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A GREATVINE PARENTING GUIDE
Greatvine Advice for life
Child Behaviour
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Becoming a parent is one o the most
ullling and important roles in lie.
But that doesnt mean its easy.
We like to think that parenting comes naturally to
us, but the truth is that children dont arrive with
a manual and we sometimes need a bit o help
knowing how to bring out the best in them. At timeswe might need someone to talk to, to make sure
were doing the right thing, to discuss our worries or
just to get new ideas.
Every parent aces specic and unique challenges,
whether their childs usually well behaved but throws
the odd tantrum, or seems to be out to challenge
them at every turn.
Thats why this Greatvine booklet is jam-packed with
invaluable advice and expert tips to help you create
a happy amily lie, such as how to set rules and
boundaries; dealing with meltdowns in public places;communicating well with your child and raising their
sel-esteem.
The specialists eatured have many years o
experience helping parents with the particular
challenges o dealing with dicult behaviour.
Ranging rom experienced and respected child
psychologists to top behaviour coaches, their gentle
and supportive methods can really make a dierenceto your amily.
best in my child? There must besomeone who
can help...
How do I bring out the
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6
8
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In this editionMeet the child behaviour experts
Expert Q&A with Dr Rudkin
Top tips for better behaviour
Next steps for more advice
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Elaine Halligan
A parenting
acilitator with TheParent Practice,
Elaines passionate
about helping amilies bring
out the best in their children
to help them have healthy sel-
esteem and value themselves or
who they are. She knows that
encouraging good behaviour
and positive discipline are
essential or a happy homeand calm amily. Her practical
skills and strategies encourage
co-operation and sel-reliance,
and ensure parents and children
can communicate well. Elaine
has a particular interest in special
educational needs, as she has
a son with autism and severe
dyslexia. Her sons behaviour
was so poor that he was asked
to leave his third school. Since
then, Elaines methods have hada transormational eect on his
learning and sel-esteem. Talk
with Elaine on 0905 675 4616
- 1.20/min*.greatvine.com/
elaine-halligan
Dr Angharad
Rudkin
Angharad is a
chartered clinicalchild psychologist
with years o experience helping
children and their parents.
Particular areas o expertise include
children suering rom stress;
developmental disorders like
autism or ADHD; mental health
issues like depression, anxiety, or
ater a bereavement or trauma.
Angharad also helps amilies
who are eeling stuck and need
support, whether because o a loss,separation or divorce, or another
big lie change. She uses Cognitive
Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and
has also been trained in other
therapies such as systemic therapy
and solution-ocused therapy. Shes
contributed to BBC Radio and TV,
and in newspapers & magazines.
Talk with Dr Angharad Rudkin
on 0906 400 6217 - 1.50/min*.greatvine.com/angharad-rudkin
Jeni Hooper
Child psychologist
and parent coach
Jeni helps parents
make sense o
the dierent ages and stages
o childhood. She loves to
Meet the
child behaviourexperts
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behaviour specialist,
whenever you need
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explore how a childs individual
strengths and abilities can be
supported and nurtured to help
them achieve their true potential.
Her areas o ocus or parents
include: building a strong, loving
relationship with a child; howto overcome challenges and
solve problems with condence;
guiding a childs learning and
behaviour rom tot to teens; and
creating a strong loving amily.
She can recommend strategies
and techniques that give parents
the tools to create lasting change.
Jeni believes that becoming a
condent parent who can copewith whatever comes their way
isnt about being perect. But
condence comes rom believing
in your ability to love your
amily - even when someone
does something that makes that
dicult. Talk with Jeni on
0906 207 2679 - 1.00 per/min*.
greatvine.com/jeni-hooper
Dr Philippa
Rundle
As a paediatrician
who specialises in
child behaviour
and development, Philippas role
is to support parents to manage
their children so that they can
relax and enjoy amily lie. Many
parents will have concerns about
the behaviour o their babies and
children as they are growing up
and developing, and Philippa
can help. Other areas o ocus
include bed-wetting, bullying,
aggression, poor concentration
and separation issues. Philippa
is also a child bereavement
counsellor or Cruse. She
regularly contributes to TV,
radio, newspapers & magazines.
Talk with Philippa on 0906 400
6226 - 1.50 per/min*.
greatvine.com/philippa-rundle
Linda BlairAuthor o The
Happy Child and
Straight Talking, or
over 30 years Linda
has worked with amilies acing
diculties. A chartered clinical
psychologist and researcher, her
aim is to help parents overcome
any behavioural and emotional
problems their child mightexperience, including eating
disorders, sleep disturbance,
bedwetting and potty training,
ears and phobias, bullying and
depression. Lindas study o child
development means she can
also explain whats happening
developmentally in other words,
how things look and eel rom a
childs point o view. That way,parents can learn how to solve
problems and give their child the
best chance to ull their potential.
Because shes learned how to
help people o all ages, she can
also help parents work through
the anxieties and eelings o
inadequacy they might eel when
their childs suering.Arrange to
talk with Linda at:
greatvine.com/linda-blair
Dr Sharon Lewis
Sharon aims to
support parents
so they can
condently
deal with the emotional and
behavioural diculties theirchild might ace. As a chartered
clinical psychologist with
15 years experience helping
children and amilies, she enjoys
promoting positive attachments
between parents and children
and sees this as a key way
to promote childrens mental
health. Sharons an expert
in developmental disorders,clinical depression, autism and
ADHD. Other specialities include
childrens sleeping diculties;
emotional and behavioural
diculties; eective discipline
strategies; building positive
attachments in the amily and
communicating eectively with
children. Talk with Dr Sharon
Lewis on 0906 400 6239 - 1.50
per/min*.greatvine.com/sharon-
lewis
* from a BT landline. Calls from other
networks and mobiles may vary. 18+.
