HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

WHAT DOES A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP LOOK LIKE?

It makes people in them happier and eases stress

They are realistic and flexible Includes talking and listening Includes taking care of your self Fight fair Compromise and give and take!

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Beginning stages vs. down the road

How to handle conflict

Outside issues

WHAT IS CONSIDERED UNHEALTHY?

Control – needing to know where you are at all times.

Lack of trust – forbidding you to have friends of the opposite sex.

Put downs Being together 24-7/social isolation Lying

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Obsessions Instant attraction, unrealistic expectations Fear of abandonment Always thinking the other person is cheating Need to be with the other person constantly Showing up at their house, work, etc Calling and/or texting non stop Feeling as if they can’t live without the other

person

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Threats, guilt trips and feeling pressured to stay in the relationship for the other person

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPSWHAT TO DO IF YOURS IS?

Communicate your needs and expectations clearly with your partner

Set boundaries Look for ways change within the other person and yourself

Determine if the good outweighs the bad Both of you need to be in agreement to make

change and move forward

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPSHOW TO GET OUT

Make sure your support system (parents, friends) is aware and standing by your side

Talk with your counselor, social worker or other trusted adult if need be

Be firm in your decision Speak face to face and provide closure when

possible End all contact

“THE CASE OF THE EVER PRESENT EX”

You broke up with them They broke up with you If you’re over it If you’re still hung up on them

LOVE OR INFATUATION

The relationship goes beyond feelings Is this person your best friend? Do you have similar goals? Do you have the same family values? Does this person accept you as yourself? Does this person make you feel better about who

you are? Is this just a rebound relationship?

BEING HAPPY WITH YOURSELF

Appreciate the positives in your life Learn to accept who you are on the inside

and out Keep yourself busy Spend time with friends and family that bring

out the best in you Know that you are not alone Love comes in all forms

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND SEX

37 Reasons For Not Having Sex…..

SEX MYTHS AND FACTS

Sex Myths

You can’t get pregnant if:

-it’s your first time -you’re both virgins -the guy pulls out before climax -the girl takes a bath, douches or urinates after sex -you are on your menstrual cycle -if it doesn’t go all the way in -if you use two condoms

The truth is in any of the above situations you could get pregnant

PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION

Abstinence 100% effective

PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION

Contraceptives

Condoms 85-98% effective Manufacturer defect Human error when applying They can break during sex

PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION

Birth Control Pills/Shots pill 92-99% effective must take same time and every day can be ineffective when taking antibiotics or

certain medications is not always immediately effective once you

begin taking it for the 1st time does not protect against STD’s

PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION

Pulling out 50% effective for pregnancy Does not protect against STD’s Other concerns

FACTS ON STD’S

3 million teens will get diagnosed with an STD each year

1 in 4 sexually active teens will get an STD 1 in 2 people will have an STD by age 25 STD’s can be transmitted and received

without any symptoms. Some STD’s are not curable leading to life

long issues STD’s increase risk for infertility, pelvic

inflammatory disease and cancer.

FACTS ON STD’S

Gardisal-HPV vaccination-protects against 4 types of HPV that commonly cause cancer or warts.-However there are over 40 types of HPV- So Gardisal should not be your only form of protection against STDs

FACTS ON PREGNANCY

Less than 2% of teens choose adoption Financial burdens and responsibilities Misconceptions

Having a baby so that there will always be someone who loves you

Having a baby to keep the other person around Cute and fun

FACTS ON PREGNANCY

Father’s role When you think you’re pregnant (but you’re

really not) 16 and Pregnant

SEX AND THE LAW

17 is the age of consent unless the adult is more than 8 years older

Or the adult is a person of authority (coach, teacher, etc)

You are not legally able to give consent if you are intoxicated

REPUTATIONS AND RUMORS

Reputations are very easy to get and very hard to get rid of!

Double standards with guys and girls Name calling activity

RESOURCES

www.itsyoursexlife.comwww.stayteen.org