/deliverables

3. the initial plan

4. risks and your role

First Date

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Our role is not to boss around our teams

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Nor are we there to give the client everything they want

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PROJECT our role is to manage the

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Scope our role is to manage the

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deliverables our role is to manage the

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budget our role is to manage the

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timeline our role is to manage the

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“When you are tired of saying it,

they are starting to hear it.”

-Jeff Weiner

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let’s practice!

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Thanks!

Larissa Scordato | @larissascordato [email protected]