Fundamentals of Attraction

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Dynamics ofAttraction

T h e F u n d a m e n t a l s

o A t t r a c t i o n

L u k e P a o l i n i


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Fundamentals o Attraction

Copyright 2011, Luke Paolini

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2. Legal

3. About Dynamics o Attraction

5. Why Do You Need This Book?

8. The First Step To Change

9. What is Attraction?

10. Identity

11 . Attractive Belies

14. Attractive Liestyle

20. Attractive Communication24. How To Meet Women

26. Day Game

28. Night Game

30. How Tos

32. What I Teach In Person

34. Contact Details


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Dynamics o Attraction is aGeelong based dating consultation

business specically created to

provide coaching services or men

seeking to improve their dating and

relationships with women.

Please note :

Dynamics o Attraction will provide you with the tools and

knowledge to create a a more attractive liestyle. Please

understand that is your responsibility to put those tools to use

on a daily basis to see measurable improvements in

your dating lie.

About Us

Thank you or downloading this ree eBook. I invite you to

open your mind to a new realm o dating advice that goes

above and beyond anything you have read beore, so you can

start really getting the results you want in your dating lie.


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About Dynamics o Attraction

The vision o Dynamics o Attraction is to educate, motivate

and inspire our clients to achieve and grow on their path to-ward a more attractive and condent sel.

Through exercises and education, we will provide the tools orour clients to really see results beore their own eyes; whetherthats having a un chat with the local Gloria Jeans barista, ororging a deep, emotional connection with the woman o theirdreams.

As the ounder o Dynamics o Attraction, Id like to introducemysel. My name is Luke Paolini and I wanted to give you anidea o what my business is about and what I aim to achieve.


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I am really excited oer this ree ebook to give you a tasteo the inormation and tools I have learned over the past 3

years to help me become a more attractive and condentguy with women.

This book is designed to give you my Fundamentals oAttraction; the basics you need to not only get better withwomen, but to improve your sel-esteem, condence andsocial skills as well.

Ater reading it, I encourage you to keep checking backon my blog, like us on Facebook, and give me a call to talkabout the live consultation services we provide, to reallynail down a plan or you to tackle this area o your lie headon and get the results YOU want.

I created this business out o a massive realisation : thatbeing good with women is a learnable skill! I will explainhow this is so in the rst ew chapters, so read on anddiscover how you can improve your dating lie today.

Thanks guys,

Luke PaoliniFounderDynamics o Attraction

About Dynamics o Attraction


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Why You Need This BookThis book is the undamentals o how to meet, date andattract women. You might ask well, I already know its allabout being rich and good looking, what could this bookpossibly tell me that I didnt know already? Well, Ill explainthat in detail below, right now.

I you are anything like me, you had useless dating advicegrowing up, such as be yoursel or be condent, or worse begoodlooking or be rich. I want to explain how these beliesabout dating came to be, because when you realise that the

belies you hold on dating are built on absolute bullshit, youbegin to question them. It all begins with why?.

I have always been a why? person. Why is the ocean blue,why is swearing in your ebook unproessional? So naturally, Iquestioned why most guys laugh at the prospect o mybusiness. Why they think its not or them or they could see itbeing or guys with little condence.

When I got into this, I was a pretty decent guy. I had riends, Ihad just come out o a reasonably successul 3 yearrelationship, I liked to be social, I worked and was in school.But I had no idea on how to get results with women.

Now that I have studied resources on social psychology,communication, dating, persuasion, approached hundredso women in bars, clubs, coee shops, bookstores and more,I eel condent to pass on what I have learned to others. Butstrangely, most guys arent really that interested.


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I realised, through my study o this area, that I understoodwhy most guys werent interested : learning to get better

with women didnt t into their model o reality.

In the puzzle o lie, people have already lled in the parto women and dating with puzzle pieces such as you getgirls with money and looks.

When I try to show them the pieces I use in my own lie,such as women respond to certain behavioural traits thatcan be learned through practice, they dont eel they NEEDthat puzzle piece. Their puzzle looks nice the way it is. Plus,everyone elses puzzle looks like this, why should theychange theirs?

