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GLBT News—April, 2012

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“Half of the American people have never read a newspaper. Half never voted for President. One hopes it is the same half.” Gore Vidal

By Nate Wessel GLSEN GreaterCincinnati Prom 2012is at the FreedomCenter on May 5ththis year from 7 p.m.to midnight. The event is open topeople of all ages,Gay, straight, or other-wise. For the last 11years, Prom has been achance for youngpeople from all overthe region to celebrate

a high school traditionin style. Guests under21 or still in schoolget in free while thoseover 21 pay $65 inadvance and get din-ner and two drinktickets. Separate DJs willwork two dance floorsand David Dewitt ofGuerrilla Queer Barand others will join inwith two photo boothsand roving photo-

graphers to capture theperfect date nightsouvenir. The youthdance floor willfeature non-alcoholicdrinks and snacksserved by GLSENvolunteers and a DJwith much more thanjust the classics. Guests are stronglyencouraged to RSVPin advance at www.glsenprom.com andadvised to plan

transportation ahead.Several streets will beclosed downtownbecause of concurrentevents. All proceeds ofProm benefit GLSENGreater Cincinnati. GLSEN works toensure safe andaccepting K-12schools in the Cincin-nati area regardless ofa student’s sexualorientation or genderidentity.

GLSEN Prom to be May 5th this year

Wednesday, April11, 8 p.m. until 11p.m. take a standagainst “THE HATEBUS” AKA: Thevalue bus. Marriage Equality,sponsor of the event,Ohio has planned

Take a standagainst theHate Bus

Marriage EqualityRallys all acrossOhio... their last eventtook place on March24, with more than3,645 members show-ing up. They alsosponsored events inCincinnati and Co-lumbus with morethan 400 people atboth events. Sponsors of “THEHATE BUS” issued

the following State-ments:

Family ResearchCouncil

“Champions mar-riage and family as thefoundation of civiliza-tion, the seedbed ofvirtue, and the well-spring of society.”Properly understood,“families” are formedonly by ties of blood,marriage, or adoption,

and “marriage” is aunion of one man andone woman.Heritage Foundation “Proponents ofreligious freedomhave firmly estab-lished that same-sexmarriage threatensreligious freedom in anumber of ways.” The hate bus hastraveled to hundredsof schools and handed

out packets with thesestatements inside.Stand up and protectour local teens in ourhometown against thehate. Join us for ourCandlelight Vigil. Bring your candles/signs in remembranceof those lives lost toGay teen suicides! Remember Billy Lucas Age: 15RIP: September 9th,

2010 Seth Walsh Age: 13RIP: 9/28/2010 Asher Brown Age:13 RIP: 9/28/2010 Tyler Clementi Age:18 RIP: 9/30/2010 Raymond ChaseAge: 19 RIP:10/1/2010 Jamey RodemeyerAge: 14 RIP: 2011. It starts at 8 p.m. so

See Hate, Page 7, Col. 1

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Contributors—Clare Fazackerley and Nate Wessel

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“Hatred and bitterness can never cure the disease, only love can do that.” Martin Luther King

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Mother SaysBy Michael Chanak

Goose

His name was GlennHimebaugh and theyear was 1967. This

towards. Now, 40 plus yearslater I am grateful.I have written forsome months about

down. Ask anyone Ihave worked with todevelop the history ofthe old Coalition,PRIDE, or marshals; itis a lot of work. Private sectorcompanies generallyhave an archive/history department.Why? It is a thingcalled “institutionalmemory.” If you donot know how you gothere, how do youavoid duplication, orhow do you thinkdifferently, how doyou do it better? Itreally is more thanjust assigning a nameto an event as somewant to do – and thenget it wrong. There is a long richhistory of how thelocal communitiesmade it to today. Wewill be celebratingseveral milestonessoon. I still do not likeGlenn Himebaugh,after all these years,but I do have a deepappreciation of theskills he imparted. Write it down!

