Guide 3 Listening
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Addressing parents’ concerns and complaints effectively: policy and guides 26
3. Improving your listening skillsThe following tips will help you improve your listening skills so that you better understand the complainant’s issues, perspective and feelings and can also make them feel they are being heard.
Things to try
• Focusyourattentiontotallyonthepersonandconcentratefullyonwhattheyaresaying.• Repeatconversationallyandtentatively,inyourownwords,yourunderstandingofthe
person’s meaning.• Givefeedbackonfeelingsaswellascontentbyaskingquestions(asappropriate),suchas,
‘How do you feel about that?’ or ‘How did that affect you?’.• Repeatinformationandgivefeedbacktoshowthatyouunderstandandtoenablethe
speaker to hear and understand their meaning.• Ifyourfeedbackisnotwellreceived,onlytryagainifyoucandosowithtactand
understanding.• Beasaccurateinyoursummaryoftheirmeaningaspossible.• Challengefeelingsofpowerlessnessandhopelessnesssubtly.Forexample,iftheysay,
‘It is hopeless’, you might ask them, ‘It seems hopeless to you right now?’. If they say, ‘There’snothingIcando’,youcouldquestion,‘Youcan’tfindanythingthatwillhelpfixtheproblem?’.
• Allowsilencesintheconversation.• Peoplewillsometimesindicateashiftintheirattitudebychangingtheirbodyposition.A
good response to such a body shift is to wait, then suggest, ‘How does it all seem to you now?’.
Things to avoid
• Avoidtalkingaboutyourself.• Don’trespondwithyourownreactionsormakewell-intentionedcomments.• Don’tignoreordismisstheperson’sfeelings.• Avoidadvising,diagnosing,baiting,reassuring,encouragingorcriticising.• Avoidthinkingaboutwhatyouwillsaynext:thinkaboutwhattheyaresaying.• Avoidparrotingtheperson’swordsoronlysaying‘mmm’or‘ahhah’.• Don’tpretendthatyouhaveunderstoodifyouhaven’t(askforclarification).• Avoidlettingthepersondrifttolesssignificanttopicsbecauseyouhaven’tshownyouhave
understood.• Avoidfixing,changingorimprovingwhatthespeakerhassaid.• Don’tchangetopics.• Resistfillingeveryspacebytalking.• Don’tneglectthenon-verbalcontentoftheconversation.