Welcome to a phenomena o society called Social Proo.

Social Proois where people assume the belies or actions oothers reect correct behavior or a given situation.

Basically, people assume that what everyone else isperceievedto be doing is what is producing their results.But where are these belies coming rom that MOSTPEOPLE believe?

Social Programming is the source o the belies aboutwomen and dating being streamed into our minds every-day. Political correctness, Disney lms, chick icks, rom-coms, Cleo and Vogue, billboards, pornography, the 70s

eminism movement all join orces to bombard our mindson a daily basis sub-conciously through all orms o media,rom television to radio to print. Social programming isthird hand experience being streamed into your sub-concious mind, shaping how you view reality.

The people who have the most success in lie are those thatbase reality on frst hand experience. Not third hand.

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The First Step To ChangeThe 2 steps to rid yoursel o this third hand world view :

1. Find new belies to take the place o the old belies.2. Prove the new belies true to your sub-concious throughrst hand experience.

Pretty simple. You need to prove all those Disney movies,romantic comedies, Cleo magazines and more wrong.

You need to go out there, meets tons o women and reinorcea new set o belies about dating that are based in REALITY.

So i you got this ar, you might ask Well then, what REALLYattracts women, i its not looks, money or a good job? Glad

you asked!

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Sexual attraction is dierent between men and women.

A males strongest desire is to mate with the most physicallyattractive women. A emales strongest desire is to matewith the highest status males.Sounds pretty controversial, doesnt it? Not a very politicallycorrect theory. But probably the closest to how realityactually is.

Status is an interesting thing. The manager o a nightclubmight be super high value in his own club, and get all thegirls. But i he goes anywhere else, hes just another guy.

The same with a local celebrity. Sure, hes amazing in hisown town, but anywhere else, hes just another guy.

But what i women dont have a context to determine your

status with? What i theres no nightclub hierarchy? Thenshe has to go o the next best thing : your behaviour.

How you behave is a strong indicator to women o howeectively you will teach your ospring by example. Actlike a pussy, women will not be attracted, and rightly so.Because then their children will act like pussies, and theirgenes will be weeded out o existence!

This is what this book is designed to do : instill the belies,the liestyle and the communication o a high status guy.

I you harbor any thoughts like So this is just a book onhow to trick mysel into thinking Im high status?, you areright. That is a huge core concept o what I want to talkabout right now. So lets do it!

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Think about this or a minute : did you DECIDE your identity?As you were growing up, did you say to yoursel OK, Im goingto be condent, and unny, and sexy, andawesome...? No, I dont think you did. I certainly didnt. I justrode the waves and washed up wherever the hell I washed upor 21 years o my lie. Then I gured it out.

People are shaped by the reactions o others. They draw theiridentity, or sel image, rom processing social eedback romtheir peers and social programming. We are socialcreatures, this process makes sense rom an evolutionaryperspective. I we didnt soak up the eedback we get romothers, we could be outcast rom society or being weird orunstable. Fitting in and not rocking the boat are ancientorms o social programming designed to continue thesurvival o our genes.

Dont get me wrong; this process has its place. We need tolearn socially or our most basic unctions, such ascommunication, eeling sympathy or others, etc. But theproblems come when we start shaping our belies about theworld, and more importantly about ourselves, throughmisleading social eedback rom outside sources. Feedbackthat is tained by advertisers, screen-writers and gossip maga-zines. Remember, the golden rule is : the most popular thing

isnt always the right thing.

You must DECIDE that your identity wont be dictated to youby the reactions or belies o others anymore. You are incontrol o your identity and your belies, not your social groupor television or advertisers.

With that said, you are ready to take the rst step and accept

new belies about women and dating that will really help you.

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Having a belie system about women and dating thatnaturally draws women to you is critical in becoming adesirable man. This belie system is based on one simpleprinciple :

Abundance Mentality VS Scarcity Mentality

Women are attracted to men with percieved resources,with perceieved abundance. Men who exude thebehavioural traits o abundance.

