With everything that we deal with in life, it is really easy to get stuck in an unhappy rut. However, there are just as many or more reasons to be happy than there are to be sad. Once we’ve made the decision to choose happiness, we have to practice ….

New You Declaration: I Will Be in 2012 & Beyond!

Don’t Spend 2012

Feeling Blue!

One  of  the  reasons  we  tend  to  feel  alone  during  hard  2mes  (which  makes  you  feel  even  worse  than  the  actual   problem),   is   that  we  don’t   share  with  others   due   to   fears   of   feeling   or   looking   like   a   failure   and  being  judged.  Fear  of  rejec2on  causes  us  to  put  on  a  mask  of  happiness  and  we  pray  that  no  one  can  see  how   we   really   feel   inside.   This   can   result   in   a   feeling   of   being   alone   in   your   circumstance,   being  misunderstand,   and  being  picked  on  by   life.  But   sharing  and  being   vulnerable  oCen  opens   the  door   for  someone  to  be  vulnerable  to  you  with  similar  situa2ons  that  they  were  dealing  with  in  their  lives  that  they  had   a   preDy/happy   masquerade   mask   on   too.   However,   you   must   BE   CAREFUL!     I   don’t   recommend  sharing  your  problems  and  feelings  with  any  Tom,  Sue  and  Sara.  If  you  do,  you  can  put  yourself  at  risk  of  the  very  things  that  you  were  fearful  of  in  the  first  place.  You  don’t  want  your  life  to  be  gossip  for  thirsty  ears.   It   has   to  be   someone   that   is   very   trustworthy.   If   you  haven’t   iden2fied  anyone   that   you  deem  as  responsible  as  of  yet,  BE  ACCOUNTABLE  TO  YOURSELF.    Get  a  happiness  journal;  write  down  what  you  feel  (both  good  and  bad  feeling)  and  what  made  you  feel  that  way  every  day.  This  will  help  you  recognize  the  things  that  make  you  sad.  ACer  2  weeks  or  a  month  of  collec2ng  your  personal  feelings  data,  look  at  the  things  that  had  nega2ve  and  posi2ve  affects  on  you.    If  the  things  that  are  nega2ve  are  things  that  you  can  change…  Change  them!  For  the  things  that  make  you  feel  great…Duplicate  them!  You  know  what  you  need  more  than  anyone  else.  For  the  things  you  have  no  control  over…PRAY.  It  helps  to  give  the  things  that  are  out  of  your  hands  to  God.  He  can  handle  what  we  cannot.  And  you  can  trust  that  he  won’t  gossip  about  you.  Un2l  the  nega2ve  things  have  changed,  and  they  will,  make  a  choice  not  to  allow  these  things  to  have  control  of  your  feeling.  CHOOSE  HAPPINESS.  Declare  within  yourself  the  following  moDo:    

“Although  this  is  jacked  up  and  it  is  making  me  feel  a  way…    I  will  not  allow  for  this  to  make  me  sad,  angry,  unhappy,  or  eat  too  much.    Amen“  

 Or,  you  can  just  recite  the  Serenity  Prayer:  

“God  grant  me  the  serenity  to  accept  the  things  I  cannot  change;  courage  to  change  the  things  I  can;  and  wisdom  to  know  the  difference.”  

 Or,  both!  Then  go  to  Youtube,  watch  something  that  you  know  will  make  you  laugh,  make  funny  faces  in  the  mirror,   sing   your   favorite   happy   song.  Mine   are   “Don’t   worry   Be   Happy,”     by   Bobby   Ferrin,   “I’m  walking  on  sunshine,”  by  Katrina  &  The  Waves,  and    “Hold  Out”  and  Hezekiah  Walker.  Tell  us  yours  at  Fullblossom1@gmail.com.      DECLARE YOUR HAPPINESS!