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Founder Communication
InnerSpaceSemira Rahemtulla & Joe Greenstein
Jul 7, 2016
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Why are we doing this? (Part 1)
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Why are we doing this? (Part 2)
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One Big Idea
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INTENTNeeds
MotivesStories
Reality #2
IMPACTAssumptions
FeelingsResponses
Reality #3
3 Realities (The “Net” Model)
The Net
BEHAVIORVerbal
Non-Verbal
Reality #1Shared
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Feelings & Emotions – Why??Feelings & Emotions – Why??
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Self-Disclosure
Will I be less liked,
respected, influential
(leader-like)?
Is it relevant? Will it further the discussion – the
relationship?
Will others use this
information against me?
How will others
see/assess/ judge me?
“What in my ‘bubble’
should I share?”
Self-Disclosure
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“ VULNERABILITY ISTHE BIRTHPLACEOF CONNECTION. ”BRENÉ BROWN
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Authentic Leaders
“The single factor distinguishing top quartile managers from bottom quartile managers was strength of affection.”--“Encouraging the Heart: A Leader’s Guide to Recognizing and Rewarding Others”, Kouzes & Posner
Authentic Leaders
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Effective Teams
1. Participation2. Collaboration3. Cooperation (Commitment)
Research: All of these are correlated to Group EQ
“Building Emotional Intelligence”, Wolfe & Druskat, Harvard Business Review, 2004
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“I’m starting to feel defensive”
Inward (my emotions)
Outward(others’ emotions)
Emotional Awareness
Emotional Management
(“Regulation”)
“He seems to begetting agitated”
• Take a deep breath• “Could you give me a sec?”• Take a walk
“Are you ok?”
EQ (Individual)
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High EQ individuals ≠ High EQ group
Group norms determine group EQ
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Group EQ
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Feedback & Influence
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Can I give you some feedback?
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My Feedback Dilemma
“You’re not handling the claims project very well. Your spec is disorganized and incomplete. And because of that, we’re now at a point where the feature won’t get done on time.
I need you to fix the spec like we talked about so we can get the project on track.”
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My Feedback Dilemma
“You’re not handling the claims project very well.
96%Chance of Defensiveness
Harsh Startup
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Social situations ≈ Physical threats
Threat Response
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So… how do we communicate feedback while minimizing defensiveness?
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INTENTNeeds
MotivesStories
Reality #2
IMPACTAssumptions
FeelingsResponses
Reality #3
3 Realities (The “Net” Model)
The Net
BEHAVIORVerbal
Non-Verbal
Reality #1Shared
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityHow to Give Effective Feedback
• Focus on specific, observable behaviorWhen you do [x]…
• Describe the impact of that behavior on youI feel [y]…
• Ask about the other person’s motives or intentions
Can you tell me what’s going on for you?
Stay on your side of the net!
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Better feedback for Bob?
• Focus on specific, observable behaviorYou didn’t change the spec like we discussed
• Describe the impact of that behavior on youI’m feeling concerned about the project and getting it
done on schedule• Ask about the other person’s motives or
intentionsCan you tell me what’s going on for you?
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityLet’s try some examples…
1. Joe, you clearly don’t care about this presentation.
2. Joe, I noticed that you are looking at your phone. You are clearly bored with this presentation.
3. Joe, I noticed that you are looking at your phone. I am feeling anxious about what message that might send to others in the room.
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityHow to Give Effective Feedback
When you do [x]…
I feel [y == emotion] that / like
And my story is [z].
Can you tell me what’s going on for you?
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityThe Setup
1. Check in – “Is now a good time?”
2. Soft Start– Do not use praise to buffer criticism (“The Sandwich”)– Do emphasize mutual goals & positive intent:
“My intention is…… / This matters to me because…”
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#1 Factor for Happiness on the Job: Feeling appreciated-- 2014 BCG/The Network survey of 200K employees
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityFostering a culture of appreciation
1. Create a space for it
2. Lead by example
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityReceiving Feedback
• Look for “Grains of Truth”– Goal is understanding, not winning
• Help the other person feel heard– Ask clarifying questions– Restate what you’ve heard to confirm understanding
• Acknowledge your feelings– Manage your own defensiveness: “Affect Labeling”– Disclose your reactions, thoughts, feelings
• Gift mentality: Say “Thank you!”
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityEnd with Agreements
• Make requests– What are we going to try / do differently going forward?
• Be specific• Discuss the error case
– What can we do if someone doesn’t do their part of the agreement?
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityLast Reminder
Stay on your side of the net:
When you do [x]…
I feel [y]…
And my story is [z].
Can you tell me what’s going on for you?
Use the Vocabulary of Emotions.
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Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilitySuggested Topics For Feedback
Work Product– Timeliness, quality, quantity,
focus areaCommunication & Management
– Too much/little– Choice of format– Email etiquette– Language choices,
communication style with others– Transparency of project status,
hiring/firing/promotions
Role Modeling & Presence– What energy do you feel from this
person? – How do they impact others? – What do they model well? – Anything you worry about? – Arrival/departure times– How they speak/listen/act/dress
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Fostering a feedback-rich culture
• Train your team on giving/receiving feedback• Schedule feedback-focused 1:1s (or begin
1:1s with two-way feedback)– And set expectations of others to do the same
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Thanks, good-bye, and stay on your side of the net ☺