Think o the most desperate guy you can think o (hope-ully not yoursel, but even so, that will change ater thischapter!). You can just tell hes needy. You can just tell hesclingy. He doesnt have anything going or him, so he hasan air o desperation about him. This isnt attractive. Even iby everyone elses standards he DOESNT have anything

going or him, its all about how he carries himsel, hisbelies about himsel, his liestyle and his behaviour.

Now, think o the guy whos got ALL the girls. He haswomen all over him, calling him all day, asking him to takethem out. How would that guy behave? Hed probably takeages to reply to text messages, would be blowing girls obecause hes so busy, and generally be pretty relaxed

about EVERYTHING. Hes got it together, no rush, nodesperation. Just chill. Also, he doesnt care i he comesacross badly or i he doesnt please her because hey,theres 5 other girls calling him each day. Remember, eveni this ISNT reality, its the core belies o this state thatdraw MORE women to him. They sense he is desirable, sohe becomes more attractive.

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Im going to give you 3 belies that you should internalize to

become more attractive to women. They all encompass anabundance mindset :

1. You have an abundance o resources in your lie.Abundance2. You dont care what people think o you.Indierence3. You are the most important person in the world.

Sel-esteemAnyone who ever got anywhere in lie had delusions ograndeur and made them reality, as I alluded to in What isAttraction? This is crucial to your growth, believe it!

You are probably thinking Im not like that; how could thosebelies get girls anyway, theyre so conceited!I had one o my girls text me the other night, I quote : You areso conceited! Its really sexy.

Women want you to love yoursel. Its attractive. They wantyou to be their rock o sel-esteem. Love yoursel man!

These attractive belies permeate this entire book. AttractiveLiestyle and Communication are built on these 3 belies.

The next page explains the reason WHY women are attractedto these belies in detail. Remember that she will pick up onthese belies through two avenues, your Liestyle and yourCommunication. Once you have these belies down, withpractice and knowledge, you will see your results with womenskyrocket!

So, here are explanations as to how each belie is attractive to

women. The core reasons are highlighted in bold.

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You have an abundance o resources in your lie.

You have so much going on in your lie that any onewoman is a tiny microcosm on your radar o lie. You treatwomen with respect, o course, but you dont allow herto get to you, emotionally or otherwise. Why would you?

There are 5 other women texting you, with more addingyou on Facebook every day, more passing you on the streetetc. Women are attracted to men with abundantbehaviour, start behaving like you have it all and guesswhat. They will come!

You dont care what people think o you.

Women are extremely insecure, in general. They are moreinuenced by social proo and social programming thaneven men. I you can show them that these things dontconcern you, because you are above them, that is

extremely attractive. You are telling the world I dont needyour bullshit rules. Women are attracted to thesel-condence living this indierence takes.

You are the most important person in the world.

When you view yoursel as important, you automaticallyeel better about yoursel. You eel sel-esteem, and what is

more attractive than someone with high sel-esteem?Because you eel important, you have standards or whatyou will and wont accept rom yoursel and others. This isan indicator o status to women. But remember, and thiswill be discussed in Communication and Liestyle, there is abig dierence between saying you are importantandexuding high sel esteem behaviour.

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An attractive liestyle is one that builds on the core

Attractive Belies : abundance o resources, not caring whatpeople think and being the most important person in theworld.

Think o how you would live i those belies truly were parto your way o lie. Here is an example to get you thinking :

- You would be living lie to the ull, ree o ear and doubt,pursuing your dreams because you know that the onlyailure is not taking action. You also know you have accessto so many resources that you could ALWAYS nd a way.You have the sel esteem rom your sel importance to ndcourage within and achieve your goals.

There are 3 steps to living an Attractive Liestyle :

1. Meeting Women (Abundance)2. Improving Yoursel (Sel-esteem)3. Overcoming Rejection (Indierence)

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Step 1 to Attractive Liestyle :MEETING WOMEN.

To get good with women, you need to meet and date lotso them. The method I primarily used over the last 3 yearsto get my social and dating skills up to scratch is verysimilar to cold calling used in sales; it is called thecold approach.

