Healthy College HabitsCounseling Department

Definition of Wellness

• Wellness is a mindful evolution of the self through self awareness and transcendence of personal obstacles to growth.

College Wellness Wheel

Mental

Social

Physical

School/ Work

Financial

Family

Spiritual

Wellness is About Mindful Relationships

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Physical

Family

Financial

School/work

Spiritual

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Social

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Physically Well People…

Consume various nutrient rich foods.

Awareness of emotional need vs actual need for food.

Get enough sleep.

Exercise at least 3 to 5 times a week, 20-30 min per session.

Have healthy relationships with alcohol.

Don’t Smoke.

Socially Well People…

• Have a network of friendships based on interdependence vs codependence.

• Have good boundaries.

• Express their needs to others.

• Attend Safe Parties.

• Practice Humility.

• Place themselves in the service of others.

Financially Well People…

• Obtain and maintain resources for self and others.

• Create budgets and live by them.

• Know the difference between emotional spending vs need spending.

Spiritually Well People…

• Seek meaning in human existence.

• Embrace their humanity.

• Are mindful of their values.

• Frequently get in touch with their capacity to love.

• Accept the sacredness of everything.

• Foster a sense of awe in the everyday.

• Connect with higher powers.

Mentally well people…

• Accept that stress is part of being alive.

• Take care of physical health.

• Keep their problems in the right perspective.

• They choose healthy coping skills.

• Balance social activity with solitude.

• They acknowledge their choices.

• They look for the silver lining.

Academically well people…

• “I don’t know”.

• Admit mistakes.

• Show up for class.

• Are mindful of their study needs.

• Organized.

• Read the syllabus.

• Do the homework.

• Use resources.

• Never give up.

Learning Style

• Auditory-you get a lot of information from listening.

• Tactile-You learn by doing and touching.

• Visual-You hold information in your brain visually.

• Social Style-You learn by engaging others.

• Logical-You like the process of reasoning .

• Solitary style-You learn best when you are by yourself.

Family and Wellness

• Healthy boundaries

• Family dynamics

• Homesick

Rites of Passage

Separation

Initiation

Return

Substances and Relationships

Alcohol/

Drugs

Physical

Mental

Social

AcademicFamily

Financial

Spiritual

What Are Values?• Achievement

AdvancementAdventureAffectionCompetitivenessCooperationCreativityEconomic SecurityFameFamily HappinessFreedomFriendshipHealthHelpfulness

• Inner HarmonyIntegrityInvolvementLoyaltyOrderPersonal DevelopmentPleasurePowerRecognitionResponsibilitySelf-respectSpiritualityWealthWisdom

On the way to valued living

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Caveman#1

Runs Like Crazy

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Son

Caveman #2

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Being Present With the Unknown

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Fight FlightFreeze

Suffering

Value Reality Fear Outcome

Stay With the Unknown

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Personal Values and College Life

Title IX-Changing College Culture

Being a Bystander

• Alan Berkowitz, Ph.D.

• Social Influence “Everyone else is doing it.”

• Fear Embarrassment “Ill look stupid if I do something.”

• Diffusion of Responsibility “Someone else will do something.”

• Fear of Retaliation “Ill be next if I say anything.”

• Pluralistic Ignorance “I'm the only one that thinks this is wrong.”

Psychology of Offenders

• False Consensus “Everyone thinks like me.”

Examples-

• “Everyone drinks as much as me.”

• “Most guys would take advantage of a girl who drank too much at a party if they had the opportunity.”

Develop Your Inner Voice

Women should be safe from

sexual assault

Its about to happen

at the party I'm

attending.

I'm afraid of the

backlash, if I do

something.

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Ways to Intervene in the Moment• Name or acknowledge an offense

• Point to the "elephant in the room"

• Interrupt the behavior

• Publicly support an aggrieved person

• Use body language to show disapproval

• Use humor (with care)

• Encourage dialogue

• Help calm strong feelings

• Call for help

Ways to Intervene After the Fact

• Privately support an upset person

• Talk privately with the inappropriate actor

• Report the incident, with or without names

Counseling Department

• Megan Reader-Schopp, Counselor/ ADA 394-6988 or 394-2416

• Jeremy Kendall, Counselor 394-1924 or 394-2416

• Nancy Sprynczynatyk, Counselor 394-2533 or 394-2416

“If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was a thousand miles away, I'd still swim. And I'd despise the one who gave up.” Abraham Maslow