Write it down

guy hadthe task ofteachingmy fresh-man/soph-omorecourses in Journalismat Kent State StarkCounty. Glenn, who I grewto hate, was tough.You know the kind,long before comput-ers, he dictated astory; we took noteson a pad of paper witha No. 2 pencil andthen composed a storyon an electric type-writer. Of course, toinstill panic, it was atimed exercise. If youfinished before thetime, you could useproof reading symbolsto correct. Daily he quizzed uson world and nationalevents and there wasnever an “A” grade.He said there was nosuch thing as perfec-tion just the striving

localhistory/herstorybeing lostdailybecause

either we do not care,or are too lazy or careselectively when“stories” involveyouth. It really shouldbe a “duh” moment ifyou get as manyrequests as I do, viathe GLBT Center, orelsewhere, for some-one who can beinterviewed aboutglbtqpia history inCincinnati. Yet, our bad, thetopic has come again,Caracole turns 25years old this year,New Spirit MCC turns40 years in April 2013,and the GLBT Center20 years old in Sep-tember 2013. Wow!In each case, someonehas been assigned toscout out the detailsand get them written

By David White The CincinnatiPRIDE ExecutiveCommittee is in need

Volunteers needed for Cincinnati PRIDE 2012 Festival and Parade

of volunteers forCincinnati’slargest andgreatest PRIDEcelebration ever. To be held onSaturday, June White

30th, the CincinnatiPRIDE Parade willkickoff from Eggles-

ton Avenue at 11 a.m.and end at SawyerPoint where thePRIDE Festival will

be held fromnoon to 9 p.m. Volunteering isa great way toshow yoursupport for theGLBT com-

munity – and wewelcome large groupsthat are interested in

volunteering together.Many shifts are onlytwo hours each, soyou, your family andfriends will have timeto both volunteer andenjoy the festivitiestogether. Volunteers areneeded for everythingfrom Friday night’sPub Crawl drinkbooths to the volun-teer tent, festivalsetup, teardown andmore. To sign up, pleasevisit www.cincinnati-pride.org or [email protected] andinclude your name,e.mail, cell phone and

t-shirt size. Volunteersare required to attendan orientation sessiontwo weeks prior to theevent and schedulingfor specific positions

will begin May 1st. We look forward toa fun and successfulyear with a longerparade, new festivallocation and an even

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TaxingMattersBy Clare J.Fazackerley

We’re all horren-dously busy; who hastime to get all the

IRS even pays interest.However, you onlyhave three years fromthe date the tax isconsidered paid (April17th, 2012) to file arefund claim for 2011,so don’t procrastinate

short-term informalextension. If you needmore time, you canenter into an install-ment payment agree-ment by phone, online,or with the assistanceof a professional. With the new “FreshStart” initiative, IRSmay even waive somepenalties if you’reunemployed. But theworst thing you can dois ignore them. If you have multipleunfiled years and fearthat you owe a lot oftax – or know that youdo – it won’t go away.The balance will growwith penalties andinterest, and collectionwill get more aggres-sive. Call IRS and askfor transcripts, orcontact a professional.You have severalpaths available tosleeping better.Choose one. As with any com-plex tax area, do yourresearch (see theinstructions to Form4868 and/or 7004,

and IRS publicationsregarding penalties)or consult a compe-tent, experienced,licensed tax profes-sional. Clare Fazackerley,CPA, 1TaxFinancial,holds memberships inthe National Associa-tion of Tax Profession-als, the NationalSociety of Accoun-tants, and the Associa-tion for FinancialCounseling, Planningand Education.

Next meeting of theButler County -PFLAG - LGBTQgroup will be Sunday,April 29th, 7 p.m. -8:30 p.m. at The ZenCenter, 114 NorthMain Street, 2nd Floor(2 doors West from theRiver-bank Cafe) inHamilton For more Inform-ation, contact Beth [email protected]

Tax extensionspenalties and

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recordstogether & filetaxes on time?Will anextension helpyou? Many of us havefriends who fileextensions every year,then get their taxreturns filed in thesummer or fall. Someof us don’t receivecritical informationuntil the last minuteand can’t get it done.IRS has a form forthat! The 4868 grantsan extension to Octo-ber 15th to file a 1040,which would be duethis year by April17th. If you have apartnership or Sub-chapter S corporation,you file a Form 7004to get an extension toSeptember 15th. Notethat the SubS returnwas due March 15th,though. What are the penal-ties if you extend, or ifyou don’t? What ifyou don’t have themoney to pay? First, if you have arefund coming, therewill be no penalty.

too long,or you’lllose it! If you’regoing toowe tax,

you must pay theexpected balance due(or at least 90 percentof the total tax) by thedue date to avoidpenalties. Failure topay and failure to filepenalties are steep;they each run up to 25percent of the tax due– and don’t forget theinterest. Because of the pen-alties, it’s better to filethe tax return on time– even if you don’thave the money to pay.IRS will send a noticein a few weeks. If youcan pay then, or in afew months’ time,they’ll grant you a