When you approach a emale stranger on the street, in abar, a club, or in a cae or bookstore, that is a cold

approach. You get a clean slate to practice your eyecontact, your body language, conversational skills etc.

I you want to get good with women, this method is theastest way to do so. Unless you work in a very social job,you wont be meeting new people all that oten in lie. Bylearning the art o the cold approach, you will ast trackyour social skills years ahead o most other people.

By taking your new set o belies into your coldapproaching, you will be re-inorcing them into yoursubconcious mind until they grow to become part o whoyou are. This is really the only way to do this, unless you liketalking into a mirror all day using afrmations.

This is the second step o change, learning new belies byproving them through rst hand experience.

REMEMBER : To succeed in lie, you must be prepared to dothe things that the other guys arent. Specically,approaching hot girls during the day as you go about yourbusiness. This will put you in the top 5% o ballsiest men inthe world. That title alone is worth the trouble, right?

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Meeting women through cold approach will be terriying at

rst. This is normal, and everyone experiences it to dierentdegrees. At this point, I eel butteries in my stomach, wherethere used to be physical pain at the thought o approaching awoman.

But through persistence and action, you will systematicallyde-sensitize yoursel to this ear. Everytime you approach, youare destroying the old belies and replacing them with the 3Attractive Belies.

1. You dont care about the outcome, because you know thenext girl is right over there. (ABUNDANCE)

2. You dont care what she, or people around, think becausethere are always other girls. (INDIFFERENCE)

3. You are important because you are the one taking charge

o your lie, you have balls, and even i she doesnt realise this,you dont care anyway. (SELF-ESTEEM)

How does this work? Because its THE INEVITABLE TRUTH. YouWILL realise each approach doesnt matter. You WILL realisethat you dont care what they think. You WILL realise you aretaking charge and you have balls most guys dont have.

This is how you change your lie.Although meeting new women consistently is the astest wayto improving your social skills and dating lie, dont neglect thesupplemental skills to achieving more with women,IMPROVING YOURSELF and OVERCOMING REJECTION.

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Step 2 to Attractive Liestyle : IMPROVING YOURSELF

I am not sure where the belie that I am happy with how Iam came rom, because it is utterly pathetic. In lie, you areeither improving, or stagnating. Lie is either gettingbetter or worse, in all areas. This statement o I am happywith how I am is an excuse or laziness and procrastination.

To live a a lie o abundance takes investment in yoursel.

Improving yoursel in the ollowing 3 areas will have thehighest impact on your approach-to-date ratio :

1. Improving your sel-condence, social understandingand social skills through approaching women, learningabout attraction and dating, and getting outside yoursocial comort zone.

2. Improving your sense o style, through groomingtechniques and ashion advice. Invest in high qualityclothing and shoes in a style that ts your new belies!

3. Improving your physical health and tness. A no brainer,this is why gyms are packed with guys. They know womenare attracted to healthy men. Invest in a gymmembership or personal trainer, or at least start eating

healthy with moderate daily exercise.Although this advice sounds obvious, most guys will skipstep 1, or just wing it. Why? The same reason anyone skipsthings that are hard, or uncontrollable actors : ear. It isnt

THAT hard to have a good diet and work out. It IS hard, ormost guys, to approach new women consistently and getrejected. This is why Step 3 o Attractive Liestyle is critical.

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Step 3 to Attractive Liestyle : OVERCOMING REJECTION

I realise I could have included this section in the MEETINGWOMEN step, as it goes hand in hand with it. But I realisedthat this is the SOLE REASON WHY GUYS SKIP STEP 1.

I mean think about it, i men in our world didnt have acrippling ear o rejection, women wouldnt be able to leavethe house. They would get proposals every 5 steps they tookrom every random guy on the street.

Rejection is purely a matter o belie. A belie, I might add, thatis ounded on social proo and social programming, just likethe rest o your belies. I you get rejected, it means you arenta good person or people dont like you. Ugh.

