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Passing It Forward

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TO CONCLUDE

Ideas and techniques that add value, like Life itself, grow and are organically shared.

Passing It Forward is about enriching your life, by embracing both Giving and Receiving, by extending your ability to live with an ‘attitude of gratitude’ to bring a smile to YOUR face while enhancing the lives of others.

The purpose of this short module is to suggest ways that you can assist those around you to benefit from what you have learned in this guide and in the process you used to connect with your Son in your own unique way.

And to this end, Thank You for the time we have been able to spend together and the effort and reward of the time spent with us in this program!

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ACKNOWLEDGE

Acknowledge your son in front of his friends.

Steps:1. Select a picture from the accompanying guide CD (or download from our website) that resonates with you or a personal picture that is likely to have meaning to him.2. Post it, along with a personal message from you, to his social media wall, acknowledging him in front of his friends.

This is awesome if done right, but can be awkward if done incorrectly. This is incredibly sensitive for him as he is conscious of how he looks in front of his friends. So the message guidelines are not about you expressing your feelings for him (“I love and admire you” is probably not a good idea!). It is rather a simple acknowledgement; it is about “him” (not your feelings for him), without being over done. This is what he is proud of, not potentially embarrassed, of you saying something publicly in front of his friends.

Suggested:

“You are unique in your own way”

“Well done on getting picked for the team [or whatever’s relevant to his life in the moment], you have so much potential”

“Young Man, thanks for being you!”

Remember: Less about FEELINGS but about ACKNOWLEDGING him without over doing it!

Facebook

From your own profile, select the search box near the top and type in your son’s name and follow the link to his wall (assuming he has accepted you as a Friend). At the top, write your short message in the “Say Something” box. Click the Attach Photo icon, then attach a picture as chosen above that is likely to resonate with him and that feels right to you. Click the Share button and it is posted to his wall.

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PASS IT FORWARD

Be a candle, not a mirror. Create light for others.

You have learned things in this guide and you have experienced things uniquely on how to assist your son in being a better man.

•Use these tools YOURSELF to really listen to and give your whole family space to grow and express themselves, for your son, your wife and any other children

• Work on being the kind of Man and Father - Who uses humor - Who practices random acts of kindness - Who looks out for the interests of others, even when they are not present - Who feels great by simply making the world a better place by your deliberate intent and actions - Spends time on others

EXPLAIN IN ONE SENTENCE HOW THIS WOULD IMPACT MY LIFE

• Look out for other fathers of young boys in your social and business circle and gently point out what you have learned in modeling and connecting. The responsibility for now and the next generation of men, rests with Men continously striving to be the best Fathers we can be

• There are many broken homes and boys without mentors, consider assisting organizations who facilitate men mentoring other young men (www.boystomen.org and many others)

• Commit to yourself that this is not the end of a program, but the start of a new awareness and a new YOU!

Write him a personal letter that comes from deep inside you ...

I have embarked upon this journey for you. As father and son, we have built a solid foundation together, and the bond we share is very special to me. It is my goal for this bond to continue growing through the years as we get older; to enjoy it and to use it as a basis

that will offer you a glimpse of a beautiful future that can be uniquely yours, if you choose it and apply action and wisdom. Your happiness and bright future make me smile.

Being close to you is so important to me. Spending quality time together is the only way to this path. I need to continue sharing the lessons life has taught me, through chronicles of my journey and time we spend together. I share your dreams of the future, for you will in

many, many years to come, be my legacy. You will step forward into future generations, which will become all that is left of me.

With all the many activities we have done and will do in the future, I see three major outcomes. The first is to offer you a rite of passage into manhood. I need you to

understand that you are so special and unique. I will not let the chaos of everyday life or other family relationships distract me from acknowledging how special your unique journey is as I see you grow from a boy into a man I will be proud of. The second is wisdom. Knowl-

edge is the accumulation of facts. Wisdom is using experience and reflection to reduce these facts into action-oriented, simple truths. How I wish you could have the wisdom I

did not have at your age to aid your future journey into a bright, fun and successful one. You must choose your own path, but it is my honor to share as much

wisdom, guidance, and tools you need to succeed from my experience. Lastly, is the closeness we share. Never forget that I have walked this journey with you since you were

born, I walk it still and will continue to walk it long into the future when I am only a memory that you will keep with you.

Our western society has forgotten the rite of passage into manhood and this is my role as your Father. I will never let that happen as my love and pride for you runs so deep.

DEAR SON

YOUR FATHER

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BE A MAN WHO COUNTS!

But most of all be proud be the best YOU and the best FATHER you know you are and can be!

I have embarked upon this journey for you. As father and son, we have built a solid foundation together, and the bond we share is very special to me. It is my goal for this bond to continue growing through the years as we get older; to enjoy it and to use it as a basis

that will offer you a glimpse of a beautiful future that can be uniquely yours, if you choose it and apply action and wisdom. Your happiness and bright future make me smile.

Being close to you is so important to me. Spending quality time together is the only way to this path. I need to continue sharing the lessons life has taught me, through chronicles of my journey and time we spend together. I share your dreams of the future, for you will in

many, many years to come, be my legacy. You will step forward into future generations, which will become all that is left of me.

With all the many activities we have done and will do in the future, I see three major outcomes. The first is to offer you a rite of passage into manhood. I need you to

understand that you are so special and unique. I will not let the chaos of everyday life or other family relationships distract me from acknowledging how special your unique journey is as I see you grow from a boy into a man I will be proud of. The second is wisdom. Knowl-

edge is the accumulation of facts. Wisdom is using experience and reflection to reduce these facts into action-oriented, simple truths. How I wish you could have the wisdom I

did not have at your age to aid your future journey into a bright, fun and successful one. You must choose your own path, but it is my honor to share as much

wisdom, guidance, and tools you need to succeed from my experience. Lastly, is the closeness we share. Never forget that I have walked this journey with you since you were

born, I walk it still and will continue to walk it long into the future when I am only a memory that you will keep with you.

Our western society has forgotten the rite of passage into manhood and this is my role as your Father. I will never let that happen as my love and pride for you runs so deep.