How Men Fall In Love And For How Long

How Men Fall In Love

And For How Long

Men In Love 19-Aug-09 2 copyright © Mark Devon 2009

This presentation is taken from The Origin of Emotions

which can be downloaded at: ww.theoriginofemotions.com


• men can only fall in love with a stranger

• men fall in love after 4 months of daily interaction

• men fall out of love 46 months after meeting a stranger

This presentation will make the following assertions:


Men in love simultaneously feel three positive emotions

when they see or hear the woman they love.

the sight or sound of familiar people

the sight or sound of women

" The woman I love is happy."

trigger purposepositive emotion

encourage everyone to interact with kinaffection

encourage men to seek womenvisual/audible pleasure

encourage men to support womenmonogynistic love


Men fall in love 4 months after meeting a woman and

fall out of love 42 months later or 46 months after meeting her.

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months since first meeting a woman

42 months


After 46 months, men continue to feel

the weaker emotions of visual/audible pleasure and affection.

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affection

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Men fall in love when one woman repeatedly triggers their

visual/audible pleasure and affection for 4 months.

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Visual/audible pleasure is triggered

by the sight or sound of women.









Visual/audible pleasure is specifically triggered by features

that fertile, non-pregnant women have and other humans do not.

children men fertilenon-pregnant

women

fertilepregnantwomen

post-menopausal

women


The following are features

that fertile, non-pregnant women have and other humans do not.

narrow waist

non-grey hair

pubic hair

beardless face

feminine voice

8% shorter height

slender appendages

wide hips

plump lips

protruding breasts

hourglass figure

- beards evolved so men do not court men

- pitch and resonance midway between men and children

- 8% is ideal (about 5½" shorter than a 5'10" man)

- face, neck, arms, hands, fingers, legs, feet, toes

- ideal hip-to-waist ratio is 0.7

- combination of protruding breasts, wide hips, narrow waist


The more exclusive a feature is to fertile, non-pregnant women

the stronger the visual/audible pleasure it triggers in men.

very weak

beardless face

weak

moderate

strong

strength of effect children

fertile pregnantwomen

fertile non-pregnant

women

post-menopausal

womenmen

narrow waist

non-grey hair

pubic hair

feminine voice

8% shorter height

slender appendages

wide hips

plump lips

protruding breasts

hourglass figure


To fall in love, a man must feel

strong visual/audible pleasure for 4 months.

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Strong visual/audible pleasure can only be triggered by an hourglass figure,

which confirms that a woman is fertile and non-pregnant.

very weak

beardless face

weak

moderate

strong

strength of effect children

fertile pregnant women

fertile non-pregnant

women

post-menopausal

womenmen

narrow waist

non-grey hair

pubic hair

feminine voice

8% shorter height

slender appendages

wide hips

plump lips

protruding breasts

hourglass figure


4 months of strong visual pleasure confirms that a woman

was not impregnated by another man just before meeting.

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visual/audible pleasure triggered by non-pregnant woman

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weak

very strong

moderate

visual/audible pleasure triggered by woman impregnated

just before meeting a man as she loses her hourglass figure


The visual/audible pleasure that a woman triggers in a man declines over time

which encourages men to maximize the genetic diversity of their offspring.

this is a tangent

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Over 8 years, the visual audible pleasure that Elizabeth Hurley

triggered in Hugh Grant declined enough that . . .

this is a tangent

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19951987


1988 1989 1990 19921991 19941993


. . . that Divine Brown, a street prostitute,

became relatively more attractive to Hugh.

this is a tangent

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moderate

19951987


1988 1989 1990 19921991 19941993


Women frequently change their appearance

to try to slow the decline of visual/audible pleasure.

this is a tangent

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change appearance frequently

change appearance rarely


Affection is triggered by

the sight or sound of familiar people.









Affection is specifically triggered by features that

modern humans have and other primates do not.

arborealprimates

modernhumans

small-brainhumans

terrestrialprimates


The following are features

that modern humans have and other primates do not.

bums without tails

feet without opposable toes

- or dancingwalking bipedally

hands with long opposable thumbs

- everted lipseyebrows, white eyes, nose, philtra, lips, chin

- corners of mouth turned up, not showing teethsmiling

talking

- logically sequenced acoustics from human voicesinging, poetry, alliteration


moderate

weak

strong

strength of effect

small-brain humans

modern humans

terrestrial primates

arboreal primates

bums without tails

feet without opposable toes

walking bipedally

hands with long opposable thumbs

eyebrows, white eyes, nose, philtra, lips, chin

smiling

talking

singing, poetry, alliteration

The more exclusive a feature is to modern humans

the stronger the affection it triggers in others.


The affection a feature triggers is stronger

if there is proof of interaction.

• singing to music

• dancing to music

• making eye contact

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While seeing white eyes

triggers moderate affection . . .

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. . . making eye contact triggers stronger affection

because it confirms interaction.

this is a tangent


Affection starts weak and grows stronger

the more time you spend with someone.

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months since first meeting someone

affection(full-time interaction)

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weak

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moderate

affection(part-time interaction)


To fall in love, a man must feel affection that

grows from weak-to-moderate strength in 4 months.

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Only strangers

can start at weak affection.

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affection(old flames, family, friends)

strong

weak

very strong

moderate

affection(new women)

4


Because men can only fall in love with strangers

they maximize the genetic diversity of their offspring.

child 6child 5child 4child 3child 2child 1woman

Mike only falls in love with strangers

Mike falls in love with one woman for life

MBBetty

MCCarol

ME

MAMA MA

Francis

Elaine

Dawn

Anne

Anne

MF

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MA

MAMAMA


Strangers can only trigger moderate affection by month 4

if they are interacting on a full-time basis.

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affection(part-time interaction)

strong

weak

very strong

moderate

affection(full-time interaction)

4


Because men can only fall in love with women who interact on full-time basis

they do not fall in love with women who could have been simultaneously courting another man.

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affection(part-time with man 1)

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weak

very strong

moderate

affection(part-time with man 2)

4


Men fall out of love after 42 months

or 46 months after meeting a woman.

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42 months


Love encourages

men to support women.









By supporting women,

men indirectly support their children.

women men

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maternallove

children


Men maximize the number of two-parent children they have

by starting the next child when the current child no longer needs full-time care.

child 6child 5child 4child 3child 2child 1

MBBetty

MCCarol

ME

Francis

Elaine

Dawn

Anne

MF

MD

MA

child no longer needs full-time care


Children no longer need full-time care when their

first set of teeth have fully erupted at 33 months.

• before their first set of teeth fully erupt, children need assistance to eat

• mothers must first breastfeed, then transfer of masticated food to their children


Adding 9 months of gestation to 33 months of post-natal care

equals a total support time of 42 months.

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9 monthsgestation

33 monthspost-natal support

42 months


There is ample evidence that men

do not love one woman forever.

• fireworks do not continue

• 50% of marriages end in divorce

• affection keeps the other 50% together


Based on 2002 US Census Data,

the average length of first marriages is 44 months.

womenmen

44 monthsaverage length of marriage

3.7 yearsaverage length of marriage

3.73.6average length of marriage

25.326.9average age at first marriage

29.030.5average age at first divorce


Assuming 16 months of courtship and 44 months of marriage,

couples typically divorce 14 months after the man falls out of love.

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16 monthsof courtship

44 monthsof marriage

14 monthsto divorce

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