I want you to think about rejection or a minute. Is rejectionsomething worth caring about? Is rejection based in an

abundance mindset, or a scarcity mindset? That there is alimited number o people who can like you, and by beingrejected, you are dwindling that number down?

No. Rejection is one thing. It is simply a REFLECTION o YOURBELIEF that you arent araid to TRY. You arent araid to go orwhat you want. Thats all. Its a sign o courage. It is a sign oindierence, o abundance and o sel-esteem.

What is the key to an abundance mindset? That no singleoutcome is important. That the only important thing is you.

That you are improving yoursel. That you are meetingwomen. That you are overcoming rejection and ear. That isthe only thing that matters.

I you arent being rejected in lie, you arent trying hardenough.

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Lets take a more logical perspective on rejection. Its gonnahappen one way or another. You will be rejected, no matterhow awesome you think you are. The key is accepting it.

Here are a couple o reasons why rejection is inevitable, soyou might as well overcome the ear o it :

- She might have a boyriend.

Note, this is NOT a valid excuse or avoiding the approach.

Even i she HAS A GUY TALKING TO HER, you still have ashot. It just means she is TALKING TO SOME GUY. Balls up,approach and accept the outcome. Abundance.

- You might not be her physical type.

Some girls respond really well to tall guys, others to shorterguys. Again, this is NOT a valid excuse or avoiding the

approach. Do not even start with well, she probablydoesnt like asian/short/at guys. That doesnt matter. Whatmatters is YOU and YOUR APPROACH. Stop worrying aboutthe outcome, start worrying about developing yourAttractive Liestyle.

There are many, many more reasons why you will probably

get rejected. The beauty is you have control over the onesthat have the most impact on women, your belies, yourliestyle and your communication.

Speaking o communication, lets get down to what mostguys want to know : what the hell do you SAY to women?

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As with everything else in this book, it boils down to the 3core belies again :

1. Sub-Communicating Abundance through channels.2. Sub-Communicating Indierence through channels.3. Sub-Communicating Sel-importance through channels.

Now, on some level, guys might realise the abundance part obeing attractive. But or the wrong reasons. They think tellingher about their Porsche or investment banking career will get

her interested. This might work on gold diggers, but or themajority o women, this will put them to sleep, or worse.

Why is this so? Isnt this communicating abundance? Actually,quite the opposite. This subcommunicates insecurity. Why?Because she imagines you NEED these things to eel secure.By being upront about them, trying to show them o as yourbest trait, you are sub-communicating that you need that to

eel important. The term over-compensating is used most otenby women when they are describing this situation.

I will explain how sub-communication works, then explaineach o the 3 belies in relation to communicating withwomen.

Sub-communication is reading between the lines, it is theintention behind the communication. The best example is theGuy reeling o his accomplishments to his bored date. Here isthe interaction :

Guy (Communication) : So I was driving my Porsche downthe driveway o my mansion out o the solid gold gates o mymansion...

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Guy (Sub-communication) : Look, I have stu. You like stu,right? This is the stu girls like right? You like me now right?Look, I have all this stu.

Sure, it might not seem that obvious unless you werelooking or it. But women ARE looking or it. They arealways attuned to your intentions. Much more oten thanmen, women will say so what youre saying is or you aretalking like, because they are THE CHOOSERS. They NEED tospot intent, or the survival o their children. Men with il-

intent are dangerous to women.

So going back to the 3 belies, abundance, indierence andsel-importance. These are intentions, arent they? Beliesare a orm o intention. They direct the way you act, so theyare intent, in a way. Now, is the Guy sub-communicatingabundant intentions, or scarce intentions?

He is obviously trying to impress her. That comes rom themindset o I want you to be impressed so you will like me,because I want something rom you. Scarcity.

Here is an example o a Man who is sub-communicatingattractive traits :

Man (Communication) : So I was doing my laundry today,

when I realised I was bored out o my mind so I decidedto go buy a puppy. *pauses to check phone*. I now have acheeky Maltese called Roger, he has already destroyed myplace...Maltese are hilarious dogs.

