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This is something that has surely been around for many, many years. In the very beginning ofhuman evolution it was probably only food that was hoarded for those moments when it wouldbe in short supply.

However, in the modern day world, this can relate to just about everything on this planet, Foodwill of course be one of them and so can: clothes, furniture, different appliances and numerousother objects and items.

Bigger houses are often brought and extensions created as a way to deal with what has beenaccumulated. If ones suitcase on holiday is not big enough for all that has been consumed; onecan buy a bigger one and then buy more.

The latest surge in storage units is partly a consequence of hoarding and is a sign that it willcontinue and has no intention of slowing down.

Examples

For some people this will involve holding onto what no longer has a purpose. And instead ofletting it go, it will be kept or stored away. It may also involve having more than one actuallyneeds or will ever have enough time to wear or use.

The reasons as to why one would do this can vary and will often come through the ego mindsfilter. This will mean that justifications and rationalisations will often be utilized.

And this can mean that unless one is conscious of why they are hoarding, they could end upbeing enslaved to this habit.

My Intention

I believe that there are three primary reasons as to why people hoard. This is not to say thatthere are no other reasons or that hoarding is also completely negative or dysfunctional. What Iam taking a closer look at is the extreme cases of hoarding. And not the odd occasion that

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someone may hoard.

Reasons

What I believe will have a strong influence on whether one becomes a compulsive hoarder ornot is the quality of their early childhood care. If one can emotionally regulate themselves or not;how secure their attachment style is and whether they have experienced trauma, will all have aneffect on this.

And although they are three separate things, each relates and influences each other. Forexample, if one has experienced trauma as a child and has the ability to regulate themselves, itcan be a lot easier to deal with. As opposed to someone who doesn’t have this ability.

Just as having a healthy or secure attachment style is going to mean that one is likely to be ableto reach out to others when they are feeling emotionally unstable and cannot regulatethemselves. Whereas if one didn’t have a secure attachment style it could lead to a higherchance of one isolating or closing themselves off and trying to cope on their own.

The Connection

Although hoarding has to do with physical things, it is also having an effect on ones emotions.However, as I have mentioned above, this process can go on so naturally and withoutawareness that one could be completely unaware of what makes them hoard.

What hoarding can lead to is emotional regulation. Through this, ones emotions can be kept atbay, repressed and covered up. Feelings of emptiness, aloneness, abandonment and isolationthat can come about through being insecurely attached as a child, can also be regulated. Andany trauma that has not been dealt with can also be regulated through hoarding.

Early Care

The importance of early care cannot be emphasised enough here. When it comes to being ableto regulate oneself, having a secure attachment style and the amount of trauma one hasexperienced, are all directly shaped by this care.

Empathic Care

If a caregiver is empathic and therefore attuned to the Childs needs, it is likely to develop theability to self regulate and to form a healthy attachment style. And as a result of this, if trauma isexperienced at this stage it is likely that the caregiver will be there to regulate the child.

And in later life, one will have a developed this ability within and so is in a better position to dealwith what life brings and to ask others for assistance.

Unempathic Care

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When a caregiver is unempathic and therefore out of touch with the needs and wants of theirchild, all kinds of problems can develop. Self regulation is unlikely to be developed and aninsecure attachment style is also likely to be formed. And as a result of this, trauma has a higherchance of being experienced.

This can then mean that as an adult, seeking regulation through external things is perceived asthe only option. Because they have never experienced being regulated by their caregivers andso didn’t internalise this ability. Or learn that it was acceptable to look to others to assist withthis.

The Modern Day World

And in the modern world, where caregivers are often over worked and full of stress; it isnaturally going to affect the quality of care received. As a result of this extra stress, they areoften absent either physically or emotionally; which limits the quality of this early care. That canchange of course, if another caregiver is consistently used to create a secure attachment duringtheir absence for example.

As well as this, there are also the instances where caregivers pass on the same abusive carethat they received. And out of their lack of awareness, continue the cycle of abuse that wasinflicted upon them.

Conclusion

These are just some factors in what has shaped the modern day rise in hoarding. Everythinghas consequences and I believe that extreme hoarding is often a result of early care lowering inquality. This is not to say that one has no choice in later life.

Changes can be made in later life with the right assistance and support. Awareness is alsoimportant, unless one is aware of what they are doing; there is not much chance of anythingchanging. Emotional intelligence is part of this process and something that is beneficial to everyarea of one’s life.

Read the Full Article at: Hoarding: What Causes Hoarding?

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