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NateBy Nate Wessel

I get to take myboyfriend to prom for

early teen years. I havemy shoes picked outalready: red hightops Ibought in DC twoyears ago, a place I’mnow eager to returnfrom. I should say: I haveBEEN to Prom before.A high school prom Iwent to with a friend,and the GLSEN Cin-cinnati prom. I workedthe last three years asa volunteer at GLSENProm. I started asfruity-nonalcoholic-drink-mixing-person. Istuck in the littleumbrellas. I guess I

Prom Night the first time this year. Not just this boy-friend, but any. I neverhad a proper promdate in high school.The wastelands (ok,suburbs) of Ohioweren’t the best placefor romance in my

made good drinks.Now I’m on the board. I say this is my firstlegit prom date. I thinkyou’d have to know usto get that. See, he’svolunteering too thisyear. There’s no limoor anything. My momis not around to watchme walk down thestairs in my gown togreet the nervousgentleman, my dad toask him awkwardquestions, ensuringmy virginal safety. I’llride there on a bicycle,loaded no doubt witht-shirts, swedish fishand grenadine. He’llarrive an hour tooearly on his motor-cycle, a bowtie thepride of his meticu-lous ensemble, a largeand precarious featherin his hat. We’ll meetfurtively on the stairsbetween arrangingchairs and taking pic-tures, perhaps even onthe dancefloor, sneak-ing moments togetherbetween industriousmerry-making. Icouldn’t imagine abetter date.

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that I would whine andshout bad words at thesky. But God also knewI would come to accept

homophobic churchthree years later when Iwould finally have toadmit to myself that Iwas Gay. Now, God has a senseof humor but this wasn’tsome sick joke or even atest to see if I couldcontinue to “play itstraight” in an effort toplease him. God knewthe exact moment Iwould start questioningwhat I’d been taught, theexact moment I woulddig into the Bible formyself to find out whatGod really said and theexact moment I wouldrealize that with his helpI was more than strongenough to get through alife that would be differ-ent and harder than most. You’ve been told thatGod hates you, thatyou’re an abomination.Please understand thatanyone who would saysuch things doesn’tknow God and they arecertainly not a Christian.

God sent his Son becausehe loves everyone, notjust some. Christians arecalled to share God’slove and mercy, not passjudgment on those whoare different. Goddoesn’t hate you; on thecontrary, God has plansfor you!God loves you and that’ssomething no one cantake away from youunless you let them.Don’t let them. Instead,know that we’ve beencreated strong and toughto handle a life that isdifferent and challeng-ing because God hasgroomed us to do some-thing so many Christiansdon’t do: Question whatis wrong, and then fightfor what is right.

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is pending in theHouse EducationCommittee, and theEqual Housing andEmployment Act isworking its waythrough the legislature. Equality Ohio needsyour help to movethese pro-equalitymeasures forward. Ourlegislators need to hearfrom us and be edu-cated on our issues.When we tell ourstories, we changehearts and minds. Wemake a difference andchange the conversation. Register for LobbyDay today! As in past years,Lobby Day concludeswith a receptionfeaturing many of ourelected officials and

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Wins and Losses Why is this impor-tant? This year, Equal-ity Ohio was able topass a version of theComprehensive SafeSchools Act. Unfortu-nately, it did notinclude enumerationand thus fell short ofexpectations. Thegood news is thatthere are other chancesto further equality. Astand-alone enumer-ated safe schools bill

community leaders. To find and registerfor a legislative updateand regional trainingnear you now, contact Kim Welter, directorof Programs and Out-reach, Equality Ohio,61 Jefferson Ave.Columbus, OH 43215419-410-0156 cell614-224-0400 office614-224-4421 faxwww.equalityohio.org.

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This year’s PFLAGstate conference willbe held in Lima onSaturday, April 14. It’s a great way tocompare notes withPFLAGers fromaround Ohio,participate in work-shops and hearinformative speakers. See the conferenceschedule and registerat http://www.pflaglima.org/#!ohio-conference .Registration is $15 perperson and includesbreakfast and lunch.You can registeronline and then payvia PayPal or mail acheck to PFLAG LimaPO Box 5571, Lima,OH 45802. Michael Ley,

PFLAG LimaSecretary said: “Wewill have a Fridaynight event. More of ameet and greet, lowkey evening. Iencourage you all toattend, but need toknow if you arespecifically attending.All events will be heldat the Veteran’sMemorial Civic andConvention Center inLima <http://www.-limaciviccenter.com>

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The 2012 PFLAGCincinnati scholarshipapplication deadline isApril 20. Check PFLAG’swebsite for details andapplication forms.Scholarship amountsfor 2012 have not beendecided yet but will beno more than $2,000. PFLAG meets at Mt.Auburn PresbyterianChurch, 103 Wm.Howard Taft, at 7 p.m

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