Man (Sub-communication) : This is my lie, I do what I wantwhen I eel like it. I you like it, thats cool, i you dont thatscool too. I like to laugh, so lets have a joke and some un.



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Notice how what the Man is saying is just a cute story.

about his day. The intent has nothing to do with her, hecould be telling this story to his mother. Its just interesting,and because he has a mindset o abundance, indierenceand sel-esteem, he simply wants to share un stories withpeople.

The key to attractive communication is understanding thechannels o communication and applying the belies to

them. The three channels (everything comes in 3sstrangely) are :

1. Body language2. Voice tonality3. The words, topic and direction o conversation

I you dont communicate the same sub-communicationsthrough each channel, you will come across as strange orincongruent. This means you are sending mixed signals.

This will make the woman eel uneasy or pressured.

You must send the same sub-communications through allchannels to deliver your intent well.

The next page will list the belies and how they areconveyed through each channel rom a practical stand-

point so that you may reproduce them or yoursel in yourinteractions with women.

Attractive Communication is very complex, so Irecommend taking at least a basic package withDynamics o Attraction to help nail down where you arecoming across incongruently in your communication withwomen, so you can get better with women much aster.



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1. Body Language

- Relaxed, with limbs spread out, hands restingcomortably.

- Leaning back, head slightly tilted to the side or back, justeeling relaxed.

- Slow, deliberate movements to communicate indierence.

- Deep breaths, strong eye contact when talking andlistening.

2. Voice Tone

- Deep, relaxed voice.

- Use a neutral tonality when speaking, avoid high pitched

or squeaky tonality.- Use pauses to create tension when explaining something,or telling a story. This communicates sel-importance.

- Louder is better, always aim louder, especially in busyvenues.

3. The words, topic and direction o conversation

- Playul, un and interesting is the aim.

- Talk about yourselves, interests, your surroundings,whatever comes to mind, as long as its playul, un,interesting.

- Use playul teasing to create tension, this is attractive

because it shows indierence, and sel-esteem.



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How To Meet Women

Now you have a strong oundation on the most attractive

belies, liestyle and communication you can use wheninteracting with women, its time to decide on HOW you aregoing to meet them.

There are many things you can do to increase the amount owomen you meet, its a matter o how much time you haveavailable to set aside or this part o your lie. Remember,meeting women is part o an attractive liestyle, so you shouldconsider setting at least an hour a day to interacting with newwomen in some way.

Here a ew ideas on meeting women, including pros and conso each method :

- Online dating sitesPROs : Guarenteed single women, get a glimpse o herpersonality and physical appearance through her prole.

CONs : Lots o upront get to know each other internet chat,hard to establish an emotional connection over the internet,cant express personality through internet.

- Meeting women through cold approachPROs : Extremely exible, meet women anywhere. Buildssocial skills and condence. Allows or powerul rstimpressions. Can be very, very little competition.

CONs : Many women will be unavailable, boyriends etc. Socialcontext may hinder or help rst impressions. Can be lots ocompetition, based on social context.

- Meeting women through riendsPROs : Great social proo, usually can get some background onthe girl beorehand. Lots o get to know you time.CONs : At the mercy o your social circle. I you dont have a

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How To Meet Women

Also, i you try to date multiple girls rom your social circle,

things can get pretty ugly ast. Avoid this i you want to keepyour riends.

This book ocuses on the Cold Approach method, because as Istated beore, it will re-inorce the new belies you need to getyour communication and liestyle up to scratch. You need tobe eeding your mind new belies through meeting newwomen regularly, and practicing your new belies in real lie.

The next ew sections deal with methods o Cold Approach,tactics and techniques to make the process easier. Its a verydaunting thing to begin, and you will have to go through apain period or the rst ew weeks, or months, depending onhow much time you want to spend.

But, ear not! You just have to realise that every approach isa brick in your wall o belies. It will take time to build. It took

me 3 years to get good, but I went out only about 2-3 times aweek on average. I you talk to 5 women a day, you will startseeing results in weeks, not months or years.