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Expert Q & Awith Dr Rudkin
Hundreds o parents have
turned to Dr Angharad Rudkin
or advice on how to tackle
their childrens behavioural
problems. Here she answers yourmost frequently asked questions.
My child just seems badly behaved
most o the time. How can I help them
behave better?
When children know whats expected o them
and what the consequences o dierent behaviours
are, theyre more likely to behave in the way wed
like.
So be consistent with your child let them
know what the boundaries are and keep these at thesame place. I one night you order your child to bed
and the next let them stay up until 2am, theyll be
conused about what you want.
Be clear about what you want your child to
do dont give them generalised messages like Be a
good boy. Instead, spell it out. So, or example, Play
nicely or Dont hit others.
Another tip is to be condent when youre
setting boundaries say what you mean and mean
what you say. Children are very good at picking up
on eelings, and i youre not condent about asking
them to do something then they wont be condent
about doing it.
When my son decides to play up
somewhere public like the supermarket,
it can be really embarrassing. How can I
discipline him when were out and about?
It can oten eel like children deliberately havetantrums in the most public places, and this may
well be true because o all the things that are going
on around them.
Also, remember that parents tend to eel tenser
about their childs behaviour when others are
watching.
Try negotiating with your child, oering them
choices and consequences. One way o phrasing this
might be I you calm down we can stay in this shop,
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but i you carry on screaming well have to leave
immediately. Its your choice.
The key is to remain calm and try not to let
yoursel worry about what others are thinking.
Remember that most onlookers will have been, or
will be, in a similar situation at some point in their
lives.I your childs having a ull-on tantrum then try
and get them and yoursel out o that situation and
keep them sae until they calm down.
I cant get my our-year-old daughter to
do anything I ask unless I get cross. Whats
the answer?
Your childs pushing the boundaries to see
at what point youll set clear expectations. I you
only tend to do this when youre eeling cross andrustrated, its more likely that theyll push you to
this point next time too.
Try setting boundaries clearly and condently
when youre not cross, then i your child starts
pushing remain as calm as possible by taking deep
breaths and imagining a relaxing place. Theyll keep
trying to press your angry buttons until they learn
that theres no point.
So, i you can remain calm throughout,
youll be teaching them a valuable lesson (that you
cant get what you want by making people cross)
and or yoursel (that you can be a more eective
parent by staying calm).
My six-year-old is rightened o all sorts
o things. What can I do to help?
As they grow up and their awareness o the
world increases, children develop ears o dierent
things. I your childs naturally quite earul theyll
need an extra bit o reassurance and support.
We all tend to avoid situations or things that
make us eel rightened, but the more we avoid it
the greater that ear becomes. So encourage your
child to manage their anxiety rather than run away
rom it.
You can do this by talking to them in a rational
way about their ears. So, or example, say Yes,
spiders might not be very nice to look at but they
wont cause you any harm and theyre more scared
o you than you are o them.
Or you could help your child write a project or
create a scrapbook about the thing that rightens
them the more you know about something, the
less scary it usually is.
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Talk with Dr Rudkin
www.greatvine.com/angharad-rudkin
0906 400 62171.50/min from a BT landline. Calls from other networks and mobilesmay vary. 18+.
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1Be consistent -
your child depends
on you to provide
clear boundaries and
predictability, day in
day out. - Angharad Rudkin
2Mean what you say
and say what you mean
- otherwise how can
you expect your child
to believe what youre
saying? -Angharad Rudkin
3Understand that
children arent littleadults - they think and
see things dierently to
us. -Angharad Rudkin
4Model the kinds o
behaviour you want
to see in your children.
This is a lot more
eective than telling
them what they should be doing.
-Angharad Rudkin
5Pick your battlesand enjoy your
children. Children
have a great sense o
un, so join in with this
and dont worry about the small
things. -Angharad Rudkin
Top tips forbetter
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6Praise their eforts
and attitude, looking
or the qualities they
show rather than
purely ocusing on the
end result and achievement.
For example, You waited until I
nished talking beore you said
what you wanted to say. That
was patient. It takes a lot o
sel-control to wait your turn.
-Elaine Halligan
7
Establish rules
by working out your
values in all areas o
amily lie and stick to
them involve your
child in setting the rules.
-Elaine Halligan
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Make sure there
are meaningul
rewards or good
behaviour. The best
rewards neednt cost
anything. -Elaine Halligan
9Encourage sel-
reliance skills rom
an early age. The more
your child can do things
or themselves and be in
charge o their own emotions, the
less theyll blame others or how
theyre eeling. -Elaine Halligan
10Really listen
to your child
by encouraging
them to talk
about their
eelings and emotions. The key
is to listen without judgement.
-Elaine Halligan
11Walk a while
in your childs
shoes: get
to know their
strengths,
temperament and moods. This
will give you ways to infuence
them and reduce confict and
conrontation. When theyre
very little you can distract them
with a avourite activity, and as
they grow up you can use your
knowledge to oer more carrots
than sticks. -Jeni Hooper
12Be a parent irst
and a riend
second. Parents
have to be leaders
and willing to be
unpopular in the short term over
important issues. Set boundaries
with our or ve positively phrased
rules such as Be kind rather than
Dont hit. -Jeni Hooper
13Aim to praise
your child ve
times more oten
than you give
directions. Oer
specic praise that shows youve
noticed and valued what your
childs done. Honest but positive
eedback wont create unrealistic
sel-belie, but telling your child
they are brilliant at everything
might. -Jeni Hooper
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Aim to give
your child
a magical
childhood
where lie
is exciting and interesting.
Discover the small things that
excite your child and rouse their
curiosity. Save the big things or
an occasional treat to keep them
special. -Jeni Hooper
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