So, there are two primary methods or cold approach, calledDay Game and Night Game. Both have advantages anddisadvantages to them, that you will want to consider.Just remember though, that ANY game is GOOD game. Trying

is the only thing you have to do. You will auto-correct manymistakes along the way, as long as you hold the right belies,live the attractive liestyle and use the communications in thisbook.


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DaygameAh...sweet, wonderul daygame. How I love thee! Though itmight sound strange, approaching women during the day istechnically much easier than at night in bars or clubs.

Here are the pros and cons o approaching women during thedaytime at coee shops, malls, bookstores, on the street or anypublic place :

PROs- Women are NOT being hit on by other guys. This makes your

approach appear extremely condent and ballsy. Women willappreciate it MUCH more than at a night time venue.

- Women are not in a social context that encourages them toact dierent than normal. I will explain this urther in nightgame, but sufce to say, women are not eeling the pressure osocial proo, because they are alone and ocusing ontheir day.

- There is no loud music, no drunk people, no riends to cock-block you and very ew distractions in general. Its just you, herand the interaction.

CONs- Daygame is typically much more difcult or guys to startwith. They might eel it is wrong or they are intruding on her

privacy. These belies will go right down the drain the rsttime a girl lights up beore your eyes and tells you that youmade her day.

- Sometimes women might think you are trying to sell hersomething, and instantly dismiss your approach withoutthought. You have to state your intention I just thought youwere cute and I wanted to meet you, or she may be suspicious.


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During the daytime, you want to be much more direct withyour intentions, through all your communication channels.

Note this DOES NOT mean you are physically overt with her, orsexually explicit. This will just creep her out, or scare her. Thismeans you are more upront about your intentions, youobviously came over because you thought she was attractiveand you wanted to meet her.

Here is the steps or a successul daytime approach :

1. Approach her and state your intent, with goodbodylanguage, strong voice tone and a cheerul disposition.

Hi, I was just walking past you and thought you looked reallycute/cool/un and I had to meet you. My name is _____.

2. Read her reaction and respond.

You will get 1 o 3 responses. Red light, yellow light or greenlight.

Red light : She looks upset, annoyed or doesnt acknowledgeyou ully. No smile, no positive response WHATSOEVER. Moveon to the next girl, do not sweat it. Remember, INDIFFERENCE!

Yellow Light : She might awkwardly smile, or have a deer inheadlights look, or instantly blurt I have a boyriend. Persist!These are positive responses. Remember, any smile or hint olaughter is positive. Persist and keep talking.

Green Light : She laughs and loves you instantly. Its on!

3. Chat or 5 minutes, then get her number. Done!

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NightgameI used to only do night game, until I gured out how muchmore eective daygame was i you want to actually get

through to women.

Nightgame is radically dierent, due to a little thing calledsocial programming running rampant throughout the club orbar. Basically, women are expecting to be hit on. In act, somewomen go out with the intention o seeing how many guysthey can knock back.

Being socially prooed by rejecting a guy trying to hit on you ismuch less RISKY or a woman than allowing him to actuallyseduce her in ront o her riends. In the club, its all aboutappearances. You CAN still meet women this way, it just takesmuch more eort to get through to them. Its all identitybuilding anyway, so get out there and practice!

PROs

- Women are much more abundant, so practicing becomesaster and more eecient.

- Women are more open to meeting guys, as long as theyapproach well. Meaning, they show virtually no sexual interestwhatsoever. Approach extremely riendly, and with no agendaas they call it.

CONs- Actually having a great interaction with a girl one on one ina packed club or bar is harder. Many distractions can pull heraway rom you, not the least her riends that are jealous thatshes talking with a cool guy.

- You lose all the bonus points or having the balls to approach,thereore women will have a much lower tolerance or badapproaches. Remember, the un, platonic new riend at rst.


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NightgameAt night, in clubs and bars, its important to be un and

exciting. I you trip the sketchy pickup guy stereotype duringyour approach, you will be instantly dismissed.

Basically, you have to be a people pleaser to win at night-game. You have to set aside your urges as a man, which Ipersonally hate, to actually get through all the social bullshitand connect with people. But the rewards can be well worth it.Its more a matter o delayed gratication, really.

Here is a typical approach to succesul Nightgame :

1. Approach with something interesting planned out, thatdiverts attention away rom your actual approach.

Hey guys, my riend and I were arguing about this, whats abetter pet or kids, a dog or a cat?

This approach, while sounding pretty damn lame, is really adecoy to divert them away rom questioning your intent.Unortunately, i you dont express a dierent intent romevery other guy, you will just get the same results those guysgot : nothing.

2. Ater the initial open, you are the conversation director untilthey accept you. You must keep them interested or a

minimum o 2-5 minutes, until you become part o the group.

You need to keep the conversation lively, interesting and un.Use jokes, stories, teasing, anything un and exciting to keepeveryone upbeat and involved. Only then can you take the girlyou like aside and chat to her.

3. Pick the girl you like, and take her to a dierent area o the

venue where you can connect, and get her phone number.


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The How TosThis section is a supplement to both day and night game. It

contains answers to a ew o the common questions guys haveabout approaching. Feel ree to email me any questions youhave and Ill try my best to get back to you as soon as I can!

HOW TO Get her number.

Getting her number isnt as big a deal as you might think. Youjust have to tell her to give it to you. Remember, you areexpecting her to give it to you, there is no reason NOT to. Youare a cool, relaxed guy that doesnt ear rejection. Simply say,ater you have talked or a ew minutes and you are leaving :

Hey, give me your number and we can grab a coee soon orsomething similar. Get your phone out as you are saying it ormaximum impact. Remember to always get her number,giving your number out can be troublesome, because somegirls are just too shy to actually contact you rst.

HOW TO Get a makeout.

Getting a makeout can be tricky, not because its hard to do,but because it might actually make success later down thetrack HARDER.

By making out with her, you set an expectation that you guys

will hook up. This pressure can be too much or some girls. Butthen again, its just a kiss or other girls. So heres how.

Ater you have a ew signs that shes interested, you have beentalking or a while, say something like :

I bet youre a bad kisser. I shes game, she will challenge youand say No way, Im amazing. Now, simply lean in and kiss

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Remember, you arent HURT by rejection. This goes back to

your belies. IF she isnt game, you DONT MAKE A BIG DEALOUT OF IT. In act, you show how much you dont make a bigdeal about it by TRYING AGAIN LATER.

Wait a ew minutes, talk a bit more, then say :

Alright, time to makeout. Or something unny like that.

IF she still doesnt go along with it, you still dont care. Haveun with it, its just a kiss anyway. I shes still there, she isinterested in you to some degree. She probably wants to seehow you react to her rejection. Lucky you know exactly how toreact ater reading this book!

HOW TO firt.

I have mentioned irting throughout this book, but now Iwant to be more specic on the subject.

Flirting is simply teasing playully. You are so lame, oh my godIm gonna all asleep! while smiling and laughing is irting.

Think back to primary school, teasing girls in the playground,cooties and girl germs. Thats the stu you want to base yourteasing on, silly things that arent oensive or insulting.

Heres a ew irty ideas :

- Tease her about her clothes- Tease her about her job, or her hobbies- Tease her about abstract things about hersel, like shyness, orboldness, or eminine personality

AVOID anything about her looks, her amily, politics, religion,

creepy or violent stu. Light hearted stu only!

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How I Coach In Person- Body language, voice tone and conversation exercises to get

you communicating your new belies with conviction.

- I get you approaching women during the night and day; with

live demonstrations, and personal eedback.

- We complete goal setting exercises or tracking your

personal progress with women and dating.

- We discuss how to get more out o your dating belies, lie-style and communications, including tips on ashion, weight-

loss, nutrition, attitudes, social perspectives and more.

- I provide1 on 1 coaching, designed to take you rom your old

dating belies right to getting her back to your place, with

every step o the way covered in detail to your expectations.

- And much more, just call and ask what I can do or you!

Thanks or reading my ree ebook guys, now get out there and

start meeting new women today!

Luke Paolini


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